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- Dear Dr. Romance: How can I help her to turn around? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have read your article "Fair Fight Guidlines" and it is impressive. I like to ask your advise for the following situation: I have married for 20 years and three beautifull children. My wife whom I love the most, uses power struggle tactics: guilt and ...
Views: 1321(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He´s a Jehovah Witness and am a Pentecostal - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I just saw write up on the issue of older woman and younger man. This have been a great issue for me, I make friends easily with people and at the end of the day they want a relationship and all to find that am older than them. Its been happening to me for ...
Views: 1179(2 votes) - Dr. Romance: Tips for Divorced Dads - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2015 from Tina TessinaWhat can divorced dads do to help raise healthy, successful boys when they don't see their sons as often as they want? Here are some tips for non-custodial fathers who want to make certain they raise successful men. 1. Stay connected with your boy. Find a way to get over the differences ...
Views: 1237(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He has PTSD and I'm going crazy - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married for about four years now and my husband and I got married at 18 we have 3 kids all under the age of four and it gets stressful sometimes for both of us. He is in the army, he's been a soldier for almost 3 years now he was deployed ...
Views: 1537(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I think I am missing myself - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I think I am missing myself Dear Dr. Romance: I am a women in my early twenties from India. I have gone through your website and i think u can help me. For the first time in life I am so confused, so helpless, and I don't know what i want. Everything ...
Views: 1229 - Dear Dr. Romance: I think I am missing myself - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I think I am missing myself Dear Dr. Romance: I am a women in my early twenties from India. I have gone through your website and i think u can help me. For the first time in life I am so confused, so helpless, and I don't know what i want. Everything ...
Views: 1281(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I still can't seem to get over it -- Is that normal? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years now. There is a seventeen year difference in age. I left for two and a half months to help my older sister during her second pregnancy because her husband was in Iraq. When I came back I found out ...
Views: 1624(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Wishes You a Happy Thanksgiving - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance on giving thanks: A lot of people aren’t very good at looking at the positive. I hear a lot of negativity, blaming and complaining daily in my counseling office, and I find the more negative people are, the worse their lives work. Talking about how bad it all is seems ...
Views: 1175(2 votes) - Yes, You Can Have A Happier Holiday - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2015 from Tina TessinaRichard and I just indulged in our early December tradition – we watched our favorite Christmas movie, "Scrooge!." the musical starring Albert Finney, which kick-starts our holiday spirit every year. No matter what you observe: Ramadan, Kwaanza, Chanukah, Solstice or Christmas, this is a ...
Views: 1291(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Getting Along With Each Other - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance reflects: One of the things I'm very grateful for in my life is the opportunities I have had to travel and see the world. When I see a world in turmoil: earthquakes, war, terrorism, famine, political upheaval, inflation, human rights violations: I think not of the ...
Views: 1213 - Dear Dr. Romance: Age-Gap in Gay Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thank you for such a wonderfully positive article on "generation-gap" relationships. I just finished reading "What's Behind the Trend of Women Dating Younger Men?". Although I am in a gay-relationship, I read the article with ...
Views: 1238(2 votes) - How Not To Be A Wicked Stepparent - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2015 from Tina TessinaAre you a stepparent? Are you struggling to make the right decisions for your newly created family? If so, here are four tips to help. 1. Give your blended family a chance to bond. Don’t worry if everyone doesn’t settle in right away; bonding takes time. Hopefully, you all got to know each ...
Views: 1289(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He hasn't told his Mum - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am having a little issue which I'd like some advice on; Firstly my partner had liked me for a few years before asking me out. We have been together for almost a year, yet he hasn't told his Mum that we are in a serious relationship. I have approached the subject but ...
Views: 1170(2 votes) - Dr. Romance: Married, Different Shifts - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2015 from Tina TessinaIn this tougher economy, couples are finding it necessary to take the jobs they can get, and that means more couples work different shifts. If one of you works a “graveyard shift” or rotating shift job that limits your time together; the difference in your shifts and commutes may mean you ...
Views: 1313(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on: Mirrors and Teachers - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: There are people in my life who are easy to be around, and others I love who are more difficult for me. It’s not that they’re bad people, others get along with them fine, and, actually, so do I. It’s just that I have to work a little bit more to ...
Views: 1233 - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel quite abandoned by the both of them - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a number of people I would consider friends - two in particular, that have lately become acquaintances, rather than friends, per se. One, in particular, my ex-girlfriend (who was a good friend 12 years prior to romance), no longer contacts me: calls, notes in the mail, ...
Views: 1209 - Dear Dr. Romance: My wife doesn't know about my overseas girlfriend - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your article on yahoo about older woman dating younger men. Well I'm the opposite, you said on your article at the end "What really makes a romantic relationship succeed is the emotional connection." If this is true then I think my relationship would work ...
Views: 1337 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm Lonely and probably very naive - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I fell for a man that I work with. He was married, and I was in a lesbian relationship. When I first saw this man, who I will refer to as John, I thought he was the most handsome man I had ever met in my life. I had dated men off and on, but my two long-term relationships were ...
Views: 1210 - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't shut the voice in my head - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have just read your article that appeared on yahoo today on the issue of having an older partner. First let me thank you for bringing up such topic, as it has been considered for a long time as a classified one. second, i have some questions that i need clarify for ...
Views: 1077 - Dear Dr. Romance: She runs my life like a prison - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in my early twenties. I got to this country a few years ago from the mideast. I met this lady that was in her thirties, we dated for a couple years then she offered to marry me to improve my immigrant status. I used to ...
Views: 1139 - Dear Dr. Romance: he is still stuck in his bad habits - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read most of your book, It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction and loved it. I work at a center where in talking to our clients, we have found repeated patterns of dysfunction (generational), over and over and over again, so your ...
Views: 1111(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on: Where is Love? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Probably the most prevalent question I’m asked in my counseling practice is "Where is love?" Clients want to know why they can’t find a successful life partnership, why a friend or family member won’t respond as they would like, even why they don’t love themselves. ...
Views: 1077(2 votes) - Zen + Sex = Starting Over? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2015 from Tina TessinaMen and women have to redefine themselves after a relationship ends, and reinvent their lives. If they do it well, it can lead to the most satisfying and successful years they've had. Dating successfully after divorce or a breakup require several steps to recover from the ...
Views: 1104(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: It is sad that I cannot stop loving him - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I told my husband that if he cannot be with me as his wife and does not give me the place that a wife should have that I wanted to go on with my life and file the papers. He stopped seeing the other woman for a weekend. Then, on the Thursday that followed, he called me ...
Views: 1119(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I give up on her? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance A question for you: I have a female friend that I dated for 7 months - she dumped me - and is, I think, dating some other guy. The question is: I have tried to ask her for 5 or 6 different events - and have gotten turned down for each one - with some excuse - the excuse sounds ...
Views: 1391(2 votes) - Coping with Critics - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2015 from Tina TessinaNo one likes to be criticized, fairly or not. It’s always difficult to deal with, and it can hurt. Because I’m a writer of books and columns, and because I’ve lectured, appeared on radio and TV, I am sometimes recognized in public. I’m glad I’m not more ...
Views: 1266(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Can't forget him after 10 years - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I live in Southeast Asia. I knew about you from the internet. I have a problem that I haven't found the way out till now. Before I tell you anything, first please forgive me if my english is not too well. I am in my late 20's and for most local people at that ...
Views: 1702(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on The Colors of You - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr Romance writes: As life develops, many of us have an urge to focus on the deeper issues -- our dreams and goals, and our emotional and spiritual development. When this happens, life gradually becomes more about meaning and satisfaction and less about obligations and ...
Views: 1375(1 vote) - The One Who Got Away - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2015 from Tina TessinaWhen I was a girl, growing up in the small township of Rockland, New York, there was a tiny post office, which was a small room with a separate entry in the house next door. Rockland’s official postmistress was Clara Weiss, who seemed very elderly even when I was a very small child. She ...
Views: 1091(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Something Might Just Happen! - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I think I may be having some difficulty within my marriage! :( I dont really know if you can even help me! Maybe even give me some recommendations! I've been married for over 25 yrs. and we are in our 50s. Ever since we had a child 13 yrs ago there has been no more ...
Views: 1292(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is Facebook romance hopeless? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am in an unusual situation. I was speaking to a random person on Facebook one time. We became Facebook “friends”, and we kept chatting back and forth on e-mail. This girl was already dating someone (not very happy though), but I guess she kind of ...
Views: 1137(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is Facebook romance hopeless? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am in an unusual situation. I was speaking to a random person on Facebook one time. We became Facebook “friends”, and we kept chatting back and forth on e-mail. This girl was already dating someone (not very happy though), but I guess she kind of ...
Views: 1137(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He can't forgive me - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : I am a 20 year old college student. I have been going out with a man for almost 2 years, I feel he is the one I want to marry but now we are having problems and I don't know how we are going to stay together. I made the mistake of telling him about my ...
Views: 1126(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I get my husband into therapy? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : I'm getting worried because my husband is drinking more, and laughing less. He works too much, he has lost interest in his guy friends and sports. He's gotten more tense, and is on edge and irritable. Sometimes he even yells at me and the kids. I think maybe he needs ...
Views: 1546(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Help me deal with this person without going insane - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I'm a victim of emotional & mental abuse by my hopefully soon-to-be-ex husband. The sad truth is that this person doesn't or refusing to recognize what he's doing and I'm very worry for my 8 years old son who I'm sharing 50% custody with the father. I ...
Views: 1177(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have always been a good mom - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I am writing to you for your professional opinion regarding my teenage son. His behavior overall is good but when he gets angry he throws things swears a lot and just a few minutes ago destroyed my vacuum cleaner in one blow to the floor. I am a single parent about 9 ...
Views: 1163(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He Was Never That Into Me - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I divorced my best friend of 13 years this past January. I'm having a hard time moving on... Let me very clear...over the past 13 years of our marriage..we were never sexually compatible...he was never that into me...I had an affair and I am still seeing that ...
Views: 1593(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on The State of the Union Meeting - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr Romance recommends couples increase their mutual respect and appreciation by having a regular "State of the Union" meeting. Here are two simple techniques you can use in all kinds of relationships: couples, families, even work partners and friends, to enhance your cooperation, ...
Views: 1151(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? What are the stages of the grieving process? How long does it take to go through each stage? Can one stage be relived over and over again? Is there a way to help someone through each stage? Dear Reader: If you've had a personal loss, I am ...
Views: 1402(1 vote) - Dear. Dr. Romance: Every time we talk, I'm in tears and he's mad. - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married for nearly 20 years and thought we had a great marriage. 10 years ago I got hurt and have had 6 back surgeries. At one point I would double up on meds and drink to ignore life. During this time my husband was an angel; until he discovered I ...
Views: 1340(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Grief: From Surviving to Thriving - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance has had many clients who are grieving, and wrote this to help. None of us wants to think about it, but the standard definition of a totally successful relationship is the old, traditional "til death do us part." Any time we love, whether it’s a life partner, a dear ...
Views: 1314(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should she tell the man she's in love with him? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a friend who's asking for an advice and accidentally, I saw in the internet your advice to some heart problems. So I told myself to try ask help from you also. This lady friend of mine is well, kind of in love with a man who's also in love with her. However, a ...
Views: 1164(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on Grief: From Surviving to Thriving - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance has had many clients who are grieving, and wrote this to help. None of us wants to think about it, but the standard definition of a totally successful relationship is the old, traditional "til death do us part." Any time we love, whether it’s a life partner, a dear ...
Views: 1335(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: AA only goes so far - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I am 13 years sober through the 12 steps of AA, but I haven't been to more than one meeting in the last 2 years, after making 3 a day for the 1st yr. and averaging 5 a week for the next 4 years! AA only goes so far. They do not tell you that. If you are ...
Views: 2170(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Which one should he choose? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : A man loves woman #1 but he was unhappy with the relationship for some reason. He was stressed financially. He was supporting his family. He has 2 children with woman #1 all he wants is the best for them and them to be happy and have a family. He has been going ...
Views: 999(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Can you refer me? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2015 from Tina TessinaI read your book How To Be a Couple and Still Be Free several months ago and re-read it recently. I would love to receive more one on one help. Do you have anyone you could refer me to? Thank you for your help! Dr. Romance ...
Views: 1170(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on The Meaning of Life - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: A seeker goes to Nepal and climbs into the Himalayas to find a teacher, a guru he’s heard about. After months of searching and struggle, he finds the famous man, and asks his burning question: "What is the meaning of life?" "The meaning of life is a ...
Views: 1175(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have lost the umph for even planning the wedding - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I heard you on "How to Stay Happily Married" podcast. I am getting married in June to someone I know for 3 years and lived with. He is now deployed in the Army and has been since last May. This is my 3rd marriage and I feel like my eyes are wide open now and I know ...
Views: 1162(2 votes) - Do You Understand Emotional Intelligence? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2015 from Tina TessinaEver since Daniel Goleman wrote Emotional Intelligence, we have heard that phrase a lot, but perhaps you never heard it explained. Emotional intelligence is a valuable skill, because it means you know how to work with all kinds of people, understand them and get along with them. Once you ...
Views: 1167 - Dear Dr. Romance: I have a family member with two failed marriages - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a family member with two failed marriages, after she asked for my advice I suggested a spousal abuse counselor for therapy. She didn't receive counseling and went on to a second failed marriage. This time even worse than the first. She doesn't understand the ...
Views: 1440(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Please help, our family is growing apart - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Q: My father died 1 1/2 years ago.My mom always snaps at me and my older brother and I think she has a serious problem. I personally think it's a power struggle because she fells like she is loosing control over my brother and I. But, what she ...
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