Anger is tricky.
On the one hand, anger – feeling annoyed, irritated, resentful, fed up, mad, outraged, or enraged – alerts us to real threats, real injuries, and real wrongs that need correcting, and it energizes and fuels us to do something about them. In my family growing up, my parents ... Views: 0
In today’s fast-paced and often overwhelming world, mental health challenges like anxiety, depression, and ADHD are increasingly common. Fortunately, pharmaceutical treatments have evolved to offer a wide range of options tailored to individual needs. However, with so many choices available—from ... Views: 0
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In the Garden by the ... Views: 3
Positive emotions – such as feelings of gratitude, love, and confidence – strengthen the immune system, protect the heart against loss and trauma, build relationships, increase resilience, and promote success. Based on studies that have already been done, if a drug company could patent a ... Views: 4
Often a partner of a narcissist is a narcissist attractor, but may not realize it until they’ve attracted more than one narcissist. They may have a narcissist in their family of origin, but not always, and not all children of narcissists end up with one. Not all partners of narcissists were ... Views: 5
What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on how they behave, is that they typically play a role. This can be something that takes place without them needing to think about it.
As a result, they can have the tendency to be easy-going and do what they can to please others. ... Views: 7
I've been to New Zealand, and really respect and like it. There's a Maori term - turangawaewae, "a place to stand" - that I've come back to many times.
I'm sure I don't know the full meaning of the word in its cultural context. But at a basic level, it's clear that we all need a place to ... Views: 8
Life often throws unexpected challenges our way, and one of the toughest may be dealing with a fire-damaged house. The emotional and financial toll can be substantial, but tackling this situation can also lead to personal growth. Facing the challenge of selling a fire-damaged house not only ... Views: 12
Although someone might not be aware of what they believe about themselves, what they believe will still have a big impact on the experience that they have. What this illustrates is how powerful their beliefs are.
When it comes to why they wouldn’t be aware of what they believe about ... Views: 13
Sometimes something happens. Perhaps your sweet old cat takes a turn for the worse, or there’s a money problem, or your son waves goodbye as he gets on a plane to start college on the other side of the country. Sometimes it’s on a larger scale: maybe there’s been an election, and you’re ... Views: 14
What someone may have come to see, if they have been reflecting on how they experience life, is that they don’t have a good connection with their emotional self. In general, it might be as if they don’t have an emotional self.
If this is the case, they are typically not going to be aware of ... Views: 15
If someone has just gone through a breakup, they can be in a bad way mentally and emotionally. Due to this, what can often enter their mind is the thought of ending their life.
To a big part of them, this can be seen as the only way out of the misery that they are experiencing. And, just ... Views: 16
If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that they don’t believe that they own their own body. It can be as though this part of them is owned by others.
They are then going to own their mind, but that will be as far as it will go. What they might also see ... Views: 15
What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they generally act as though they are an extension of others. Due to this, they will typically be focused on other people’s needs and do what they can to meet them.
It is then going to be normal for them to ... Views: 16
Although a man can have the need to be with a woman and experience intimacy, he might not have been able to meet this need. His life might have been this way for as long as he can remember.
Thanks to this, he might believe that what is going on ‘out there’ is the issue. Then again, he might ... Views: 19
If a man were to step back and reflect on his life, he may find that he generally doesn’t feel comfortable when he is around women. So, he could he could typically feel anxious and find it hard it relax.
As a result of this, he is rarely, if ever, going to fully show up when he is around ... Views: 18
Even though someone is a separate individual, who has their own needs, feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. Instead, they can act as though they are an extension of others and are thus, are here to meet their needs.
Due to this, they can then typically meet ... Views: 19
If someone has just experienced a loss, they can be in a very bad way mentally, emotionally and physically. So, they can find it hard to concentrate, be filled with sadness and it can be difficult for them to do anything.
Thus, due to what is going on for them, it is not going to be possible ... Views: 18
It takes heart to live in even ordinary times.
By “taking heart,” I mean several related things:
Sensing your heart and chest
Finding encouragement in what is good both around you and inside you
Resting in your own warmth, compassion, and kindness; resting in the ... Views: 18
After having been with a man who is overly focused on his mother for a little while, a woman can think about cutting her ties with him. This is because she might not have the energy or the desire to continue living in this way.
But, if she has been in this position for a number of months or ... Views: 19
If a man were to step back and reflect on how he sees women, he could find that he doesn’t have a positive view of them. So, he could see them as being out of reach, cold, critical and emotionally unstable.
This can show that, over the years, he has been with a number of women who were like ... Views: 19
Alright, let’s talk about something super exciting—playing casino games online and actually winning some real money. Sounds fun, right? Whether you’re new to the world of online casinos or you’ve dabbled a bit, there’s definitely a lot of buzz around the idea of winning cash just from spinning ... Views: 21
When a man starts dating a woman, he can end up putting on an act. This can be something that just takes place, as opposed to him consciously choosing to behave this way.
So, he can come across as confident and as though nothing bothers him. As a result, he is going to hide certain parts of ... Views: 20
We live in a day and age where technology has entered all facets of life. From online shopping to online classes and even the manner in which we communicate with one another, technology has enabled all that. Can technology, and more notably, artificial intelligence (AI), bring us nearer to God, ... Views: 23
What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they find it hard to feel safe. Due to this, they can spend a lot of time feeling exposed, with it being normal for them to feel anxious and even fearful.
The outcome of this is that they are seldom going to ... Views: 19
If a man is in a relationship with a woman, he could spend a lot of time trying to please her. As a result, he will be focused on her needs and will do what he can to meet them.
The outcome of this is that he won’t be connected to a number of his own needs and will neglect himself. Due to how ... Views: 24
After having been in a number of relationships that were anything but functional, a woman can end up in a relationship that is very different. This can be a relationship where the man (or woman) is reliable and consistent.
Due to this, what he says he will do will generally be what he does ... Views: 24
Mental health is just as important in drug rehab recovery as physical cleansing. Long-term sobriety may depend on treating the underlying mental and emotional issues, even though many people concentrate on getting rid of the substance. Rehabilitation programs that incorporate mental ... Views: 25
We’re usually aware of our own suffering, which – broadly defined – includes the whole range of physical and mental discomfort, from mild headache or anxiety to the agony of bone cancer or the anguish of losing a child. (Certainly, there is more to life than suffering, including great joy and ... Views: 24
If a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may find is that he has the tendency to be aloof when he is around women. As a result of this, he will come across as distant and it won’t be possible for a woman to connect to him.
He could see that this has largely stopped him from ... Views: 21
Often a partner of a narcissist is a narcissist attractor, but may not realize it until they’ve attracted more than one narcissist. They may have a narcissist in their family of origin, but not always, and not all children of narcissists end up with one. Not all partners of narcissists were ... Views: 24
Although certain areas of a man’s life might be going well, there might be one area that isn’t and it might have been this way for a while. So, his career could be going in the right direction and he might have a number of close friends, for instance.
However, when it comes to his love life, ... Views: 26
If a man is focused on his mother and is neglecting himself, it can be hard for the people in his life to understand what is going on. His friends and his girlfriend, if he has one, are then going to be confused.
For them, it could be clear that he is living in the wrong way and needs to ... Views: 28
If a man were to step back and reflect on his life, he might see that he has spent a lot of time trying to make women like him. Along with this, he might see that he has been with a number of women who were unable to love him.
As a result, he can believe that there is something wrong with ... Views: 27
Check Your Beliefs at The Door
by
Bill Cottringer
“Beliefs are choices. First you choose your beliefs. Then your beliefs affect your choices.” ~Roy T. Bennett.
Beliefs rule the world, but do we really understand the many problems that beliefs come with and also cause when they are ... Views: 27
Although someone’s childhood will be well and truly behind them, it doesn’t mean that they have fully moved on from this stage of their life. Due to this, what happened and the impact it had on them can still have a big effect on their life.
However, if they are not aware of this, what is ... Views: 27
The other day, I was thinking about how, as human beings, we can say that we want one thing but do things that don’t match up with what we want. Along with this, we can question if it is possible to attain it and even criticise what we want.
As a result of this, we might not be able to attain ... Views: 26
If one were to meet someone who they are attracted to and things went further, they could find that it is difficult for them to feel and express love for their partner. They are then going to be fond of them but they will feel restricted.
This can mean that they will find it hard to access ... Views: 30
As I grew up, at home and school it felt dangerous to be myself - my whole self, including the parts that made mistakes, got rebellious and angry, goofed around too loudly, or were awkward and vulnerable.
Not dangers of violence, as many have faced, but risks of being punished in other ... Views: 28
Practically from the moment that someone wakes up until they go to bed at night, they could be on the go. When they are not working, then, they can be exercising, practising a hobby or out socialising.
They can come across as confident, high-energy and as someone who is not afraid to try new ... Views: 28
A man might not remember a great deal about what took place during his formative years but that doesn’t mean what took place at this stage of his life is well and truly in the past. Consequently, his adult life can be very similar to how it was for him during this stage of his life.
It might ... Views: 30
If a man is in a position where his mother is using him to meet her own needs, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to accept this. Therefore, if he started dating a woman and she pointed this out, it wouldn’t have much impact.
He can say that his mother loves him and that he wants to be ... Views: 30
When people feel depressed, they often feel a sense of shame. Although the world in some ways is changing for the better, there is still a certain amount of stigma associated with mental health challenges.
A person suffering from depression may also be failing academically, not meeting work ... Views: 28
If a man is in a position where his life revolves around his mother, he is not going to have much of a life. Ultimately, a lot of his time and energy will be directed towards meeting her needs, leaving him with very little time and energy to meet his own needs.
He is then going to be her son ... Views: 31
Even though someone is not powerless, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. In general, they could feel totally helpless and as though they have no control over their life.
But, if this is just what is normal, they might not be consciously aware of how they feel. As a result, there ... Views: 32
If a woman is in a relationship, she may have found that the man that she is with has become less available as time has passed. So, during the early stages, he might have soon replied to her messages, called her, generally been available to meet, been affectionate and expressed his inner world, ... Views: 31
At this point in time, a man may be in a relationship that is not going well. The main reason for this is that he might find that it is not possible for him to be connected to how he feels when he is with his girlfriend.
If so, when he is with her, he will lose touch with how he feels. He ... Views: 33
Even though someone has the ability to express themselves, it doesn’t mean that they will. Instead, they can have the tendency to play a role.
To use an analogy, it can be as if they have a car that they can drive anywhere but they continually drive the car to the same places. Living in this ... Views: 30
In general, someone’s emotional self may rarely, if ever, be settled, with them often being all at sea internally. Due to this, it might not be possible for them to live a normal life.
Now, it might not matter if they are around others or by themselves as they could struggle to handle what is ... Views: 32
If a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that he spends a lot of time trying to please women. So, over the years he might have been in a number of relationships where he lost himself.
Therefore, thanks to how focused he was on trying to make the women happy, he ... Views: 31