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- Dear Dr. Romance: Is It Possible to Love Someone without Ever Dating Them? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Is it possible to love someone without ever dating them? If so, how can you tell that you are in love? Dear Reader: Yes, it's possible to fall in love without dating. For example, if you have a close friend, classmate, work associate, neighbor or friend of a friend ...
Views: 10711(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He Does Holidays with His Ex and Kids - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2010 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I found one your article "Dr. Romance: Setting Boundaries with Your Ex" on Divorce360.ccm and wanted to reach out to a professional that is an expert with Divorce, families and integrating a new partner. I am single, 30, never been married, no kids. I am dating a divorced ...
Views: 9556(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am a married man infatuated with a coworker half my age - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a happily married man in my mid-forties with 2 small kids who has become overwhelmingly infatuated with a 22 year old co-worker. She is friendly but certainly not coquettish and there is no suggestion she reciprocates. I have no intention of trying to pursue ...
Views: 7659 - Dear Dr. Romance: She started pushing me away and becoming distant - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 almost 6 months now. We hit it off from the very beginning and fell in love a couple months into the relationship. Both of us are independent people and level headed, but there's a deep connection between the two ...
Views: 7628 - Dear Dr. Romance: My wife is reading romance novels - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance For many many years, i have been the income earner for our 4 kids and my wife while she was home raising the kids. Day in day out I was working sometimes three jobs. I got into a career that took 10-15 hrs per day for the first three years - the money was great and I ...
Views: 7020(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He wants me to wait on him - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I heard you on the radio today and I think that this is my last hope. My dad told me to listen to you this afternoon, since I have been having problems with my marriage. I am in my late twenties and I have 3 children under four years old. My husband is two years older. We ...
Views: 6160 - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I Date My Girlfriend's Best Friend? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need relationship advice!!!? I have been with my girlfriend for 4 months now and her best friend who's a girl is also my best friend and I'm very close with the best friend. Me and my girlfriend do fight a lot but there are times where I'm in love with her. And me and the ...
Views: 4758(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Is My Ex Still Calling Me? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was dating this guy for about two years. During the time that we were together we had some good times and bad. For one he was cheating on me with another girl then we got back together. During that time we worked hard to make the relationship work then I found out that he ...
Views: 4535(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My husband's one-night-stand is pregnant - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read an article of yours on Divorce360 about affairs the end with a pregnancy. My husband had a one night stand three weeks ago. He told me about it. We've been going to counseling for several months and were doing great. We just found out she's pregnant. I love my ...
Views: 4396 - Dear Dr. Romance: My Best Friend Is Leading Me On. What Do I Do? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My best friend is leading me on. What do I do? My best friend has been leading me on for quite a while. We flirt a lot but we still aren't dating. A month ago, we confessed that we liked each other, except he wasn't ready for a relationship. I was okay with that. But now ...
Views: 4132(1 vote) - Are You Sex-Starved? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2013 from Tina TessinaIf You're In A Sexless Marriage, You Need These Tips Now Sexless marriage is a complaint I get often from clients. While sometimes, in case of illness or injury, a complete sexual experience is not possible in marriage, it is always best to have whatever sexual experience is available to the ...
Views: 4130(3 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: My ex is violent, abusive and obsessed with me - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your post on line about 5 signs he isn't over his ex, and it answered a lot of questions that I have about my ex husband. We were married for 10 years. He's violent, abusive and obsessed with me. I have dealt with him for the almost 3 years ...
Views: 3939 - Creating Connections: Draw Them In - by Submitted on May 12, 2012 from Tina TessinaMany years ago, an Edwin Markham poem inspired me, and I’ve tried to live by it "Outwitted" by Edwin Markham He drew a circle that shut me out — Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout. But Love and I had the wit to win: We drew a circle that took him in! As Markham says, we could see people ...
Views: 3913(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why am I assumed to be a cougar good for only one thing? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a single woman in my late 40's. I've had several serious relationships, but unfortunately, although I lived with a couple of them, I've never been married. I have a minor physical disability, a stomach condition, but I am attractive, I look younger than I am, I'm well ...
Views: 3823(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What can an older man do to win a younger woman? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I enjoyed your article: Age Differences in Dating? Do you have any articles about younger women dating older men? I'm interested in the younger woman's motivations, and what the older man can say and do to will her affections. Have you ...
Views: 3784(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Have Strong Feelings for My Plastic Surgeon - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw you on the web and thought I would ask you about my attraction to my plastic surgeon. I am almost 50, and have been having procedures done for 6 months now. He is my age and married with 2 school-age children and a younger wife. I have very strong feelings for him and ...
Views: 3590(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is he trying to make me jealous? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need your advice. My ex and I broke up a while ago but still talked everyday. Anyways, long story short, I decided I can't talk to him anymore because we both need to change and find out who we are and learn to treat each other better. He continues calling and ...
Views: 3572(3 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He says he can't give me what I want - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I hope that you will be able to help me with a problem that i find i now have. I meet a man on line and he and i are great together everything was going great then a ex girlfriend had him put in jail saying that he was stalking her when he was really just going to his brothers ...
Views: 3550(2 votes) - Dear Dr Romance: My Girlfriend Doesn't Like Phone Sex - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My girlfriend does not like phone sex. When ever I bring up the topic, she is always mad at me. I don't know; maybe it's the way her ex treated her. Please help. Dear Reader: You can't have phone sex with your girl if she doesn't like it, and you can't force her to ...
Views: 3501(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: why are men in their mid 40s-50s attracted to 20ish girls? - by Submitted on May 20, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was wondering if in any of your books or articles you discuss about why men in their mid 40s-50s might be attracted to 20ish girls. I kind of know the obvious reasons, but being more curious about what that might mean maturity wise etc. Dear Reader: From your ...
Views: 3480(2 votes) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: 11 Things Married Women Want - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2013 from Tina TessinaFor you men who ask, "What Do Women Want?" Here are Dr. Romance's 11 Things Married Women Want: Women value intimacy, safety for themselves and their children, and emotional connection. Therefore, they long for the following qualities in a man: 1. Good ...
Views: 3460(6 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I got very drunk and kissed another man - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm nearly 30 and have been living with my boyfriend for several years. Last year we encountered a rough patch and I felt neglected and unloved and like all respect had gone from our relationship. Unfortunately during this time I got very drunk and kissed another man. I ...
Views: 3458 - Dear Dr. Romance: I regret not telling her how I felt - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was very attracted to a lady and I did things for her with out asking for any thing in return. She was single and I fixed her jeep, I put down new linoleum in her kitchen for her, we did go out together for drinks, dinner, dancing, ...
Views: 3364 - Dear Dr. Romance: He Spends More Time with His Friends Than Me - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My boyfriend spends more time with his friends than me by a long shot. My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months now and he all of a sudden started spending way more time with them than me. I've tried talking to him about it and he said "i need two days per week ...
Views: 3337 - Dr. Romance Video: 5 Tips to Move on Emotionally after Divorce - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2012 from Tina Tessina(To view the video, go here: http://youtu.be/98RZAsK9c6c) Going through a divorce is devastating. You not only lose the marriage and break up your family; you also lose all the hopes and dreams you had for happiness here. Dr. Romance helps you to pick yourself up from the rubble and move on ...
Views: 3312(1 vote) - Creating Family Acceptance - by Submitted on May 20, 2012 from Tina TessinaLately, I’ve gotten so many anguished questions from people who are being criticized and rejected by family for making relationship choices the families don’t like, usually for cultural or religious reasons, that I changed my mind about what I was going to write this month. If your choice of ...
Views: 3181(3 votes) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Creating Connections: Draw Them In - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2012 from Tina TessinaMany years ago an Edwin Markham poem inspired me, and I’ve tried to live by it: "Outwitted" He drew a circle that shut me out —Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout.But Love and I had the wit to win:We drew a circle that took him in! As Markham says, we could see people who are distant or ...
Views: 3145(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Sleep with my Ex-girlfriend's Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Maybe you can give me some advice. I am 18. My relationship with my girlfriend ended with her leaving me. She said that we could remain friends. This happened over a month ago. My ex-girlfriend and I have remained friends. She has a new boyfriend and she seems happy. ...
Views: 3122(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: She Slapped My Face and Departed - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently moved here from the British Isles. I discovered your Dr. Romance blog and thought you might have some good insight on an experience I had involving an American woman's image of her body. I met a really attractive and intelligent woman at a party a few weeks ...
Views: 3111 - Dr. Romance Video: On Having a New Baby When You Have Stepchildren - by Submitted on May 14, 2012 from Tina Tessina(To view the video, go here: http://youtu.be/OlC24alx1Gs.) You and your new spouse are over the moon about having a baby, but the children from your previous marriage are acting strange and upset or distant. What's wrong, and how do you fix it? Tina B. Tessina, PhD, "Dr. Romance" licensed ...
Views: 3092(2 votes) - Coping with Critics - by Submitted on May 05, 2012 from Tina TessinaNo one likes to be criticized, fairly or not. It’s always difficult to deal with, and it can hurt. Because I’m a writer of books and columns, and because I’ve lectured, appeared on radio and TV, I am sometimes recognized in public. I’m glad I’m not more recognizable, for along with the lovely ...
Views: 3027(2 votes) - Attitude: From Negative to Gratitude - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2012 from Tina TessinaDespite the occasional temporary setback, my life is good, and I’m grateful. It wasn’t always that way, however. At 18, just after I left for college, I was essentially orphaned, and have had to go from no education or support to finding a purpose, supporting myself through a PhD, and developing ...
Views: 3013(2 votes) - Getting to Yes - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2012 from Tina TessinaThe average person pays more attention to what she's saying or thinking about than what she is hearing, or how her words are "landing" on the other person. This self-involvement gets worse during an argument. You can become a much more effective communicator by using "attentive speaking" a ...
Views: 2978(2 votes) - Emotions as Weather - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2012 from Tina TessinaAlthough most people in the country wouldn’t agree, we in Southern California have been having extreme weather conditions for us: rain and mudslides. You could almost say we’re so used to mild conditions that we become afraid of what others would call “real” ...
Views: 2961(2 votes) - Friends with Benefits - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2012 from Tina TessinaIf you’re thinking about having sex with a friend, be very careful, because it is not easy to preserve a friendship once you have sex. We think we can control our feelings, but it's not so simple. If one of you becomes romantically attached as a result of the sex, the friendship will ...
Views: 2920(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: Intuition or Inner knowing - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: When I met Richard , my husband, October 10, 1981, he was sitting outside, and the sun was glinting off his red hair, and my whole body and soul said "wow!" We married on May 9, 1982, and thirty-four years later, we’re still happy. It ...
Views: 2899 - Dr. Romance Video: How Can You Improve Your Sex Life In Marriage? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance is delighted to be interviewed by Mind Your Body TV via Huffington Post: How Can You Improve Your Sex Life In Marriage? After years together, is there a lack of sex in your marriage? Is this negatively impacting your relationship? Have no fear -- it is easy to ...
Views: 2766(3 votes) - Dr Romance Video: 3 Tips to Living with Someone instead of Marriage - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2012 from Tina TessinaTo watch the video, click here. It's way too easy, in the throes of a new romance, to decide to live together without considering the problems that might arise. Dr. Romance gives you some things to think about before making the leap, to guarantee success. When dating and getting to know ...
Views: 2760(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: How to Deal with an Annoying Boyfriend - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2012 from Tina TessinaGuys, especially younger ones, are well known for having 'courting behavior' and then relaxing into their old, slobby selves once you're committed. It's not that men are from Mars, women from Venus - it's more like all of us have grown up on different planets. Couples can get caught up in ...
Views: 2744 - Dr. Romance on Dealing with Disappointment or failure - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: OK, so you're disappointed. Your dream has ended in the trashbin. So, after you get finished with laying on the floor, kicking your heels, and screaming; or going on a drunken binge, or beating someone up, you find you're still disappointed, and all that acting out ...
Views: 2734(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: Improving Relationships between Parents and Stepchildren - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2012 from Tina TessinaTo view video, click here. Ah, the ugly step parent, celebrated and villainized in fairy tales. Do you have to take on the role? "Dr. Romance" licensed psychotherapist and author, says you don't, and shows you how to manage to be the kind of step-parent that causes ...
Views: 2703(6 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why this compulsion to cheat? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm looking at myself and asking the question, "Why this compulsion to cheat?" What will it take to keep my eye from wandering around? I'm divorced, technically, but trying to make amends with the ex. I love my kids, and an absentee father just doesn't fit my taste. I'd ...
Views: 2690(5 votes) - Dr. Romance Video: Creating a Blended Family When You Have a New Wife - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2012 from Tina Tessina(View my YouTube video on this topic here: http://youtu.be/hB-SuKLvJlk.) Dr. Romance's 4 tips to smoother step-parenting: 1. Give your blended family a chance to bond. Don’t worry if everyone doesn’t settle in right away; bonding takes time. Hopefully, you all got to know each other ...
Views: 2683(1 vote) - How Not to Fight: Myths about Fighting In Relationships (And What to Do about Them) - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2012 from Tina TessinaIn my counseling practice, couples are often surprised to learn they can communicate and solve problems effectively without fighting; but sometimes you may find it’s not so easy to give up your struggles. You may have trouble letting go of the fighting habit because of two factors: social ...
Views: 2675(2 votes) - Dr. Romance Video: Repairing a Dysfunctional Mother/Daughter Relationship - by Submitted on May 28, 2012 from Tina Tessina(Watch the video here: http://youtu.be/1Fp55ZFayeU) When you hit your teens you and your mom had a bad time, and you still are. Maybe she's not the mother you always wanted, but she's yours. How do you bury the hatchet and repair your connection? This will also be helpful for moms trying to ...
Views: 2663 - Dr. Romance Video: Dr. Romance on How to Be a Loving Couple When You Have Kids - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2012 from Tina Tessina(To view video, click here.) Parenthood is an overwhelming job. Kids, especially babies, seem to need you there constantly. It's very easy for parents to get so into the role that they lose sight of the couple relationship they used to have. "Dr. Romance" shows ...
Views: 2642(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: My baby momma is a lesbian and wants me to marry her. - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have had baby with this girl and we are planning to marry this year. Just last we were talking about things we do not like and the things that we like. I said she was unfaithful before we had the baby and she said that not true but that she was lesbian was ...
Views: 2616(1 vote) - When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2015 from Tina TessinaMany people ask me, “How will I know if I'm in love?” Answer: Anyone who's in love usually knows it; the real question should be are we mutually in love, or am I wasting my time? If you want to be secure in your primary relationship, knowing how to create mutuality and work together ...
Views: 2609 - Gentle Persistence - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2012 from Tina TessinaHave you noticed that nagging, whining, complaining, sternly directing, yelling, criticizing and freaking out don’t seem to get you what you want from a partner, family member, friend, colleague or child? In a previous article, "Asking for What You Want," I explained how to ask cleanly and ...
Views: 2606(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I walked away when she needed me most - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a young man whose life has fallen apart because of the girl I love so much. I slept with her but then she betrayed me by telling every body she saw and I felt so bad and walked away from her when she needed me the most. I could count all the tears that run out of ...
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