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- Dear Dr. Romance: I haven't spoken to my maternal grandparents in 5 years - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm not sure if you're willing or able to help, but I've been looking online for a solution to my problem for a while now. As of yet, I've come up empty handed. My situation is that I'm 21 years old and haven't spoken to my maternal grandparents ...
Views: 1141(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Getting Out of Your Own Way - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2016 from Tina TessinaRecently, Dr. Romance has been asked a lot about how people can overcome paralysis and self-sabotage, so I thought I’d pass on my ideas on the subject. Getting in your own way is all about how you relate your yourself. In addition to not managing your time effectively, ...
Views: 1096(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm wondering about a "blind date" - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been reading your article "The Fine Art of Squirrel Hunting". I certainly will appreciate any wisdom or guidance that you can share. I'm a minister who ministers to congregations, and I was widowed several years ago. 1. I've pretty much ...
Views: 1141(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on Patterns of Change - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: I’ve been dealing with a lot of unwanted changes, and it’s not easy. Losses, disappointments, changes – we all struggle when life doesn’t go our way. Why is it so hard to handle change? Then there are the changes we want to make, fight hard to make – losing weight, ...
Views: 1148(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on The One Who Got Away - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2016 from Tina TessinaWhen Dr. Romance was a girl, growing up in the small township of Rockland, New York, there was a tiny post office, which was a small room with a separate entry in the house next door. Rockland’s official postmistress was Clara Weiss, who seemed very elderly even when I was a very small child. ...
Views: 1255(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: His moods are getting more and more unbearable to live with - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married for almost four years to a man twelve years younger. We have a four-year-old son. My problem is I need to find a better way of dealing with my husband's bad moods, which are getting more and more unbearable to live with. Occasionally I give ...
Views: 1538(2 votes) - Dr. Romance: Spouse's Child - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2016 from Tina TessinaIt’s not the first thing everyone thinks of, but the existence of an out-of-wedlock child will have a big economic impact, and the financial responsibility will grow with the child. 1. Unless you can settle with the child’s other parent out of court, court costs can be very expensive. ...
Views: 1343(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He says that I am cheating on him, but I don't feel that way. - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My boyfriend and I have been having problems in our relationship lately because of of the time I spend in chat rooms. I estimate that in a 48 hour period I spend 8 hours chatting with my friends. He estimates that I spend 15 hours there. One ...
Views: 1347(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I need a man to stand behind me - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm an Iraqi woman in my forties. I am divorced & I have a daughter in her twenties. I read your article "Age Differences in Dating". 3 months ago I fell in love with a man a few years older than my daughter. At first I didn’t know ...
Views: 1198(1 vote) - Dr. Romance New Book: How to be Happy Partners: Working it out Together - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance is delighted to announce the publication of her new book, with co-author Riley K. Smith: How to be Happy Partners: Working it out Together By Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. and Riley K Smith, MA How to Be ...
Views: 1568 - Dear Dr. Romance: I've always been asked out - by Submitted on May 30, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance : I just read about you and some articles you wrote about Age Differences in Relationships and really enjoyed what you had to say and how you said it. I now have a question: I am 49 years old and very attractive. I look ...
Views: 1162(2 votes) - Age Differences in Dating - by Submitted on May 29, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance gets a lot of letters about older women dating younger men, which appears to be shocking to some people, but I don’t find it so unusual. Why would a younger man want to date an older woman? Who isn’t attracted to success, smarts and experience? Young men can find this ...
Views: 1252(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Did you recommend not asking? - by Submitted on May 28, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read Age Differences in Dating I did date for about 3 years a woman about 4 years older than me. I love her still and we separated because one thing I felt was that she never wanted to open up about herself. The following comment caught my attention: ( I underlined and ...
Views: 1449(1 vote) - True Beauty: Honor the God or Goddess Within - by Submitted on May 24, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Extreme makeovers are all the rage these days, with botox injection parties, and reality shows. Plastic surgery is on the rise. Many people are trying to match the extraordinary measures actors and actresses go through to look perfect on the screen. ...
Views: 1282(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have no support structure - by Submitted on May 22, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am 48 years of age, never married but would definitely like to. I am doing the online dating thing for a while now and so far no success. I am currently speaking to a gentleman who lives in another state; but given he is currently a pilot he ...
Views: 1132(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Can I ask her to give up her job? - by Submitted on May 21, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My wife has developed a connection with someone at work. Can I ask her to give up her job? If the guy she works with is the source of her attention, would it not be better to ...
Views: 1281(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have been feeling lonely since high school - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am 23 years old. I have been feeling lonely since high school and recently, its been getting worse. I feel like I can't have really close relationships with women and yet that is what I crave most right now. I recently cut off a friendship of 5 years because my ...
Views: 1146 - Dear Dr. Romance: I have been feeling lonely since high school - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am 23 years old. I have been feeling lonely since high school and recently, its been getting worse. I feel like I can't have really close relationships with women and yet that is what I crave most right now. I recently cut off a friendship of 5 years because my ...
Views: 1033 - Dr. Romance on: Intuition or Inner knowing - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: When I met Richard , my husband, October 10, 1981, he was sitting outside, and the sun was glinting off his red hair, and my whole body and soul said "wow!" We married on May 9, 1982, and thirty-four years later, we’re still happy. It ...
Views: 2899 - Dear Dr. Romance: I haven't even kissed a girl in ten years - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm not sure where to begin. I am single white male tall and stocky like a football player. My problem is I'm to shy and I fail to respond when women come on to me It's like I freeze up. I'm not out to get laid but to fall in love I fell in ...
Views: 1350 - Dear Dr. Romance: I catch him looking at me with passion in his eyes - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: As a woman in my early twenties, I am finding it hard to get over a man with whom i have been in love with for 5 years. He is married now to another woman and they are about to have their first child. Seven years ago, I joined a church choir where i met ...
Views: 1389 - Dear Dr. Romance: I was controlling and verbally abusive - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a 32 yr old man who is lost when it comes to relationships. I just had a chance with a nice woman which I subconsciously messed up. I didn't accept her for who she was . I was controlling, verbally abusive, and not compassionate with her. The ...
Views: 1241 - Dr. Romance on Less Talk, More Action - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Those of you who have read my articles know that I am always talking about the importance of good communication, urging better communication, and giving skills for being better understood. Communication is one of the most important aspects of relationships; positive and ...
Views: 1003 - Dear Dr. Romance: I Cry upon a disagreement - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Your article on "Fair Fight Guidelines" is wonderful!!! My major issue is that I cry upon a disagreement. This prevents me to think clearly, act maturely and interact directly. Would you please address this issue? Dear Reader: Thank you for the ...
Views: 1113 - Dear Dr. Romance: I walked away when she needed me most - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a young man whose life has fallen apart because of the girl I love so much. I slept with her but then she betrayed me by telling every body she saw and I felt so bad and walked away from her when she needed me the most. I could count all the tears that run out of ...
Views: 2587(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: The Power of Politeness - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Politeness and sensitivity are not held in high esteem in the media these days. The nastiest politicians get the most air time. Many media spokespeople, stars and commentators, “gangsta” rappers, nasty radio talk show stars and “edgy” comedians; as well as personalities ...
Views: 1633(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Age-Gap in Gay Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thank you for such a wonderfully positive article on "generation-gap" relationships. I just finished reading "What's Behind the Trend of Women Dating Younger Men?". Although I am in a gay-relationship, I read the article with ...
Views: 1592(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: The constant problem has been broken trust - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, My girlfriend is 17 years older than me and we have been dating for over 2 years. The past year has had lots of fighting and has been very tough on both of us. We are currently taking a break, trying to work out our differences. The constant problem has been broken trust. I ...
Views: 1621(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I get upset that he hasn't been responding at all - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I just wanted to express to you how I thoroughly enjoyed your article about how there should be a tennis match type of communication. The guy I like hasn't been responding when he usually responds and though he's a busy professional, I get upset that he ...
Views: 2319(2 votes) - Dr. Romance On: The Tennis Match: How to Balance the Power in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaCouples often come in to Dr. Romance's counseling office soon after they move in together, because they’re arguing about differences in design and life styles. Whose furniture to use, where to put it, who can use each room, or how to work out the division of labor. These squabbles are ...
Views: 1607(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: This roller coaster of emotions has changed me. - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:My husband has always suffered from abandonment issues. His mother & maternal grandmother were abusive and non-nurturing. They dangled the carrot of money as his reward but criticized him for everything about himself and cited the reason he helped them and ...
Views: 1222(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm married and I still can't forget about my first love - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I don't even know where to start… I just did the most stupid thing alive!! I send the man I can't forget a text message…and he did not reply. I don't think he wants to speak to me. He knows I'm married. I was 20 years old when I fell in love with him. I was ...
Views: 1683(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Less Talk, More Action - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaIf you read this Dr. Romance blog, you know that I am always talking about the importance of good communication, urging better communication, and giving skills for being better understood. Communication is one of the most important aspects of relationships; positive and negative. ...
Views: 1374(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I caught him at the movies with her - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married for 15 years. At the present time we are seeing a Marriage counselor for our really rocky marriage. I know its going to take some time. We are working on trust, understanding, caring, appreciation, and a few others, all the essentials of a marriage. But a ...
Views: 1464(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Am I Insane? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance, I seek some understanding & hope that you will be able to help. I think that I don't know what love is & it has me in constant turmoil. I married when I was 23 yrs old & have 2 beautiful children. Regrettably, the marriage ended in divorce. I am ...
Views: 1548(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on The Freedom of Maturity - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2016 from Tina Tessina"And then, not expecting it, you become middle-aged... You achieve a wonderful freedom. It is a positive thing." -- Doris Lessing Maturity or middle age means different things to different people, writes Dr. Romance, but for most, reaching a mature age means developing a new set of ...
Views: 1288(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I caught tremendous flak from co-workers - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Excellent advice and a most excellent article I just read about older women dating younger men and age differences. I'm a 50 year old single male and have been single for 15 years with no children and have dated younger women on several occasions but did ...
Views: 1579(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Encourage Older Women to Date Younger Men? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : After reading: "Older Women, Younger Men Relationships" I feel compelled to write to you to express my disagreement. Age difference is more than an "adolescent worry", unless the older partner is still an adolescent. ...
Views: 1532(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on Older Women Dating Younger Men - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance gets letters about older women dating younger men; which appears to be shocking to some people, but I don’t find it so unusual. Why would a younger man want to date an older woman? Who isn't attracted to success, smarts and experience? Young men ...
Views: 1550(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He says he can't give me what I want - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I hope that you will be able to help me with a problem that i find i now have. I meet a man on line and he and i are great together everything was going great then a ex girlfriend had him put in jail saying that he was stalking her when he was really just going to his brothers ...
Views: 3550(2 votes) - Dr. Romance: 3 Tips to Letting Go of Pain - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2016 from Tina TessinaIf your marriage ends in divorce, you lose more than the marriage itself. Even if your marriage had problems, or you were the one who wanted out, you still will have grief over the dreams and hopes which have died with the relationship. The overwhelming feeling of loss can be confusing and ...
Views: 1271(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He wants it to be over - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I found your site by accident and I hope you can help me. I have been divorced for one year and have been seeing a co-worker for most of that time. I have known him for five years and have been in a "relationship" with him for one of those. He is my ...
Views: 1374(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He pushed me to tears - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thank you for the Fair Fight Guidelines. I found a lot of wisdom and thoughtfulness in them. I hope my husband will agree. That said, I don't know what you mean by "rage is phony; it's drama created by not taking care of yourself." If a ...
Views: 1298(1 vote) - Bet You Don't Know How To Apologize - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2016 from Tina TessinaAre you and your partner having a tough time getting over an argument? Here are some tips to help. 1. Surrender to your responsibility. When you become aware that you have made a mistake, admit it and apologize. Use it as an opportunity to learn and grow. You don’t have to be afraid of ...
Views: 1813(1 vote) - 7 Must Do's Before Moving In - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaAccording to results from a recent GfK Roper poll, more than 80 percent of divorced Americans still believe in marriage, but we all know more than half of marriages don’t make it, for various reasons. Cupid, the ancient Roman god of love, was blind. In mythology, he’s been represented as a ...
Views: 1697(2 votes) - Dr. Romance's Fair Fight Guidelines - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Almost forty years of marriage counseling and thirty-four years of a second marriage have convinced me that fights are not necessary in a marriage. Married couples need to have discussions, they need to solve problems, and sometimes they need to ...
Views: 1242(2 votes) - 4 Tips for a Cheater: Get Your Marriage Back on Track - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2016 from Tina TessinaTo recover from infidelity and save your marriage: 1. Tell the Truth. Assuming your spouse found out, you didn't confess—this is the time to tell the whole truth. It's probably best done with a therapist present, to keep a lid on the emotional reactions. 2. Give your Spouse the ...
Views: 1643 - Dr. Romance on Creating Peace - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr . Romance wishes you a Happy New Year, everyone! This is the time when a lot of energy is spent on making resolutions, most of which we don’t manage to keep. So, in the face of all the violence we have experienced this year, I would like to propose a different kind of resolution. Will ...
Views: 1290(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Does Viagra give him Insomnia? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am 39 & my boyfriend is 51. He takes Viagra & Cialis (on an as needed basis). We have a terrific relationship. We seem to have no problem lying there & falling asleep for a short time after making love. I have a really comfortable bed, ...
Views: 1716(1 vote) - Friends in Need: Interventions for Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance received the following letter: “A topic I would like you to cover/explore is that curious phenomena which permits otherwise independent women to be dominated...even abused...by males with whom they share some sort or relationship. Why is it that a seemingly ...
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