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- Dear Dr. Romance: The most traumatic experience of my entire life - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Recently I have been trying to cope with the most traumatic experience of my entire life. I am a grandmother and homemaker who has been deserted by my spouse and left both homeless and penniless. (I am staying at the home of a friend now.) After weeks of ...
Views: 1612 - Dr. Romance's Seven Steps to Help You Learn Patience - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance Writes: Frequently, life can become very busy and stressful. Delayed gratification, or patience, is a skill many of my clients need to learn when life feels overwhelming or difficult; but it isn't always easy, because it requires patience. Learning to be ...
Views: 1134 - Dear Dr. Romance: Am I Ready to Have a Girlfriend? - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: i hope u are doing good. You know i really want to show appreciation for all the "Happiness Tips from Tina" newsletters. they are really helping me. really i should say. i print them and read them just to correct some little mistakes aside the Bible. ...
Views: 1343 - Dear Dr. Romance: We have had constant fights over little things - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Last week my husband and I had an argument over something so small like not getting up to give our kid his medicine. Just because I didn't get up he started calling me names and he pushed me from the bed. Currently, we decided we needed time apart so we ...
Views: 1045 - Dear Dr. Romance: the worst nightmare of my life - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: It's been months since I wrote to you and received your very excellent advice. In the meantime I was able to get therapy, and . Since then I have slowly been recovering from the worst nightmare of my life. I want to thank you ...
Views: 1588 - Dr. Romance on Coping with Critics - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: No one likes to be criticized, fairly or not. It’s always difficult to deal with, and it can hurt. Because I’m a writer of books and columns, and because I’ve lectured, appeared on radio and TV, I am sometimes recognized in public. I’m glad ...
Views: 1101 - Dear Dr. Romance: I just want my husband and best friend back - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband and I married more than five years ago, in our early 30s. We had a good marriage. We agreed that if we would sit down and talk things out should we have issues. We always held true to that until his mom died several months ago. He was very close to ...
Views: 1607 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am surrounded by negative people and thoughts - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am writing because I am surrounded by negative people and thoughts, including my family. I have no support structure. I hide from neighbors so people won't ask questions. During the day I am on the computer being as proactive as I can. My question is I ...
Views: 1216 - Dear Dr. Romance: I cannot compete with a dead man - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a sixty something divorced man, I have not had a relationship for a long time. Last year, I met a wonderful lady from Colombia, who is a little bit younger, well educated and has a green card here. She has taken me out of my ...
Views: 1213 - Dear Dr. Romance: I have a crush on this person - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need some advice. I'm a university student and I'm finishing my last semester there and getting a degree in Speech/Communication Studies. I'm also a single mixed-raced person. I worked at a communication firm as an Intern Coordinator. What I have here is that I'm ...
Views: 1162 - Dear Dr. Romance: I do not want to be alone the rest of my life - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I like what I have seen on your tips for happiness. I am in my late 60s, a Christian and twice divorced. This past January, I met a wonderful Christian woman, also divorced after 20 years of marriage. She is a Labor and Delivery Nurse who has traveled the ...
Views: 1545 - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Comforting the Little Orphan Girl - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: When life hands me a very difficult time, and I feel defeated and overwhelmed, I enter a hopeless and helpless state of mind I think of as The Little Orphan girl. This is the way I felt, as a teen, when I lost nearly my whole family, father, aunts and uncles, between the ...
Views: 1572(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on You Be The Judge - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: In my therapy practice, I witness a lot of confusion about the proper role of judgement in life and relationships. Often, when I ask clients to analyze whether a person they’re dating has good character, they tell me they don’t want to be judgmental. People in twelve step ...
Views: 1087(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel like I am a maid and a sex toy not a wife - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:Me and my husband just recently celebrated our 20 year anniversary. I bought my husband a small gift and when I ask what he got me- he told me I was not worth getting anything. This really hurt, my husband does not show any kind of affection or consideration for other ...
Views: 1379(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My girlfriend has a driving phobia - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I was looking at the articles on your website and I really liked a lot of things that you have to say about dealing with life, ourselves,others, and the interaction of all three. I am contacting you in hopes that you might be able to provide me with some advice or lead me ...
Views: 1413(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My Wife is Totally Shut Down - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My wife is totally shutdown and she does not know what to do. She wants to talk to someone for help and also for taking a decision that can help her to decide the future of us as a couple if is still possible or not. I just know that in the end I was very bad at her during ...
Views: 1289(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am beyond confused - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need help! I am beyond confused. My husband is having an affair for more than six months with some woman who is 15 years younger than him. He lives with this women for all practical purposes and only comes home to sleep. He shows up at 11:00 p.m. at night and leaves by ...
Views: 1412(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I want my wife and family back. - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw your article "The One Who Got Away " about getting back together with your ex. Can this really happen? My wife is divorcing me because she has fallen out of love with me. We aren't divorced yet but are in the process by going to a mediator. It's something I do ...
Views: 1117(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I regret not telling her how I felt - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was very attracted to a lady and I did things for her with out asking for any thing in return. She was single and I fixed her jeep, I put down new linoleum in her kitchen for her, we did go out together for drinks, dinner, dancing, movies as ...
Views: 2239(1 vote) - Dr. Romance On Your Heart's Desire - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2017 from Tina TessinaYour heart's desire -- what could it be? So many people, including many of my clients, are searching to know what it is would satisfy them, to give their lives focus and direction. "To find in ourselves what makes life worth living is risky business," writes Marsha Sinetar ...
Views: 1480(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Perhaps my desire will never be realized - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, Not knowing just where to begin, I will simply state that I am a man in my mid-fifties, who possesses exceptional health and fitness, and who has been in love with a much younger woman, (mid-thirties), for many years and who has just lost her husband through ...
Views: 1019(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Into Each Life - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: As a parade went by, one of the horses pulling a float entry left a memento in the middle of the road right in front of where we were watching from the sidewalk. From that point on, every band or group that came marching down the road marched bravely on, right through the ...
Views: 1473(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My son is having a substance abuse problem - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My son is having a substance abuse problem. It surfaced a few months ago, he promised to stop, and I just caught him using it again. He just turned 18. What can I do to help him? Dear Reader: I'm so sorry you're going through this with your son. If he wants help, ...
Views: 1566(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't have the strength to file for divorce - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I have been separated for almost 2 years now but don't have the strength to file for divorce. In part this is because I feel bad (I decided to separate because I was unhappy) and he has no immediate family in the US, but also because of our daughter ...
Views: 977(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I just want to bring joy and spice in their life - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: As I am approaching middle age, my kids are graduating from high school, I am a single woman, kept a youthful image, found myself many times attractive to older married men, I have been saying no, but now I feel free to say ...
Views: 1404(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: She makes me feel like I'm worthless - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was reading an article that you have written and it caught my attention. im in an relationship where the lady is older then me. it started of great then six months later its like reality hit hard, i love this lady so much she makes me feel like i dont have a care in the ...
Views: 1140(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: His mother was an alcoholic and a toxic bitch - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Don't know if you can help me or if i need to go to specialist alcohol sites. My partner and i had been together for 21 years, i asked him to leave 8 months ago, but i miss him dreadfully at times and i have to remind myself why i asked him to go. His mother was an ...
Views: 1503(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Resolving Inner Anarchy - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Recent events have me thinking about political anarchy: riots, bombings, civil wars, threats, and other bad and dangerous behavior around the world. Politically, anarchy means obeying no laws. It’s frightening to watch a mob take over. Anarchy is the result of two things: ...
Views: 1641(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Learning Forgiveness - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance on Learning Forgiveness Dr. Romance writes: Learning to forgive those who hurt us is an essential life skill, because it helps develop inner maturity, frees us from emotional bondage to the other person, and helps us develop the ...
Views: 1776(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have become quite the online Romeo - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Hi, I read a few of your articles. I always find your info helpful and interesting I have been divorced now going on 6 years, I am man in my early 40s, and have been internet dating consistently. Yikes! I never have trouble getting the ...
Views: 2326(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: he's a drug dealer and she says that's why she loves him. - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My wife and I have been married for 17 yrs and we have a 14 yr old daughter. My wife has stated to me that she is unhappily married and wants her own place. I recently found hotel receipts, 1 day vacation cruise receipt, and FaceBook ...
Views: 1684(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have been hit, controlled and manuipulated (by husband and in-laws) - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am writing to you for some advice... I hope you can help. I am the mother of 5 children, in my mid-thirties, and married for about 10 years. I have been abused for years. People I know tell me to fix my marriage that "You could've handled this better or that." I don't ...
Views: 1249(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What behavior does a control freak have? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read "Could He/She be a Control Freak?" and I suddenly found information that seemed to pertain to a failed marriage that I was still pondering about. I am wondering, if a person had a chaotic childhood ...
Views: 1447(1 vote) - I am so sad because I don't see this marriage working - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband complains that life is a habitrail that he has to get on everyday and he is not being reloaded. I have tried everything I know how to make things better for him. I don't know how to reply anymore, and honestly I am not sure there is ...
Views: 1206(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: They said "Go help somebody, you selfish jerk" - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read "Could He/She be a Control Freak?" and I suddenly found information that seemed to pertain to a failed marriage that I was still pondering about. I am wondering, if a person had a chaotic childhood ...
Views: 1550(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Asking for What you Want - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: In my counseling office, I see a lot of damaged relationships because people don’t know how to ask for what they want, or don’t think it’s OK. Whether it's your couple relationship, family connections, friends or work colleagues, not asking for what you want means you’ll ...
Views: 1030(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am determined to make a better life for myself no matter what happens to my marriage - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I happen to be going through an extremely difficult time in my life right now. My husband was unfaithful during the time that I was "absent" from the marriage due to my mother dying from brain cancer. Of course, there were problems long before this and this ...
Views: 1261(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is quitting the right thing to do? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need your advice. at my workplace when I was hired one of the colleague asked me what is your age I remember casually I said I am 38 ,I did not even had a hint of what was going on. after a month people were celebrating some bodies birthday and then I came to know that ...
Views: 1227(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Handling The Green-eyed Monster - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance says: I can’t escape it, it’s in the news every day, and it fills my counseling office. Recently, the news told of a four-year-old who was shot to death by his own father, because the father was jealous of his divorced wife’s new relationship. "O, beware... of jealousy; ...
Views: 1169(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Was there anything else I could have done? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance Recently, I have gone back to online dating but have some very strong concerns. I just severed a 5-year relationship with a man who seems to have an internet addiction. He worked from home and was constantly on the porn and personals (by looking ...
Views: 1347(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: my sisters are now calling me 'The Black Widow' - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance:Thank you for your article "Age Differences in Dating". I am a fortysomething woman whose fiance' died in my arms of heart failure three years ago. He was in his late sixties. Then I dated an ex-pro athlete who had a stroke and lost ...
Views: 1203(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I seem to ruminate all day about myself - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I live in Scotland and I think we are quite backward when it comes to mental health issues. I have spoken to 2 therapists now about my obsessive thinking, both of whom seem strangely perplexed by what I perceive to be quite a common problem. I seem to ...
Views: 1220(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Winning the War Within - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Do you sometimes feel locked in a struggle with yourself? I know I do. Why is it that we know what we want to do, but it’s such a struggle to actually get it done? Even Saint Paul writes, in a letter to the Romans, “I do not do the good I want, but the ...
Views: 1340(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I regret not telling her how I felt - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was very attracted to a lady and I did things for her with out asking for any thing in return. She was single and I fixed her jeep, I put down new linoleum in her kitchen for her, we did go out together for drinks, dinner, dancing, ...
Views: 3335 - Dear Dr. Romance: I want the playgirl, but they like the bad boy type - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: This is something that's puzzling me for along time. I often do want the playgirl, but they like the more bad boy type. I know for sure I want sex without strings attached, many men get this, but I simply attract women who want a boyfriend, and I ...
Views: 1899(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He would like to have sex every time he thinks about it. - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My partner says I turn him on which means, it seems to me, that he would like to have sex every time he thinks about it. It's almost too much and I don't know how to handle it. My background with sex, including the children's dad, has been: ...
Views: 1483(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on How to Stretch Time - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Would you like to stretch time – to make the time you have go farther, and use it more for what you really want to do? Stretching time is not difficult if you have the prerequisites: self-awareness, a sense of purpose, thoughtful action, and a playful ...
Views: 1522(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why do I always find cowards? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I like your article "Stupid Cupid" and find that all your down-to-earth questions should be applicable in a daily life of a relationship. I will forward it to my friends. I'm writing you about a guy that I met at my dance class. I ...
Views: 1286(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sure if I am considered his "girlfriend." - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I like your article "Stupid Cupid" and find that all your down-to-earth questions should be applicable in a daily life of a relationship. I will forward it to my friends. I'm writing you about a guy that I met at my dance class. I ...
Views: 1223(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I lost everything - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:I read your article about "Age Differences in Dating" and thought you might be interested in a case history. I was married to a younger man for twenty years.He was 21 and I was 40 when we met.I had been in a very unhappy marriage for twenty years and had three ...
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