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- How to Stop Fighting in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2009 from Love Coach RinattaIs fighting a problem in your relationship or marriage? Fighting is a very serious problem for many couples. The good news is that I am about to help you solve it permanently. First you have to understanding that you should not fight at all, with anyone. I don’t mean you should not disagree ...
Views: 16236(3 votes) - How to Make a Really Difficult Decision - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Claudia LuizPatients often contact me for therapy in the throes of a difficult decision. They want to know if they should get a new job or change their child's school, move to another city or leave their spouse. When they can’t make a decision, it is usually not for lack of relevant information and advice ...
Views: 12595(3 votes) - ***What to Do When Your Partner Has Become Your Enemy - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2012 from Sharon RivkinWhere has all the love gone that you once felt for your partner? Do you seem to fight about everything? Has your partner become your enemy? How did it happen? These are common questions I address time and time again in my private practice. The process of “building a case against our ...
Views: 12177(3 votes) - Misdirected Anger - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2015 from Janet PfeifferWe've all taken our anger out on the wrong party, not to say that there is ever a right party who is deserving of our ire. It's not uncommon to be upset with one person and misdirect it at someone or something else. Your boss has been crabby all day and continually comments on every aspect of ...
Views: 10522 - How to Be Less Defensive - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2009 from Lynne CoonDo you lash out when you feel criticized? Everyone can get defensive in certain situations, but if you're getting defensive most of the time you feel criticized you may be damaging your relationships or your chance for raises and promotions at work. There are several things you can do when ...
Views: 9116(3 votes) - Positive Intent - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2009 from Christiane TurnerThere is a very important principle, called the “Positive Intent“. Positive Intent means, that there is always a positive function or purpose for what is currently happening in our lives. For example a behavior we don't like about ourselves, like getting angry when our kid whines, or getting all ...
Views: 8832(2 votes) - Adult Bullies - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-Ross“All cruelty springs from weakness” (Seneca, 4BC-AD65) There are those who say that bullying is behind all forms of violence, conflict, persecution, abuse, harassment, discrimination and prejudice. The recent death of Phoebe Prince, the 15-year-old Massachusetts girl who hanged herself ...
Views: 8403 - ***MicroAgressions - by Submitted on May 07, 2016 from Martha LasleyExcerpt from Coaching for Transformation Any real change implies the breakup of the world as one has always known it, the loss of all that gave one an identity, the end of safety. And at such a moment, unable to see and not daring to imagine what the future will now bring forth, one clings ...
Views: 8361(1 vote) - The ABC's of Healing From Abuse or Trauma - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2011 from Laura Bonetzky-JosephA - Acknowledge your tragedy and the truth surrounding it so healing may begin. Without acknowledgment, you can't begin to heal no matter what you try. B - Be gentle with yourself when you come to a speed bump in your road called "life". This is the universes way to force you to slow down and ...
Views: 8229(4 votes) - We should all live for others - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Wayne Kehl"Life becomes harder for us when we live for others, but it also becomes richer and happier.” Albert Schweitzer Albert Schweitzer was perhaps, one of the greatest minds of the twentieth century. He lived from 1875 to 1965. During the course of his long life he was a doctor, an ...
Views: 7469(2 votes) - Individual Thinking vs. Group Thinking - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2008 from Nelson TanThere must be POWER in collective decision-making. We guess it is safer to say group thinking is more reliable than individual thinking. Throughout human history there is a secret consensus within shared cultures that uphold great societies, countries and civilizations and they had their 15 ...
Views: 7402 - ***What are the Five Conflict Resolution Modes? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2009 from Margaret MeloniAnd which one do you use most often? When you understand how you handle conflict, you can begin to understand when your approach is effective and when it is not. Then you can learn to adapt your behavior and draw from different conflict resolutions styles as-needed. There are five conflict ...
Views: 7148(2 votes) - How to Handle Conflict - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2009 from Andrew SchwartzFor many of us, every day is a struggle to avoid conflict. Yet avoidance is practically impossible since the core characteristics, ideas and beliefs of each individual often conflict with our own. Differences of opinion, competitive zeal, and misinterpretations, among other factors, can all ...
Views: 6986 - "We Need to Talk" - How to Start a Difficult Conversation with a Partner, Colleague or Neighbor - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2010 from Tracey BennettRelationships are like shoes. Sometimes they fit, and sometimes they cause annoying, painful blisters. For example, your partner doesn't call when running late; your colleague at work taps his pencil incessantly; and a neighbor trashes your yard. Sometimes you need to confront the offender and ...
Views: 6418(3 votes) - Are You Tired of Arguing? There Are Better Ways to Manage Conflict! - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2009 from Alberta Fredricksen“I'm tired of arguing” are four of the most defeating words in your relationships. And there really are better ways for effectively managing conflict! As a coach and human resource administrator, I've heard these words so many times and usually it says more about you than it does about ...
Views: 6327(3 votes) - Until you confront the person who you are upset with, you will not be able to move forward in any part of your life - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2012 from Donna LeeAs a spiritual coach, my job is to show clients how cause and effect plays into their life. Many people do not understand that their actions or lack of action can create an ongoing cycle of the same situation repeating over and over until it is dealt with. People often believe that they can just ...
Views: 6129(2 votes) - Models For Stress Management - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2011 from sarah labdarStress management is a coping technique to deal with the stresses of daily life. Most stress management methods intend to equip a person with effective coping mechanisms to deal with stress. For many people they are unable to deal with stress and ignore it, bottle it up, or don’t deal with it at ...
Views: 5956 - Is Personal Development a Scam? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2009 from Danish AhmedHi there everyone!! I'm a professional working in the personal development industry. For 18 years, I've participated in all the various disciplines of personal development programs. Even with this extensive knowledge of the industry, I still sympathize when I meet someone at a networking ...
Views: 5926(1 vote) - How To Deal With Insults - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2009 from Todd HicksDo you have a problem with emotional insecurity? Do insulting remarks bother you? We will discuss ways to positively deal with those who try to insult you. Display your sense of humor when someone hurls a nasty remark at you. If you laugh when someone tries to insult you, you will feel better ...
Views: 5905 - Stop Listening to Toxic Friends - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2011 from Lori Anne ChanceHave you ever simply walked away from a friend who upset you during a conversation? Do you feel obligated to stay and listen to someone venting even if their anger and frustration spills out onto you? Why We Listen Women seem to instinctively know how to listen. As opposed to men, we don’t ...
Views: 5890(3 votes) - ***Can hostile, aggressive angry people really change their behavior? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2013 from Marc SadoffAnger Management skills can be helpful for people ranging from the mildly miffed to the violently vengeful. You do not need to be in a physically violent relationship to benefit from understanding and learning about communicating angry and hurt feelings constructively. Secondly, if you are ...
Views: 5859(2 votes) - How To Resolve Conflict In Your Workplace - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2008 from Ana HolubAnytime people gather together, great things can happen…and, sometimes conflicts can happen, too. In the business arena, some conflicts seem huge and intractable. If they are handled well, with a visionary leader and a competent technical staff, differences can be hashed out and the ...
Views: 5728 - Understanding the hierarchy of values - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2011 from Maria ErvingWhy understanding each others values can help resolve conflicts. Assuming that you have taken your time to identify your values, it's very important to become clear about the hierarchy they are in as well. Why is that? Because we can share values with the people we surround ourselves ...
Views: 5709(1 vote) - My Wife and Mother Can't Stand Each Other by Linda Lipshutz, MS, LCSW, ACSW - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2010 from linda lipshutz“My wife and My Mother Can’t Stand Each Other” by Linda Lipshutz, M.S., LCSW Rob W. writes: ”My wife and I have been arguing incessantly and I am beside myself. Stacy and I have been married for five years and the problem seems to be getting worse, not better. I’ve always been very close to ...
Views: 5702(2 votes) - Dealing with Difficult People - A Spiritual Perspective - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2009 from James LeGrandWe all have difficult people in our lives, and unfortunately, we must deal with them to get things done in life. It can be your ex, your parents or your in-laws. It could be your employer, employees or co-workers. Sometimes it’s the store cashier, the customer service agent or another ...
Views: 5657(2 votes) - The Most Common Mistake Made in Apologizing - The Non-Apology Apology - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2009 from Joshua UebergangLearning the correct actions and methods to apologize is not enough. It greatly helps your understanding and success if you not only know what to do, but also what not to do. This article reveals to you the most common mistake we humans make when apologizing to people. The Most Common Mistake: ...
Views: 5571 - How to Differentiate Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Nervous Breakdown - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2011 from Wendy LauChronic fatigue syndrome and nervous breakdown are often thought of as a condition that is one and the same. However, these two are entirely different from each other. Here we differentiate the two by looking into their definitions, signs and symptoms and other pertinent information. Chronic ...
Views: 5482(2 votes) - How To Deal With Difficult People - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2008 from Rhoberta Shalerwww.OptimizeLifeNow.com www.WorkplacePeopleSkills.com www.TamingTenseTeams.com Let's face it. For a minute or two every little while, every one of us is someone else's idea of a 'difficult person'. OK, that's a given. There are, however, folks who make a lifestyle of being difficult. At ...
Views: 5480 - How To Break Free of Anger - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2012 from Brenda Shoshanna"In my mind are thoughts that can hurt or help me. I am constantly choosing the contents of my mind." --Dr. Gerald Jampolsky There are many ways of being addicted and many purposes an addiction serves. Addiction to anger ...
Views: 5315(4 votes) - Angry? Overwhelmed? Flooded? 10 ways to tell if someone needs to cool off! - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2010 from James HendrixI have talked about getting people to listen, time outs and the rules of engagement. Today I am going to give you ten signs that the person you are talking to is flooded or overwhelmed and if they don’t calm down there may be trouble. They are at least not listening to you. Some of these you ...
Views: 5054(4 votes) - How to Avoid Bad Situations - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2011 from Rich MiltonNever talk to strangers—that’s our parent’s warning during our childhood days for us to avoid bad people. But when you become adult, you are left with your own view and opinion of things whether this thing, people or event is bad for you. We can never predict what future is set for us but we can ...
Views: 5004 - 6 Ways to Stay Focused on What You Really Want in Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Sharon RivkinNo matter how young or old you are, or how hard things have been, it’s never too late to review what works and what doesn’t work in your life. It’s easy to lose focus on what you really want due to the daily demands of life. However, there’s always a way to look at your life differently, to ...
Views: 4838 - Conflict Resolution 10: Arguments and Verbal Aggression - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2020 from Ian GlickmanIt may not come as much of a surprise to learn that some people enjoy arguments. They look forward to them and literally get health benefits from the experience. This is a fact. Others, however, do not like to argue. For these people, an argument is an unpleasant and unhealthy experience, one ...
Views: 4838 - Who Says You Can't Change? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2010 from Terry DrakeWho is in control of you? Well, if you're not accepting responsibility for your life or what happens in it, it isn't you! In order for you to really create the life you want, then you have to accept responsibility for everything that happens in it. If you accept responsibility for something and ...
Views: 4614(6 votes) - How To Benefit From Anger And Frustration - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2010 from Peter GerlachHave you been taught to believe the myth that some human emotions are "positive" and others "negative"? If someone asked you to name "negative" emotions, which ones come to mind? Terror? Disgust? Rage? Jealousy? Envy? Shame? Guilt? EVERY EMOTION IS USEFUL! Try the idea that every one of ...
Views: 4531 - I Don't Like To Be Corrected - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2010 from Eloisa RamosI don’t like to be corrected, not even if the correction comes from me! I laugh because just last week my offer to help was met with resistance and I couldn’t understand why. I walked into the kitchen to find my husband making breakfast. I noticed a couple of burnt pieces on the plate and ...
Views: 4518(1 vote) - ***Can a Democrat Stay Happily Married to a Republican? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2012 from Sharon RivkinIn these tough times of economic and political turmoil, with a critical Presidential election right around the corner, everyone is talking politics. Hot political debate is being fueled around the dinner table, over coffee, over drinks, and at parties. The upcoming election is in the air! ...
Views: 4432(2 votes) - Managing Difficult Conversations - Part I - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2011 from Asaf ShaniIntroduction - What is a Difficult Conversation? Jack, an account manager, received notice from the financial department that one of his clients was late in paying what he owed. Jack, having developed a friendship with the client over the years, knows that this client is going through a rough ...
Views: 4221(1 vote) - Why Won't You Listen to ME? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2008 from Melody BrookeHow many times have you been in a situation with someone you know pretty well, maybe your spouse or your best friend, when you just couldn’t get through to them? For some reason beyond your understanding they just refuse to listen to what you are saying. They argue, they say irrational ...
Views: 4161 - Dealing With Other People's Anger - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2010 from Greg BakerThere is a very revealing verse in the Bible that helps define the psychology of an angry person. Proverbs 22:24 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: The warning is very poignant. Angry people are exceptionally difficult to deal with. But for many ...
Views: 4157(3 votes) - ***When is it Helpful to Apologize? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2009 from Margaret Paul"When it is helpful to apologize?" asked Patricia, a client of mine, in one of our phone sessions. Her husband, Brent, often expected her to apologize and she was confused about when it was appropriate. The answer to this question is a little complex, because there are two different ...
Views: 4052(1 vote) - Stop Being So Defensive! - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2010 from Amber RosenbergHave you ever been in a conversation with a colleague, friend or family member about a sensitive topic and ended up in a power struggle, conflict or shutting down? Or perhaps in response to someone else’s criticism, you find yourself justifying your behavior, blaming the other person or ...
Views: 4013 - Seven Powerful Ways to Make Your Marriage Last - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinMarriage is supposed to last “forever,” isn’t it? When we decide to get married, we truly believe that forever will happen. Sometimes that’s easier said than done, because most of us don’t have realistic guidelines or tools to know how to make a marriage last. When we fall in love, we usually ...
Views: 3946(5 votes) - Some Common Characteristics of Low Self Esteem - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2011 from guy brugadaIf you think about it, you'll find that low self esteem is like a mental jail, a set of rules, opinions and values, imposed by our own mind, which limit our abilities, our way of thinking and our life. Do you like what you see in that mirror? Do you feel pride, compassion and respect about ...
Views: 3946(3 votes) - Health and Harmony in Relationships: It All Starts with YOU! - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Sharon Rivkin“Stress is damaging to your health, so take care of yourself,” is very sound advice, but what exactly does that mean and how exactly do you take care of yourself and lessen stress? Experiencing optimal physical, mental, and spiritual health includes the good fortune of having healthy and ...
Views: 3940(1 vote) - How to Always Be Right and Win an Argument Every Time - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2014 from Janet PfeifferDisagreements - those annoying irritations that throw a monkey wrench into our otherwise blissful lives and disrupt any possible chances we have of experiencing serenity and joy. Augh! "Why can't people simply agree with me, even if they don't, and just allow us to coexist peacefully? But, no - ...
Views: 3858 - Six Super Simple Guidelines for Developing Your Communication Skills By Improving Your Ability to Listen - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2009 from Peggy FergusonBuilding a solid foundation for the development of good communication skills involves learning how to listen effectively. There are several elements of effective listening. These elements include attention, reflection, ability to tolerate tension, and ability to challenge the assumptions that ...
Views: 3844(4 votes) - Backstabbers Lose! - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2008 from Rhoberta ShalerBACKSTABBERS LOSE © Rhoberta Shaler, PhD www.OptimizeInstitute.com www.WorkplacePeopleSkills.com Whatever are people thinking when they are two-faced? Are they really thinking that people are stupid and can't see the forest for the trees? When meetings take place surreptitiously, behind ...
Views: 3770 - Eight Simple Rules to Resolving Conflict And Improving Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2008 from Greg GiesenManaging conflict with coworkers doesn’t have to be difficult. Below are eight simple rules that should both help you deal with conflict and improve your relationships at work. Rule 1: See conflict as an opportunity Your perception of conflict has a direct impact on how it plays out in your ...
Views: 3737 - The "SO - What" Method: Six Steps to Resolving Conflict - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2013 from Janet PfeifferConflict: two forces in opposition. Resolution: the process of finding a mutually satisfying solution. There's nothing threatening here yet for many they'd rather have a root canal rather than try to resolve a dispute. They either seek a quick departure or prepare themselves for an ugly battle. ...
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