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- (Really Smart) Advice About Anger - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Janet PfeifferOne of my clients complained that her boyfriend had an annoying habit of constantly chewing gum. It drove her crazy! "Aside from that, he's perfect." she exclaimed. "But how do I get him to stop? He knows it bugs me yet he continues to do it. He says he's not doing anything wrong and then ...
Views: 2320(1 vote) - ***5 Tips to Keep the Peace this Holiday Season - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2010 from Margaret MeloniDid you blink? Here it is again, another holiday season! Do you love this time of year or do you dread it? Perhaps your feelings are a bit mixed. Your holiday experience can be really upsetting, tiring and stressful OR your holiday season can truly be one of peace and joy. The choice is up to ...
Views: 2231(1 vote) - ***Can Spouses Have Friends with the Opposite Sex? The Do’s and Don’ts for Making it Work - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2012 from Sharon RivkinMale or female friendships are usually a threat to the primary relationship, but they really don’t HAVE to be. What fears us the most is the sexual aspect of this oftentimes complicated relationship. It’s difficult to keep the friendship platonic, given that 90% of the time, one of the friends ...
Views: 3032(1 vote) - ***Collaborating Over Conflict - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2010 from Margaret MeloniMary Carol had a difficult decision to make. Her team had an important and risky system upgrade to complete. The upgrade definitely needed to occur over a weekend. The schedule was tight and many of the team members felt that the upgrade should occur over an upcoming holiday weekend. This would ...
Views: 1667(2 votes) - ***Mel Gibson Had His Button’s Pushed - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2010 from Teagin Maddox,Mel Gibson strikes again, and this time, his disgraceful tirades have been caught on tape and released for all to hear. His behavior has generated a domestic violence investigation and some surprising discussions amongst celebrities, some whom are more upset about the tapes being made public on ...
Views: 3136(1 vote) - ***MicroAgressions - by Submitted on May 07, 2016 from Martha LasleyExcerpt from Coaching for Transformation Any real change implies the breakup of the world as one has always known it, the loss of all that gave one an identity, the end of safety. And at such a moment, unable to see and not daring to imagine what the future will now bring forth, one clings ...
Views: 8361(1 vote) - ***Santa's 7 Holiday Stress-Busting Secrets - by Submitted on May 08, 2013 from Jim AllenIt's the most wonderful time of the year... Or so they say. While the end of year holidays are supposed to be a time of peace, love, and joy, it often turns out to be a time of stress, depression and worry -- especially as people struggle to create some "holiday magic" for their friends and ...
Views: 3240(3 votes) - ***The Big Cover Up - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2010 from Margaret MeloniAll of a sudden Sam had that ‘I think I forgot something feeling’, the feeling that makes some of us feel just a little bit sick to our stomachs or perhaps brings on a cold sweat. Then he realized what it was, he had completely forgotten to tell his project steering committee about the change ...
Views: 1665(3 votes) - ***The Most Important Argument You’ll Ever Have in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2012 from Sharon RivkinThe first argument is the most crucial argument you will ever have in your relationship, setting the stage for all arguments to follow. Future conflicts will often look and sound like they’re different, but most times are simply variations of the first, unresolved argument. Understanding that ...
Views: 3414(1 vote) - 10 QUICK TIPS TO RESOLVE FAMILY FEUDS - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2017 from Janet PfeifferFamilies can be our greatest source of joy as well as a never ending cause of stress. Comprised of a diverse blend of personalities, families are a mixture of quirky behaviors, opposing viewpoints, various needs, beliefs, and values, along with opposing methods of how members perform certain ...
Views: 2116(1 vote) - 10 Steps to Creating Positive Momentum - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Ron BroussardThere is positive momentum and negative momentum. Are you creating positive momentum in your life, drawing the things you want in your life, or you pushing it away? Here are ten suggestions (or reminders) to help you focus on what really matters. 1. Take some time to decide what you want ...
Views: 2772(1 vote) - 5 Keys to Find Peace by Placating - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2013 from Merna Throne, M.S.To Appease or not to Appease Is placating the answer? By Merna Throne, M.S. I thought this was a good topic to finally write about as I know so many people go through this mental dilemma, but they endure in silence and their relationships suffer ...
Views: 1565(1 vote) - A Balding Man Is No Joke - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2010 from Cindy LeeThe manner of constructing attitudes regarding others is fairly customary, but sometimes wrong and frequently unfair. Mutually Jack and Rodney thought that they felt judged or perceived as not eye-catching, also that the impression they make on other folks is not correct. Jack said that living ...
Views: 1548(1 vote) - A War of Words - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2010 from Hugh DeBurghYou Are Wrong! I was distracted today by a vigorous “debate” that I stumbled upon on Amazon.com. I never realized just how active the discussion groups at Amazon are and regarding much more than books! One such subject was the health care battle that is currently raging in Washington. Now I ...
Views: 1287(1 vote) - Addiction: Various Important Indicators - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2011 from Freddy Gandarilla"Addiction" is a word that has had problems holding onto its actual meaning because it's been used too often. We assert to be "addicted" to everything from chocolate to action videos and everything in between. It's one thing to exclaim we have a "jones" for something that we feel powerfully ...
Views: 1621(1 vote) - Adult ADHD - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2011 from Les LinetMost of the talk and research about ADHD has been directed towards children with little more than passing reference to adult ADHD. Most adults with ADHD do not look like the typical depiction in childhood, Typically, but not always, as kids with ADHD mature into adolescence, the hyperactive ...
Views: 2816(4 votes) - Anger Management, Emotional Intelligence and How to Become Calm - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2011 from Iris FanningAnger management is one of the hallmarks of strong Emotional Intelligence or EQ. In Daniel Goleman's book Emotional Intelligence, he addresses being able to handle one's anger as a sign of high EQ. We know, from physiology, that within less than seconds of becoming angry our brain and body are ...
Views: 1438(1 vote) - Are We Begging for Anarchy and Chaos in “Shooting of Unarmed Black with Hands Up”? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2014 from Richard RuhlingNever mind this unarmed youth just came from a convenience store that he robbed. Never mind reports that this 300-pound youth reached into the police car and tried to grab the officer's gun. We don't really know the whole story, but the story seems lop-sided and makes the black population angry, ...
Views: 1251(1 vote) - Are you in Denial? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2014 from Darlene LancerWe’re all in denial. We’d barely get through the day if we worried that we or people we love could die today. Life is unpredictable, and denial helps us cope and focus on what we must in order to survive. On the other hand, denial harms us when it causes us to ignore problems for which there are ...
Views: 1670(1 vote) - Assertive Anger: Tough With a Twist - by Submitted on May 08, 2013 from Janet PfeifferSixteen years ago, I moved to a quiet dead-end street. Imagine my dismay when I discovered that I lived near a teenage heavy metal band! As day turned to evening, my silent haven was interrupted by the sound of innocent drums and guitars being tortured! . I was angry. I phoned the police ...
Views: 2197(1 vote) - Being In Love Now by Johanna Courtleigh, MA, LPC - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2013 from Johanna Courtleigh, MA,Most of us have been taught that love is a commodity. Something someone either has for us or not. Something that can either be given or taken away, won or lost. Thus, we become dependent on an ‘other’ to make us feel happy and secure. But any dependency can be fraught with distress and ...
Views: 1341(1 vote) - Can we just Get Along: Working with Others - by Submitted on May 29, 2019 from Dr Amicitia (Cita) Maloon-GibsonCommunicating effectively is a key element to success. It involves the elements of transmitting, receiving and understanding the message being directed to others in relationships especially in the workforce. As a senior leader and manager, I welcomed my employees to state the problem. However, ...
Views: 2903(2 votes) - College bullying: a temporary issue or severe illness of the young society? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2020 from Amanda Sparks“It will get better.” This is the common statement to victims of bullying, often made by celebrities – celebrities who were once bullied themselves. And there is also this common belief that once a victim leaves high school and moves onto college, it’s over. It’s Not Over Not so fast. ...
Views: 1749(2 votes) - Conversations with V! - How You Can Enjoy an Enriching, Enduring Relationship - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Val McLeodIn consideration of the myriad challenges to having an enriching and enduring relationship, it seems practically oxy moronic to use “healthy, romantic and relationship” in the same context. As a human relations expert, I am often asked, “Is it possible to have an “ideal relationship / ...
Views: 1686(1 vote) - Coping with Betrayal - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2012 from Linney ElderBy Linney Elder The subject of betrayal seems to pop up all around me with people in various relationships. I got to thinking about the nature of betrayal. What is it really? In fact, is it real at all? What is real? I think it’s a choice of which doors to open and a choice of which doors ...
Views: 2533(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What Causes One To Constantly Sabotage Oneself? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What causes one to constantly sabotage oneself? Why would someone constantly put up their own roadblocks? Dear Reader: Being out of touch with one's own wants and needs is a primary way to self-sabotage. Getting in your own way is all about how you relate your ...
Views: 1504(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What is wrong with me? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What is wrong with me? Angry, sad, blah? It's 5 am and i'm still awake. i'm 29, single (i don't mind), i go to school, an ok job, pets. i'm not starving, as long at there's a roof over my head i'm good to go. so many things i really want to do. i get into it then i don't ...
Views: 1102(1 vote) - Decision Making Utilizing a New Perspective - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2010 from Bambi CorsoMany years ago, I attended a seminar given by Caroline Myss in Los Angeles, CA. During the course of the seminar, one young man raised his hand and asked a question. It seems he was confused, not yet knowing what to do with his life and facing a variety of job offers and opportunities. But he ...
Views: 1408(1 vote) - Don’t Be a Jerk to a Jerk - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2011 from Margaret MeloniSometimes you find yourself working with someone and no matter how kind and compassionate you try to be, you still think they are a jerk. Maybe they yell all the time or they are condescending or a back stabber. It might be tempting to yell at them more loudly than they yelled at you or to ...
Views: 1463(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Anger: Cleansing Squall or Hurricane? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2011 from Tina TessinaAnger is the emotional energy within each of us that rises up when something needs to change. If you act on the need to create change, your anger can be channeled effectively; but it’s not redirected to something effective, your frustration will build, sometimes to hurricane force. Anger ...
Views: 1237(1 vote) - Epistemic traps - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2011 from Asaf ShaniWe are trapped within the boundries of our knowledge. We are prisoners to an epistemic trap. The reason traps trap us is because there are made in an asymmetric way. We make an assumption that getting into a room will be as simple as getting out but once the door is closed behind us, we ...
Views: 2920(1 vote) - False Pride and Other Notions - A Way Out - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2013 from Kael RanschaertAt a young very young age our minds are fed with notions like "take pride in the work you do" or "be proud of yourself", but do we value the consequences of holding this lens on the world? I remember hearing voices from teachers and coaches telling me to "hold your head up to the world and take ...
Views: 1519(1 vote) - Family Therapy In The Background Of Other Therapies - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2011 from Sawas DeeToday’s psychotherapeutic developments have outgrown the past situation of psychology and psychotherapy. Where in the past, only few people would go and try to solve their problems through therapy, nowadays such people are more in numbers. That doesn’t mean that more people are experiencing ...
Views: 1912(1 vote) - Fatal Mistakes in Conflict Resolution - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2014 from Janet PfeifferFew people I know like to the process of resolving disagreements. In fact, when they hear "conflict" they automatically equate it with fighting. Yet one is not comparable to the other. Conflict is simply two forces in opposition. Fighting is defined with such words as "violent, battle, combat, ...
Views: 2094(1 vote) - Forgive Through Compassion and Acceptance - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2011 from Mark PetroffPerhaps all of us have had an intimate partner that has said or done things to us which frankly seem unforgivable! Can you remember a circumstance where you spoke hurtful or hateful words, and later recognized that you did not really mean them? The context of your life affected the content of ...
Views: 1670(1 vote) - From Conflict To Unified Field - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2008 from Niela MillerIntroduction: This article was written some time before I had studied process work* with Jungian psychologist, Arny Mindell and his cohort. From the 80’s to the present time, process work has developed a technology for working with individuals, couples, groups and communities in conflict. ...
Views: 1086(1 vote) - Get 'Over' Yourself - Expanding Your Awareness and Compassion in Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2010 from Pamela TurnerWe are so used to always seeing things from our own viewpoint. We know that what we experience is determined by our beliefs and filters and that these beliefs and filters were set in place at a young age before the life you are living now even existed. Yet we are so attached to our limited views ...
Views: 1501(1 vote) - Going the distance - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2013 from KL AdamsIt is normally to hear people talk about the things they wish to start going. We hear it so much it becomes dull to our ears. We learn to ignore those statements. It makes no logical sense for us to encourage a person speaking of the things they ought to be doing. We already know by the ...
Views: 1721(1 vote) - How Can You Think Differently! - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2014 from Dr. Mona AeyshaTensions and worries are of dissimilar varieties. Some are based on relationships, some are financial and others are conceptual. We live in a variety of cultures, thus experiences are too complex and ambiguous at a large level. Notwithstanding, our many of the troubles could be solved through a ...
Views: 1612(1 vote) - How thoughts cause anxiety - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporWe constantly delude ourselves and create a false picture of the world. PLACE OF POWER: BEIGN DETERMINES CONSCIOUSNESS Ten months ago, I left my home, lost in the wooded hills and moved to the regional center to give my children an opportunity to gain an understanding of modern society. ...
Views: 803(1 vote) - How To Deal With A Toxic Work Environment (According To Science) - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2019 from Marilyn VinchyDoes the thought of work stress you out? Do you feel depressed or overwhelmed while you’re there? Do you have a hard time disconnecting yourself from your job when at home? If you answered “yes” to these questions, you may be working in a toxic work environment. A toxic workplace will ...
Views: 1252(1 vote) - How to Differentiate Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Nervous Breakdown - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2011 from Wendy LauChronic fatigue syndrome and nervous breakdown are often thought of as a condition that is one and the same. However, these two are entirely different from each other. Here we differentiate the two by looking into their definitions, signs and symptoms and other pertinent information. Chronic ...
Views: 5482(2 votes) - How to practice the *Stress Release Exercise* - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2010 from BeiYin *The People Whisperer*The serious aspect of a stress condition is, that a person who has stress, mostly is not aware of it, being so much used to it. Often trying to compensate tension with smoking, drinking, excessive eating, biting nails or many other ways. The exercise offered here releases stress, so that one ...
Views: 1910(2 votes) - How To Set Boundaries and Stand Your Ground - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2018 from Christiana StarBoundaries are important. From a psychological perspective, boundaries are the mental, emotional, spiritual or relational limits on who and what kind of influences you accept into your life. How you expect to be treated depends on your personal history and self-evaluation. This is different ...
Views: 1486(1 vote) - I Don't Like To Be Corrected - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2010 from Eloisa RamosI don’t like to be corrected, not even if the correction comes from me! I laugh because just last week my offer to help was met with resistance and I couldn’t understand why. I walked into the kitchen to find my husband making breakfast. I noticed a couple of burnt pieces on the plate and ...
Views: 4518(1 vote) - I Know Why I Got Breast Cancer - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2014 from Kathi CalahanI found myself fighting for my life with estrogen-sensitive, inflammatory breast cancer -rare, but deadly! How could this happen to me? Today, I know why I got cancer. It's so simple; I wonder why I didn't see it before. I know that if I had taken better care of my mental, emotional and ...
Views: 1145(1 vote) - Intelligent personality can be stupid - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporSometimes you look at a person and think: “After all, an intelligent person. And he behaves like a nerd. Why?" Because the mind is different. WHAT KINDS OF MIND ARE THERE? First-order mind: erudition. Erudition is the mastery of fact in its broadest aspect. They say about the polymath that ...
Views: 739(1 vote) - KINDNESS, TOLERANCE & DIVERSITY - Life Quotes to Empower You from the Inside Out - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2011 from Chelle Thompson"FEELINGS, TENTATIVELY TOSSED, CAN BARELY SCALE THE WALLS OF OUR SELF-IMPRISONING FEARS. WHEN WE RECOGNIZE OUR DIVINE NATURE, OUR SPIRIT SOARS OVER OBSOLETE WALLS. FREE, THEN TO LOVE OURSELVES, WE CAN LOVINGLY EMBRACE A WORLD OF DIFFERENCES." — Chelle Thompson ©2003 Inspiration Line "Human ...
Views: 2877(1 vote) - Lose Your Temper For Good! - by Submitted on May 11, 2016 from Janet PfeifferI've had many clients over the years request my help in teaching them how to control their tempers. "I lose my temper and afterwards feel terrible. I don't want to do this anymore. I need to learn how to control my temper." My response to them is this, "If you lose your keys you seek to find ...
Views: 1372(1 vote) - Managing Difficult Conversations - Part I - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2011 from Asaf ShaniIntroduction - What is a Difficult Conversation? Jack, an account manager, received notice from the financial department that one of his clients was late in paying what he owed. Jack, having developed a friendship with the client over the years, knows that this client is going through a rough ...
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