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- ***Things to Do Today: Ask for Help - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2010 from Margaret Meloni“Go ahead and tell me the steps you will take to complete this assignment.” This is the question that none of my early supervisors ever asked me on the job. And boy was I relieved that they never asked this question. Why? Because I had no clue! When I was new on the job I was afraid to ask ...
Views: 1465(1 vote) - ***What Difference do Differences Make? - by Submitted on May 17, 2010 from Margaret MeloniYou have worked side-by-side with your team for quite some time and the good news is that it has been truly enjoyable. You get along, you work hard together and you laugh hard together. Lucky you, this might even be an example of a high performing team. You assumed it was because you had so much ...
Views: 1242(2 votes) - ***When is it Helpful to Apologize? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2009 from Margaret Paul"When it is helpful to apologize?" asked Patricia, a client of mine, in one of our phone sessions. Her husband, Brent, often expected her to apologize and she was confused about when it was appropriate. The answer to this question is a little complex, because there are two different ...
Views: 4052(1 vote) - ***You Decide to Resolve a Conflict, Now What? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2010 from Margaret MeloniYou have observed a conflict between some of your team members and you realize you are the right person to help them reach a resolution. How do you KNOW this? You have carefully considered the situation, perhaps using “Can You SHOULD You Help Resolve the Conflicts Around You?” as your ...
Views: 1459(5 votes) - ***YOUR Time - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2010 from Margaret MeloniQuestion, what is the resource that you cannot acquire more of? Do you think it is money? Do you think it is a specific type of skilled labor or a certain type of raw material? NO! Although you or your company might be feeling financially challenged you can find ways to earn money, you can ...
Views: 1251(2 votes) - 3 Simple Ways to Conquer Difficult People - by Submitted on May 10, 2009 from Michael LeeDealing with difficult people could become quite a challenge. Sometimes, they can take the form of a boss, co-worker, or even a friend or relative. Whatever the case may be, you need to stop losing your temper and start reading some tips for dealing with difficult people. Letting difficult ...
Views: 1411(1 vote) - 5 Ways to Stop an Argument in Less Than a Minute - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2014 from Pat LaDouceurThe trouble with arguments is that they don't work. I'm not talking about a good debate, where you have some great ideas, and they clash, and you start a healthy back-and-forth that feels fun. I mean arguments – where tension starts to rise, responses start to get personal, and you go around ...
Views: 1654(1 vote) - Are You Tired of Arguing? There Are Better Ways to Manage Conflict! - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2009 from Alberta Fredricksen“I'm tired of arguing” are four of the most defeating words in your relationships. And there really are better ways for effectively managing conflict! As a coach and human resource administrator, I've heard these words so many times and usually it says more about you than it does about ...
Views: 6327(3 votes) - ASSUME, ACCUSE, ASK - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2017 from Janet PfeifferAt some point in almost every person's life, we have made false assumptions about another or blamed an innocent party for something they were not responsible for. Needless to say, both of these behaviors can lead to hurt feelings, people being offended and outraged or an angry defensive response ...
Views: 1945(1 vote) - Choose Your Advocates Wisely: Getting the Best for Your Child - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2009 from Jennifer KruminsImagine...after months of waiting and anticipation the moment has finally arrived! Your beautiful baby enters the world and life is the fullest it has ever been! As the nurse gently places your newborn in your arms she slips a book into your hands. “This is your child’s manual,” she explains, ...
Views: 2080(1 vote) - Clearing karmic energies in relationships - by Submitted on May 13, 2011 from Mariusz KozlowskiI think that about 50% of all clients requests I have received during last years are about different relationship issues. After doing some initial energetic analysis in most cases there are negative energies between involved people. These negative energies can come from many sources. The ...
Views: 2234(1 vote) - Communication in Recovery - Ten Steps to Fair Fighting - by Submitted on May 24, 2009 from Peggy FergusonUse the following ten steps to replace old, ineffective arguments with an effective fair fighting session: 1. Fight to resolve an issue or solve a problem. 2. Identify the problem to be solved. 3. Take turns stating your case, using I messages. 4. Practice active listening. 5. Generate ...
Views: 3089(1 vote) - Crisis Management Planning - What's Happening Where We Work? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2008 from J. Glenn EbersoleCrises continue to be in our newspaper headlines and the lead stories on radio and television broadcasts. And crises continue to affect businesses in many forms and continue to occur without notice. But what’s happening where we work in response to this continuing trend of crises? Are ...
Views: 2273(1 vote) - Dealing with Difficult People - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2010 from Willie HortonThe secret to dealing with difficult people is to take the necessary action before they become difficult. Like everything else in life, if you deal with something before it becomes a problem, you’ll never have any major problems to deal with. The problem is, of course, that in the ordinary ...
Views: 1792(4 votes) - Dealing with Difficult People - A Spiritual Perspective - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2009 from James LeGrandWe all have difficult people in our lives, and unfortunately, we must deal with them to get things done in life. It can be your ex, your parents or your in-laws. It could be your employer, employees or co-workers. Sometimes it’s the store cashier, the customer service agent or another ...
Views: 5657(2 votes) - Domestic and Workplace Violence - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2010 from Peter StoneWhen are people going to get real? When society reads in the newspaper or catches on local news channels the headlines: Murder-Suicide, Domestic Abuse Homicide, or Workplace Violence, they are intrigued out of the common interest that everyone has been frustrated in a relationship at home, ...
Views: 1712(2 votes) - How to Ease Conflict - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsA monk asked Shigui, "What is the first principle?" Shigui said, "What you just asked is the second principle." -- from Zen’s Chinese Heritage A few weeks ago, I was trying to pass along some information to a friend that I hoped would help resolve a conflict with which she was ...
Views: 1063(1 vote) - How to Get Rid of Hypochondriasis - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2011 from amir bashirHypochondriasis some times called health anxiety is an illness in which patient is preoccupied with fear of having a serious disease. This type of thinking persists despite all negative investigations and reassurance. He misinterprets various normal bodily sensations or mild physical symptoms as ...
Views: 3620(1 vote) - How To Handle Difficult Family Members - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2012 from Kimberley CohenA family may include parent(s), sibling(s), partner, children, aunt(s), uncle(s), cousin(s), grandparent(s), grandchildren, step-parent, step brother(s) and sister(s), foster and adoptive families, and in-laws, to name a few. Whew, that's a lot of people to get along with! Whether you have a ...
Views: 2715(1 vote) - How to make the right decision... the spiritual way - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2010 from Tim OngWe make decisions every day. Most times, these decisions do not lead to a significant change in outcome. For example, we decide whether to have sandwich or pizza for dinner, or we decide whether to watch a movie or go to the park this weekend. However, some decisions can lead to big changes ...
Views: 2884(1 vote) - How to Say No to People You Care About - by Submitted on May 02, 2014 from Pat LaDouceur“I want to learn how to say No so it doesn’t turn into an argument,” David said. He’d been married about two years, and came to my office asking if I could help him learn to talk with his wife “without getting so upset when we disagree.” “I’m fine doing things her way most of the time,” he ...
Views: 1741(1 vote) - I'm Just Too Nice: The Truth About Passive Behavior - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2013 from Janet PfeifferPeople often tell me, "My problem is that I'm just too nice! That's why I get hurt a lot." But what they perceive as a case of terminal politeness, I see as an issue of passive behavior. Don't misunderstand: most of these people truly are nice. But those who are yes people, who don' t disagree ...
Views: 3078(3 votes) - Is Personal Development a Scam? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2009 from Danish AhmedHi there everyone!! I'm a professional working in the personal development industry. For 18 years, I've participated in all the various disciplines of personal development programs. Even with this extensive knowledge of the industry, I still sympathize when I meet someone at a networking ...
Views: 5926(1 vote) - Keep Your Sanity in the Technological World - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Maly SolanIn one of the families I worked with lately, the father, a very successful director has been working about 18 hours a day and was abroad once a month, leaving the mother alone to cope with their two babies. After two stressful years the company he worked for collapsed. He was subsequently ...
Views: 1238(2 votes) - Listening Can Resolve Conflict - 10 Benefits! - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Alberta FredricksenConflict happens in relationships. And the tension it brings is opportunity knocking at the door. We actually learn more by listening than we do by talking! When we are experiencing contrast or conflict with others, we are usually trying our best to persuade them to our point of view. ...
Views: 2778(4 votes) - Positive Intent - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2009 from Christiane TurnerThere is a very important principle, called the “Positive Intent“. Positive Intent means, that there is always a positive function or purpose for what is currently happening in our lives. For example a behavior we don't like about ourselves, like getting angry when our kid whines, or getting all ...
Views: 8832(2 votes) - Positive Statements For Girls Encourage Healthy Friendships! - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2011 from Lori LiteNote to Readers: Friendships cause much stress and anxiety for many tweens and teens. I found the middle school years to be particularly challenging for girls. Emotional bullying is everywhere and the lines of friendship are blurred by an effort to be popular or just plain old accepted! I love ...
Views: 2480(1 vote) - Problem Solving: Don't Ignore the Nudges - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2009 from George TorokAll problems are not equal. Some will bite you. Some just nudge you. Those nudges are worthy of more attention. You will encounter two types of problems, acute and chronic. They have two distinct warnings signs and different methods of solving them. You need to be aware of both types of ...
Views: 1723(3 votes) - Response-Ability - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2013 from Tina TessinaOne of the trends I dislike in our culture is the reluctance of people to take responsibility, or to respond with care to each other. In my counseling practice, I hear a lot of self-justification, mind-reading, defensiveness, blaming and complaining; which is why relationships, friendships, ...
Views: 1552(4 votes) - Simplicity - The Right Attitude Can Reduce Your Job Stress - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2008 from Kathi Calahan, Career CoachWork sucks, but then again, maybe it’s your attitude. And, maybe the people at work really do suck, but in the meantime there are some easy things you can do to ease the tension. Keep in mind, you cannot change other people, but you can change your attitude. Let me give you an incredible ...
Views: 1073(1 vote) - Staying True to Your Inner Voice - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineAlways Remain True to Yourself We each have subtle senses; intuitions, gut feelings, little voices inside our heads that guide our judgment. We do not need to elicit our intuition every time we have a decision to make. Many of our decisions are determined by conscious thought, prior ...
Views: 1540(1 vote) - Stop Listening to Toxic Friends - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2011 from Lori Anne ChanceHave you ever simply walked away from a friend who upset you during a conversation? Do you feel obligated to stay and listen to someone venting even if their anger and frustration spills out onto you? Why We Listen Women seem to instinctively know how to listen. As opposed to men, we don’t ...
Views: 5890(3 votes) - Taking Care of Yourself - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2011 from Jo LaplaceI am a woman who historically has not taken care of me because my family has always come first. I did not believe the “well” would ever run dry. I believed I was a super Mom, Wife, Sister, Friend, Neighbor, Cheer Leader, Teacher, Specialist, Taxi Driver and every other person I could divide ...
Views: 1441(2 votes) - Ten Tips For Arguing Wtih An Idiot - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2016 from Janet Pfeiffer"Idiots" are simply people like you and I who are struggling with unresolved personal issues ranging from low self-esteem to ego, insecurity to poor impulse control and more. While it is acceptable to regard the behavior as idiotic, it is never permissible to label the individual as such. People ...
Views: 1502(1 vote) - The Challenge of Communicating - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2011 from Albert de GoiasAs human beings, we possess a rather unique capability. We are not just passive creatures living within limited confines, surviving at the very whim of the environment. Rather, we are able to examine the activities which change our world, and through an acquired understanding, influence how ...
Views: 1380(2 votes) - The Greatest Gift of All? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2010 from Tim DamgaardYet another new year has arrived and is waiting to unfold its adventures, challenges and blessings. Many of us get inspired to set new goals and intentions aiming to improve ourselves, our health and our lives. The top three New Year’s Resolutions in my part of the world are: to stress less, to ...
Views: 1019(1 vote) - The Healthcare Bill and the Automatic Brain - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2011 from CHARLES GLASSMANThe tools of conquest do not necessarily come with bombs, and explosions, and fallout. There are weapons that are simply thoughts, ideas, prejudices, to be found only in the minds of men. For the record, prejudices can kill and suspicion can destroy. A thoughtless, frightened search for a ...
Views: 1387(2 votes) - THE NAIL IN THE FENCE - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2013 from Janet Pfeiffer"The sharpest sword is a word spoken in wrath." (The Buddha). A little boy, prone to anger, was told by his father, "Every time you're angry, drive a nail in that wooden fence. When you've learned to control your anger, start removing them." Six months later, the boy had removed every nail ...
Views: 1822(2 votes) - The Unsealed Meaning of Daniel: Christ said to study the Bible's geopolitical prophecies of endtimes - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2014 from Richard RuhlingSummary: Daniel was told to seal his book “till the time of the end,” but his book defines that time. His vision [chazon] of a ram and goat is at the time of the end, Daniel 8:17. Historians confirm the ram as the Medes and Persians conquered by Alexander the Great, but that was not the time of ...
Views: 1314(1 vote) - This Simple Exercise Can Transform Difficult Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Sally TempletonWhen I have a client with a difficult relationship with a boss or colleague, there is a simple exercise that I ask them to do. It is a transformational exercise that can become a life-changing practice. It is simply to list the positive aspects of their “difficult person”. This includes ...
Views: 1254(1 vote) - To Fight or Not to Fight? That is the Question - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2014 from Janet PfeifferDo you enjoy a good fight? I don't but I know some people who do. Regardless of who we are interacting with, differences of opinion, issues , and conflict will arise periodically. Some approach arguments with zest, others with great trepidation, and some avoid them at all costs. There are times ...
Views: 1383(1 vote) - Toxic People - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2011 from Lisa PhillipsA few years ago, I attended one of Debbie Ford’s ( No1 NY Times Best Selling Author and Self Development Expert) Shadow process workshops in New York. One of the biggest light bulb moments I had on this course was when Debbie led us through a process where we learned to accept that ‘ There are ...
Views: 3412(6 votes) - Until you confront the person who you are upset with, you will not be able to move forward in any part of your life - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2012 from Donna LeeAs a spiritual coach, my job is to show clients how cause and effect plays into their life. Many people do not understand that their actions or lack of action can create an ongoing cycle of the same situation repeating over and over until it is dealt with. People often believe that they can just ...
Views: 6129(2 votes) - Viewing the World with Different Glasses - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2011 from Steven AitchisonWe all have different glasses we wear when looking at the world, and in particular, when dealing with certain events that happen in our lives. I'd like to give you an example of what I am talking about here. A few years ago when I was driving my eldest son home from one of his clubs, I ...
Views: 2780(2 votes) - We should all live for others - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Wayne Kehl"Life becomes harder for us when we live for others, but it also becomes richer and happier.” Albert Schweitzer Albert Schweitzer was perhaps, one of the greatest minds of the twentieth century. He lived from 1875 to 1965. During the course of his long life he was a doctor, an ...
Views: 7469(2 votes) - Weak, Meek or Strong: a Biblical Perspective on Anger - by Submitted on May 28, 2014 from Janet PfeifferThe first verse of the Beatitudes in the Bible says, "Blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the Earth." Like many others, I always had difficulty with the term meek. To me, it was synonymous with being weak. And yet nothing could be farther from the truth. The word meek comes from the ...
Views: 1878(1 vote) - What is Divorce and Child Custody Mediation? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2011 from Kathy Memel“The notion that most people want black-robed judges, well dressed lawyers and fine-paneled courtrooms as the setting to resolve their disputes is not correct. People with problems, like people with pains, want relief, and they want it as quickly and inexpensively as possible” - Chief Justice ...
Views: 1194(1 vote) - Why Men and Women Cope Differently with Stress - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Gudrun FrerichsThere are many areas in life where it can be noticed that men and women respond differently to a number of situations, recent research with brain imaging has shown that each gender responds differently to stress. The main difference is that stress caused changes in men's rights prefrontal ...
Views: 2209(1 vote) - ***All that People Stuff - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2010 from Margaret Meloni“I am too busy doing the work to worry about all that people stuff”, said one of my students. “I am busy managing the project and updating the schedule and budget and making sure people don’t miss their deadlines, you know – doing the real work”, he continued. I wish I could tell you this was ...
Views: 1431(6 votes) - Lane Changing Thoughts - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2010 from Vonzel SawyerI was contemplating what could I write that would reach people and help them to get them started toward the path of life that best suits them and those connected to them. Here is what came to me, “When purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable” When we meet others and purpose is sensed ...
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