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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Ask Right and You May Receive - by Whether in an intimate or another kind of a relationship, how easily do you get what you ask for? And, how easily do you ask for what you want or need?
Many people are frustrated in all sorts of relationships, seemingly unable to get what they need or want. Sometimes not getting what you want ...
Views: 997(1 vote) - Six Sure-Fire Steps to Become a Love Magnet(c) - by Want to become a love magnet? Want to attract true love or improve your relationship?
Good, because you deserve to be loved! And, lucky you, I will show you how to attract that love by working on the person you see when you look in the mirror.
That's right. Although you're seeking love from ...
Views: 641 - Discovering the Patterns in Your Relationships - by Relationship choices are often based on a pattern created in our childhood. This pattern are automatic and unconscious. We believe this is the way relationships ought to be.
There is no problem having a pattern that lends you in loving, satisfying, long-term relationships. However, more and ...
Views: 938 - What Men and Women Want, Part I - by There is a stark contrast between what each of the sexes thinks the opposite sex wants from them, and what the opposite sex really does want.
What women think men want from them causes women to have resentments and anger towards men, and feel hopeless about ever developing a wonderful, warm ...
Views: 1167 - Book Summary: How to Work with Just About Anyone - by “I just can’t seem to get along with this person!”
Every office has that one difficult person to work with, who affects productivity due to a terrible attitude, chronic tardiness, or simply drives everyone else up the wall. Here is the answer to common problems in conflict ...
Views: 670 - How to Get What You Need From Your Partner When Your Angry - by Communication is a key component to maintaining a healthy and nurturing relationship. One of the most common and damaging relationship pitfalls is the unheard problem that erodes a relationship over time.
Unfortunately, we are not taught how to get our feelings heard and our needs met without ...
Views: 843 - From Victim to Survivor - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2007 from Lynda BevanTo change from being a ‘victim to a survivor’ requires strength of mind, determination and focus. Changing a repeating pattern is a difficult task to tackle. It can be done but will only be done successfully with constant practice. Why do you want to change? Here are some examples to help ...
Views: 2563 - TWELVE STEPS TO CO-COMMITMENT - Part 2 - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2007 from Robert Najemy(The basic ideas of this section are inspired by the work of Gay and Katherine Hendricks) We can move towards a conscious love relationship by committing ourselves to consciously working towards that goal. We need to clearly understand what we kind of relationship we want to create and be ...
Views: 1235 - JEALOUSY - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2007 from Robert NajemyBill is very jealous of Efi and does not want her to ever leave the house without him. He is afraid that some man might approach her, and he cannot stand the idea of another man even looking at her. Although she has given him no concrete reason to fear, for some reason, he does not trust her. ...
Views: 1132 - TWELVE STEPS TO CO-COMMITMENT - Part 1 - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2007 from Robert Najemy(The basic ideas of this article are inspired by the work of Gay and Katherine Hendricks) We can move towards a conscious love relationship by committing ourselves to consciously working towards that goal. We need to clearly understand what we kind of relationship we want to create and be ...
Views: 1224 - When He Does not Keep His Agreements - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2007 from Robert NajemySonny says "YES" to whatever request is made of him, but never follow through with the agreement. Afterward, he feels guilty, becomes defensive, and occasionally, aggressive. He, on the one hand, cannot say no, mainly because he fears rejection and conflict. On the other hand, he feels ...
Views: 1182 - Relationships under Stress - by I've never yet met anyone who has had a stress-free life. Sickness, loss, financial problems, job problems are things that all of us will have to deal with. Yet in reviewing new cases week after week at a mental health center, I'm constantly struck by how often bad luck has played a major part ...
Views: 1357 - "Reconciliation" - a Difficult Word - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2007 from Steve GoodierAn office reports that they have an answering machine that instructs callers to leave their name and address, and to spell any difficult words. Early one Monday when the secretary was reviewing the weekend messages, she heard an enthusiastic young woman recite her name and address and then ...
Views: 1515 - Past Experience, New Relationship: Is it Baggage? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2007 from Susan DunnWe are nothing, if not the sum total of our experiences, but when is it "baggage" and when is it not. Baggage is when you’re weighed-down by past experiences, stuck and unable to move forward from the weight. We think of it along with such terms as dumping it, getting rid of it, carrying ...
Views: 3574 - Getting to Know You - by Your new boyfriend? Hey -you know this man almost better than you know yourself. You know his favorite color, his shoe size, what time he gets up in the morning, how he likes his coffee, his mother's maiden name, when he last voted and what he ate last Thanksgiving. You know which side he likes ...
Views: 570 - Disagreeing to Agree - by Falling in love is so wonderful. Everything she says is
sublime, every word he utters is magical. You agree on everything, you and your new romance - never have you felt so understood, valued, appreciated. Then, of course that awful day comes when - NO - It couldn't be - you
disagree! It ...
Views: 619 - Understanding ours and others' Needs - by We need to understand and communicate our needs. At the same time, it is important to be able to hear, and if possible, respond to the other¢s needs. The following exercise in examining needs will help.
SOME NEEDS WE MIGHT HAVE
FROM THE OTHER
Mark your needs and add others you would ...
Views: 720 - Why do We Fear Love? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2007 from Robert NajemyWhy do we fear close relationships? Although we want to love and be loved, we also fear both. Our past experiences have programmed us to associate loving and being loved with unpleasant experiences and especially with feelings of vulnerability. For these and other reasons, we have developed ...
Views: 4543 - BASIC RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2007 from Robert NajemyWHAT HAPPENED? We were so suited for each other, so in love, so happy together. We had so many dreams. Our first moments together were full of joy, happiness and the excitement of being close to someone who loved us and understood us. We were so sure that we would live "happily ever after." We ...
Views: 1357 - Relationship Conflicts - Part 4 - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2007 from Robert NajemyCONTROL vs. FLOW Each person, in his attempt to find security, affirmation, happiness and harmony in his life, searches for ways in which he can most effectively create the world he desires. Some people have become programmed to believe they can do this only by controlling the situations and ...
Views: 1189 - Change Your Marriage From Being Roomates to Lovers - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2007 from Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D.Change Your Marriage From Being Roomates to Lovers A marriage that is filled with love, romance, communication and passion is possible when you learn to demonstrate and verbalize your love on a daily basis. Many couples lose sight of what they did in the beginning of the relationship which made ...
Views: 8278 - Single in a Couple's World - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2007 from Thelma MarianoAdvertising for St. Valentine’s Day seemed more relentless than ever this year. Everywhere I turned, I saw candy hearts or jewelry glistening in store displays. Radio announcers drummed the message home through constant promotions of dinner for two. There was no one “special” ...
Views: 845 - How To Kill Your Long Distance Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2007 from Jeremiah LewisHow To Kill Your Long Distance Relationship Disclaimer: I am in a long distance relationship. While I have been guilty of some of the behavior listed, I am one of the ones who has tried to correct that behavior when I realize it's happening. Just so you know. This isn't like a subtle ...
Views: 4789 - Can You Design Your Perfect Soul Mate? Yes! Here's How To Do It Right - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2007 from Dr. Kathy Joyce AbbottCan You Design Your Perfect Soul Mate? Yes! Here's How To Do It Right Brandy Sharpe, a Hollywood makeup artist, had experienced a very bad year romantically, she said. Everything had gone wrong. Her “good lover” had been only that, and the rest of him was a disaster. But then, ...
Views: 1987 - Honored Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2007 from Dr. Terri Hawkins-FoxHonored Relationships -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- We all want a relationship where we feel fully loved, deeply understood, deeply valued, and where we walk the journey in complete harmony with another. Many times we are looking to the other ...
Views: 624 - The Secret of Perfect Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2007 from Chika ShiojimaThe less we learn to long for -- or depend upon -- Special understanding from others, The less we will suffer for not receiving this. The less we suffer over what others Seem incapable of giving to us, The less unhappy will we find ourselves In these unanswered moments of our ...
Views: 811 - Aren’t Gardens And Relationships The Same? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2007 from Dan OhlerYahoo, it’s spring! As the grass began to grow, I knew it was time to connect with nature and get our garden ready for another productive year. It was fun to work in the garden that sunny day. There was that distinctive rich, sweet smell. It was a very pleasurable experience to work the ...
Views: 637 - The Possessor - Dominator - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2007 from Jay KrunszyinskyHe brings you candy and flowers and wants to spend all of his time with you. You find him flattering when he becomes upset when you go out with friends and family without him. He wants constant reassuring that your devotion is to him and nobody else. He begins to monitor your phone calls, ...
Views: 3994 - The Depender - Neglector - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2007 from Jay KrunszyinskyYou grew up in a home where very little was expected from you. You were not given responsibilities to help you develop as a child and teenager. Let’s face it, you were a “mamma’s boy” or “daddy’s girl”. Don’t get me wrong, parents that want to spoil their kids have great intentions. If your ...
Views: 1948 - Allergies: What You Can Do - by Millions of people cringe when they see flowers start blooming in spring each year, because they know they will soon be fighting spring allergies. According to recent statistics, allergies are assuming epidemic proportions in the United States, with up to 30% of adults and 40% of children now ...
Views: 1000 - Create a Harmonious Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2007 from Robert NajemyHarmonious relationships are the result of inner work, love and deep respect for ourselves and the other. Below are some simple basic guidelines for that process 1. Take full responsibility for our reality. We are the sole creators of our thoughts and feelings. No one can create our happiness, ...
Views: 1576 - What Guys Really Want - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2007 from Bruce MulkeyWhat do guys really want? Chicks with nice boobs? Copious amounts of cold beer? Plenty of sports? A really cool car? The new iPhone? Well, that online video of Jennifer Aniston strolling topless down the beach is pretty titillating. And it’s hard to beat a pint of good ale with a hot slice ...
Views: 1484 - Creating Relationships That Work - by Couple Getaway Weekend
"Our relationship is so much better because of the time we spent with you Bill and Linda. We are experiencing new and different ways to make our love grow. It has made such a difference. This makes our bond even more precious."
- - Lance and Annabelle Wallnau
Want to ...
Views: 881 - Dad Gets A Special Day Too - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2007 from VicToria FreudigerAs we welcome June, we honor the father in our life that has left lasting impressions—one way or another. Father's Day can be an undeclared invitation from life to reflect on the many aspects of the relationship between you and your father. Whether he is alive or has made his transition makes ...
Views: 954 - Relationship Conflicts - Part 3 - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2007 from Robert NajemyCLEANLINESS AND ORDER vs. FREEDOM AND RELAXATION Anna and George have been married for a number of years. They have each settled into their own stances concerning various matters on which they do not agree. One of those is just how clean and in order the house must be. Anna’s standards ...
Views: 786 - Are You Asking For What You REALLY Want? Be Courageous! - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2007 from Margie WarrellAs you read the title of this article perhaps you were thinking "umm... I don't know... could I?" If that was the case for you then I want you to begin by thinking about something in your life that is not how you would like it to be right now - a person who is annoying you; a situation which ...
Views: 1112 - When is Love Real? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2007 from Colette Dowling, LCSWReal love is not only hard to find, it’s hard to accept. This may seem counterintuitive, I know, but if you really ponder it long enough to get it, it could change the way you think about love. All of us have been wounded in some way, whether by early love relationships or later ones. ...
Views: 1752 - Unchain My Heart - by Disconnected? Do you feel disconnected from your true self and a desire to somehow be and express more of who you really are? Do you feel a lack of connection with others, and the need for closer more genuine relating with friends, co-workers, and community? If you answered yes to either or both ...
Views: 924 - Hearts and Flowers, or Heartaches and Frustration? Five ways to break free of conflict and experience connection - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2007 from Suzanne VachetToo often our relationships seem not to warm us, but rather to push our "hot buttons." What's going on when this happens? Let's look at five reasons why we might experience conflict in our relationships: 1. We are not being authentic 2. We are listening to our inner voices instead of the other ...
Views: 707 - Learn Why It's Impossible To Fail At Love - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2007 from Brenda ShoshannaLearn How It’s Impossible To Fail At Love Dr. Brenda Shoshanna Usually relationships start out wonderfully. Everyone’s thrilled. They feel that finally they’ve found the “one”. Then as time passes, as problems come up and old patterns start re-appearing, they ...
Views: 9638 - Four STeps To Becoming Closer (Developing Emotional Intimacy) - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2007 from Brenda ShoshannaEven when they are in relationships, many wish to become closer to their partners and share quality time that is truly intimate. They want to feel free to express all of themselves. Although many try in all kinds of ways, it is helpful to learn some direct steps, which open emotional doors ...
Views: 28791 - 5 Top Tips To Improve Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2007 from Chris GreenAre you like millions of other people who've endured the frustration of relationship breakdown? Perhaps you're disillusioned with love because relationship after relationship never lasts. Here are 5 reasons as to why many relationships breakdown to help you form lasting, happier unions. ...
Views: 5837(1 vote) - What Are We? - Titles and Validation - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2007 from Cristin LentineThese are the most common questions people ask once they're in a new relationship and are seeking clarity. "What are we?" "Are we exclusively committed, just dating, friends with benefits or what?" "How does this person view me, how do they feel about me and what can I expect from them in ...
Views: 849 - Excerpt from "Restoring Relationships" - by When we pollute our relationships with unloving thoughts, or destroy or abort them with unloving attitudes, we are threatening our emotional survival.
- MARIANNE WILLIAMSON
You are holding this book for a reason. You may be hurting or confused over a marriage or a relationship that has been ...
Views: 3120 - The Secrets to Lifelong Love: Brought to You by Two Bachelors - by Throughout our search for America’s greatest marriages, the record for the longest interview Jason (my best friend since third grade) and I have done goes to Ruth and Eddie Elcott, a feisty and vibrant couple married 62 years.
Three hours into the interview, I wanted to know the Holy Grail of ...
Views: 816 - It's Not About Bananas - by I can't believe I'm telling you this.
The other day, my husband came through the door with a bag of groceries. Bananas in particular. " Honey," I asked, "why didn’t you ask ME if we needed anything?" I was secretly annoyed because I'd been planning a trip to the grocery store myself. ...
Views: 742 - Rules for A Happy Marriage - by Submitted on May 31, 2007 from John PhillipsMy wife and I have traveled around the world several times in the last couple of years. We are always looking for unique and low cost souvenirs to remind of our trips. Recently we discovered a souvenir plate in a little shop in Manila, Philippines with the Rules for a happy marriage. ...
Views: 1314 - Fine Tuning Intimate Relationships - by Submitted on May 31, 2007 from Lauri Allison LaBadieIntimate relationships offer great potential for connection, personal growth and healing. Yet many people find that although successful in their careers and are able to maintain close friendships, they struggle in intimate relationships. Often these relationships aren’t working because the same ...
Views: 1167 - Human Design System and Relationships - by Submitted on May 29, 2007 from Kip WinsettBeen there done that Being in a relationship with someone you love is probably one of the very best things in life. But it’s not always easy. While there are some people who seem to always be close and never have even a hint of a problem, most of us seem to find our relationships rocky now and ...
Views: 1122 - It Depends On Me - by "If it is to be, it is up to me!" was the first quote that really hit me while reading my first self-help book by Wally Famous Amos ... and the start of my continuous travels on the road to an empowered life.
Once I was certain what it was I set out for myself to accomplish, I had to design an ...
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