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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- How to Flirt With Bisexual Couples? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Jessica LawIt might surprise you, but well, flirting has never been easy to anyone. And how can it be that easy when you cannot get in the mind of the other person without having to talk to them first? That part is what makes everything difficult. But hey, people have flirted before and succeeded. If you ...
Views: 2418(2 votes) - Hidden Compatibility Factors Dominate Your Relationships - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2017 from Scott & Stephen PetulloYou’ve been lied to about what makes two people compatible. As long as two people enjoy mutual physical attraction and share basic likes such as baseball games and pizza, and dislikes such as cold weather, they are compatible, right? Wrong. Isn’t compatibility just a matter of a couple ...
Views: 1250(1 vote) - The Female Bully and the Codependent Part II: “A Smelly Turd in a Pretty Package” - by Submitted on May 18, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownIn Part One, we discussed some characteristics of the serial female family bully, the way she bullies, her targets and her end game. We looked at some interesting characteristics also seen with the codependent; poor self-esteem and inability to speak her truth or express her anger. In Part ...
Views: 1846(1 vote) - The Top Ten Tips for Being an Excellent Listener - by One of the biggest secrets for being successful with both your personal and your business goals is learning the skills of listening with excellence. Pick one of the tips below and practice applying it throughout the day today.
1. Detect whether the person talking to you is expressing facts or ...
Views: 1606(2 votes) - What Is It Like Dating A Bisexual Woman - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2019 from Amy LawIf you are dating a bisexual woman there are certain aspects of your relationship that will be different compared to the regular relationships. This is mainly especially if you knew that she was bisexual before starting to date. If you knew it shows that you were ready for such a relationship. ...
Views: 2077(1 vote) - "My Wife's Separate Vacation Spells the Beginning of the End of Our Relationship" - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2013 from Sam VakninSeparate vacations may, indeed, signify the beginning of the end of your relationship - or serve as a boost to its quality and durability. It all depends on several factors: 1. Topical vs. recreational vacations If your wife is addicted to chess and you can't stand the game, she has the ...
Views: 6861(1 vote) - *** "I Keep Choosing The Wrong Partner" - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2014 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Discover the way out of choosing the wrong relationships over and over. ________________________________________ Do you find yourself choosing a similar wrong partner over and over? This is what Laura asks about: "How can I get past the point of ...
Views: 1828(2 votes) - *** How To Let Go of Anger Like a Woke Monk - An Anger Management Expert’s Top 5 Tools to Manage Anger *** - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2018 from Dr. John SchinnererWhile the short-term problems created by anger are bad enough, consider some of the long-term effects… Negative Effects of Anger The negative effects of chronic anger are far-reaching. People who lack the ability to manage their anger have a higher chance of the following… Low ...
Views: 7484(2 votes) - ***"What Are They Thinking About Me?" - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2010 from Margaret Paul"You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do."--Eleanor RooseveltWhy should most people be thinking about you? They are far more concerned with what you are thinking about them to spend time thinking about you!Right now, take a moment to ...
Views: 3583(1 vote) - ***"Why Can't I Forgive Myself For My Mistakes? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2013 from Margaret PaulDo you judge yourself for the past? Discover why and what to do about it. Brianna wrote to me, asking: "I am having a difficult time forgiving myself of past mistakes and it feels like it haunts me every morning and I get bogged down in swirling thoughts which only holds me ...
Views: 1546(1 vote) - ****The Subtle Devaluation in a Narcissistic Relationship - When Jekyll Meets Hyde - Laney Zukerman, Relationship & Empowerment Coach, author, Lessons for an Urban Goddess & The Urban Goddess Lesson - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachA romantic relationship with a Narcissist can be an exciting, whirlwind experience. They are often charming and the life of the party. If they are interested in you, nothing will stop them from winning you over. They will flirt, entice, persuade and pursue until you give them a chance. ...
Views: 3131(1 vote) - ***5 Reasons Why You Might Want to End Your Relationship - by Submitted on May 26, 2011 from Margaret PaulWhen I married my ex-husband in 1963, I was determined to create a stable, loving relationship. I wanted an intact family where we could raise our children and share the joys of our grandchildren.We did raise our children together, but ended the marriage after 30 years. We do get to share the ...
Views: 3777(2 votes) - ***5 Ways To Increase The Joy In Your Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2007 from Brenda ShoshannaUsually we enter relationships hoping they will make us happy. We hope that this one is the right one, that we are not repeating mistakes of the past, and that finally we will receive the love, support and companionship we have been seeking. Although this approach to relationships is normal, ...
Views: 14083(2 votes) - ***5 Ways to Spice Up Your Valentine’s Day (with or without a partner) - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2016 from Valeria ChubaValentine’s Day is a holiday few of us like but most of us feel compelled to participate in. Many people I know, friends and clients alike, resent the commercialism of this holiday and its authoritative “celebrate or else” feel. It’s true that no one likes to be told to be romantic and ...
Views: 8706(3 votes) - ***Addiction to Getting Others To Change - by Submitted on May 03, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you focusing on getting your partner to change to avoid a painful choice that you might need to make? ________________________________________ If you find yourself often focused on healing others or hoping you can get others to change, it is ...
Views: 1685(1 vote) - ***Americans: More Self-Centered… and More Lonely - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2011 from Margaret PaulOn April 1, 2011, Matt Cantor, Newser Staff, posted "As Americans Get More Self-Centered, So Do Lyrics Study finds increasingly narcissistic words in top 10 hits."Today's hit songs aren't about "us"-they're just about "me," a study finds. Researchers examined ...
Views: 3150(1 vote) - ***Are You Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2012 from Margaret PaulDiscover the difference between needs coming from emotional dependency and authentic needs that we have within a relationship. ________________________________________ Every few weeks I do a free webinar. People can listen on their computers or on the phone; they can write in asking ...
Views: 3233(6 votes) - ***Are you in a One-sided relationship with a Narcissist? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2013 from Julie Hart“A Narcissist is someone who after taking the trash out gives the impression he just cleaned the whole house” Have you ever got the sense that your partner thinks he/she is generally superior to you, or more entitled to things than you are? Does he/she find a host of ways to devalue you or ...
Views: 7302(1 vote) - ***Are you Inspiring or Gloomy? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2011 from Margaret Paul"You find yourself refreshed by the presence of cheerful people. Why not make an honest effort to confer that pleasure on others? Half the battle is gained if you never allow yourself to say anything gloomy." --Julia Child, 1912-2004, Chef, Author and Television PersonalityWhat is your ...
Views: 2948(1 vote) - ***Are You Loving Yourself Or Avoiding Conflict? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2015 from Margaret Paul-------------------------------------------------------------- How honest are you willing to be with yourself regarding your intent? -------------------------------------------------------------- Sometimes, when there is conflict in a relationship, it's hard to tell if you are withdrawing ...
Views: 1769(1 vote) - ***Ariel & Shya Kane's Three Tips to Creating a Magical Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2015 from Ariel and Shya KaneThis Valentine's Day, couples and individuals are looking to find and/or strengthen their love relationships. As award-winning authors and world-renowned relationship experts, Ariel & Shya Kane have discovered three simple, yet revolutionary tips for creating magical relationships, based on the ...
Views: 1744(1 vote) - ***Blaming Others Can Ruin Your Health - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2011 from Margaret PaulThis article on CNN Health - http://www.cnn.com/2011/HEALTH/08/17/bitter.resentful.ep/index.html?&hpt=hp_c2-by Elizabeth Cohen, is very interesting, regarding the negative health effects of blame and resentment."Feeling bitter interferes with the body's hormonal and immune systems, ...
Views: 3386(1 vote) - ***Can You Emotionally Connect With Your Family Of Origin? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD October 31, 2016 Do you have major challenges in emotionally connecting with your family of origin? You are not alone! Are you happy with your family of origin? Can you emotionally connect with your family? If you can, you are fortunate indeed. Many people feel ...
Views: 1294(1 vote) - ***Character Matters In Love And Marriage - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2014 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. There is an essential character element in love and marriage. People who say they love each other and then lie on a regular basis or cheat on their spouse aren't really in love. Oh, many think they are, but they really are not. People who love ...
Views: 2603(8 votes) - ***Communication- Establishing Connection Instantly - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2015 from Barbara SteppCOMMUNICATING AND ESTABLISHING A CONNECTION INSTANTLY by Barbara J. Stepp, Premier Coach, Clinical Hypnotherapist, No Fault Psychology™, NLP, DHE® Master Trainer WHEN WE MEET someone our first impression is critical. It doesn’t matter what the situation. It has probably happened to us all ...
Views: 4423(2 votes) - ***Do You Come To Your Partner Open And/or Happy? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2012 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you aware of what state you are in when you and your partner come together? ________________________________________ On a recent visit with my daughter and her family, she and I were taking a walk and talking about our mutual work. "I read a ...
Views: 2122(1 vote) - ***Do You Give People The Benefit of the Doubt? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2015 from Margaret PaulDiscover whether or not it is loving to yourself to give someone the benefit of the doubt. I was having a Skype session with Raul. He was feeling down because a woman he has recently met rejected him. He was confused because he hadn't actually really liked her on their first date, but he ...
Views: 1489(2 votes) - ***Do You Have Problems Bringing Up Issues? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2015 from Margaret PaulDo you get stuck in not being able to resolve conflicts because you don't know how to bring up issues in a way that works? Bringing up difficult issues is often a major challenge in relationships. Laurie wrote to me about this issue: "My biggest trigger in relationships is bringing up ...
Views: 1383(1 vote) - ***Do You Have The Courage to Be a Loving Parent? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2014 from Margaret PaulDo you have the courage to risk loving yourself – even when you might encounter your children's uncaring behavior? Most of us really don't like it when someone is angry with us. We don't like it when someone goes into resistance to helping us when we need help, instead of caring about us. We ...
Views: 1528(1 vote) - ***Do You Isolate? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2011 from Margaret PaulIn my counseling practice, I often have clients who tend to isolate as a way of protecting against their fears - especially their fears of rejection and engulfment. They are so afraid of being disliked, disapproved of, attacked or having demands made on them, that they choose to avoid ...
Views: 2501(3 votes) - ***Do You Know How To Love? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2014 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Love is not something that can be described – it needs to be experienced, and when you experience it through loving yourself, you will know how to love. ________________________________________ We read many things about what love is and what it isn't ...
Views: 1292(1 vote) - ***Does Trust Matter In Marriage? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Being honest and trustworthy is at the heart of all the best loving relationships we have studied. In our thousands of interviews with happily married couples, we are always struck by their undying trust in each other. They literally trust each ...
Views: 1859(8 votes) - ***Effective Communication: Listening Vs. Complying - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2011 from Dr. Neill NeillLately you’ve been finding yourself stewing about how you’ll handle your last child leaving home, and you need to talk with your husband about it. You start to tell him what you’re feeling, but his eyes glaze over and he tunes you out. You wonder how it came to this and if it’s fixable? You ...
Views: 2546(1 vote) - ***Enhancing Our Brains Easily - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2015 from Barbara SteppAt 75 years of age and working with Brain Enhancement as a teacher, author and coach for 45 years, it has been and continues to be a delight to enhance my brain and help others do the same. It is really fun too! Don’t you love brain games? A little over a year ago, I had a rare and ...
Views: 4330(1 vote) - ***Expert List for Narcissistic Survivors - Youtube Video - Laney Zukerman Empowerment & Relationship Coach, Best-Selling Author ~ Lessons for an Urban Goddess & The Urban Goddess Lesson - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachHi Selfgrowth Friends, Since I have been receiving a high volume of readers who are interested in more information on Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and Surviving Relationships with Narcissists, I have created a brief Youtube Video. I have spent many hours reviewing experts on Narcissism and ...
Views: 3915(1 vote) - ***Fear of Anger - Yours and Others - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2010 from Margaret PaulAre you terrified of others' anger? Are you afraid to open to your own anger for fear of getting out of control?If you grew up in an angry or violent home, there is a good possibility that you have a fear of both your own anger and others' anger.Fear of Others' AngerI grew up with a very angry ...
Views: 3587(1 vote) - ***Finding a Co-Author for Your Life by Marrying the Right Guy - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Anyone who gets married and doesn’t understand that their life will be altered in an unalterable ways, henceforth, doesn’t know love – doesn’t understand love. Love and marriage changes everything. Love and marriage changes everything about your ...
Views: 1900(7 votes) - ***From Breaking Up and Bouncing Back: Moving On to Create the Love Life You Deserve by Samantha Burns, LMHC - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2018 from Ixia PressEmotional Roller Coaster Forget period cramps, bad hair days, hangovers, breakouts, getting fired, the guilt you feel after you’ve eaten a half-dozen donuts by yourself, or even a fight with a dear friend—few things feel worse than the way you are likely feeling right now. Newly single has ...
Views: 4091(1 vote) - ***Healing Envy - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2010 from Margaret Paul"I have a question about envy. I'm not talking about jealousy but specifically envy and how to be happy for someone else's good fortune. I feel like I have broke new ground on this issue as I have genuinely been able to feel happy for someone else recently who achieved something I hadn't but ...
Views: 4771(2 votes) - ***How Energy Shifting Improves Your Relationship And Attract Your Spouse Back - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2017 from Katarina PhangOne of my best male friends was looking for me on IM feeling totally desperate because his wife was seriously talking about divorce now. They have been on that route before but this time she was totally serious. They have been having a rocky marriage as long as I can remember. So I went ...
Views: 13011(2 votes) - ***How Relationships Can Be Easy – 4 Keys to Loving Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2015 from Margaret Paul_______________________________________________________ Creating a loving relationship doesn't have to be as hard as you might think! _______________________________________________________ As most of us know, relationships can be very challenging. We generally enter a relationship with ...
Views: 1595(1 vote) - ***How to Build More Intimacy in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciCultivate Your Intimacy! The hecticness and speediness of today’s pace of life makes it challenging for partners to synchronize, connect and bond. Add to this each partner’s limitations and the journey to Intimacy can feel pretty daunting. It’s no wonder partners ...
Views: 1543(2 votes) - ***How To Find Love Again - by Submitted on May 08, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. As the old song goes, “Breaking up is hard to do” – whether that breakup is due to death or falling out of love – the pain is still not minimized. It is hard to start over. It is downright challenging to find true love again. After interviewing ...
Views: 1858(16 votes) - ***How to Find Love Again - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Following the death of a spouse or the loss of a spouse through divorce, many individuals are “thrown on the street again” when it comes to finding love. And let’s face it; finding love again can be very, very challenging. Finding love the ...
Views: 1766(6 votes) - ***How To Talk About Serious Issues With Your Spouse - by Submitted on May 15, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. When serious issues occur, successfully married couples report a high level of satisfaction with the way they communicate with each other. They attribute their marital success first and foremost to the fact that they have honed their communication ...
Views: 1999(16 votes) - ***How To Trust Again - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. August 29, 2016 Learning how to trust again is a process, not an event, and it take both inner and relationship work. I received the following question about how to trust again: "My husband and I remarried after we both got divorced and went through a number of ...
Views: 1278(1 vote) - ***Intimacy and Connection - The Aliveness of Life - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2011 from Margaret Paul"Intimacy begins with oneself. It does no good to try to find intimacy with friends, lovers, and family if you are starting out from alienation and division within yourself." - Thomas Moore, author, Care of the SoulMost of us would love to have intimacy and connection in our lives, yet we often ...
Views: 2584(1 vote) - ***Is the Seven Year Itch in Marriage Real? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The Seven-Year Itch is real according to the U.S. Census Bureau. There were a number of interesting highlights reported in the U.S. Census Bureau’s press release entitled “Most People Make Only One Trip Down the Aisle, But First Marriages Shorter.” ...
Views: 2713(10 votes) - ***Living Alone Can Kill You - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Loneliness is a huge problem in our society. It doesn't have to be this way. ________________________________________ A study "followed nearly 45,000 people ages 45 and up who had heart disease or a high risk of developing the condition. Those who ...
Views: 1636(1 vote) - ***Love and Inspiration in Morocco! - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2014 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have often wondered over the years if the “stuff” that makes marriages work in the Judeo-Christian tradition around the world applies to marriages in predominately Muslim countries. Our first country in which we interviewed married Muslim couples ...
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