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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- 11 Interesting Topics to Talk About with Anyone - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2010 from Joshua UebergangAny idiot can ramble on about in conversation and bore the bejesus out of their companions, and it is a legitimate fear for many that this embarrassing turn of events may happen to them at some point. We've all been there, stuck in conversation, trying to dig out of it by throwing everything we ...
Views: 65130(1 vote) - The Withdrawal Syndrome: Why Your Man Pulls Away - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2012 from Editha RodriguezIt’s confusing, isn’t it? One moment you think you’ve found your soul mate, the next moment he’s stopped calling. You rack your brain for any clue that would explain his behavior. Nothing. Zero. You got along well, he worshipped the ground you walked on. He was smitten by you as much as you ...
Views: 58027(2 votes) - How To Make Him Emotionally Attached To You So He Can't Let You Go - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2017 from Katarina PhangHow many of you are confronted with a situation that the guy you are dating and attracted to is not really ready to move your relationship to the next level? Or that he hasn't taken down his profile from the dating site yet after a few months seeing each other? It feels scary for you now that ...
Views: 46483(4 votes) - 7 Ways to Deal with the Negative People in your Life - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2006 from Lori RadunHave you ever been faced with trying to stay positive when others around you are negative? Negative people can be a challenge to be around. They will bring you down and drain your energy. A negative person can throw your best laid plans to be positive right out the window. Whether your child ...
Views: 44592(6 votes) - Emotional Intimacy - by Emotional intimacy is not the same as sexual intimacy. Sexual intimacy can take place with or without emotional intimacy, and emotional intimacy often does not occur within any kind of sexual context.
Emotional intimacy is a psychological event that occurs when the trust level and ...
Views: 42242(6 votes) - The Ultimate Guide To Texting And Making Him Addicted To You - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2017 from Katarina PhangIf you have a new guy in your life and are in the early stages of courtship, chances are good you will be texting him and he will be texting you. Flirty texting is fun, but if you aren't careful, you can unknowingly put a huge damper on his attraction. If he is pulling away from you, one of ...
Views: 40047(5 votes) - Fall Out Of Love With a Married Man - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2012 from Cristina AguilarThere are ways to fall out of love with a married man, once you recognize completely that he is not FREE to love you back. It doesn’t matter how powerful his vibes and feelings may be. I doesn’t matter that he is romantic and tells you things that lift you to the highest highs. I doesn’t matter ...
Views: 39390(2 votes) - Do's And Dont's Of Texting A Guy That Will Make You Stand Out From The Rest - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2017 from Katarina PhangText messaging is one of the most powerful ways to flirt and build attraction and to lay a great foundation for a lasting relationship with a man. Unfortunately, many women are at a loss for how to properly leverage this technology to make a man feel intense level of attraction toward her ...
Views: 38380(6 votes) - My Ex Is Seeing Someone Else, Should I Panic? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2017 from Katarina PhangRebound relationship is a common occurrence during a breakup. My clients usually get terribly anxious when they find out that their exes are dating again or entering a new relationship. They want to know how to stop this or how their exes can do this, what that means, etc. They ask, "Does it ...
Views: 37326(4 votes) - 7 Tips on How to Satisfy Him in Bed Better Than Any Other Woman - by Submitted on May 18, 2012 from Jack HutsonLadies, if you are serious about satisfying him better than ever before - listen up. Men aren't as complicated as they may seem at first. If you want to conquer him and make him go insane over you, you have to give him the best sex humanly possible. You have to give him more pleasure in bed than ...
Views: 37316(1 vote) - Understanding Male Psychology Will Help Get Him Back And Fall In Love With You - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2017 from Katarina PhangEighty percent of men are distancers and 80% of women are pursuers. Women have 10-15 times more oxytocin (the bonding hormone) than men, and men have 10 times more testosterone (go-getter hormone) than women: so based on that chemical proportion alone, it's obvious women need more closeness than ...
Views: 36445(3 votes) - ***Why Less Is More In Dating Emotionally Unavailable Men - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2017 from Katarina PhangThe key of dating an emotionally unavailable man who wants to take things slow is to let him set the pace. Expect that he will go hot and cold. Mirror him in everything he does. When he's hot, reciprocate that, this is your time to establish bonding. When he's cold, also keep a distance. ...
Views: 32660(3 votes) - 5 Text Messages That Will Help You Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2012 from Brad BrowningSo you want to learn 5 text messages that you can send your ex boyfriend to get him to regret leaving you… and turn the tables completely. The beauty of texting is that it doesn’t convey a lot of neediness… so if you play your cards right, you won’t look like a jealous or clingy (which is a ...
Views: 32097 - 4 Must Do's When Your Girlfriend Wants A Break From You - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2011 from Ram GuptaIf your relationship is on the rocks, your girlfriend may have suggested that she wants a break from you for a few days or even a couple of weeks. It may sound like a daunting prospect, especially since you feel like you are losing your grip over this relationship and desperately want your ...
Views: 32028 - Dealing With Separation - Breaking Up, Letting Go And How To Move On - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2009 from Psychic LillyWhy do we get so attached to another human being? A fixation on a former love is not unusual. Many have trouble letting go after a relationship is over. The depression that follows the break-up of a relationship is considered by mental health professionals as a normal part of grieving. However, ...
Views: 31682(5 votes) - The Differences Between Emotional Maturity And Immaturity - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2011 from George BielayWhy should you care about emotional maturity? Because it can mean the difference between a happy, rewarding and satisfying life and relationship versus a stressful unhappy existence with crises that never seem to go away. This newletter introduces the signs of emotional immaturity, qualities and ...
Views: 31509(1 vote) - How To Get Past A Devastating Breakup - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2007 from Susan ElliottTen Things To Do After A Breakup To Get On With Your Life: 1. Know that grieving someone and missing them does not necessarily mean you want them. It means you hurt because you've had a loss. Perhaps that loss is the best thing but it's still a loss. Don't mistake grief for love. It's ...
Views: 31500(1 vote) - Surprising Reasons Why Men Leave Relationships (And How To Handle It) - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2012 from Brenda ShoshannaAfter a relationship ends, whether it’s a 20 year marriage or a promising romance, women ask themselves over and over, what went wrong? They ask themselves, their girlfriends and their therapists. Sometimes they even spend weeks and months... ...
Views: 31412 - How to Express Yourself to Others - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2010 from Greg BakerOne of the hardest things to do when you're communicating with someone is expressing yourself. How many times have you said something that just didn't come out the way you wanted it to? How many times have we said something that we really didn't mean, but we were too frustrated to stop it from ...
Views: 31293(14 votes) - Do Guys Ever Want Their Ex Back - Why Men Almost Always Come Back After a Break Up! - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2016 from Michael UadialeDo guys ever want their ex back? There’s a feeling of sheer and utter panic that a woman feels after a break up if she still loves her ex. You know the feeling all too well, don’t you? You break out in a cold sweat at night when you dream about the man you love dating other women. You start ...
Views: 30950 - 9 Steps to Forgive an Emotional Affair Without Going Insane - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2012 from Jacob ElichmannAre you struggling to put the past behind you? What if I gave you a simple instruction manual on how to forgive an emotional affair? It's common knowledge that the lies, deception and subsequent broken trust caused by emotional infidelity is much more difficult to forgive than the damage done ...
Views: 30662(2 votes) - Defensiveness: The Poison Pill to Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2007 from Jim TammIn 25 years as a judge dealing with relationship issues I almost never had to resolve legal disputes. People were almost always before me because someone got defensive and became a bad problem solver. Defensiveness is a poison pill to good relationships. In conflict, defensiveness is like ...
Views: 30170(4 votes) - Proven and Effective Ways to Make Your Ex Miss You After Breakup - by Submitted on May 19, 2016 from James UadialeAre you looking for ways to make your ex miss you? Then worry no more as you are about to discover the secret to make your ex miss you like crazy. Wouldn’t it be easier to get your ex back if you can make them miss you? Off course, yes! Unfortunately, many people go about winning back their ex ...
Views: 29298 - Four STeps To Becoming Closer (Developing Emotional Intimacy) - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2007 from Brenda ShoshannaEven when they are in relationships, many wish to become closer to their partners and share quality time that is truly intimate. They want to feel free to express all of themselves. Although many try in all kinds of ways, it is helpful to learn some direct steps, which open emotional doors ...
Views: 28791 - How To Know When Someone Is Thinking About You - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2008 from Linda KayeAre you feeling the warm fuzzies for someone? Have you ever asked yourself why it is so difficult to stop thinking about someone? We are all psychic in one way or another. When you connect to another man/woman in a deep way, you are connecting with your souls. Most people don't realize how ...
Views: 28433(1 vote) - 3 Things You Should Do to Get Your Man Sexually Addicted to You - by Submitted on May 18, 2012 from Jack HutsonLadies, are you fed up with all the nonsense advice you get from magazines promising you to lose 50 lbs in 3 days? So am I. As a guy, I am a just another "victim" of these tips and I urge you gorgeous ladies to stop listening to that nonsense. Instead, here's some common sense from me. I won't ...
Views: 27891(2 votes) - When Your Man Dumped You, This Is What You Have To Do - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2017 from Katarina PhangAre you a dumped girlfriend? What does it take to move on after a guy has broken up with you? Do you want to move on, but are paralyzed by sadness? Here is a dumped girlfriend guide to moving on. While Still Mourning, Do Realize That You Can Still Seduce Your Ex Back. Here's How: The ...
Views: 27724(2 votes) - *Why Men Are Afraid of Commitment (And How To Help) - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2007 from Brenda ShoshannaFreedom means different things for different men. For some, the main joy of relationships is challenge. They happily pursue a woman as long as they don't have her, but once they do, they start feeling trapped. These men feel as if excitement and new possibilities are now cut off. Once ...
Views: 27372(1 vote) - The Personal Fable of Adolescents - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2009 from Reece ManleyOne of the developmental phenomenon widely observed in youth is the personal fable. This concept holds that adolescents believe themselves to be special and unique making common experiences personalized to their understanding. Adolescents often behave as if they are immortal, taking wild ...
Views: 27318 - How To Date/Marry A Widow or Widower - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2012 from Ellen GerstIf you are dating or planning to marry a widow or widower, here are some suggestions and thoughts to consider. LEARN ALL ABOUT GRIEF Do some research about grief, read books and talk to others in similar situations. Know what to expect on anniversaries, birthdays and other days that were ...
Views: 27017(1 vote) - How To Text A Girl You Like - When And How Often To Text Her - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2011 from Ethan ZelmandoOne of the most important parts of how to text a girl you like is to know when and how often to text her. So, in this article, I'm going to be answering the questions, "How often should you text a girl?", "When to text a girl you just met?" and, "What to do when a woman doesn't respond to your ...
Views: 26988 - What to Do When He Doesn't Call When He Says He Will: When A Guy Says He Will Call You Back But Doesn't - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2017 from James UadialeWhat to Do When He Doesn't Call When He Says He Will: When A Guy Says He Will Call You Back But Doesn't Your guy tells you he will call and then he doesn't. It's happened to all of us at some point. It's frustrating to be expecting a call from the person you are crazy about and the call just ...
Views: 26229 - 5 reasons why people get attracted to each other - by Submitted on May 02, 2012 from Raymond FohjemHave you ever wondered why people get attracted to other people? Why would someone find another person more attractive? Let me put the question again in another way. Have you ever wondered why we get attracted only to certain people than we do to others given that all other factors are being ...
Views: 26034 - How To Win Back Lost Love: 5 Tips To Get Your Ex Back In No Time - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2011 from Michael LeeIf you want to know how to win back lost love and save your relationship, you’ve got to be prepared for the best and the worst case scenarios. Everybody wants a happy ending, but not everybody gets it. However, it wouldn’t hurt for you to get a little bit of expert advice either! Learn the ...
Views: 25884(1 vote) - ***How To Get A Man To Pursue You And Make Him Addicted To You - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2017 from Katarina PhangIt is in our nature as a woman to want to feel cherished by the man we love. We want to be wooed and pursued, to be made to feel special, adored and to be treated like a princess. The question is how far would a man be inspired to satisfy our primal needs as a woman? He's Really That Into ...
Views: 25817(2 votes) - 9 Ways to Be a Better Girlfriend and Keep Your Boyfriend Interested in You - by Submitted on May 18, 2012 from Jack Hutson1. Have something more important in your life other than just your boyfriend. It can get annoying if the only thing you want to do is be together and do nothing else. Do something interesting that will occupy and keep your attention, something that makes you feel good about yourself and worthy. ...
Views: 25743 - Does My Ex Girlfriend Still Love Me - Signs She Still Loves You - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2015 from James UadialeDoes my ex girlfriend still love me? If you're asking this question now chances are that you still have strong feelings for your ex girlfriend and wondering if she is on the same page with you regarding getting back together. Is it possible to read a girls mind? Trust me, it’s easier said than ...
Views: 25221 - 7 Ways To Improve Your Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2005 from Margaret PaulGood relationships don’t just happen. I’ve heard many of my clients state that, “If I have to work at it, then it’s not the right relationship.” This is not a true statement, any more than it’s true that you don’t have to work at good physical health ...
Views: 25037(6 votes) - How to Make a Guy Jealous - 5 Teasing Ways to Make Him Want You More - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2009 from Mark TaylorJealousy can a bit tempting and exciting - it can be proof that someone is totally into you. A sign of jealousy can also be good - just as long as it's not destructive. Trying to make a guy jealous is a gamble in your part - it's either going to make him pursue you more or just plainly walk away ...
Views: 24564(1 vote) - Why Do We Fear Close Relationships? - by Submitted on May 21, 2007 from Robert NajemyAlthough we want to love and be loved, we also fear both. Our past experiences have programmed us to associate loving and being loved with unpleasant experiences and especially with feelings of vulnerability. For these and other reasons, we have developed fears and subconscious resistance ...
Views: 24522(8 votes) - Everything I Do Annoys My Boyfriend - Why This Happens in Many Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2013 from Gillian Reynolds"Everything I do annoys my boyfriend." That statement normally wouldn't make you bat an eyelash, save for the fact that it's you saying it, right? It's horrible, isn't it? You're crazy about a man who seems intent on criticizing everything about you. You feel like you're walking on egg shells at ...
Views: 24126 - Letting Go Of An Ambivalent Man - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2008 from Rhonda FindlingAs an author and psychotherapist with an international private practice, I've often come across women who are involved with Ambivalent Men. An Ambivalent Man struggles with a profound sense of confusion that causes him to repeatedly sabotage romantic relationships (or potential romantic ...
Views: 23928(1 vote) - Sexual Chemistry - Sending and Reading Sexual Signals - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2008 from Yangki Christine AkitengHave you ever had a friend describe a really "hot' blind date for you, and you get all excited and eager to meet this wonder person only to come face to face with the person and zero, nothing, no sparks. The person is all that, but you are just not digging him or her. Or have you ever found ...
Views: 23368(1 vote) - ***How to Play Hard To Get The Correct Way - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2014 from Katarina PhangThere is an excellent discussion going on in my private group: "For years we read from women that we should play hard to get. There are countless books written by women on this topic. What are your thoughts on why women believe we should play hard to get and men believe we should not? Do you ...
Views: 23054(5 votes) - The No Contact Rule - Its Importance and Effectiveness After a Breakup - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2012 from Raymond EhomaOne of the best strategies to put into practice following a break up is the No Contact Rule. Although it is among the most crucial tactics to apply in this context, many people are not interested in its execution. The most apparent reason for this is actually the idea that plenty of people find ...
Views: 22240 - My Boyfriend Wants To Take A Break- What Does That Mean - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2017 from Katarina PhangThe college aged daughter of a close friend of mine recently asked her mom "my boyfriend wants to take a break, what does that mean?" Her daughter was confused, heart broken and a little angry and was looking for advice. If you're in the same situation here are a few tips than can help you ...
Views: 22070(3 votes) - DATING ADVICE: You, Him and the Not-Quite-Ex-Wife - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2019 from Karen JonesWhen it comes to seriously dating a nearly divorced man, there is frequently a third person in your relationship – his not-quite-ex-wife. It feels like he’s the one for you but the strong emotions he feels for his wife are a challenge. You’ve been loving, generous and ...When ...
Views: 21999 - 5 Things You Should Do to Drive Your Boyfriend Mad in Bed - by Submitted on May 18, 2012 from Jack HutsonLadies, you can find a bunch of tips out there on the internet on pleasing your boyfriend and being a better girlfriend for him, but most of the advice out there is missing the essence. You have to focus on pushing the right buttons in your boyfriends mind so that he'll literally go mad of ...
Views: 21847(1 vote) - Rebuilding Trust After Lying - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonHas someone close to you broken your trust by lying? Is it difficult to get back on track and reestablish that trust relationship you thought you had? If so, there is hope! It's possible to get back to having a healthy and satisfying relationship with a person who has been lying. Understanding ...
Views: 21809(2 votes) - Does Your Ex Want You Back Or Are You Being Used? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2008 from Yangki Christine AkitengOccasionally I get calls from men and women who want to know if their ex is using them and before I can even answer, they get into "He/she is really a good person, I really don't think he/she is using me... I guess he/she is looking deep down in his/her heart to find out what he/she really wants ...
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