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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Why Men are Afraid of Investing in a Serious Relationship and Why They Should Be - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2007 from Marci CraneThere is a rumor and it goes like this: Men are afraid of getting involved in a serious relationship. They are the “vagabonds.” The exasperating, peripatetic meat-eaters that won't put down their clubs and stay for dinner. Whatever will the cave women do? Ladies. There is ...
Views: 4616 - Staying In The Energy Of Love-Conscious Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2007 from Anita AsmanAt the beginning of a relationship, it is easy to love. You don't have to do much to receive love. Both of you give and receive, like in a wonderful dance. We tend to believe that love should remain like this forever. In reality, love is a continuous state of being. Love is not something ...
Views: 650 - Five Ways to Increase Intimacy in Your Mid-Life Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2007 from Casey DawesWhile many think of sexual relationships when they hear the word “intimate,” the true meaning of the word is much broader than that. To be intimate, according to the American Heritage Dictionary, pertains to one’s deepest nature. For most women, and a significant segment of men, the best sexual ...
Views: 1812 - Re-enlivening Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2007 from Sharon WalkerHow is your relationship with your significant other these days? Are you aware of the preprogrammed patterned games you play with each other? Are you willing to become conscious and choose to really look at where you are and choose where you desire to go with the love in your life? Do you ...
Views: 903 - When to Have a Reading - Chichen Itza and More - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2007 from Semiramis AppiamoThere is a reason why Chichen Itza again tops the list of 7 wonders of the world. One very good time to have a reading is at the change of the season, like vernal equinox and summer solstice. Another good time to have a reading is when you're in a transition - divorce, marriage, a new baby, ...
Views: 1698 - Rekindle the Magic in Your Relationship ~ Making Love Work - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2007 from Anita JacksonIt is important to make love work in our relationships. Stay true to yourself, is one of the most important pieces of relationship advice that I would give. You must know what you want. You must know how you want your relationship to be. You must use your imagination, one of your faculties, to ...
Views: 1214 - You Can Have It All in Your Love Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2007 from Susie and Otto CollinsAfter many years of being in a love relationship, you might be asking yourself: “Can I have it all?” It’s a good question and here’s what we find in our experience working with couples…. --A couple may have friendship or compatibility, but little or no passion. --A person might feel like he ...
Views: 827 - *The Greatest Gift - What Is It? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2007 from Brenda ShoshannaThe greatest gift we can give one another in a relationship is our true selves – being who we are. For some this is not difficult, but for most it takes practice to take off the masks and become real. At first it can seem frightening to stop playing games, and just be. However, much of the ...
Views: 6932 - Make "The Judge" Sit Down - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2007 from Lori RadunIs everything always what it seems? A daughter blames her mother for staying in an unhealthy marriage. A neighbor drinks too much and is ruining his health. This child is disrespectful because his mother doesn't discipline him. As human beings, we are quick to "judge" others and even ...
Views: 866 - Attracting Healthy Relationships - by I have often said that there is no one in my life that I don’t want there. In consideration of the thousands of people that I’ve encountered over the past half century, I’m pleased to report that no one who chooses to come around me is abusive, resentful or parasitic. Of course, it wasn’t always ...
Views: 697 - The 4 Most Important Things In A Good Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2007 from Kip WinsettFor all of the formulas and words of advice and techniques and tips and artifice that have been published on good relationships, these are the 4 most basic and by far the most important. 1. You 2. The other person 3. Knowledge 4. Understanding A good relationship, like almost anything, else is ...
Views: 1649 - How to Cure a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2007 from Paul GermanEvery day thousands of people are hurt by break-ups, divorces or the death of a loved one. Some seem to plummet into the abyss of broken hearts and others appear to brush it off and go on. So what’s the difference between these people? They both feel the hurt acutely. It may be only a matter of ...
Views: 838 - Why Do You Want to "Communicate" With Your Partner? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2007 from Margaret PaulWhen partners are having problems, they often say that the problem is communication. What exactly does this mean? What are they trying to communicate? There are various reasons for communicating: 1. Sometimes we communicate to offer information about ourselves, such as, "I'm going out for a ...
Views: 3091(1 vote) - Dealing with Others - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2007 from Lau Poh ChaiIn all purpose of magnetism to individuals, you are urged to remember that your very key goal, always and primarily, is an agreeable feeling within their minds. You have to never try to provoke a appearance to act your way until you have comprehensively conventional in him a good feeling toward ...
Views: 807 - 7 Signs Your Honey May Cheat - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2007 from Dr. Gilda Carle7 Signs Your Honey May Cheat By Gilda Carle, Ph.D. Reprinted from MSN.com Dating & Personals – with Match.com Most of us — even the not-so-jealous types — know that feeling of, “Is my love really working late… or could this person be two-timing me?” ...
Views: 1678 - Dear Prince Charming - by Dear Prince Charming Or can I call you Charming? We've known each other so long, really from grade school. My mother plied me with fairy tales like I'm sure alcoholics ply themselves with drink. And I believed it. I believed that if I were good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, you'd come ...
Views: 887 - Don't Compare Partners - by Have you ever found yourself comparing your current partner to someone from your past, and finding your current partner lacking? Worse yet, have you found yourself telling your current partner he or she is being compared to someone in your past and falls short?
What is it we are really after ...
Views: 881 - Body Imagitis - by There is a terrible disease among us. It primarily affects women and, to a smaller degree, men. It is a killer of self-esteem, self respect and joy. It's called "Body Imagitis" and it strikes people from all walks of life.
Beautiful, heart-centered people stricken with this disease begin to ...
Views: 818 - Personal Freedom - by Many singles express concern about losing their personal freedom once they get into a relationship. They often cite this as one of the reasons they are still single. After all, no one likes to be told what to do or to ask permission to do something. This is true in most areas of our lives and ...
Views: 960 - Five Ways to Improve Any Relationship - by Want to improve your relationships, both romantic and otherwise? Want to grow in intimacy and closeness with your friends, family, co-workers, your special someone? Then include the following five easy steps into your interactions with those important to you.
1. Acknowledge the big and the ...
Views: 855 - Compassion, Part 2 - by Having compassion toward others is a gift of connectedness you give yourself and a gift of presence you give others. While difficult to define, compassion is a way of being, and you will see the definition emerge among the three concepts presented here.
1. Compassion involves seeing others as ...
Views: 688 - Compassion, Part 1 - by "Before we can feel compassion for anyone else, we must learn to feel compassion for ourselves."
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Webster's Dictionary defines compassion as the sympathetic consciousness of other's distress. But the first step toward having compassion for others is having compassion for yourself. It ...
Views: 662 - Journaling: Why, When and How - by Question for singles:
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What do you do with your occasional feelings of loneliness, frustration with dating, perhaps frustration with yourself and/or the opposite sex? Do these feelings and thoughts run around and around in your head, interfering with your ability to think ...
Views: 752 - Overreaction - by Has the following ever happened to you? You are discussing an issue with your partner when the discussion suddenly turns into a heated argument. Neither person knows what happened or how to make it better. A battle ensues and lots of feelings are hurt.
This is overreaction in progress.
If ...
Views: 2013 - Reader Q&A - by About every couple of months I answer readers' relationship questions. I try to answer questions in such a way as to both serve the person asking the question, while also sharing with all readers some relationship truth or principle I see as the underlying question. This month I am also adding a ...
Views: 631 - Ten Ways to Evolve, Part 2 - by Over the past decade, I've worked with thousands of individuals seeking ways to improve their ability to attract their ideal mate. As a result, I've created a list of ten most commonly prescribed personal development steps I recommend for those wanting to attract and create their ideal ...
Views: 704 - You Deserve a Love Like This - by I once participated in a small workshop on public speaking. Each of us was presented with the goal of deeply connecting with all eight attendees. We were to speak from the heart on a specific topic, and the audience was to connect back with the speaker. And while the workshop was indeed ...
Views: 751 - Things I Have Learned About Relationships. Part I - by Here are some lessons and concepts learned by me, my clients and friends in the process of attracting and creating great relationships. If you get, truly get, any one of these and apply it, you will see an immediate improvement in the quality of your relationships.
It's your job to educate ...
Views: 706 - Ask Right and You May Receive - by How easily do you get what you want from others? And how easy is it for you to ask for what you want or need?
Perhaps you haven't worked up the courage to actually make the request you want to make. Or perhaps you've made several requests, but still find your needs unmet. If you're frustrated ...
Views: 768 - Changing Your PartnerRelationships are never perfect, and rarely do perfect partners come together. At some point in every relationship, partners want to change something about each other.
The following are three schools of thought on changing another's behavior and an alternative to each one. You will find the ...
Views: 590 - Clarifying Who You Are Seeking - by People usually get what they want in one of two ways. Some people have vivid clarity about their desired outcome and it seems to magically materialize. Surely you know someone like this, or perhaps you are even one of these people. To learn more about how to attract an ideal mate in this way, ...
Views: 852 - Getting Complete with Past Relationship Partners - by The people who are unavailable or ambivalent toward forming a relationship will only attract others experiencing the same ambivalence. If you are having trouble attracting a great partner and forming a wonderful relationship, you may be unavailable or experiencing ambivalence yourself.
This ...
Views: 864 - Break-Up Survival Guide - by Losing a loved one is never easy. Even when the loss is your choice, it isn't easy. Whether a person experiences a break up of a relationship, a death of a loved one, or another powerful loss, there are predictable stages one goes through, predictable feelings one feels.
Swiss-born ...
Views: 1686 - Finding a Partner - by If you are like most singles who want a relationship, you are probably "beating the bushes" in search of a partner. You may tell your friends you are looking for people to date, place or answer singles ads, search the Internet, and attend social events in hopes of meeting someone. Many singles ...
Views: 806 - Taking Action - by "Right" action defined:
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Taking the right action is what feels right according to your own heart and intuition-not anyone else's standards. To distinguish the right action from a "should," use the following rule of thumb: a should may feel dull, certainly unexciting. The ...
Views: 771 - Reader Q&A - by I receive numerous emails each month from readers asking me for insight into their relationship issues. While I am unable to answer every question, I do occasionally devote my newsletter to answering some of these questions.
Q. Dear Rinatta,
I recently met my girlfriend for a date at a club ...
Views: 759 - Conflict Resolution - by Conflict by nature is difficult. And yet conflict is a normal, natural aspect of any relationship. In fact, conflict handled well is healthy and can improve, even add to a relationship, leaving both of you feeling heard and understood. It is only when people handle conflict poorly that the ...
Views: 699 - Relationships and Growth - by Most people have a fantasy about relationships. It goes something like this:
One day they will meet their ideal partner. This person will understand them completely and will easily connect with them. There will be no arguments. Everything will be perfect. Magic will happen and will continue ...
Views: 854 - Need for Validation - by Def. Validation: To declare or make legally valid; to mark with an indication of official sanction; to establish the soundness of. Synonym is confirm.
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We all have a need for ...
Views: 18594(1 vote) - Rebound Effect - by I have observed a particular painful relationship dynamic. By addressing this dynamic, I hope to prevent it from happening in your current or future relationships. I call this dynamic "the rebound effect."
Let's observe this dynamic in action by looking at a love relationship in progress. ...
Views: 702 - Relationship Truths - by This week I pondered the many lessons and concepts my clients and I have learned during my coaching career. Before long, I had compiled a useful list of important and valuable relationship truths. If you apply any one of these truths, you are certain to see an immediate improvement in the ...
Views: 729 - Advanced Boundary-Setting - by Last week you found out what boundaries are and how to set them. To review, visit www.whatittakes.com/Archive/Newsletter10to19/newsletter__13.shtml
Are you holding back from letting others know where you draw the line, from setting your personal boundaries? The following points may be just the ...
Views: 1057 - Setting Boundaries - by Are you getting all that you want out of your relationships? Or, are you instead getting less-than-great treatment from people in your life? If your life is filled with more of what you don't want and not enough of what you do want, it's time to set your boundaries.
What is a boundary and what ...
Views: 896 - Effect on Each Other - by Do you know what kind of an effect you have on other people? Are they better off knowing and interacting with you? Or do you leave people worse off and having to recover?
If you leave people better off than you found them, you know how good it feels to make this contribution to others. When ...
Views: 827 - Why We Don't Do What We Should - by When it comes to relationships, people often behave in ways vastly different from what they know they should do, what would be a good idea to do. Singles know they should like people who treat them well, yet they may not be attracted to such people. In relationships, people know to treat their ...
Views: 744 - The Right Tools for the Job - by Most people think once they meet the right partner they will automatically have a great relationship. They don't realize creating a great, long-term relationship requires the right tools for the job.
Let me give you an example. Peter has had many short-lived romances, or flings. He believes ...
Views: 620 - Pulling Yourself into a Great Relationship - by There are times in our lives when we feel our goals and desires pulling us forward. Other times we feel as though we are pushing to reach our goals.
To be pulled forward by a goal makes it more likely that you will achieve it. When you are pulled forward, serendipity happens, doors open, ...
Views: 754 - Getting Complete - by Getting and being complete is very important if you want a great relationship. If you are not complete -- with your past, your parents, your choices, etc. -- you will continue to have the same type of relationships, no matter how hard you try to make them different.
To be incomplete with your ...
Views: 715 - The Power of Unwavering Belief - by There are two ways you can work toward the goal of having your dream relationship. The first way is to want, hope for and try forcing it to happen. Unfortunately, that's not usually enough to bring you what you want. The other way is to deeply believe in your dream and to take action in line ...
Views: 1888 - Letting Go of Love, Part I - by Most people have relationships in their past that didn't work. Many people have one such relationship that is very hard to let go of. This is the one that got away, but shouldn't have. This is the one that felt as if it was meant to be. This is the one that felt like true love. This type of a ...
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