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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- If I Am Myself, I Will End Up Alone - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2007 from Margaret PaulPeggy had been married to James for 14 years when she first consulted with me for help with her relationship and her anxiety. "I can't stand being in this marriage anymore. We have two wonderful children and I don't want to break up this family, but I’m miserable and anxious much of the time. ...
Views: 3055(1 vote) - Book Review: Relationship Rescue: A Seven-Step Strategy for Reconnecting with Your Partner - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2007 from Debbie MolisThis book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Relationship Advice. The Official SelfGrowth.com Guide to Relationship Advice is Brenda Shoshanna. Relationship advice concerns any guidance or suggestion about how to better manage or reconcile differences, reach agreements, and ...
Views: 1550 - 5 Tips For Creating The Ideal Spa Gift Basket for Her - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2007 from Dr. Grace Cornish LivingstoneDid you know that retreat spas are the preferred vacation choice for many contemporary women? However, many do not have the immediate time nor the resources to indulge in a five-day, getaway in the mountains; therefore, w hat better way to unwind and enjoy being pampered, than to create a ...
Views: 2066 - Why Do We Fall In Love - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2010 from M.Farouk RadwanWhy Do We Fall In Love? you were walking down the street ,nothing was unusual and then suddenly she came out from a nearby shop and it happened that you fell in love with her at the first sight,Huhh!! what happened ?? the answer is simple, its all related to how your mind works.if you are ...
Views: 1064 - Eat Less and Be More Satisfied - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2007 from Jan DeniseINSIDE/NAKED RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 28, 2007 Eat Less And Be More Satisfied (SET ITAL) I want to vent about fat women. I stopped out of town at a Chinese Buffet and looked around at about 100 people, probably half men and half women. Of the women, there was ...
Views: 912 - The INFP and UNrequited Love - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2007 from Nancy FennThe phenomenon of unrequited love in the lives of infps, an MBTI introverted personality type (you know who you are) -- is so common maybe that's why it's gone without remarking. It remains part of the heartache and secret anguish of many infps. I suggest reading or rereading Hans Christian ...
Views: 19173 - Enzo's Top 5 Relationship Fix Tips - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2007 from Enzo MucciIt is Friday afternoon (UK time) and I am writing to you because I have something that I need to get off my chest. People come to me for answers. They come to me to make a certain part of their lives perform in a way that makes them - Happy. That is what I love to do; it is what makes me - ...
Views: 964 - What Women Want - Tips for Writing Emails that Women Respond To - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2007 from Dave M.What Women Want. Whether you’re new to meeting women online, or you’ve got multiple online dating profiles at several different sites, I think you’ll benefit from incorporating a few of my scientifically tested email writing tips that will help you get more responses from the women you’re trying ...
Views: 858 - I Can Never Forget About Him, He Was the One - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2010 from M.Farouk RadwanI Can Never Forget About Him I can never forget about him… He was the only one I ever loved that much… I will never love someone else as I loved him… I can never imagine myself being with someone else… Do these phrases sound familiar? Have you been in that ...
Views: 1129 - Ready For Love Soul Mate Love Quiz - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2007 from viveca stone-berryIs Your Relationship in Need of a Tune-Up? Finally, you found your soul mate. You laugh together, cry together, and cuddle in front of the TV as you watch your favorite romantic movie. Your entire world revolves around each other. Whenever you think of your soul mate, a tingling sensation runs ...
Views: 1558 - Ridiculous And Worst Dates Ever - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2007 from Kristin MarquetWe have all been on some pretty terrible dates. Some have been with the biggest time wasters, while some others have been so embarrassing that I try never to think about them. Did these dates occur because I was bored, I let me guard down, was I lonely, or did I just date anyone, even though I ...
Views: 450 - What If He's Ready to Retire -- And You're Not? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2007 from Casey DawesBecause women frequently marry older men (even if it's only by a few years), there comes a time when the man is ready to retire and she isn't. Or, when she has done raising children, she ramps up her career or business and has no desire to move to a "retirement community" or buy an RV. How does ...
Views: 610 - What You See Is What You Get! - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2007 from Jan DeniseINSIDE/NAKED RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 21, 2007 What You See Is What You Get! One day everything seems perfect. Another day (maybe the very next day) nothing seems remotely perfect. What happened? The company downsized, he screwed up again, she dumped you, one ...
Views: 741 - Truth or Dare - How Honest Should You Be In Your Romantic Relationship? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2007 from Dr. Grace Cornish LivingstoneTo tell or not to tell…Can you afford to be really honest in your relationship? Have you ever wondered if “honesty is really the best policy?” At some point, couples in every romantic relationship have “the talk” where they spill the beans on their pasts. It’s a chance to come clean and get ...
Views: 1875 - The Art of Active Listening -- A Magic Bullet to Healthy Relationships. - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2007 from Rita Bigel-CasherListening is hard work. Countless thoughts interrupt our focus, distracting us and blocking our understanding of one another. All too often, we are more interested in expressing our thoughts, than in hearing someone else’s. Obstacles to good communication magically melt away when we learn how to ...
Views: 2783 - In Your Relationships, How Much Do You Know about the Evolution of Emotion? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2007 from Deborah LeighThe Evolution of Emotion: What it is and how it can be one of your best tools in achieving success in relationships. Human emotion, in terms of the Personal Prophesy philosophy, is a very complex subject. Emotions, after all, come in all shapes and varieties: There are those that we find ...
Views: 1378 - Control and Resistance - the Relationship Gremlins - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2007 from Margaret Paul"I'm so sick and tired of Andrea's anger and bossiness that I'm about ready to leave this relationship," said Paul in our phone counseling session. "Everything has to be her way. Why can't she just keep her mouth shut? She is ruining this relationship. I hate her judgmentalness. Every time she ...
Views: 2755(1 vote) - Parenting Through and After A Divorce - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2007 from Susan WoodardDivorce is an ongoing process in a person's life. As people pass through the different stages of divorce, their experiences are unique to their situations. There is no such thing as a typical divorce. All parents must strive to find out what works effectively for their individual family. When ...
Views: 655 - Compliment Or Slap In The Face? - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2007 from Jan DeniseINSIDE/NAKED RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 14, 2007 Compliment Or Slap In The Face? (SET ITAL) Dear Jan: I am looking for some insight. I met a really attractive and intelligent woman at a public event in an art gallery. We talked for 30 minutes and really seemed to ...
Views: 1192 - Love & Relationships-Three Signs it's Caput & How Unconditional Love Contrasts With Modern Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2007 from Scott & Stephen PetulloA compatible relationship is what most people strive for, and it’s always nice to hear about a happy couple in a fulfilling relationship. People wanting to get married would be smart to seriously consider the following questions: What do you seek through marriage? A ceremony to ...
Views: 1027 - Your Friends and Those That Love You - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2007 from infoyogis technologiesA frequently asked question is: “Why do so few people succeed when there is so much opportunity in the world?” The answer is simply that some of your closest friends and relatives love you too much. Seems like a crazy statement doesn’t it? So please read on to discover the ...
Views: 713 - 10 Easy Steps For A Health Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2007 from Dr. Grace Cornish LivingstoneAre you ready for real love? In this day and age of fast-paced and short-lived relationships, it’s challenging and many times difficult, to find good, solid, effective, and useful, information that helps to build healthy and long-lasting romantic relationships. Whether you’re ...
Views: 1528 - The Terrible Twins Within - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2007 from William CottringerTHE TERRIBLE TWINS WITHIN (ANY RELATIONSHIP) By William Cottringer, Ph.D. There are two terrible twins that can rear their ugly head in any relationship and take it South in a New York second, if not managed properly. The two terrible twins within are expectations and control. Although ...
Views: 782 - ***5 Ways To Increase The Joy In Your Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2007 from Brenda ShoshannaUsually we enter relationships hoping they will make us happy. We hope that this one is the right one, that we are not repeating mistakes of the past, and that finally we will receive the love, support and companionship we have been seeking. Although this approach to relationships is normal, ...
Views: 14083(2 votes) - Delivering Bad News - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2007 from Linda SapadinDelivering bad news is never easy. Whether it’s “I’m breaking up with you”, “You’re fired” or “You’ve got cancer”, there’s no pleasant way to deliver these messages. There are, on the other hand, quite a number of ways to make ...
Views: 1525 - Don't Fall; Rise in Love - by No topic has been discussed more than love. For ages we have been the audience to great love stories, some happy and some tragic. The mere mention of love puts a shine on some people's face while a layer of sadness appears for those who failed in love relationships. People "fall" in and out of ...
Views: 810 - How To Deal With Difficult People - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2007 from Brenda LeeAs a contractor/consultant in the corporate world, I was often employed for only a few months at time; therefore, I went in and out of different work situations quite frequently. To me, the frequent change, while sometimes stressful, was also exciting. On a practical level, I was faced with ...
Views: 7720 - A Love Letter to Womankind - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2021 from Charles HeinekeA Love Letter to Womankind, From Your Awakening Brother, Mankind (A tribute and an apology to Womankind, from Mankind) I believe that the time has come for men and women to make peace with each other. And I believe that men bear a greater burden in this endeavor than women. I truly honor and ...
Views: 1388 - Put Heart--Not Habit--In Pet Names - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2007 from Jan DeniseINSIDE/NAKED RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 7, 2007 Put Heart -- Not Habit -- In Pet Names "What do you think about guys who call everybody 'honey'?" asks a reader. The habit reminds me of two stuffed dice hanging from a rearview mirror -- or a waitress apron tied ...
Views: 812 - ***What’s Sex Got To Do With It? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2007 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Older adults between the ages of 57 and 85 make sex an important part of their lives! That’s the results of the first comprehensive national survey of the sexual attitudes and behaviors of older adults as reported in the New England Journal of ...
Views: 2409(28 votes) - Ladies Nightwear – Spice it Up! - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2007 from Amanda CotterillToo often, ladies nightwear tends to be a large T-shirt in the summer and a large T-shirt and sweats in the winter. Throw in a ratty chenille bathrobe, and that would pretty much sum up an average woman's ladies nightwear wardrobe. That's a shame, because there are so many choices in ladies ...
Views: 1342 - Rekindle the Magic in Your Relationship ~ An Absolute Must with Childtren Back to School - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2007 from Anita JacksonIt is important to make love work in our relationships. Staying true to yourself, is one of the most important pieces of relationship advice that I would give. You must know what you want. You must know how you want your relationship to be. You must use your imagination, one of your faculties, ...
Views: 1204 - Internet Dating, Gorgeous Grandma Style - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2007 from Alice SolomonInternet dating, gorgeous grandma style By Alice Solomon Here you are, over 50, and in that curious position of dating again...and hating it. Reluctantly, you try Internet dating (only because you have heard others have met there) and find it different, odd, and not at all satisfying because ...
Views: 2932 - Personal Boundaries, What Are They? - by Submitted on May 14, 2010 from Geoff FarnsworthWhen Robert Frost said, “Good fences make good neighbors,” he was on to something. Our ability to relate to others in a healthy way depends on our awareness of not stepping aggressively into their territory—physical and psychological—and not letting them step into ours. Boundaries are ...
Views: 1646 - Why I Don't Like The Word 'Partner' In Connection With Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2007 from Azriel WinnettYes, you’ve read correctly. I don’t like it. The word “partner” is used very widely by people writing about relationships, including many of our own site contributors. And it’s perfectly understandable. After all, what better term do we have at our disposal to ...
Views: 1743 - Relationship Coaching: How Can it Help You? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2007 from Doug WoodsCoaching has certainly become big in recent years. There are coaches to help sort out your life, your career, your finances and now there are coaches to sort out your relationships. Is relationship coaching just a gimmick or can it really help you? Relationship coaching is really a form of life ...
Views: 764 - Find Personal Freedom in the Principles of Invisible Justice - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2007 from Chika ShiojimaWe can never hope to be free as long as any part of us struggles with, or suffers over what others are doing, have done, or won't do with their lives. If we could remain aware of the often-compromised state of our own character, that is, how we still do those things to others that we don't want ...
Views: 775 - Nurse Lingerie – A big hit with men and women of all ages - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2007 from Amanda CotterillNurse lingerie is one of the most popular types of erotic costume lingerie. In fact, fantasies about nurses may be the top favorite for men, according to some recent surveys. Perhaps because nurses in old movies and books were sexily portrayed, or maybe it’s just because so many of us played ...
Views: 1045 - What People Call Love - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2007 from Ann StewartThe following is excerpted from the authors’ relationship book MAXIMIZING HAPPINESS THROUGH INTIMATE COMMUNICATION: The dynamics of a relationship that a person calls love are either those of the most satisfying relationship she/he has ever experienced, or that relationship plus whatever was ...
Views: 547 - Relationship Recipe - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2007 from Shaun OlivierWe all know that when two or more people are involved in something, communication is essential, be it verbal or physical, it helps us towards a goal. But how do we use it? Communication can be used positively to share ideas, give feedback, show appreciation and love. It can be used negatively ...
Views: 798 - Balanced Relationships: You, Me and We - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2007 from Lisa KiftOne thing I notice in a lot of couples who come through my door is a lack of balance in their relationship. What do I mean by this? When two people come together there are now three parts to this system; “you,” “me,” and “we.” Imagine if you draw two overlapping circles. There are three ...
Views: 877 - How To Get Past A Devastating Breakup - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2007 from Susan ElliottTen Things To Do After A Breakup To Get On With Your Life: 1. Know that grieving someone and missing them does not necessarily mean you want them. It means you hurt because you've had a loss. Perhaps that loss is the best thing but it's still a loss. Don't mistake grief for love. It's ...
Views: 31500(1 vote) - A Date Is Not the Best Way to Get to Know Somebody - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2007 from Jan DeniseINSIDE/NAKED RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, AUGUST 24, 2007 A Date Isn't The Best Way To Get To Know Somebody Dear Jan: A divorced woman moved into the house next door to mine two weeks ago, and I find her attractive. I have seen her outside a couple of times and felt ...
Views: 928 - Tips of safety for women! - by Safety should be the priority of the number one for women! In my book “handbook dating on line the final” I provided ends on being sure on your first meeting in Internet dating the friend. But really, the women must maintain safety in the spirit if you are out of city, in a hotel, in a car, at ...
Views: 742 - Finding Love in All the Right Places - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2007 from Daniel ErwayBecause we want love on our terms, many of us don’t find it, or what we get is a person and relationship that matches our conditioning as much as possible. This kind of relationship is not necessarily the one that will make us the happiest, oddly enough. The ego thinks it knows best about ...
Views: 781 - Why Answer the Question, "Am I in an Abusive Relationship?" - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2007 from Jeanne KingWarning! This article will either turn you upside down or be the angel that keeps you on your feet, or both. Each time I go into a chat room on the Internet, in which the topic is abusive relationships, I hear the question: "My boyfriend pushes me to the wall and braces me there. Is this cause ...
Views: 577 - Healing Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2007 from Daniel ErwayYour preferences, opinions, judgments, beliefs, and reactions to others are all part of your conditioning. As such, you are responsible for them in the sense that no one else caused them, although others do trigger them. However, you didn’t ask for that conditioning. For the most part, it ...
Views: 658 - Maturity in intimate relationships - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2007 from Helen AllenThere is currently a lot of talk about the film ‘The Secret’ and the teachings of ‘The Law of Attraction’. It’s all very well to use the ‘jargon’ in your vocabulary, but when it comes down to feeling really frustrated with your partner about what he or ...
Views: 1841 - Anger Management Using the Compliment Sandwich - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2009 from Dr. Lyle BecourtneyDo you ever find yourself getting more and more angry and frustrated while trying to explain what is bothering you? Perhaps you feel like others are not really listening to you or trying to understand things from your perspective. In such circumstances, you may end up raising your voice or ...
Views: 2836(2 votes) - How Hard Does It Have to Be? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2007 from Jan DeniseFamiliar words from a reader: "I know breaking up is the right thing to do … but I can't seem to follow through." "Dump him!" my nieces used to say in a detached tone that matched their words. Often I was eager to take their advice … it seems I was born dreaming of greener pastures, broader ...
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