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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Tuning Up Our Relationships Begins With Ourselves - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2006 from Amy HaleHave you ever wondered why it is you meet the people you meet? Have you ever attracted the same type of people and situations over and over again? Have you ever been confused about why people act a particular way around you? Almost everyone, at one time or another, has pondered these ...
Views: 1532 - Seven Words a Guy Likes to Hear from His Sweetheart - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2006 from Rod FrosethBelieve it or not beneath the confident, silent exterior of a guy, lies a feeling or two. Ladies, we understand, are more verbal than men, and relationship experts tell us--as if it's big news--that the feminine of the genders has a need to hear words of affection. Expressions of love and ...
Views: 1410 - How To Stop The Fighting In Your Relationship - by For some couples fighting is the fire that keeps their relationships alive. It lets them know the other cares. Many are determined to win a battle that never ends. Others try to right the wrongs they have experienced in the past with someone new. Unfortunately, this kind of behavior is doomed to ...
Views: 7907 - Fear of Commitment - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2006 from Margaret PaulIn my counseling work, I often work with clients who have a deep fear of commitment. These individuals generally say that they want to be in a loving relationship, yet they keep picking “the wrong people.” Susan, 38, sought my help because she was in two relationships at the same ...
Views: 2817 - SPLITTING HAIRS OVER BALDNESS - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2006 from Terry L. SumerlinI’m a barber with no hair, and the oddity of it is such that it seems to startle people into saying something. So, regularly, there is someone who – in jest – comments about my bald head. Generally, it’s in the form of, “You’re not going to cut my hair like ...
Views: 887 - Fears of a New Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2006 from Margaret PaulKatie had not been in a relationship in ten years, and she was scared to death. In her last relationship, she had lost herself completely and then felt devastated when her boyfriend of three years left her for another woman. After working on herself emotionally and spiritually for a number of ...
Views: 2830 - Duplicating Success The Beliefs of Top Seducers - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2006 from Ranko MagamiWhat does it take to duplicate success? There are 3 things involved in duplicating success. * Beliefs * Mental states * mental strategies If you duplicate these the way somebody you wish to be like you'll have the same type of results. This can be a difficult task for some ...
Views: 1265 - Getting What You Want In Life - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2006 from Lesley Spencer PyleDo you know what you want in life? When is the last time you took a few minutes to think about where you are in life and more importantly, where you want to be? What types of aspirations do you have? What's stopping you from writing a few of them down and making them a reality? The answer is ...
Views: 806 - Relationships: Conflict Resolution Without Words - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2006 from Margaret PaulIn the last few decades, partners have spent countless hours trying to “work out problems.” Yet over and over again they often come up against a major roadblock: they just don’t see things the same way. No matter how long they talk and how hard they try, neither ends up feeling ...
Views: 2830(1 vote) - Love your LOVER - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2006 from Teresa GiosiaLove your LOVER Are you living your life with passion and desire? Every area of your life should possess both and sadly enough the one area that is most neglected is our relationship with our significant other. Here are a few tips and suggestions that will rekindle those flames of desire. ...
Views: 855 - What is a Karmic Soul Mate? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2006 from Dorothy ThompsonOne of the most interesting, yet baffling, things about life is that out of all the people in the world, a few fortunate ones will touch our lives in a special way and leave lasting impressions. One such person is your karmic soul mate. While other soul mates come into your life for intimate ...
Views: 9797 - Marketing Strategies to Make Your First Million - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2006 from Shelby CollingeLet’s learn how to build our business quickly and effectively. If after reading this article you want to learn more about me or my books, products, services or programs please visit http://www.r-m-m.com Please think about and answer all of the questions, below. This will start you on ...
Views: 1265 - Ending Relationships - Should I Stay or Should I Go? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2006 from Michael MyerscoughShould you stay with your partner or leave them? Is all the pain you suffer in your relationship worth it for the good times you have together? Will it really be worth all the pain of leaving them or is it better to stay and stick it out? In most relationships there comes a point when you have ...
Views: 1453 - The Secret to Making More Friends - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealWhen you meet new people for the first time, do you usually like most of the new people that you meet? Or do you find that you usually dislike new people, unless they can eventually prove after a long time that they deserve your friendship? Perhaps you have never thought about this ...
Views: 4834 - How to solve relationship problems. - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2005 from Fatimah MusaRelationship problems either with your spouse, family, business partners or other people affect your personal growth, success and well being. If you value your relationship, you need to make better decisions and take specific actions to make them work. Here are some ideas to help you avoid or ...
Views: 1528 - Bonding With Your Partner - Without Candles, Wine or Lingerie! - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2005 from Margaret PaulA journalist interviewed me regarding intimacy in relationships. One of her questions was, “What are some of the easy ways in which husband and wife can bond - without candles and wine and expensive lingerie?” Easy ways? Well, it depends on what you mean by easy! Bonding has ...
Views: 3487 - Judge A Man's Love Potential By The Way He Kisses - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2005 from Yangki Christine AkitengWhether men are aware of it or not, a majority of women judge a man’s love potential by the way he kisses alone. Some women I have spoken to say that if a man is a "lousy" kisser (either he rushes in full-throttle practically eating away your face, drools so much you have to wipe your ...
Views: 15384 - A SIMPLE WAY TO MAKE A LIFE-CHANGING DIFFERENCE - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2005 from Terry L. SumerlinWhen our schedules permit, Sherry and I begin our day at a McDonalds that is conveniently located across the highway from Judson High School (Converse, TX), where she teaches. One morning as we were sipping coffee and chatting, she related the success she was having with one of her eleventh ...
Views: 993 - Creating Intimate Connections: Genuine Listening Makes All the Difference - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2005 from Peri Coeurtney EnkinHow many times have you been talking away, wrapped up in a conversation, sharing something important, meaningful or revealing about yourself only to realize that the person you are talking with has drifted away and is obviously somewhere else? And, if you tell the truth, haven’t you done ...
Views: 758 - Codependent Relationships: Takers and Caretakers - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2005 from Margaret PaulTakers and caretakers – they often seem to find each other! As a counselor who has worked with relationships for 37 years, I can tell you that this is the most frequent relationship dynamic that I encounter. Takers are people who tend to be narcissistic – that is, they are ...
Views: 3420(1 vote) - It is time to Broadcast More New Age Energy Frequencies in Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2005 from Rev.Amelia de Pazos B/MscIt is Time to Broadcast More New Age Energy Frequencies in Relationships In the wake of the events from this past decade, there is a need to broadcast New Age energy. People need to multiply their own channeling (perceiving, receiving their own highest energy and the one from others) abilities ...
Views: 910 - The Top 10 Things I Learned Being An Identical Twin - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2005 from Susan DunnEvery couple of years the topic of identical twins hits the front cover of Newsweek. In fact it's about time now--be watching! Most people find the topic fascinating. The relationship between identical twins looks good from the outside; a seamless interface, and they seem to enjoy one ...
Views: 4334 - Ten Suggestions for Creating a Lasting Love...All By Yourself - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2005 from Susan JeffersThe power is yours. Whether your relationship simply needs some fine-tuning or whether it is in serious trouble, you will be amazed at how much relationship-healing you can do all by yourself. And if you are not in a relationship, there are many ways of approaching members of the opposite sex in ...
Views: 1590 - Power Struggles - Being Right or Being Loving - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2005 from Margaret PaulMandy and Evan consulted with me for couple’s counseling because they were always bickering. Every little thing seemed to become an issue between them. They loved each other very much, but the bickering was certainly getting in the way of enjoying each other. I ask Mandy and Evan to come ...
Views: 2931(1 vote) - Looking for Mr. Right? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2005 from Michael Myerscough3 ways to guarantee you’ll find him within a year Are you looking to find your Mr. Right? Your perfect partner? A man that you’ll love passionately, forever, and who’ll love you back even more? Then there are 3 things you must know or must do in order to make sure you get ...
Views: 987 - Relationship Success: What is a REALationship? - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonWhat is a REALationship? A REALationship is one in which you have openness, honesty, integrity, individuality, growth, passion, and intimacy. This begins with the relationship you have with yourself. Start by answering the following: • Do you know and live your life purpose? ...
Views: 1031 - Top Ten List of What to Do and What Not to Do in Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2005 from Kim OlverMost of us who have been intimately involved with someone beyond the infatuation stage know that relationships are like a rollercoaster ride. When things are good, they are very, very good. When things are bad, they are very, very bad. As a relationship coach, I have developed Top 10 Lists---one ...
Views: 1214 - The Farmer's Milk - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederHello, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 11 months. Just the other day he tells me that he thinks we should just remain friends and nothing more. Two days later he called me and we talked about our relationship and he told me that I do make him happy and he enjoys our ...
Views: 829 - The Powerful Secret to A Loving Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2005 from Margaret PaulThere are many factors that go into creating a loving relationship. Certainly it helps if two people have some things in common regarding how they like to spend their time. It also helps if they have common values around religion or spirituality, around politics, the environment, abortion, and ...
Views: 2924(1 vote) - Seductive Withholders - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2005 from Susan PeabodyTo many people, the term “Seductive Withholder” is self-explanatory. SW’s are men and women who vacillate between being available and unavailable. One moment they are romantic, alluring, in pursuit and then suddenly (often without warning) they pull back and withhold ...
Views: 5936 - BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2005 from Abe KassFor some people being in a relationship can be very challenging. Marriage is supposed to be full of romance, fun, security and safety. For some couples they have been blessed with having succeeded in actualizing this ideal. For many other couples, unfortunately, they have instead experienced ...
Views: 1174 - Can This Relationship Be Helped? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2005 from Margaret PaulI have been counseling couples for 35 years. Quite often individuals come in for help wondering if it is really possible to save or improve their relationship. Perhaps their partner is totally uninterested in working on the relationship. Perhaps their partner is an alcoholic or drug addict. What ...
Views: 2576(1 vote) - Support and Encouragement - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2005 from Robyn SpeedOne of the things that people want in a relationship/marriage is mutual support and encouragement. It sounds rather simple doesn't it? But it is amazing the number of people who don't feel that they are receiving this support and encouragement. The sad things is that their tendency is to think: ...
Views: 1709(1 vote) - Fear of Intimacy - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2005 from Margaret PaulEmotional intimacy is one of the most wonderful experiences we ever have. Nothing else really comes close to the experience of sharing our deepest thoughts and feelings with another, of being deeply seen and known, of sharing love, passion, laughter, joy, and/or creativity. The experience of ...
Views: 2649 - My Son's Deployment - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2005 from Kim OlverOne of the most difficult struggles in life for a parent is the struggle that occurs when the parent is attempting to keep their child safe and the child is attempting to explore the world and find their place in it, often times not in the safest manner. A discussion of Inside Out cannot ...
Views: 1309 - Building Solid Relationships Using the Power of Words - by Submitted on May 31, 2005 from Michael LeeWe may not be aware of it; but the words we utter daily may have different interpretations, even if you think that they mean the same thing. Here's an example. Would you rather have someone tell you that you are "slim," or would you like to hear that you are "thin?" Being slim has a ...
Views: 869 - Deadly Relationship Habits - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2005 from Kim OlverHow many of you have ever been involved with a significant other who wanted you to do something you didn’t want to do? I doubt that I’m the only one. By virtue of a significant other relationship, there will be times when our partners will want us to do things we don’t ...
Views: 1208 - How to Find a Soul Mate Instead of a Cell Mate - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2005 from Debbie MandelFalling in love has been described as a thrilling adventure, a fluttering emotion and the ultimate life force. That’s why I wonder why the term, “falling in love,” is used to describe such a positive love relationship. It implies tripping, getting hurt, not mindful of where we ...
Views: 1166 - How To Keep Love Growing Through The Ups And Downs - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2005 from Brenda ShoshannaWe are meant to live a life of love. However, no matter how successful some are in other aspects of their lives, they wonder if it s possible to have the same success in love. Although things may start out wonderfully in the beginning, there is always the fear that it won t last, that ...
Views: 5099(1 vote) - What Everyone Needs to Know About Extramarital Affairs... and what you can do to help - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2005 from Dr. Bob HuizengaRecent statistics suggest that 40% of women (and that number is increasing) and 60% of men at one point indulge in extramarital affairs. Put those numbers together and it is estimated that 80% of the marriages will have one spouse at one point or another involved in marital infidelity. That ...
Views: 2441 - Making Up is Hard to Do - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2005 from Bill WhiteWhen was the last time you had a disagreement with your significant other? Let's for a moment forget who's fault it was. Let's stop the adrenaline before it starts pumping. Now, how long did the tension remain? Did the scene ruin an hour? a day? a week? When you want to make up with, so often ...
Views: 1603(1 vote) - The Life-Changing Power Of Appreciation - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2005 from Gregory NewmanAppreciation is one of the most powerful actions in the universe. When you are sensitively aware of a unique quality that makes someone who they are -- and are willing to communicate it to him or her -- that person’s life and your own can change forever. Let me give you an ...
Views: 866(1 vote) - How Your Personality, Life and Relationships are Created - The Crucial Key - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2005 from John CoroneosYou are not what you seem to be. Or, perhaps more accurately, you are far more than you have ever experienced yourself to be. Within you right now, exist undreamed of talents and abilities. They are simply waiting for the correct call, to bring them to the surface and enrich your life in a way ...
Views: 917(1 vote) - Men On Dating- Timing, Turn-offs and Keepers - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2005 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanDear Relationship Coach- "We met online and seemed to hit it off right from the start. After he answered my ad, we went on our first date, and it was fabulous. I believe we both felt a strong chemistry and learned a lot about each other. At the end of the evening we agreed to get together ...
Views: 14382(1 vote) - What to Do When Your Spouse or Your Friends are Negative? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2005 from Michael LosierWhat to Do When Your Spouse or Your Friends are Negative? © Michael Losier 2004. You may include this article in your ezine or on your website, provided you include the copyright statement and the bio information tag found at the end of this article. This year (2004), I've completed over ...
Views: 1341 - 7 Ways To Improve Your Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2005 from Margaret PaulGood relationships don’t just happen. I’ve heard many of my clients state that, “If I have to work at it, then it’s not the right relationship.” This is not a true statement, any more than it’s true that you don’t have to work at good physical health ...
Views: 25037(6 votes) - "10 Things You Need To Ask Yourself If You Are Considering Whether To Stay In or Leave a Relationship" - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2005 from Susie and Otto CollinsWhether you’ve been in your relationship for 2 months, 2 years or 20 years, we don’t have to tell you that making the decision to stay in or leave a relationship is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make. We’ve both also made this decision ourselves in our ...
Views: 2040(1 vote) - The Purpose of Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2005 from Balbir ChaggerIt is only when we no longer compulsively need someone that we can have a real relationship with them Anthony Storr Definitions of relationship • the state of being related by kindred, affinity, or other alliance • a state of connectedness between people (especially an emotional ...
Views: 17657(1 vote) - Ending Relationships Gracefully - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2005 from Margaret PaulIn my counseling practice, I often hear the question, “How do I end a relationship without hurting someone’s feelings?” Whether it’s a romantic relationship or a friendship, ending it gracefully is generally a challenge. The problem arises because so many people see it ...
Views: 2420(1 vote) - You ALWAYS Get What You Want - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2005 from PaulYou ALWAYS get what you want You ALWAYS get what you want The role of the subconscious in secretly shaping your life. If you’re like me, you’re probably thinking “I definitely don’t always get what I want!” I hear you, but hang in there a minute, open ...
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