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- Why Some People Talk Too Much - Are You One of Them? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2010 from Royane RealTalking too much is one of the the most common bad habits. Discover the reasons why people talk too much. If you are guilty of being too talkative, learn how you can break this annoying habit. We have all met people who talk a lot, who never seem to run out of things to say. Have you ...
Views: 25225(2 votes) - 10 Ways to Mentally Stimulate a Woman’s Mind - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2015 from Latorria FreemanThe biggest erogenous zone for women is not between her legs but between her ears. Stimulating her body is the easy part. Stimulating her mind shows her what you are really made of. There are many different ways to stimulate a woman’s mind so try different techniques. Study, listen and ...
Views: 15129 - How to Tell People Things They Don't Want to Hear - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2010 from Joan CurtisWhenever we face a communication dilemma, whether we must tell our aging parents that they can no longer live independently or tell our best friend that her clothes do not suit her, we agonize over what to do. How do we tell people things they do not wish to hear? These kind of communication ...
Views: 14551 - What is Deep Listening? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2007 from Joe BaileyWhat is Deep Listening? From "Slowing Down to the Speed of Love" Deep listening occurs when your mind is quiet. Your thoughts are flowing rather than crowding your mind with distractions, interpretations, judgments, conclusions, or assumptions. Your mind is open, curious, interested -- as ...
Views: 14537(1 vote) - What is Your Listening Style? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2009 from Joan CurtisWe’ve heard of leadership styles and communication styles. Have you ever wondered about your listening style? Most self-assessments do not measure how we listen. Yet, we all recognize how important listening is to communication. Many people say that listening ranks much higher than actual ...
Views: 12113(1 vote) - Five Conversation Killers - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2010 from John DonlandImprove your Conversation by avoiding these traps. And as suddenly as it began, it’s over. There you were, in the middle of a great conversation when suddenly the wind died in your sails, leaving stranded out in a large, unwelcoming and unforgiving ocean. What happened? Not every ...
Views: 11310(2 votes) - How to Listen & Not Interrupt - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2009 from Gilda BonannoA reader emailed me with a question: "You give points on being a good listener. I try, but I find myself at times interrupting because I'm so afraid I'm going to forget what I have to say. I've been told to keep a pen and paper handy to jot down what I want to say once the speaker has finished. ...
Views: 11241(14 votes) - The Power of the Inner Voice - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2011 from Norma HollisConnecting with Your Inner Voice Norma T. Hollis Do you listen to your inner voice? This is the voice that speaks within you that no one hears except you. Each person has one. Some recognize it and some don’t. Some are even frightened of the voice. But it’s a voice that is your friend and ...
Views: 8312(1 vote) - Forty Conversation Starters - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2010 from John DonlandForty Conversation Starters Let’s face it, no matter how good a conversation is going, sometimes you’ll get stuck and run out of things to say. This can be especially hard if the person you’re speaking with isn’t keeping up their end of the conversation. Sometimes is seems you have little in ...
Views: 7812(1 vote) - The Gift of Listening - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2009 from Richard BrookeEver been chatting with someone and, before you can even finish your sentence, they interrupt to share their own thought or finish yours for you? Or perhaps you are in the middle of making an important point and their attention is pulled away as they check their ringing cell phone, send an email ...
Views: 6722(1 vote) - Active Listening: Turning Customer Service into customer satisfaction - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2010 from Angela SmytheTypically, communication skills training is focused around improving our speaking and presentation skills, but improving how we listen to information is just as important. Listening plays a major part in effective communication, how we listen and what we choose to listen to has a big impact on ...
Views: 6705(1 vote) - How Can You Tell if Someone has Low Self Esteem? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2010 from Kate IrwinHow can you tell if someone has low self esteem? Are there some tell-tale signs you can easily recognize? Actually, there are. People with low self-esteem, or lacking in self confidence, will usually exhibit certain verbal and non-verbal behaviour which points to their insecurity—clues you ...
Views: 6206(2 votes) - Make yourself valuable to others - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Jacque MillerMake yourself valuable to others When I think about the basics of networking three things come to mind: What do I want? How do I get there/it? And how do I make myself valuable? If you know the answers to these three questions then you are probably well on your way to networking your way to ...
Views: 5591(2 votes) - When Someone at Work Has a Grudge Against You - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2011 from Dr. Rick KirschnerYou know the old adage about letting sleeping dogs lie? It doesn’t apply to people with grudges, who may actually become more difficult from stewing in their angry juices about whatever sleight or injury they’ve pinned on you. Not every problem with people can be resolved. Some people are ...
Views: 5450 - The Art of Empathetic Listening - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2009 from Gian Fiero |Listening is such a simple process. One person talks, the other person listens. Or do they? We often confuse hearing with listening. The two are different, though both are done with our ears. Hearing is a natural function of the ear which involves the reception of sound. It's one of your ...
Views: 5166(7 votes) - Understanding Yourself And Others - A Powerful Listening Principle Called Reflection - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2008 from Lynn Marie SagerI am always fascinated by what people say about others. Inevitably, what people say about others says mountains about them. I remember one student of mine who loved to complain about his wife's communication ability. He loved to tell the class, "She's got an attitude. She never makes sense. She ...
Views: 4819(2 votes) - 6 Tips on Receiving Feedback - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2009 from Adam YoungFeedback can be a valuable tool in personal and professional development. The opinions of others can give you insight into your own behavior that you may not know or find out on your own. Although it is very useful, sometimes feedback can be difficult to hear, especially if it has not been ...
Views: 4799(3 votes) - Listening for success: 11 tips to master the skill of listening - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2010 from Sean McCarthyBeing an effective listener is one of the most critical skills you can master in order to build meaningful relationships, advance your career, and build a successful business. Many people often believe they are great listeners, primarily because they have been doing it their entire life, but ...
Views: 4734(4 votes) - How We Label People Hurts Them and Us - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2010 from Willie HortonI have long been of the view that “normal” behaviour is bizarre. After all, the Universities of Chicago and Milan calculate that so-called “normal” people use just 1% of their mental capacity to do what they’re doing in the here and now. The rest of their mental energy is wasted on looking ...
Views: 4382(18 votes) - *** Relationships: The Art of Listening - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2009 from Margaret PaulIn 1974, Dr. Virginia Satir presented the concept of mirroring in her groundbreaking book, "Conjoint Family Therapy." In 1975 Dr. Thomas Gordon wrote a best-selling book called "Parent Effectiveness Training." In the book he taught parents to "active listen," which ...
Views: 4155(5 votes) - The art of building empathy and rapport - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2012 from Lawrence MichaelsWe all will have heard the saying “to walk in someone elses shoes” when used as a metaphor for building empathy with someone. For most of us this is something we probably think we can do quite well. The friend who comes to us for advice, or reading a sad or shocking story in the news and then ...
Views: 4026(1 vote) - GENDER CONFLICTS AND COMMUNICATION ISSUES AT WORK - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2019 from Doris HelgeDifferences between the way women and men communicate and perceive the world not only sometimes irritate us in personal relationships, they can block professional success. How many of the following common gender communication differences have ever made you or one of your direct reports want to ...
Views: 3989 - How to Stop Interrupting People and Finishing Their Sentences - by Submitted on May 29, 2017 from Trevor DumbletonMany people find themselves interrupting and completing other people's sentences for them. It is a very unwelcoming habit and it is usually possible to see the reaction from those interrupted - it's usually a very clear sign of irritation. You can get these results from them - they can even ...
Views: 3973 - Get Along Better with People with the DISC Approach - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from Lillian BjorsethEver notice how much of your work involves dealing with people? Have you noticed, too, that they don’t necessarily follow the script you have written for them? And, when they don’t, it can be fun, interesting, disappointing, frustrating and even downright painful depending on the situation. ...
Views: 3793(4 votes) - How Easily Do You Connect With Others? 3 Steps to Making Connections in the Workplace - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Ann HalloranWhen you meet someone for the first time in a business setting, you may only have one chance to make a connection that lasts. So how can you make the most of the opportunity? Here are three steps to help you make a good impression and build strong business relationships. Use these to make better ...
Views: 3783(1 vote) - Conscious Listening - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from Arlene HarderListen! Take time to REALLY listen. Pay attention to the difference between the sounds of your house or office throughout the day. Enjoy those differences and notice if the sounds create a melody you like or if you want to change something about your environment so there are more opportunities ...
Views: 3714(4 votes) - Listening with Your Heart, Not Your Head - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2009 from Joan CurtisWhat is the biggest communications challenge my clients face? The simple answer is listening. My clients struggle with listening because their heads get in the way. They grapple with ways to communicate their messages and often ask me about how to go about saying what they want to say the ...
Views: 3607(2 votes) - Listening is Golden. Master the art of silence to be the best listener says Susan McKenzie - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2012 from Susan (Teacher Su) McKenzieA World of Meaning Idioms are phrases with special meanings. Straightforward idioms are usually ones all speakers of English can understand. Clichés are said to be overused phrases – but some so-called clichés are so apt (suitable) that they convey a world of meaning to us and more importantly ...
Views: 3553(1 vote) - The Art of Effective Listening - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2011 from cedric riceSome people are effective listeners and some are not. The difference between being a good listener and a bad one lies in the way that you interact with the speaker. A good listener is intimate with the speaker in that he or she listens on a whole different level. An average listener will hear ...
Views: 3535(1 vote) - Empathic Listening Techniques: How To Listen With Your Heart - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2011 from Michael LeeBy using empathic listening techniques, you will be able to hear a lot more than what a person is saying. In fact, you'll actually "hear" if a person is holding something back or if they are simply overcompensating for something. To develop your empathic listening skills and apply them for ...
Views: 3530 - Are You Hearing What I’m Saying? – 10 Tips That Will Help You Improve Your Listening Skills - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2009 from Sharon MikrutErnest Hemingway once said “When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.” How true that is. How many times has someone asked you how you were, but doesn’t take the time to listen to your response? They may cut you off, start talking about themselves, or walk away. If ...
Views: 3502(8 votes) - Influencing Stakeholders - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2011 from David windleInfluencing Stakeholders Become influential in any line of work We are constantly consciously or unconsciously influencing or being influenced. Refresh your approach in an open structured way, tailoring the style as needed. 1. Neutral It sounds obvious, but working from a sense ...
Views: 3464 - Stop Lecturing Your Kids and Start Listening - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2015 from Marvin MarshallIf I were limited to one recommendation that would improve relationships between parent and child, especially with teenagers, it would be listen to learn. Listening and valuing young people’s feelings and ideas is what promotes the ability of parents to effectively communicate with ...
Views: 3425 - Be Quick to Listen and Slow to Speak - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2011 from cedric riceBe Quick to Listen and Slow to Speak One of the hard lessons that I have learned in life is that it is good most of the time to just keep your mouth shut. That was a hard lesson for me because of my temperament. I used to feel that I had to have the last word in every conversation or ...
Views: 3397 - How To Improve Your Ability to Focus and Concentrate - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2009 from Andrew RondeauRemember Bruce Lee? The name Bruce Lee commands respect and admiration from all over the world. The diminutive man, who stood 1.73 meters tall and weighed less than 65 kilograms, is considered by many as the greatest martial artist of the 20th century. His dynamic on-screen style and stunts ...
Views: 3332(5 votes) - 8 Ways to Develop Great Listening Skills - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2012 from Amy TorresHave you ever been talking to someone who is looking around the room while you speak? Or who interrupts you to say something on a completely different subject? Maybe you were confiding in a friend who seemed distracted and when you accused her of not listening, she said indignantly, "I was ...
Views: 3330(1 vote) - Social Intelligence: 6 Steps to Relationship Success - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2010 from Eugene Yiga“I feel that there is nothing more truly artistic than to love people.” – Vincent van Gogh Meeting people is easy. In addition to the traditional ways like friends, societies, and other social groups, we now have the internet too. And provided we’re prepared to get out of our comfort zones, ...
Views: 3327(4 votes) - 10 Leadership Skills that Engage - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2013 from Bill LangAs an executive coach, I’ve seen all kinds of leadership styles. Effective leadership is essential to every organisation—big or small, young or old. We know from Harvard’s research on the Service-Profit-Chain and our Scores on the Board system(tm), that employee satisfaction brings ...
Views: 3272(1 vote) - How to Develop Listening Skills - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from Liz UramWhat does it mean to listen effectively? It means that you are in the moment and open to the message that is coming your way. When you are listening effectively you are receiving, interpreting, and responding appropriately to the message that is being given. The type of response required, or ...
Views: 3135 - ***An Underutilized Negotiating Skill - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2013 from Bruce SchneiderThe mere mention of the word “negotiation” creates a rather visceral response in people. For some, it’s excitement around competing for, and striking, the best deal. Others (likely the majority), cringe at the thought of the back-and-forth, trying to guess what will, and will not, ...
Views: 3130(3 votes) - Conversation Tips: What to Do When You Forget Someone’s Name - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2010 from Tracey BennettYou’ve just met this person at the office, and 2 minutes into the conversation, oops! Her name flies out the window of your memory. When you’re talking to your neighbor, you forget her name, too. Welcome to the club. What are you going to do now? Begin With These 3 Tips: 1. Stay calm. 2. ...
Views: 3120(3 votes) - Communication Tips that Work - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2009 from Carole Hodges1. Listen to other people. The most successful people let others talk more than they do. Use questions to expand the conversation beyond small talk. Ask probing questions to elicit a person’s dreams and passions. Uncover ways that you can contribute to others and take action immediately. 2. ...
Views: 3063(7 votes) - Getting to Yes - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2012 from Tina TessinaThe average person pays more attention to what she's saying or thinking about than what she is hearing, or how her words are "landing" on the other person. This self-involvement gets worse during an argument. You can become a much more effective communicator by using "attentive speaking" a ...
Views: 2978(2 votes) - Death to Multitasking, Focus, Focus, Focus - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2009 from Avil BeckfordMany have long touted the efficiency of multitasking, especially with the availability of the numerous technological tools for busy executives, but recent research studies have proven otherwise. In one research study to test attention and memory, “low multitaskers” consistently outperformed ...
Views: 2976(6 votes) - How can you become a great listener? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2011 from Mark LamendolaBy Mark Lamendola www.mindconnection.com/BehaviorMod Active listening is a skill. Like any other skill, it requires practice and refinement to develop it well. Here are some guidelines to become the best listener you can be. Let’s begin with rule #1: There can be only one speaker and ...
Views: 2917 - Listening Is As Important As Speaking - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2008 from Peter MurphyWhile engaging in conversations with friends and co-workers, how often do you feel that the other person has truly heard what you've said? If you want to succeed in social settings, relationships, and business, one way to ensure your success is to be a great listener. There are a few simple ...
Views: 2917(1 vote) - How to Be an Extreme Encourager - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2011 from Christine KaneMany years ago, when I first shared my dream of being a songwriter with one of my best friends, she knitted her brows and said, “Huh?” I can’t say I was deflated by all of the warnings that followed. After all, I had always been surrounded by this kind of “practical thinking.” In fact, I ...
Views: 2904 - Increase Organization through Listening - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2012 from Janice RussellListening is both an internal and external activity. We listen externally when we converse with others or tune into the radio or television. We listen internally when we pay attention to our inner thoughts and conversations. Both types of listening are necessary for good organization – ...
Views: 2889 - The Art of Listening: Tune In or Get Tuned Out! - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2010 from Chris Williams“He who guards his mouth preserves his life.” - Proverbs 13:3 Have you ever been in a one-sided conversation? The other person is talking incessantly, leaving no room for you to speak. How about this scenario: You are conversing with someone and you feel very distracted and unfocused? You ...
Views: 2867(1 vote) - The Voice In Stillness - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2010 from Zoe RouthThis is not another article about 'active listening'. You know all the tips already - pay attention, nod, open body position, ask questions, acknowledge, clarify, paraphrase, encourage. This message takes listening to a deeper, more magnetic level that creates deep, authentic connection. The ...
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