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- Aggression and Anger: the Human/Canine Connection - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2014 from Janet PfeifferI've been blessed in my life. I've had eighteen dogs, all of whom were sweet and loving. I've never had an aggressive dog with the exception of one - Huggy Bear. Huggy was a black Great Dane that came to us when he was just a pup. Big floppy ears, giant paws, and a single white spot on his chest ...
Views: 1464 - Aikido And Conflict: Turning Difficult Moments Into Ki Moments - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2008 from Judy RingerOne of the things that interests me most about conflict is the tendency to resist it and the ways in which this resistance causes me to miss a ki moment - a key moment, when I might respond with purpose and intention but do not. Resistance is a reactive habit. When I resist, I'm on automatic, ...
Views: 937 - ALTERNATIVE RESPONSES TO ANGER - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2017 from Janet PfeifferLife doesn't always turn out the way we'd like. When situations take an unfavorable turn, we become upset, frustrated, or angry. When others don't agree with us, live their life the way we think they should, or act in a manner we find disturbing, anger is a typical response. With the exception a ...
Views: 2452 - An In-Depth Look at Anger - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2016 from Janet PfeifferAccording to psychologist Charles Speilberger, Ph.D who specializes in the study of anger, “Anger is an emotional state that varies from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. It's accompanied by physiological, psychological and biological changes. When you get angry, your heart rate and ...
Views: 1194 - An Office Guide to Supporting Mental Health - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2021 from Caitlin PurvisBritain has gotten more stressful in recent years for many people. Everywhere we look, there’s a new statistic to tell us just how miserable, burnt out, and fundamentally abandoned we are: one recent survey reported that only 13 per cent of people in the UK would say they are in good mental ...
Views: 803 - ANGER AND POWER: THE CONNECTION - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWe all seek to be powerful. I'm not speaking necessarily about having authority over others but we certainly want to have control over our own lives. Yet even the most well-intentioned, enlightened person wants to control a particular situation or individual at times. Certainly, parents impose ...
Views: 1315 - Anger and the 2 "F" Words - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2016 from Janet PfeifferNo, I'm not speaking about that "F" word. I'm going to address two different words beginning with the letter "f" and how they influence the decisions we make, our responses in any given situation, and how the outcome adds to or subtracts from our happiness and/or contributes to our anger. Those ...
Views: 1432 - Anger in the Workplace - by Submitted on May 14, 2014 from Janet Pfeiffer"One of my coworkers is so annoying! She's always making personal calls when she's supposed to be working. Then when she can't finish her work she asks me for help!" Recently, one of my clients (a mechanic) complained about missing tools. "We are all responsible for our own tools. I keep mine ...
Views: 2224 - Anger is an Anchor: 5 Ways to Reduce Your Anger - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2015 from Anica OaksAnger can be one of the most destructive emotions of all. It can be harmful to your health, relationships and well-being. Taken to an extreme, it can cause you to do things you later regret or that have legal consequences. Fortunately, there are effective ways to manage and reduce your anger. If ...
Views: 1709 - Anger Management Class - Three Easy Criticism Techniques - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2010 from Joe JamesGiving criticism can be just as, if not even more stressful than receiving it. Studies have shown that people who are about to offer criticism are often concerned that they or the other person may get angry at them and that they will not know how to manage that other person’s anger. According ...
Views: 1618 - Anger Problem? Learn All About Techniques & Counselling - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2010 from Associated Relationship & Marriage Counsellors SydneyDO YOU NEED ANGER MANAGEMENT TIPS, TECHNIQUES & ANGER MANAGEMENT COUNSELLING? Do you often feel agitated, angry or aggressive, or do you often feel 'shut-down' yet seething with anger on the inside? You may be suffering from an anger management problem. ANGER MANAGEMENT ISSUES ARE ...
Views: 2959 - ANGER: FIRE OR ICE? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIt doesn't take much to anger some people. Even the most innocent comments can cause some tempers to flare. Innocuous situations can be misinterpreted leading to screaming matches, cursing, or physical altercations. In an instant, violence can erupt where calm once existed and destruction of ...
Views: 1707 - Anger: How Much is Too Much? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2015 from Janet PfeifferJesus got angry. He was troubled by the many injustices he encountered while on Earth. At times, he expressed his dismay to those around Him. Anger, as with all emotions, has a place and purpose. But how does one know if there is too much anger in their lives? Here are ten warning signs to ...
Views: 2476 - Anger: Incident or Issue? - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Janet PfeifferIn the years that I facilitated my support group for estranged families, I primarily worked with older parents whose adult children had severed their relationship with them. The parents were perplexed: "I was a good parent", they declared. "I gave my children the best of everything. There is no ...
Views: 1456 - Anger: The Bigger Picture - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2016 from Janet PfeifferHave you ever found yourself in a situation that was somewhat confusing, uncomfortable or perhaps even dangerous? Sometimes it's hard to understand why things happen or why we must participate in particular activities. We don't often understand why certain people enter our lives or why they ...
Views: 1303 - Anger: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2016 from Janet PfeifferAs a child I was taught that anger was a bad emotion but I've have since come to understand that there are no bad feelings. All emotions have purpose and value as they teach us about ourselves based on how we react to external events. We assign value to each depending on how people act them out. ...
Views: 1607 - ANGRY? GET OVER IT! - by Submitted on May 24, 2017 from Janet PfeifferToday my husband and I had our fifth fight. Not bad for a twenty year marriage but regardless, for an anger management professional such as myself, I didn't handle it very well. Actually, fight is not an accurate description as it was more like a huff, that is we got annoyed at each other. Let ...
Views: 1411 - Are You Afraid to Journal? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Carolyn ShannonIs your privacy extremely important to you? Do you live in or work in an environment where your boundaries are often ignored or crossed? Does the thought of someone reading your diary or journal terrify you? One of the more humorous representations of the ramifications of this is portrayed ...
Views: 1340 - Are YOU Playing to YOUR Strengths? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2011 from Margaret Meloni“Oh no, here we go again” thought Joe as his Quality Assurance Analyst Heidi approached him with his memo, complete with typos circled in red ink. He was not really annoyed by Heidi, she was just doing what she does; he mainly felt embarrassed. After all as the leader shouldn’t all of his work ...
Views: 1223 - Avoid Seeking Confirming Evidence to Make Smarter Decisions - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2018 from Kare AndersonThis trap is the bias that leads us to seek out information to support our existing point of view while avoiding information that contradicts it. This bias not only affects where we go to collect evidence to reinforce a current stance or perspective, but also how we interpret the evidence we ...
Views: 975 - Avoid Seeking Confirming Evidence to Make Smarter Decisions - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2018 from Kare AndersonThis trap is the bias that leads us to seek out information to support our existing point of view while avoiding information that contradicts it. This bias not only affects where we go to collect evidence to reinforce a current stance or perspective, but also how we interpret the evidence we ...
Views: 1026 - Backstabbers Lose! - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2008 from Rhoberta ShalerBACKSTABBERS LOSE © Rhoberta Shaler, PhD www.OptimizeInstitute.com www.WorkplacePeopleSkills.com Whatever are people thinking when they are two-faced? Are they really thinking that people are stupid and can't see the forest for the trees? When meetings take place surreptitiously, behind ...
Views: 3770 - Bad Labels For Difficult People Make Matters Worse - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2008 from Dr. Rick KirschnerDon't let anyone tell you different: The labels we apply to people have a direct impact on the way we interact with them, and the way we interact with them determines how they react to us and what results we get with them. When people label others as ‘toxic,’ they may disempower themselves and ...
Views: 2705 - Be a Winner of the Conflict Trifecta - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2023 from William CottringerBe a Winner of the Conflict Trifecta By Bill Cottringer Conflict is the beginning of consciousness. ~M. Esther Harding. There are three main types of conflicts—against life, between others, and within ourselves—which we all face in trying to get through life and live our own ...
Views: 414 - Be Skeptical - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Margaret MeloniBe skeptical but learn to listen. This seems like an interesting agreement to use in navigating today’s world. By agreement I mean a treaty or contract that you have made with yourself. I can’t take credit for this idea; it comes from ‘The Fifth Agreement’ by Don Miguel Ruiz and his son Don Jose ...
Views: 1481 - Birds And Bullies - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2008 from Alan SharlandConflict Resolution in the Bird World (or how to find a win/win solution with someone who seems to be a bully.) I usually spend some of the Christmas period at my parental home in Surrey, South East England. Outside the kitchen window there is a bird feeder suspended from an apple tree. One ...
Views: 1228 - Black magic and its effects - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2020 from Sri TulasiHow to Remove Black Magic? Black magic exists in different form so the remedies of black magic removal are also different. You can get the remedies from a powerful black magic specialist who will tell you under what kind of black magic you are in. Use positive energy. Using salt and ...
Views: 995 - Bring a Coffee Cake - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2008 from Judy RingerAt dinner with my friend Susan recently, I was struck by the simplicity of her conflict resolution strategy. A friend sought Susan's advice about how to approach her neighbor about a potential conflict. The neighbor was prickly and the friend uneasy, and she asked Susan to come along as support ...
Views: 1124 - Building Plastic Model Kits: Applying Decals on Armor Models - by The technique you use to apply decals to the armor model is essential. If you didn't do a good job, glitches will appear after the "weathering" process. Decals tend to adhere better on shiny surfaces compared to flat surfaces. If you apply decals directly to a flat painted model, small white air ...
Views: 151 - Bully Politicians and What We Must Learn From Them - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2016 from Janet PfeifferIf you've been following the presidential debates, you are well aware of the bullying behaviors of some of our candidates. Gone are the days when politicians debated national and global issues. Shockingly, but not surprisingly, the debates have mutated into verbal warfare against each opponent. ...
Views: 1305 - Bully Proof Your Child - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2011 from Lori Lite“More than 160,000 children skip school every day because they feel threatened by another student.” - National Association of School Psychologists The bully gains power while crushing another human being’s spirit. He or she increases his own self-value and satisfies his need to control others ...
Views: 1500 - Can Good Marriages Have Unresolved Conflicts? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2017 from Marcia Naomi BergerEven in the best marriages, not all conflicts get resolved. According to psychologist John Gottman’s research, 69 percent of problems in marriage do not get solved.[1] His good news is that in good marriages many perpetual issues that are not deal breakers can be managed. It's not the ...
Views: 1482 - Can Prayer Really Help Relationships? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2017 from Marcia Naomi BergerPersonally, I grew up with no encouragement to pray. I used to have a vague sense that prayer was for simple, naïve folks, that it was the “opiate for the masses.” So I do understand if you don’t relate to the concept. But perhaps you do. Most Americans Pray Daily. According to a Pew ...
Views: 1411 - Can You Control Everything in Your Life or Not? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Jahiel KamhiI knew him as an angry person for a long time. He used to be angry for weeks or even longer, for the sake of somebody’s behavior, or for the sake of every situation you can imagine. But, he wasn’t a bad guy. When he was angry, he wasn’t furious, aggressive, or rude, just sad and quiet, suffering ...
Views: 1539 - Casino On line Betting - Why to Pick Enjoying On the web - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2020 from kingof seoIf you appear 10 years right back from now, you would probably understand how difficult it was to manage sometime from your own active schedule to get involved with a casino in order to appreciate your games. Time has transformed and now you can primarily appreciate the exact same enjoyment and ...
Views: 902 - Challenges of Identifications - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2011 from Karen KleinwortStress is a hot topic these days, especially with the state of the economy, the rise in unemployment, and the notion our financial nest eggs are not as plush as they once were. In my recent article "Internal vs. External Stress: Can You Identify Which One?” I expressed the importance of ...
Views: 1316 - Chief Phil Lane Jr ~ "The Gift of ForGIVEness" ~ by Pat Crosby - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2011 from Pat CrosbyIn this straight forward and revealing interview, Chief Phil Lane Jr shares his heartfelt journey as he learns the powerful freedom and empowerment that comes from forgiveness. In this living oral history, Phil clearly and powerful shares his trials and tribulations and victories along the ...
Views: 1707 - Child Custody Mediation: Things to Keep in Mind - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2011 from Matthew BrickmanIn many states, a child custody mediation session must take place before any legal court documents can be drawn up outlining custody of the child and visitation rights. This is in an attempt to get everything settled legally and peacefully instead of having to go before a judge, which would take ...
Views: 3151 - Clarity Of Purpose - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2008 from Judy RingerI've been thinking a lot lately about why we fear our more serious conflict conversations, why we put them off or hold them in unconstructive ways. I had one of my own recently and was really quite uncentered for a bit, thinking about how I wanted to hold the conversation, what my positive ...
Views: 1260 - Cleansing old Drama Cycles and Entering New Ways of Thinking - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2015 from Russell DobdaInsanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. ~Albert Einstein Many of us have drama cycles that recur in our lives. It might be a situation we often find ourselves in that causes a great amount of stress or pain. It might be a particular type of person ...
Views: 2376 - Communicating with Today’s Workforce - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2020 from William CottringerCommunicating with Today’s Workforce By Bill Cottringer “The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn't being said.” ~Peter F. Drucker. In managing a wide variety of workforces for nearly six decades now—private and public settings and large and small organizations ...
Views: 1032 - Communication skills: what we should be aware of - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2020 from Wajahat Ali"Isn't the weather terrible? Isn't it shocking? God, it's a beautiful day." How many times have we heard and responded to statements like this? Well, don't hit it, as nine-tenths of people couldn't start a conversation if the weather didn't change from time to time. Communication skills trainers ...
Views: 633 - Conflict and Conflict Resolution - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2013 from Roland EvansAt some stage in almost all situations involving two or more people, there will be either explicit or covert conflict. How the participants or leader deals with this conflict has enormous importance for the future functioning of that relationship or group and its ability to function. Below are ...
Views: 838 - Conflict and Relationship Stress - Watch Out For These 7 Trouble-Makers and Save Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2008 from Elisabeth KuhnIf you've ever been in a serious, committed relationship, you know that there will be stressful moments. Whether it's "Honey, you never do the dishes!" or "Why do I always have to walk the dog?" - there's bound to be a time when the two of you don't click perfectly. Don't worry - it's natural to ...
Views: 1319 - Conflict Exploration - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2009 from Wendy McDonnellMost people dread arguments, power struggles, and the silent treatment. Exploring and resolving differences are skills as important as the 3Rs and the skills least likely to be talked about. Avoiding pain doesn’t make it go away. Instead , when we explore conflict, we paradoxically experience ...
Views: 1684 - Conflict Management - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Prof.M.S. Rao“Never look who is right and wrong. Always look what is right and wrong.” – Prof.M.S.Rao When you look at individuals there will be involvement of egos and emotions. On the contrary, when you look at the issues there will be no individual preferences and prejudices. Better judgment prevails. ...
Views: 1045 - Conflict Management: Effective Tips to Resolve Conflict - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2011 from Amanda PreshoEveryone experiences conflict in his or her life. It may come in the form of a disagreement with a spouse, co-worker, or a complete stranger. Whatever the case, as conflicts arise we must learn to resolve them effectively. This can be difficult because everyone has different ways of managing ...
Views: 1192 - Conflict Mistakes - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2008 from Judy RingerOne of the questions I receive most often from my newsletter subscribers is what do I do when I've "blown it?" As one good friend said: "I forgot all the great ways I know to address a conflict. I reprimanded an employee by basically attacking her character. I did apologize, and, thankfully, she ...
Views: 1011 - Conflict Resolution - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2008 from Roger IngbretsenI once read “Virtually every true conversation (the honest exchange of thought) can lead to conflict!” At first I took exception to this statement; however I have come to believe that the words are right on target. Carl Rogers said: "Our first reaction to most statements is an ...
Views: 1471 - Conflict Resolution 10: Arguments and Verbal Aggression - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2020 from Ian GlickmanIt may not come as much of a surprise to learn that some people enjoy arguments. They look forward to them and literally get health benefits from the experience. This is a fact. Others, however, do not like to argue. For these people, an argument is an unpleasant and unhealthy experience, one ...
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