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Love Is Forgiveness, Compassion, Submission and Respect- Avoid Uncertainty At Your Own Risk - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2008 from H. Les BrownOf all the columnists in The Washington Post, one of my favorites is Shankar Vedantam who writes "Department of Human Behavior." He's not only a good, clear writer, his research is excellent, and he has no axes to grind. He tells it like it is. In his recent column entitled "The Power of ...
Views: 784 - Coping With Financial Catastrophe - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2008 from H. Les BrownIn case you're among the .001% of the population who might not have noticed (who knows? perhaps you've been in a coma for the past six months), the world's financial institutions are in meltdown. Commentators the world over are using the term 'unprecedented' to describe what's happening. That ...
Views: 747 - When 'Bored' Is the Name of Your Game - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2008 from H. Les BrownThe French have the perfect word for it: ennui. It means 'boredom' but it also means so much more. The dictionary defines the word as meaning, "Listlessness and dissatisfaction resulting from lack of interest." I could add 'restless', 'irritable', and 'discontent.' The French term is also the ...
Views: 760 - Getting Our Anniversary All The Way To Happy - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2008 from H. Les BrownToday, my partner and I celebrate our tenth wedding anniversary (OK . . . I'll admit it: we were both late bloomers and re-treads). As usual, these annual celebrations present an opportunity to look back over the years, to see what worked well (and what worked not-so-well), to take stock of how ...
Views: 811 - The Power Of Context - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2008 from Rosslyn TaskerAt the beginning of this year I chose my context for the year as being health and well being. I chose this context because I was very tired and had been working very hard pushing myself to finish what I had started. In 2007 I had been travelling overseas for long periods to support our clients ...
Views: 763 - Midlife Is The Antidote - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2008 from H. Les BrownIn 1980, singer Grace Jones released her version of the song, "Love is the Drug" and it soon became a hit on the disco circuit. It's true: though we don't always think about it in those terms, love is a very potent drug. Who doesn't love being high on love? To be sure, though, it's not the only ...
Views: 793 - Redtube An Innovative Concept - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2008 from jan michaelsYoutube is one of the most visited web sites of all times. The concept of video sharing has developed extensively since 2005 and nowadays it is one of the most used concepts on the Internet. Uploading videos, sharing or viewing video clips allows people to interact, to communicate through their ...
Views: 7319(2 votes) - Are You Part of the Problem? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2008 from H. Les BrownIf you're in business or running a business, you're probably familiar with the classical SWOT analysis: a survey of Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities and Threats that should be used in the evaluation of any proposal for a new process or approach. If you're at all successful, you'll realize ...
Views: 785 - Does Midlife Make You a 'Lone Wolf'? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2008 from H. Les BrownOne of the five scales that sociologists use to measure cultural differences is called 'individuation', which is contrasted with 'collectivism'. The scale measures where a society falls along the continuum that represents whether the culture is more individual- or group-oriented. In case you ...
Views: 768 - When Making The Right Choice Goes Wrong - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2008 from H. Les BrownQuick: stop reading right now and write down your top three core values. Do it now! . . . How hard was that? How long did it take you? Did you have to stop and ask yourself, "What does he mean by 'core values'?" Did you have to stop and think, confused by a long list of things that seem very ...
Views: 887 - Pheromones: What Is There To Know? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2008 from Zack FairPheromones are chemicals that are released from animals and humans. These chemicals are attractants that tell other animals a wide range of things. Things such as type of animal, sex of the animal, social group that the animal belongs to and if the animal is in heat or not. These pheromones ...
Views: 1339 - Facing The Wreckage Of Midlife - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2008 from H. Les BrownAccording to the majority of the respondents on my little unscientific survey, what concerns people most about the midlife transition is facing physical deterioration and the loss of youth and beauty. Is it because looking in the mirror starts to remind you of your own mortality? Or, do you feel ...
Views: 863 - When Are You 'Over The Hill'? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2008 from H. Les BrownA little over a month ago, I had one of those 'milestone' birthdays . . . you know the kind . . . they're the ones that end in a '0'. It didn't bother me too much this time. Actually, I felt rather good about reaching that age at a time when people are saying, "You're kidding! You're that old?" ...
Views: 765 - I'm Sure I'm Terminally Unique - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2008 from H. Les Brown"I just know I'm the only one in the world who feels this way!" Somehow, the feelings of guilt over your (real or imagined) failures, the confusion and fears that haunt you over decisions (big or small), the barely-controllable urges to run away or get drunk or high or just go wild, all conspire ...
Views: 1114 - Is Marital Infidelity Genetically Determined? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2008 from H. Les BrownAccording to the news today, marital fidelity in males has a genetic component. About 40 percent of the men studied exhibited a genetic makeup that made it more difficult for them to establish intimate, long-term relationships and strong family ties. The other 60% (who lacked that particular ...
Views: 1034 - The 10 steps to be Happy NOW! - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2008 from Craig NathansonHave you been wondering if happiness is even possible? Yes, it is! Deep inside, we all want to be happy, especially in the middle part of our lives. We also seek a simple process, and a new secret to reach this lifelong goal. Well, I have a simple answer and, of course, a longer answer. The ...
Views: 938 - Can You Win The Uphill Midlife Battle? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2008 from H. Les Brown'The more things change, the more they stay the same.' Have you ever had that thought? Have you also noticed that, the harder you push to change the way things are, the less progress you seem to make? Although this experience isn't confined to guys passing through midlife (it's a common ...
Views: 875 - How Much Are You Leaving Behind? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2008 from H. Les BrownOne of the 'features' of entering into the midlife transition happens to be the dawning realization of just how tenuous our connection to this plane of existence really is. I fondly remember evenings as a student in Ottawa, Ontario spent at the Colonel Bye lounge enjoying the comedy of ...
Views: 1085 - A Message from Your Empty Nest - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2008 from H. Les BrownIf you've married, then I think it's safe to assume that, at some point in your journey, you thought you'd found the perfect partner. I don't have to be clairvoyant to say that, sooner or later along that same journey, you were disappointed. You might think that this disappointment that comes ...
Views: 791 - Over 30 Need Not Apply - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2008 from H. Les BrownKo-Ko. Are you old enough to marry, do you think? Won't you wait till you are eighty in the shade? There's a fascination frantic In a ruin that's romantic; Do you think you are sufficiently decayed? Katisha. To the matter that you mention ...
Views: 751 - The Arts Are a Waste of Time - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2008 from H. Les BrownThis is an era of ever-tightening budgets and precarious performance in students' basic skills. It's an era of 'No Child Left Behind', although very many still are. Many inner-city schools are in disrepair, school supplies are hard to come by, and teachers are generally ridiculously under-paid ...
Views: 7424 - Getting from Child-ish to Child-like - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2008 from H. Les BrownThe myth of the happy childhood hides a sad truth: that one of the principal effects of 'education' seems to be the process of 'disillusionment'. I call this process 'sad', but, in fact, it's more like 'tragic'. In early childhood, youngsters are more closely aligned with their inner destiny ...
Views: 779 - Loving The Man In The Mirror - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2008 from H. Les BrownEvery day you live, you collect stuff. Just imagine the sheer volume of information that passes into your psyche every day, from what you see, what you read, what you experience, what you think, what you do (consciously or unconsciously), and the decisions you make. Every second — awake or ...
Views: 842 - Success Is A Dead End - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2008 from H. Les Brown'Be careful what you pray for, 'cause you just might get it.' Have you ever heard that saying? In my opinion, it so perfectly describes the pitfalls of adulthood. Keep in mind that I have what I think is quite a unique definition for 'adulthood': childhood without the parental constraints. The ...
Views: 780 - Inter-Personal Inter-ruptions - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2008 from H. Les BrownDo you have a long-term primary love relationship? Can you remember that moment when your heart felt so full to bursting that you just had to volunteer, "I love you" for the first time? Can you remember the moment when s/he first said it to you? Do you remember a moment when, in front of people ...
Views: 652 - When Generations Collide - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2008 from H. Les BrownWe're quickly coming into an age when multiple generations are experiencing the midlife transition simultaneously. Perhaps we're already at that point. From my research, it's becoming clear that a far broader range of age groups self-identify as 'middle-aged': people from their mid-thirties into ...
Views: 933 - I (Dis)Honestly Love You - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2008 from H. Les BrownMy apologies to Olivia Newton-John for the parody on her hit song from the '70's, but midlife is the time when couples have been on the same merry-go-round for so long that they're getting saddle sores. Experience tells me that people go into committed relationships with every intention to make ...
Views: 822 - How to Deal with Slowin' Down - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2008 from H. Les BrownI've said this before in public, and so I might as well repeat it: I'm a huge wuss when it comes to not feeling well. I've heard women complain that men don't do sickness well, and when I hear that, I silently have to agree — at least in the case of this one man. My mind generally travels ...
Views: 660 - How Deep Will Your Midlife Crisis Go? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2008 from H. Les BrownI was determined not to have a midlife crisis. I had one. The scary part of it all was that the results lasted over a period of about 20 years. By 'results', I mean there were unresolved issues that hung on for that length of time. That's one of the most uncomfortable aspects of a midlife ...
Views: 984 - What If I Get Sick? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2008 from H. Les BrownThis is my first day back in my home office since I left on my Vancouver trip last week. In the meantime, something unpleasant happened to me: some kind of nasty, lingering stomach virus that has left me wanting to do nothing more than just sleep. Getting sick is one of life's most unpleasant ...
Views: 667 - What Will Your Transition Cost? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2008 from H. Les BrownOn paper, it seems obvious that people should plan for a major shift in perspective that should occur just about the time they settle in to their relationships, their careers and their sense of personal achievement and well=being. That's all very fine to speculate about before the fact. Yet, a ...
Views: 752 - You're 50: Show Your Purpose And Passion! - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2008 from Craig NathansonGo against the grain! When you arrive at 50, those around you will expect you to slow down and retire. They will ask what you are planning to do when you stop working. The marketing messages you see are pushing youth and beauty and the pursuit of material goods. You suddenly realize you ...
Views: 849 - Climbing Out Of The Fog - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2008 from H. Les BrownIt’s impossible to plan for or even prepare for the midlife transition without doing some serious self-work. You can’t very well establish a path and direction for yourself without having at least a vague idea of where you are and where you want to go. You’ll find it even more ...
Views: 798 - More Than Muddling Through - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2008 from H. Les BrownUnpleasant surprises don't necessarily have to be a necessary part of the process of midlife transition. 'Shock and awe' may have have some usefulness in military operations, but they clearly don't belong in a well-managed life. Although it's impossible to predict all the eventualities of ...
Views: 768 - Survival Techniques - Observations About Human Nature - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2008 from * BeiYin - The People Whisperer*Emotional reaction as daily reality The surprising fact is, that even a person can have the knowledge and a lot of insights, at the same time reacts and is been drawn into ones emotional reactions like a 5 years old child ...
Views: 2689(1 vote) - I Got An Unmerited Gift. Interested In One Too? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2008 from Keith BrayBy definition, unmerited means undeserved, and the gift I was given, the gift of life recovery-was seemingly undeserved. Why me? The question has no answer that I understand. For a long period of time, my life was in decline, some periods slow, some much more rapid and obvious to others. I was ...
Views: 972 - 2006 - Your Year Of Fulfillment - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2008 from Warren RedmanI wish you all the fulfillment that you desire in this new year of 2006. Before we get into too much of this year, and perhaps even before any resolutions have already been washed away in the tide of duties and responsibilities and all the flotsam of life, I invite you to take a moment and think ...
Views: 796 - Random Acts Of Peace - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2008 from Warren RedmanThe forces of nature have caused immense destruction over the past twelve months. A tsunami devastated huge parts of S.E. Asia; hurricanes and subsequent floods inundated New Orleans, and most recently an earthquake wrecked people’s lives in Pakistan. We may look for meaning in such events or ...
Views: 765 - Catch A Falling Leaf - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2008 from Warren RedmanHave you ever tried catching an autumn leaf as it falls from the tree? It’s something I like to do each year. Imagine – a 65 year old man, a serious author, psychotherapist and coach, running around like a five-year-old trying to catch one elusive, capricious leaf as it sails unpredictably ...
Views: 4452 - Some Retirement! - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2008 from Warren RedmanAs you read this I will be miles away from home, enjoying a reunion with my daughter and family and friends in England, after which Nicole and I will be flying to Rome and spending twelve days cruising in the Mediterranean. This is not meant to make you envious. The trip is my retirement. After ...
Views: 731 - The Acorn And The Oak Tree - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2008 from Warren RedmanNow that summer – in the Northern hemisphere anyway – is truly here, it’s harder to stick to writing at my computer. With a new book in the works I content myself with gazing wistfully out of the window and, when the urge takes me, simply stop mid-sentence and wander out into the garden for ...
Views: 1923 - Equilibrium June 2005, A Summer Special - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2008 from Warren RedmanThis month I am making a special offer, in preparation for the launch of three new projects that will be coming on track over the next few months. The first project is the publication of my next book, title under wraps so far (until I decide what it is!). The theme of the book is recipes for ...
Views: 722 - The Joy Of Listening - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2008 from Warren RedmanOne of the joys and privileges of being an Emotional Fitness Coach and teaching Emotional Fitness courses is that I get to hear the inner thoughts and experiences of others. Now don’t get me wrong. It’s not that I want to spy on other people’s lives; it’s that as I hear their stories two things ...
Views: 770 - Spring Into Spring - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2008 from Warren RedmanAs Spring bursts into being, new things emerge. I always found it hard to understand why January would be the start of a New Year, when April makes so much more sense – in the Northern Hemisphere anyway. Newness in the plant and animal world is all around us and that newness is so often mirrored ...
Views: 843 - Equilibrium February 2005 - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2008 from Warren RedmanAlready a month into 2005 – and what has the year brought so far? A sociologist in Britain has observed that January 24th is “the worst day of the year” – presumably in the Northern hemisphere. The excitement of Christmas and anticipation of the New Year has worn off, credit card bills have ...
Views: 771 - Equilibrium January 2005 - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2008 from Warren RedmanIf we did not fully understand the connectedness that we have to each other and to the earth, the effect of the tsunamis on millions of people in eleven countries bordering the Indian Ocean has demonstrated that connectedness. Who has not been touched in some way by this disaster? At a very ...
Views: 814 - Equilibrium December 2004 - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2008 from Warren RedmanThe invitations have started arriving, the lights are going up, the stores are playing Christmas music and people appear to be bracing themselves for family reunions. There is an air of unreality about all this: a case of people seeming to try too hard, of going through the motions without ...
Views: 741 - "What You Don't Know..." - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2008 from Hal Wechsler“What You Don’t Know, Can Kill You?” Most of us secretly subscribe to the philosophy, “what-you-don’t know, can’t hurt you.” Come on, admit it, reading or hearing about sickness and dying makes us antsy and queasy, so we change the channel or delete the ...
Views: 878 - Whys And Ways To Meditate - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2008 from Sandra KovacsMeditating can be like cleaning the house. Everything is in place, looks okay, just needs a little dusting, right? As soon as you start vacuuming behind the furniture and redoing the bookcases and washing the windows, the place is a mess. When you are cleaning your spiritual house you may ...
Views: 1452 - Recipes For Inner Peace; Storytelling - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2008 from Warren RedmanStorytelling is a uniquely human trait. It’s how we learn about our world and ourselves, and how we pass on to others the lessons of what we have discovered. In Recipes for Inner Peace, Jenny’s coach Nicolas asks her to write two stories. The first is the story of an object that Nicolas brings ...
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