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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Alone During the Holidays? Take the Time to Heal Yourself and Become Able to Develop a Successful Relationship Next Year - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2011 from Doron GilIt always amazes me to see the ways in which people attempt to ensure they have someone to spend the holidays with. Some SINGLES vehemently look for a partner right before the holidays in order to escape being alone while “everybody else is with loved ones”. Those in a RELATIONSHIP often ...
Views: 1356(1 vote) - An Odyssey from Resentment to Forgiveness - by Submitted on May 27, 2014 from Janbreathe@aol.com Janbreathe@aol.comResentment is like quicksand…it really sucks! It pulls us in and holds us down, and we become stuck in our own self-imposed suffering. Forgiveness offers freedom from that suffering, but getting to forgiveness can sometimes feel like an arduous odyssey. Our defensive egos hang onto wrongs with ...
Views: 1529(1 vote) - ANGER and our DARK SIDE ~ Do Not Fear It ~ Embrace It - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachAnger and Our Dark Side ~ A force to be Reckoned With In my first book, Lessons for an Urban Goddess, I describe the importance of being in touch with both the light and dark sides of our nature. In order to live your life authentically and mindfully, it is imperative to regulate the ...
Views: 2211(1 vote) - Anger Management in couples and family Relationships: the killer in relationship is helplessness expressed as aggression! - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2011 from amreeta chapmanAnger is normal and a very healthy way to say that we are hurt or frustrated; Anger in itself is felt when we feel brushed off, not listened to or made fun of ect…. But anger becomes a major problem in the way it is expressed. As a Counsellor/Psychologist I work with anger issues, aggressive ...
Views: 2090(1 vote) - Anyone else out there hiding your bisexual side from your wife or husband? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2017 from Jessica LawHave you ever want to hide your bisexual side from your wife or husband? Frank or not. If you are looking for bisexual partner, do you want to your wife or husband join you? Do you agree with 3 is better than 2? 1.Completely hide their bisexual side, this kind of person is not a lot. Along ...
Views: 1296(1 vote) - Are You a Perfectionist or Someone Who Values Doing Things Well? - by Submitted on May 29, 2012 from Karla DowningAre you wondering if you are a perfectionist or just someone who values doing things well? Answer the following seven questions: When you fail or fall short of your expectations, do you: Beat yourself up in your mind with negative self-talk? People who value doing the best they can ...
Views: 1749(1 vote) - Are you being treated badly, maybe at work? - by Submitted on May 13, 2011 from Piercarla GarusiThen you might need to try the metaphysical way. When something happens, when somebody, maybe a colleague, treats us badly, perhaps they criticize us, bully us, put us down, humiliate us or try to manipulate us, the first reaction is to feel hurt or get angry: why did they do that to us? Or ...
Views: 3413(1 vote) - ARE YOU DEALING WITH A NARCISSIST? RED FLAGS & HOW TO COPE... - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachAre you dealing with a Narcissist? RED FLAGS & HOW TO COPE From the books: The Urban Goddess Lesson~How to Spot the Bad Boys and Lessons for an Urban Goddess Are you dealing with a true Narcissist? If you believe that you may have a Narcissist in your life, there are specific traits ...
Views: 2170(1 vote) - Are You Feeding Narcissistic Supply? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2021 from Darlene LancerNarcissists hunger to have their needs met. If you’re in a close relationship with a narcissist, they expect you to supply them. The term “narcissistic supply” is based on the psychoanalytic theory that concerns essential needs of babies and toddlers to maintain their mental and emotional ...
Views: 840(2 votes) - Are You in a Relationship or Partnership? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2019 from Tanisha Snipes-DixonRelationships can develop through friends, family, neighbors, co-workers and the people we interact with every day. Relationships are built over time, as well as trust, and the commitment placed into them. Relationships are not permanent. They can end at any time for no reason at all. They hold ...
Views: 618(1 vote) - Are Your Mental Models Getting In The Way of Improving Your Marriage? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2015 from Ana LoiselleAs the saying goes, I suppose it is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail. The same reasoning applies when you're approaching your marriage problems. We all have mental models that help us make sense of the world we see. A "mental model" is ...
Views: 1200(2 votes) - Are Your Partner's Tweets and Facebook Posts Making You Crazy?: Tips to Help with Social Networking-Induced Jealousy - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2010 from Susie and Otto CollinsJanelle is having a difficult time knowing what she can believe lately. She is well aware that her boyfriend, Paul, is a very social guy. He was popular in high school and college and now he is still a favorite among his co-workers. Paul stays in touch with a lot of people from his past ...
Views: 2711(1 vote) - Ask Right and You May Receive - by Whether in an intimate or another kind of a relationship, how easily do you get what you ask for? And, how easily do you ask for what you want or need?
Many people are frustrated in all sorts of relationships, seemingly unable to get what they need or want. Sometimes not getting what you want ...
Views: 997(1 vote) - Authentic Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2008 from Medea Bavarella ChechikI was out for dinner with a friend a while ago and she asked me several interesting questions: • “Why are relationships one of the most difficult experience there is?” • “Why do we have such deep, innate desire to seek romantic relationships or loving ...
Views: 1627(1 vote) - Become Irresistible! - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciI have noticed that when we have the foot to the pedal, we are moving so fast that we actually miss the beautiful scenery around us. We go about life trying to get things accomplished to such an extent that we burn ourselves out and end up actually accomplishing less... So, what's the point? ...
Views: 1876(1 vote) - Being Friends AND Lovers: Is it Possible? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2012 from Daniela RoherSome people feel very strongly that a person cannot be both a friend and a lover, as one will undermine the other. It’s one or the other, these people say, and cite the importance of mystery and the excitement of the new and the exotic as powerful forces that fuel sexual passion and physical ...
Views: 1941(1 vote) - Best Methods To Get Out Of The Friend Zone - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2013 from Alvin ChuaIf you think you are headed towards the friend zone with the girl you like, the following are three easy strategies you can use immediately to throw her off before she does it. Time is very important, because you know as well as I do, that the moment a girl categorizes you as her friend, it ...
Views: 1205(1 vote) - Bet You Don't Know How To Apologize - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2016 from Tina TessinaAre you and your partner having a tough time getting over an argument? Here are some tips to help. 1. Surrender to your responsibility. When you become aware that you have made a mistake, admit it and apologize. Use it as an opportunity to learn and grow. You don’t have to be afraid of ...
Views: 1813(1 vote) - BEWARE OF THE DARK TRIAD - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2018 from Darlene LancerThink of the Dark Triad of Narcissism, Psychopathy, and Machiavellianism as the Bermuda Triangle – it’s perilous to get near it! The traits of all three often overlap and create personality profiles that are damaging and toxic, especially when it comes to intimate relationships, where we let our ...
Views: 1342(2 votes) - BiPeopleOnline: Coming Out As Bisexual - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2017 from Jessica LawAlthough the bisexual people accepted by more and more people. But there are still more and more bisexual people don't want to come out as bisexual. No matter what you are, just be yourself, it's important. 1.Not Confused Maybe you are confused by your sexuality, May be you don't know ...
Views: 1137(1 vote) - Bisexuals Friends, We are here and we are visible. - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2018 from Anna GreenI’m tired of the argument that LGBT or queer people can’t exist or aren’t natural, because it wouldn’t make sense with evolution. I lived my life according to others’ opinions of what I should do and who I should be.Obviously, my point of view does not represent everyone's point of view， ...
Views: 1144(1 vote) - Borderline Personality Disorder, Relationships, and Healing - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Dr. Parul PatelWhat is Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) Described as emotional dysregulation, BPD entails a long-term behavior pattern starting at adolescence or young adulthood. BPD is defined by the inability to regulate emotions that manifest in self-image, interpersonally in relationships, ...
Views: 1455(3 votes) - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Lose Themselves Around Others? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are able to maintain their sense of self when they are around others, there are going to be other people who are unable to do so. However, even though this is what is taking place, it doesn’t mean that someone realises what is happening. Part of Life For example, if ...
Views: 1646(1 vote) - Boundaries: Do People Need To Have Good Boundaries When They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people have boundaries, there are others who don’t have them, and this is going to cause them to experience life differently. However, although one doesn’t have them, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they can simply carry on with their life and continue to put ...
Views: 1540(1 vote) - Breaking Free from Love Addiction - by Submitted on May 09, 2013 from Jim HallLove Addiction can be loosely defined as a dysfunctional relationship between two people in which one person strives, almost compulsively, to 'fix' the other person. A characteristic behavior in Love Addiction is enabling, in which the love addict ignores problem behavior in the other person ...
Views: 1812(1 vote) - Breaking the Cycle of Unfulfilling Relationships, an excerpt from How to Create a Magical Relationship, The Three Simple Ideas T - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneIf you want to create a working, supportive relationship with another, it is imperative that you be willing to be complete in the relationship you have with your parents. The dictionary defines complete as "lacking no component part; full; whole; entire." But what does being incomplete with your ...
Views: 2480(7 votes) - Bringing out the best - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Glenda GibbsBringing out the best Ponderings... by Glenda Gibbs Several years ago I was working with a couple who were deciding whether they wanted to continue their marriage or bring it to an end; they chose the latter. Both were concerned about the family gossip. They didn’t want to feed it so what ...
Views: 1864(1 vote) - Build a Healthy & Exciting Love Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2010 from Donna MartinA strong and healthy relationship can be one of the best supports in your life. Good relationships improve the people’s life in all aspects, strengthening their health, their mind and their connections with others as well. However, it can also be one of the greatest drains if the ...
Views: 1324(2 votes) - Building A Flawless Character - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2012 from Rick Gettle“Building A Flawless Character – By Rick Gettle Book Excerpt From: “Successercising – Successful Living Courses Series” Course #2 What you are speaks so loud that I can’t hear what you are saying. Some of The Major Destroyers of Your Character • Fear -- All Fears, Including Poverty, ...
Views: 1825(1 vote) - burn the seeds of violence, not qurans - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2010 from Melanie McGheeListening to the news this morning, I found myself feeling both saddened and angry at some minister I don't even know. He intends to burn the Quran, despite General Petreus' concern that such action will put U.S. troops in danger, despite Secretary Clinton's admonitions, despite the fact that ...
Views: 1325(1 vote) - But, What About Next Month? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2011 from Joan ChamberlainA Deeper Look at Money Issues in Relationships… Nick and Ashley weren’t talking to each other when I came into the room. That’s never a good sign. But, I was hopeful that they’d be talking by the time we were finished. Money was our topic (the content) but what we spent most of our ...
Views: 1450(1 vote) - Can a Narcissist Benefit from Psychotherapy? - by Submitted on May 29, 2019 from Darlene LancerMany people ask whether narcissists can change or benefit from therapy. Because narcissists see the cause of their problems as external due to their defenses of denial, distortion, and projection, their ability to look at themselves introspectively is limited. Thus, they don’t often come to ...
Views: 1062(3 votes) - Can I Trust a Man Who Cheated on me But Promises Not To Do It Again? by Beth Shepherd Psychic - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2020 from Pearls of WisdomCan I Trust a Man Who Cheated on me But Promises Not To Do It Again? by Beth Shepherd the psychic. A case study. Names etc changed. My boyfriend Jeff has been dating me for six years, we got on great until a few months ago I found a note in his pocket from another woman with her name and ...
Views: 792(1 vote) - Can Involving a 3rd Party Really Help a Deteriorating Relationship? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2012 from Clif KEveryone experiences ups and downs in relationships. It is normal for there to be rough patches and little problems in every relationship. Most people manage to get through them by talking it through with their partner (or family member, friend, etc.) and coming to a solution. Sometimes the ...
Views: 2240(1 vote) - Can One Spouse Save A Marriage? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2011 from Joe BeamType the question into Google and in less than a quarter of a second it returns over two million links. Some lead to articles, others to "sure fire" products that promise to solve all marriage problems, and others to blogs that say one can and blogs that say one cannot. Employing the ...
Views: 3853(1 vote) - Can rejection actually be a good thing? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltNone of us are immune to rejection. It doesn’t matter where you are in life, and whether it’s ending a marriage or breaking up with a partner. Even the strongest of us can’t help but feel like we did something wrong when the person we loved and cared about and spent our lives with as a ...
Views: 1235(1 vote) - Can The Feeling Of Guilt Destroy Your Relationship? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2018 from Kalyna KapurWhen the mind allows guilt to take over, it will tear down relationships, especially if the partner fails to come to terms and agreement with self. To determine if your mind is full of guilt you must ask yourself questions. What did you do so wrong that would offend your partner that cannot be ...
Views: 501(1 vote) - Can This Relationship Be Helped? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2005 from Margaret PaulI have been counseling couples for 35 years. Quite often individuals come in for help wondering if it is really possible to save or improve their relationship. Perhaps their partner is totally uninterested in working on the relationship. Perhaps their partner is an alcoholic or drug addict. What ...
Views: 2576(1 vote) - Can You Make Love Find You? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2015 from Stefan DeutschBy learning each of the 13 Commandments of Love you will experience love finding you. 1ST COMMANDMENT OF LOVE Human beings are trained to become self-sufficient in acquiring the life-sustaining energies in air, food and water. From the bottle, to learning to use a knife and a fork, to ...
Views: 911(1 vote) - Cancel These Three Painful Relationship Patterns Before They Get Started - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2019 from Guy FinleyOften when someone feels wronged by their partner they demand “payment” for the pain they feel unjustly inflicted upon them. History proves they will argue until this well-established pattern completes itself, one way or another. At some point, unable to resolve who’s to blame for the pain, one ...
Views: 909(1 vote) - Changing Words To Change Events Does Not Work - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from David SamuelThe past years have taken a trend in the concept that by changing the words, we can actually change the situation. This is clearly impossible, but yet it does work. I would like to explore how the impossible works. If there is a problem, no matter what you call it, or even if you ignore it, ...
Views: 1274(1 vote) - Choosing a house or a flat with Feng Shui….Part 3 - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2011 from Laurent LanglaisHere is the third part of this series on what you should be aware of when choosing a property. We have already talked about the importance of the surroundings, the entrance and the main door. All those points are very important to assert the right type of Chi you and your family need. Let ...
Views: 3782(1 vote) - Cinderella - What a Story! - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Todd PuntolilloCinderella - What a Story! I used to be a rescuer. I would find a damsel in distress and save her. That made me a hero, didn’t it? You’d think so. But, after a little counseling for a broken heart and lost marriage, I could see clearer and got the picture. It seems that the rescue mission is ...
Views: 2322(1 vote) - Clearing Up Those 'Blurred Lines' - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2014 from Dr. Elsbeth Meuth, EdD & Freddy Zental Weaver"I hate these blurred lines." Robin Thicke certainly gets this point across in his new hit song, appropriately titled, "Blurred Lines." The song has been quite the rage since its July 30th debut and quickly climbed the charts to #1 within its first week. But once people started dancing, the ...
Views: 2195(1 vote) - Codependency and #MeToo: A Brief History of Abuse - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownOur History When we look at the history of women as it relates to men, we see that it has only been in the last 100 years that we were given rights. Before we had rights, women and children were the property of men. Men could do with us whatever they pleased, whenever they pleased. This ...
Views: 1379(1 vote) - Codependency and #MeToo: A New Way Forward - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownRecap So, to recap Part One, we discussed our history as women as it relates to our relationship with men and how up until the middle to late 20th century we didn’t have laws to protect us from abuses. Women, along with children, were property of men. Men could abuse us with no consequences. We ...
Views: 1390(1 vote) - Codependency is based on Fake Facts - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2017 from Darlene LancerCodependency is based on a lie. Its symptoms develop to cope with the deep, but false and painful belief – that “I’m not worthy of love and respect.” In the chart to the left, core symptoms of codependency are in red, but nearly all the symptoms revolve around shame – the shame that accompanies ...
Views: 2186(1 vote) - Codependent Relationships: Takers and Caretakers - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2005 from Margaret PaulTakers and caretakers – they often seem to find each other! As a counselor who has worked with relationships for 37 years, I can tell you that this is the most frequent relationship dynamic that I encounter. Takers are people who tend to be narcissistic – that is, they are ...
Views: 3420(1 vote) - Colleges Must Improve Self-Defense Courses for Women - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2011 from Teagin Maddox,Many colleges offer self defense courses, especially for incoming freshmen, preparing young women with certain skills in physical self defense in case they are ever attacked. This is comforting to parents, but the reality is, their daughters are more likely to be mentally and emotionally ...
Views: 1935(2 votes) - Common Mistakes to Avoid When You Wish to Get Girlfriend Back - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2011 from robin brainMany lovers wish to get girlfriend back with whom they had a breakup either recently or sometimes ago. However, in their anxiety to get back the ex fast, they commit some common mistakes. An aspirant would benefit immensely by learning the common mistakes that are committed and should be avoided ...
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