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- Once They're Willing to Listen, They're only Informed About It. Part 2 of the 5 Steps to Mastery - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYou've seen that the first step to mastery is to be willing to listen to the information. Without taking advantage of other people's expertise, you would have to rediscover their insights for yourself. Education is one of the secrets of success, it can be seen as the process of listening and ...
Views: 1487(1 vote) - Is Your Relationship on Life Support? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2012 from Linda SapadinIf your relationship is on life support, it’s time for serious remediation. Here are two “must-do” assignments for you. 1. Stop the Zero Sum Game. Start a Team Effort A zero sum game is a game where there’s a winner and a loser. It’s a great model for competitive sports but a miserable ...
Views: 1977 - Are They Even Listening? Part 1 of the 5 Steps to Mastery - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerDinner with a New Date Without being too obvious, I'd successfully checked out my suspicions. My brand new strategy had worked and my inner smile was vast! I was enjoying dinner with a new date and she seemed to be listening politely. But was she more interested in talking rather than ...
Views: 1512(2 votes) - Don’t ever forget to give thanks ever! Mike Ghouse shares his tips for giving thanks - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2012 from Susan (Teacher Su) McKenzieThere is a great power in giving thanks and Mike's tips are guaranteed to lift the spirits. Balancing Act The expression of gratitude is the ultimate balancing act in everyone’s life. We know whom we receive the good from and we offer our gratitude. Harmony The absence of a simple thank ...
Views: 1463 - How to build your Dream House. Part 4 in the Achievement series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYou're successful, you've worked long and hard to achieve your dreams. Money is no object, there's now more than enough to purchase more or less anything you want. You and your partner are enjoying a romantic dinner one evening and she suggests you should now build your dream house. She ...
Views: 1568(3 votes) - Embrace the Change, Realize its Tremendous Value! Part 3 in the Achievement series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerEmbracing change can be difficult. Along with everyone else, you like being right and you think that change means you must have been wrong. Are You Wrong? But is this true? Are the only choices right and wrong? What is an improvement, becoming more right? Recognize the secret of success - ...
Views: 1066(1 vote) - Divine Signals - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2012 from Joe VitaleBefore a recent massage session, my massage therapist (Mary Rose Lam) told me how she made a horrible mess that morning. She accidentally spilled her blueberry smoothie all over her gray carpet. That left a big green stain. She was frustrated but told the story with a smile. I hadn't been ...
Views: 1630(1 vote) - The Secrets to Becoming More Effective. Part 2 in the Achievement series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerWhat is the Goal? How effective are you in reaching your goals? If you're not as effective as you'd like to be, these life strategies are for you. Have you decided what your goals and dreams are, how will their achievement look to you? If you haven't decided on your goal, how can you ...
Views: 1394(1 vote) - Three Essential Steps to Achieve your Goal. Do You Use Them All? Part 1 in the Achievement series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThere's joy in having what you want in life. But there are three essential steps to achieving what you want. Do you know and follow them all? Don't let Know Where become Nowhere One of the most important is to know where you're going. If you don't know where you're going, then any road will ...
Views: 1585(1 vote) - In Business and In Life, Trust Your Intuition - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2012 from Jay RifenbaryYou’ve likely had numerous occasions in life where you had to make a major decision regarding careers, relationships, residences, investments, family, children, and other realms of life responsibilities that have significantly impacted your happiness, fulfillment, and contentment. What are the ...
Views: 3277 - Can You Both Be Right? How? Part 2 in the Disagreements series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYou disagree. Yet this exploration has found that there's nothing wrong in disagreeing with others, disagreement is entirely natural as well as very common. Although disagreements may be inevitable, understanding that they are not inherently irresolvable will change your life. The good news is ...
Views: 1557(2 votes) - You're Wrong is *Not* the Secret of Success. Part 1 in the Disagreements series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerDo you disagree with other people much of the time? This is not to ask if you're generally disagreeable, that's a separate question for some other point in time. The Negativity of Disagreements Whenever you find yourself disagreeing with what someone else is saying, or with one of their ...
Views: 1297(2 votes) - Retrieving Happy Memories - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2012 from Amy TorresWhen I started seeing a psychotherapist at the age of 37, I felt as if I had no happy memories. Without going into my family history, suffice it to say that my heart had been so scared, and occasionally angry, that there was no room for softer feelings. I was like an emotional quadriplegic, ...
Views: 2320(2 votes) - Make Up your Own Mind - Become a Skeptic. Part 6 in the Approach to Life series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYour Approach to Life But what's the alternative to being gullible or being cynical? Ask yourself if an idea, or their suggestions, are plausible. Become a skeptic, be skeptical! There's a lot of misunderstanding about skeptics and cynics. Although many don't comprehend the difference, they ...
Views: 1438(1 vote) - The Gullible are Positive, but Can Be Deceived. Part 5 in the Approach to Life series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerIf the cynical stance is not the best approach to life, then does being gullible give better results? Being gullible is the complete opposite of cynicism. Here you're very positive about what might happen in the future. You may not know much if anything about it, but you subscribe to the view ...
Views: 1505(1 vote) - The Drawbacks to Being Cynical. Part 4 in the Approach to Life series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerIs being cynical the best approach to life? Does it beat being either skeptical or gullible? Being cynical is a very negative way to approach your life. A cynic focuses on the problems rather than the benefits, sees what could go wrong and says no. He tends to reject things and experiences he ...
Views: 1907(1 vote) - Is Their Approach Viable? Do They Make Sense or No Sense? Part 3 in the Approach to Life series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerAre you cautious about what other people want you to believe, do you take what they say with a large pinch of salt? The secret of success is to check out its viability, explore their motivation, and wonder if they're trying to mislead you before making up your mind. If it sounds too good to be ...
Views: 1546(1 vote) - Do You Check Out What They Say? How do You Decide? Part 2 in the Approach to Life series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerHow do you Make Up your Mind? How do you make up your mind? Do you think things though for yourself? Or do you look at the person suggesting an idea, and ask yourself how well-known or how famous they are? Do you assume that their success in acting, or singing, or whatever makes them an instant ...
Views: 1539(1 vote) - Should English-speaking Muslims lace their language with Arabic terms when others do not understand? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2012 from Susan (Teacher Su) McKenzieSloppy Speech? Rehana Matri sparked a response when she expressed: I wish Muslims would stop speaking English sprinkled with Arabic terminology because every word that is in Arabic can also be said in English. Why this mix of language, it does not help anyone who is not learned in the Arabic ...
Views: 2145 - How do You Make Up your Mind? Part 1 in the Approach to Life series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYour Approach to Life What's your approach to life? Do you first ensure that something is plausible? Are you generally gullible, cynical or skeptical? You can be gullible, say yes and accept something without question. You can be cynical, say no and reject it without checking it out. Or you ...
Views: 1587(1 vote) - Everyone Wins when you Follow these Two Strategies. Part 5 in the Bad Mood series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYet more strategies to improve your state and overcome a bad mood. Inspire a Good Mood in Another It only takes one person to initiate a bad mood which can then affect everyone around them. A single determined person may also inspire a good mood in others. You can change your life by ...
Views: 1544(1 vote) - Time-proven Easy Strategies to Improve Your Mood. Part 4 in the Bad Mood series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerWhat gives you joy? How do you take your attention away from feeling unhappy? What do you enjoy doing? Which activities give you a rush, or maybe even just get you to smile inside? When you have an urgent need to get out of a bad mood, how do you stop your self sabotage? Anything which works ...
Views: 1470(1 vote) - The Value of Being Positive. Part 3 in the Bad Mood Strategies series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerWhy Make the Effort? Why spend the time to come up with bad mood strategies to get yourself into a good mood in the first place? You're busy doing what you're doing and such pre-emptive planning can take a significant amount of time and energy. The answer is very simple: It's far more fun ...
Views: 1420(1 vote) - Leaders Have Fun! - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2012 from Vernon MyersLeaders must lead the way in all things, including having fun – the energy and enthusiasm generated by the leader will have an immediate impact on the organization. Employees look to their leaders for cues on “how” to act. If the boss is having fun, employees will pick up the vibe and have fun ...
Views: 1482 - The Secret to Improving your State. Part 2 in the Bad Mood series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerIf money or your economic circumstances are getting you down, then start by realizing that, in Dan Hannan's succinct phrase: You cannot spend your way out of recession or borrow your way out of debt.* This applies to governments just as it does to companies and individuals. Of course, ...
Views: 1474(2 votes) - Feeling Down? What to Do to Control your Mood. Part 1 in the Bad Mood series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerDo you have complete control over your mood? You like to think you're a positive person, yet some days do you find that you're just in a bad mood? My mother used to call this getting out of bed on the wrong side. Now I don't know that the side of the bed has anything to do with it, but bad ...
Views: 1515(1 vote) - Inspiring Examples to Motivate You. Part 3 in the Portia Nelson series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThe previous articles in this series explained how Portia Nelson's awesome poem, Autobiography in Five Short Chapters, identifies some of the difficulties in overcoming challenges in life, which she calls holes in the sidewalk. Illustrations can be very helpful, so let's look at some conduct ...
Views: 1459(2 votes) - If it Isn't Your Fault, Why are You in the Hole? Part 2 in the Portia Nelson series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThe first article explained how Portia Nelson's outstanding poem, Autobiography in Five Short Chapters, identifies some of the difficulties to overcoming challenges in life, which she calls holes in the sidewalk. Each situation you encounter can help you gain the inner power to overcome ...
Views: 1384(2 votes) - There's a Hole in my Sidewalk. Part 1 in the Portia Nelson series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerPortia Nelson is an amazing woman; a singer, songwriter, actress, and author who passed on in 2001. Her brilliant poem entitled: Autobiography in Five Short Chapters, is published in her book: There's a Hole in My Sidewalk. Copyright © 1993 Portia Nelson, Beyond Words Publishing, Hillsboro, OR, ...
Views: 8219(1 vote) - Discover the Satisfaction of Seeing How It All Fits Together. Part 7 in the Personal Power series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThe effort you put into overcoming your self sabotage increases your personal power. If you allow the self sabotage mechanism to win, you feed it - which improves its inner strength and decreases yours. So whenever you just know you should do something, that's a great opportunity to increase ...
Views: 1561(1 vote) - Don't just Agree, Make Sure You Understand. Part 6 in the Personal Power series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThis Personal Power series has explored some crucial distinctions. You've seen how personal power grows rather than being increased from outside. That gaining experience is a big secret of success. Just knowing about something won't change your life. The lasting benefit you gain by investing ...
Views: 1519(1 vote) - Conventional and Authentic Knowledge, the Powerful Difference. Part 5 in the Personal Power series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerConventional Knowledge The previous articles in this Personal Power series discussed some differences between the logic of the outer world and the intuition of the inner world. You've seen how something can be both right as well as wrong, rather than either right or wrong. This resembles the ...
Views: 1617(1 vote) - Your Inner World is Very Different. Part 4 in the Personal Power series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerBe Logical Our society teaches that it's right to be logical and, when dealing with the outside world, being logical is indeed very valuable. There's always at least one opposite, and logic deals very well with the opposite. You can change your life by investigating the possibilities and ...
Views: 1415(2 votes) - Truth, the Source of Inner Power. Part 3 in the Personal Power series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerIf you are following this Personal Power series, and have experienced the increase in inner power possible, then you've already seen the big advantage of changing your perspective. Recognize the Source of Personal Power When you come across a fundamental truth, something within you ...
Views: 1453(1 vote) - The Key to Improving Your Results is to Become More Powerful. Part 2 in the Personal Power series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThis Personal Power series started by simplifying the complexity of life and seeing that there's no free lunch. Just as you don't benefit by delegating your exercise, you can't change your life by delegating your thinking. Personal power is crucial, it enables you to produce desirable results ...
Views: 1264(1 vote) - Letting a Property and Finding the Right Tenant - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2012 from Mike SmithLetting a Property and Finding the Right Tenant Finding the right tenants to rent to can be a time consuming and more often than not a very daunting task, even to most seasoned of landlords. Becoming a landlord doesn’t have to be scary or intimidating as long as you do your research first ...
Views: 800 - You can't Delegate your Workout, nor Delegate your Thinking! Part 1 in the Personal Power series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerLife is difficult. What an awesome start to psychiatrist Dr. Scott Peck's seminal book, The Road Less Travelled. So Much to Learn! Life is also complex, so much to learn and so many rules to follow. There are so many laws and regulations on the books in America it's been said that, reading ...
Views: 1345(1 vote) - Seeing sense, the feeling of satisfaction once you appreciate how it all fits together - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYou can See Sense Once you realize how something fits together and makes sense, you say you see sense. And you actually do, you get the picture. You know it stands to reason since it has the ring of truth. When you get the picture, your context suddenly expands and that enlarged knowing ...
Views: 1550(1 vote) - Leaders Anticipate Change, Prepare For Change, and Lead Change - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2012 from Vernon MyersWhat is change? Put simply, change is an effort to improve an organization in some way. This change could take the form of new processes and procedures, upgrades to a new system, changes to the organizational structure, or changes to roles and responsibilities. Leaders understand that the ...
Views: 3739(2 votes) - Leaders Play the Hand That They Are Dealt - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2012 from Vernon MyersIn a card game, the dealer shuffles a deck of cards and deals a card out to each player. The players don’t know what cards they have until they pick up their cards and turn each card over to assess its value. Just like card players, oftentimes, leaders don’t know what resources they have ...
Views: 1380 - If Only is a Very Common Thought - Does It Do any Good? Part 3 in the Inner Motivation series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerAs you saw previously in this Inner Motivation series, everybody has both a negative and a positive side to their character. The Cherokee Indians say you have a black wolf strenuously promoting the negative, and your white wolf gently advocating the positive. Following the black wolf has arduous ...
Views: 1403(2 votes) - Why and How self-hypnosis can Help us Achieve Goals? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2012 from Kemila ZsangeAre you an avid goal setter? What do they do? You set long-term and short-term goals, and you go about to do things and make the goals happen, right? Right. Now that life is so simple. What’s left for us to do? More goals? Or nothing else to do? How about we practice meditation? Now go ahead ...
Views: 1656(1 vote) - Inspiration and the Origin of Negative Consequences. Part 2 in the Inner Motivation series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThe Cherokee Indians say that everybody is internally motivated, as you saw in part one of this Inner Motivation series. They know that, along with everybody else, you have both a white wolf and a negative black wolf to provide internal guidance! Do you Just Know? When you just know ...
Views: 1549(1 vote) - An Inspiring Take on What Influences You! Part 1 in the Inner Motivation series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerAre you internally motivated? The Cherokee Indians say that everybody is, not just the self-motivated! They know that you have both a black wolf and a white wolf giving you internal motivation. Are you Self-Motivated? The self-motivated decide on their own goals and then pursue them. They ...
Views: 1666(2 votes) - Utopia here I come! There’s no place like Utopia - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2012 from Susan (Teacher Su) McKenzieThe Best Place in the World Imagine the most idyllic place your imagination can savor and luxuriate in? Creating Utopia Imagine this place where people are always so fair, honest, kind, nice, helpful, sweet and generous. This is what Utopia is. A Man For All Seasons Have you heard of ...
Views: 1787 - HEALTH WEALTH SUCCESS BLESSINGS: May you be blessed with Health, Wealth, Success - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2012 from Susan (Teacher Su) McKenzieHEALTH B: Blessing your health and the health of your loved ones and all humanity is one of the best things you can do. Blessing yourself and others will make you feel better, and you will make a positive contribution to your well-being and those around you. L: Living it up or lazing away the ...
Views: 1971 - Are You Willing to Pay the Price? Part 3 in the Most Important Question series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerHaving chosen your most important question, see the previous articles in this series, there are some crucial related questions for you to answer. Actions have Consequences Are you prepared to pay the price? Your actions will provide the answer in due course, yet to ensure your future has ...
Views: 1692(2 votes) - Do you defer gratification by doing it now or later? Part 2 in the Most Important Question series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYou saw that there are four important questions which you can ask yourself as you make a decision. Those questions, from the first in this Most Important Question series, are: Do I feel like doing it? Do I want to do it? Is it me? Do I want the results that doing it will bring? Which ...
Views: 1669(1 vote) - How do You Choose to Do What You Do? Part 1 in the Most Important Question series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerMaking the right choices is a crucial secret of success in life. But how do you make the decisions you make? How do You Make your Choices? Some people muddle through without a viable strategy to give them the results they want. Then they're surprised when those results don't show up in their ...
Views: 1333(1 vote) - Do you just Know About It, or have Authentic Hands-on Experience? Part 4 in the Do What Works series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerDo Only What Works To achieve the results you want, you need to do what works and not to do what doesn't work. And it's your job to ascertain which is which! Once you know the difference you'll be more effective in achieving your goals. When you have experience in a field, it's natural to ...
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