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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dear Dr. Romance: What can an older man do to win a younger woman? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I enjoyed your article: Age Differences in Dating? Do you have any articles about younger women dating older men? I'm interested in the younger woman's motivations, and what the older man can say and do to will her affections. Have you ...
Views: 3784(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What Causes One To Constantly Sabotage Oneself? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What causes one to constantly sabotage oneself? Why would someone constantly put up their own roadblocks? Dear Reader: Being out of touch with one's own wants and needs is a primary way to self-sabotage. Getting in your own way is all about how you relate your ...
Views: 1504(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What Causes One To Constantly Sabotage Oneself? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What causes one to constantly sabotage oneself? Why would someone constantly put up their own roadblocks? Dear Reader: Being out of touch with one's own wants and needs is a primary way to self-sabotage. Getting in your own way is all about how you relate your yourself. ...
Views: 744(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What does fighting in a relationship mean? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:Ok. So my boyfriend and I are 11 months strong, but for the past maybe 4 or 5 months it has been on and off fighting. From big and important things to tiny pointless things. I dont understand why this is happening to us.. why? How canthis be resolved? I need help! Dear ...
Views: 880(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What I fear has happened the second time round - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I hope you can help me. My boyfriend passed away two years back... We were pretty much engaged, living together and everything. I thought i was over the whole thing, but now I know I'm not. A month back, or so.. i was seeing a man, and today i found out he had ...
Views: 859(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? - by Submitted on May 13, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? What are the stages of the grieving process? How long does it take to go through each stage? Can one stage be relived over and over again? Is there a way to help someone through each stage? Dear Reader: If you've had a personal ...
Views: 1596(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? What are the stages of the grieving process? How long does it take to go through each stage? Can one stage be relived over and over again? Is there a way to help someone through each stage? Dear Reader: If you've had a personal loss, I am ...
Views: 1436(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What is the right love to last a lifetime? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am writing this letter to you because I really want to know what is the right love to last a lifetime? I am frustrated right now. ...
Views: 590(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What type of dating safety precautions should one take? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can one be sure that a person they met through a dating service is not disturbed in any way? What type of safety precautions can one take? Dear Reader: Love has a much better chance to be realized if you make some of your choices mentally, as well as by emotional ...
Views: 832(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What was all this for? - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: It's funny that many times I talk to my girlfriends about dating and usually get the sister talk that really does not result in much clarity. It's more like we talk to each other to have an opinion. That's not to say none of my girls make much since, it's just ...
Views: 932(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: When younger sisters say hurtful things - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance My sister is 2 years younger and not long after my Dad died, I thought we should sit down and talk about things that needed to be done. She is the executor and took offense, accusing me of getting between her and Dad. Then, when my Mom got sick, she also got angry ...
Views: 1396(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why am I assumed to be a cougar good for only one thing? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a single woman in my late 40's. I've had several serious relationships, but unfortunately, although I lived with a couple of them, I've never been married. I have a minor physical disability, a stomach condition, but I am attractive, I look younger than I am, I'm well ...
Views: 3823(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Can't I Spark the Interest of a Woman? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your Dr. Romance Blog. I'm trying to find out why I can't find a woman, or better put: why I cant I spark the interest of a woman? I'm 40 years old I was never married nor do I have kids. Its pretty dam aggravating. I haven't even had date ...
Views: 592(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Did you recommend not asking? - by Submitted on May 28, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read Age Differences in Dating I did date for about 3 years a woman about 4 years older than me. I love her still and we separated because one thing I felt was that she never wanted to open up about herself. The following comment caught my attention: ( I underlined and ...
Views: 1449(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: why do I always have sex on the first date? - by Submitted on May 05, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm trying to find out why I always have sex on the first date. This is not to say that I have sex with every girl I date, or even that every girl I've gone out with has even been interested in me. It is simply to say that the overwhelming majority of my "situations" have been ...
Views: 1000(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why do I not care that my girlfriend broke up with me? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: This girl wasn't really my girlfriend but we pretty much were dating. I was thinking of asking her out in a few days. We talked today and she said she would rather be friends. I thought I should be mad or sad but the weird thing is I don't really care. Why? Is this normal? Is ...
Views: 786(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why does he want a relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I met this guy through a phone call, but he contacted or got my profile through a friend of mine and he is satisfied through that, and he is convinced that he could have a relationship with me, he needs my affection, fear of God, caring, true feeling of sharing, happiness, ...
Views: 954(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why is my ex still calling me? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was dating this guy for about 2 years. During the time that we were together we had some good times and bad. For one he was cheating on me with another girl then we got back together. During that time we worked hard to make the relationship work then I found out that ...
Views: 1454(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why is there no support line for men? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thank you for writing "Lighten Up - Cures for Marital Boredom." Please allow me to give my opinion as to my priorities. I always had the idea to start from the bottom of your list and go upwards. Work together to create a partnership. Sex is important in life, but ...
Views: 914(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why this compulsion to cheat? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm looking at myself and asking the question, "Why this compulsion to cheat?" What will it take to keep my eye from wandering around? I'm divorced, technically, but trying to make amends with the ex. I love my kids, and an absentee father just doesn't fit my ...
Views: 1495(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Will this guy turn out like my wicked stepfather? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a problem. My mother has introduced me to a male co-worker at her work. We have been friends for a month. My problem is that I am afraid that this relationship may become serious. The gentleman that she introduced me to is real nice, but my stepfather was the same way ...
Views: 1205(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: You're giving advice on what YOU consider normal - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:Thank you for your free articles, you have a lot of good stuff in there. A couple of the girls at work and I read your articles and get a good laugh. You're giving advice assuming that our lives are what YOU consider normal. You have a good job, make good money, live in a ...
Views: 803(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: I recently discovered numerous women he text messages - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have just read your article "Keys to a Happy Relationship" and would be greatful for some advice. I havn't been with my partner long. We are both in our twenties and we met a few months ago and already live together because it's the only way we could see ...
Views: 910(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: She doesn't believe that I'm trying to find a job - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My wife she wil get angry very easily. Even for simple things she gets very angry. She always tells me to leave her and she wants to live her family especially with her mother. She tells me she doesn't want to live and mostly she hurts her self. The biggest problem is my ...
Views: 794(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: We Still Love Each Other, but I Don't Know - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: i need some relationship advise really bad bad. Can you help?? I really need help, See, I cheated on my boyfriend of 4 years And he found out and forgave me! And he went out And slept with 3 girls that night is it possible for us to still work? We love each other but I ...
Views: 891(1 vote) - Dear. Dr. Romance: Every time we talk, I'm in tears and he's mad. - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married for nearly 20 years and thought we had a great marriage. 10 years ago I got hurt and have had 6 back surgeries. At one point I would double up on meds and drink to ignore life. During this time my husband was an angel; until he discovered I ...
Views: 1368(1 vote) - Defensiveness - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Gregg OliverLast time I wrote about Advocacy as an impediment to the logical give and take that distinguishes collaboration. I characterized it as a learned behavior, and one that can be partially or fully managed by a skilled communicator that recognizes it and knows how to steer a group around it. I also ...
Views: 2816(1 vote) - DENIAL OF BAD BEHAVIOR – WHAT YOU CAN DO - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2018 from Darlene LancerDenial is serious. It’s a refusal to acknowledge truth or reality. It can have benefits, but denial can also be our undoing and have life-threatening consequences. It affects not only individuals. Denial in the form of "group-think" can dangerously take over families and entire groups. ...
Views: 1381(2 votes) - Depression Hurts Everyone Around It - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2011 from Zandra SteinbergHave you ever thought about suicide? Have you ever felt like the world would be better off without you in it? Have you ever spent hours crying or lying in bed with your head covered up? Have you cut yourself off from friends and family? Do you spend copious amounts of time alone in your home? ...
Views: 2531(1 vote) - DEPROGRAMMING CODEPENDENT BELIEFS - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2018 from Darlene LancerCodependency is based on false, dysfunctional beliefs that are learned from our parents and environment. Recovery entails changing those beliefs, the most damaging of which is that we’re not worthy of love and respect – that we’re somehow inadequate, inferior, or just not enough. This is ...
Views: 1159(1 vote) - Desperate To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back – Do This - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2016 from Joan RiversDesperate To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back – Do This; There is no doubt about how desperate you are to get your ex boyfriend back after a breakup. That is why you chase him and accept his rejection. You will do anything to get your ex back in your arms and that includes losing your pride and self ...
Views: 6183(1 vote) - Detachment. How Can I? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2010 from Judy HerzanekWhen life becomes one crisis after another, when emotional pain and endless drama become “the norm” what am I supposed to do? Over the past few decades I’ve received this question a lot. Recently it has become the #1 question. Why is that? What do I suggest to families who have arrived at this ...
Views: 1832(1 vote) - Discover How to Avoid Getting Divorced - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Gerry RestriveraRelationship means a lot of work to make it stronger and last for years. It is sad that divorce is always an option for couples when things are getting complicated in their relationship. Although divorce is a painful reality experienced by most couples, of course, if you know how to avoid ...
Views: 3009(1 vote) - Discover Two Uncommon Ways You Can Transform Your Marriage Instantly - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2011 from Mika MaddelaAre you and your spouse having an immensely tough time relating to each other these days? Perhaps, no matter what you've tried, you just cannot get back on your partner's good side. Keep on reading if you want to discover two ways you can improve your relationship and get that thriving and ...
Views: 1268(1 vote) - DISCOVER YOUR TRUE AUTHENTIC SELF - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2018 from Darlene LancerCodependents often wonder what is normal. They feel insecure and wonder how others perceive them. Many tell me they don’t really know themselves. They’ve become people-pleasers, editing what they say and adapting their behavior to the feelings and needs of others. Some sacrifice ...
Views: 1181(3 votes) - DivorceForce : Survival Guide - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownIf you have been affected by divorce or separation or are considering ending your marriage you're going to want to tune in to DivorceForce Survival Guide. In each episode, DivorceForce CEO Gregory Frank tackles various aspects of divorce through candid discussions with leading industry experts ...
Views: 1305(1 vote) - Do I have to Lose My Self to Love You? | What Is Codependency? - by Submitted on May 09, 2018 from Darlene LancerAs codependents we lose ourselves in relationships, unaware that losing our Self is the greatest despair. When the relationship inevitably ends, it's devastating, because we are lost. We lack autonomy because that task wasn’t completed by adulthood. The struggle to achieve it is typical of ...
Views: 1092(2 votes) - Do I really need to "come out" as bisexual? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2018 from Anna GreenA few years ago, I knew that I am a bisexual girl, and for a long time at the beginning, I felt very lonely and irritable, and even once wondered why I wanted to come out.Does it really have to be done? I don't know, I am confused about that and after a long period of time, I gradually realized ...
Views: 1553(1 vote) - Do I Want My Wife Back - What To Do Immediately after The Split up - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2010 from Angela Booth“Do I want my wife back again?” you might ask. A lot of people have a blanket answer for such questions—no. But they’re not always right, and they can’t know your specific info. They might have been hurt before and think it’s just best to move on after a breakup. When you ask them, “Do I want my ...
Views: 1624(1 vote) - Do Men Hate Women? The Investment Scam - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2012 from Renee Richardson M.Ed.Article Renee L. Richardson, M.Ed. Do Men Hate Women? The Investment Scam Women, how many times have you pondered the thought as to whether or not your man hated you or was in fact jealous of you? I have on countless occasions. There appeared to be signs of jealousy on behalf of my ...
Views: 2789(1 vote) - Do the Tarot Cards Help with Relationship Problems? by Beth Shepherd Psychic - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2020 from Pearls of WisdomDo the tarot cards help with relationship problems? by Beth Shepherd psychic. A case study. Names etc changed. If you had asked me this decades ago I would have said no, maybe or no idea. But since then I have had more than my fair share of dealing with serious relationship issues and started ...
Views: 683(1 vote) - Do You Have A Fear Of Embarrassment? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2011 from Greg BakerMaking mistakes is part of life. But making mistakes in front of your peers, family, friends, or loved ones often brings a sense of embarrassment. Fearing this embarrassment will invariably cause you even more humiliation. Find out why and what you can do. Embarrassment is the natural result ...
Views: 10194(2 votes) - Do You Know How to Attract a Sexy Woman - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2010 from Donna MartinApproaching beautiful women is nerve cracking even for the most confident guys. Overcoming that initial approach anxiety can seem like an insurmountable task to accomplish. In fact, many men have passed up a lot sexual opportunities because of approach anxiety. Approach anxiety however is ...
Views: 1483(1 vote) - Do you know the 3 causes of all relationship problems? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2012 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneWhat do YOU believe are the 3 causes of all relationship problems? * Inadequate Money? * Not enough or too much Sex? * Friends interfering? * Family triangles and intrusions? * Poor communication? * Emotional Imbalance? Relationships are more complex than many of us care to ...
Views: 2670(2 votes) - Do you know the 9 areas of focus for relationship healing? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2012 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneWHAT DO YOU THINK ARE THE 9 MOST IMPORTANT AREAS FOR YOU TO FOCUS ON TO CREATE LOVING RELATIONSHIPS? * Do you think money is the solution? If only my partner and I had enough money.... * Do you think career is the solution? If only my partner and I had better careers, positions, jobs, ...
Views: 2146(1 vote) - Do You Know the Purpose of Your Relationships? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2013 from Yol SwanDid you know that relationships are eternal? They reflect the energetic ties and karma to be played out incarnation after incarnation, as we carry them along on our soul journey. In truth, we’ve been meeting pretty much the same souls over and over, trying to heal our wounds and learning to ...
Views: 1070(2 votes) - Do You Love a Narcissist? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2013 from Adam BlumMany of my clients fall in love with narcissists. It’s pretty easy to do. Narcissists often are extremely charming, bright, and attractive. I call them “shiny”. Around them we can feel excited, more alive, entertained, and flattered that these shiny people chose us. While narcissists ...
Views: 1527(1 vote) - Do You Mind If Your Girlfriend Had A Threesome Relationship? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2018 from Anna GreenEveryone also has the power to choose their own partner, Whatever his sexual orientation. We should all understand and congratulate.If your girlfriend or boyfriend had a threesome relationship, would you mind it? Many people who do not understand the threesome relationship will simply assume ...
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