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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dear Dr. Romance: Everyone Thinks all truck drivers are perverts - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in my forties, divorced, and debt free. I have a great credit score. My favorite hobby is Amateur Radio. Other hobbies are listening to shortwave radio programs and studying maps. The down side is that I'm currently a truckdriver. Naturally, everyone thinks that ...
Views: 594(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: From a phone call every day to a dead end. - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am new to the entire single scene. Recently I met someone and after a couple of dates, he started to email me with a lot of sexual inquires. I ignored some of it and sometimes I would put a little tease in the reply. When he started getting more vulgar I want this and I ...
Views: 678(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He always calls, and we do the same thing over again. - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've been with this man over thirty years back and forth. Something always seems to happen and we end up apart again. He ends up getting married and yet though living states apart he always ends up calling and we do the same thing all over again. This time we got closer ...
Views: 798(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He calls me names and puts me down - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I would like your advise in my relationship with my boyfriend. We have been living together for a year and a half and known each other for 3 years. He calls me names and puts me down when i try to communicate with him and every time i want to break it off he tells me we should ...
Views: 743(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He can't forgive me - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : I am a 20 year old college student. I have been going out with a man for almost 2 years, I feel he is the one I want to marry but now we are having problems and I don't know how we are going to stay together. I made the mistake of telling him about my ...
Views: 1153(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: he can't forgive me because I did it first. - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in high school and going through a rough patch in my relationship I have been with my boyfriend For 17 months, sort of on an off, but 5 months ago we broke up and I slept with another male and yesterday he told me he had sex with another female after I told him about ...
Views: 697(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He Does Holidays with His Ex and Kids - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I found one your article "Dr. Romance: Setting Boundaries with Your Ex" on SelfGrowth.com and wanted to reach out to a professional that is an expert with Divorce, families and integrating a new partner. I am single, 30, never been married, no ...
Views: 1120(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He gave me a major concussion - by Submitted on May 18, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:I found your site on an internet search. I am in an abusive relationship and am financially dependent on him. I have made him leave several times, only to take him back because of monies. He is an ex cop. I have phoned the authorities many times, they ...
Views: 1127(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He had to hurt me to pull away so he could start this new relationship. - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I met a guy at the end of my marriage, I started to have a relationship with him. the marriage ended and my husband moved out. My new relationship grew stronger and he had hope for a future with me. I was not ready to let people know I was in a new relationship so ...
Views: 1258(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He has PTSD and I'm going crazy - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married for about four years now and my husband and I got married at 18 we have 3 kids all under the age of four and it gets stressful sometimes for both of us. He is in the army, he's been a soldier for almost 3 years now he was deployed ...
Views: 1562(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: he is even a few years younger than my daughter - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:I am going crazy. I am attracted to a young man who is young enough to be my son, he is even a few years younger than my daughter. He has shown interest in me as well and I think this is absurd and yet I can't help the way I feel. He talks to me and shows an interest when I ...
Views: 1220(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He is selfish and controlling - by Submitted on May 04, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I heard you on the radio and I thought of writing to you. This is about my daughter. She has been married for a couple of years. They are both professionals. Since you listen to many cases and have a vast experience on divorce cases, I would like to ask you based on the ...
Views: 975(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He isn't shy about holding hands with a black girl - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I started dating a man 2 years younger than me, who is from another country. I thought he was very sweet and gentlemanly and of course I'm really attracted to him, and he eventually asked me on a date. We've had several dates, and he's very considerate, very ...
Views: 649(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He pushed me to tears - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thank you for the Fair Fight Guidelines. I found a lot of wisdom and thoughtfulness in them. I hope my husband will agree. That said, I don't know what you mean by "rage is phony; it's drama created by not taking care of yourself." If a ...
Views: 1298(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He said I was a false friend. - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I love reading your articles here and on your website and I always look forward to the new ones. I have a long time online friend. We have been friends for about three-four years, and I even felt I was in love with him for a while - and told him so. He said he wasn't over ...
Views: 732(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He spends more time with his friends than me - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My boyfriend spends more time with his friends than me by a long shot. My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months now and he all of a sudden started spending way more time with them than me. I've tried talking to him about it and he said "i need two days per week ...
Views: 898(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: he thinks I am neglecting him - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been "dating" someone for a year to this day. We get along great and enjoy spending time together. He is very romantic. We are both full time teachers and students. We do work in separate schools. I enjoy sleeping over. However, recently I have decided that I need to ...
Views: 911(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He wants me to wait on him hand and foot. - by Submitted on May 29, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I heard you on the radio today and I think that this is my last hope. My dad told me to listen to you this afternoon, since I have been having problems with my marriage. I am in my late twenties and I have 3 children under four years old. My husband is two years ...
Views: 1006(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He Was Never That Into Me - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I divorced my best friend of 13 years this past January. I'm having a hard time moving on... Let me very clear...over the past 13 years of our marriage..we were never sexually compatible...he was never that into me...I had an affair and I am still seeing that ...
Views: 1619(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He's simply taking advantage of my affections for him - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I don't want to be here anymore. Be here on this earth that is, be here in this ole' body of mine. Perhaps you can help. I think I'm simply looking for some inspiration. Also, when I think about no longer being "alive"... I am comforted. This feeling of calm comes over ...
Views: 1013(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Help me find Mr. Right - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance, I am hard of hearing, and I have hard time finding Mr. Right. I grew up around hearing guys but I haven't often dated. My first marriage was to a hearing guy and I taught him sign language so we did fine for a short time; but he didn't ...
Views: 1153(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: His Clutter Drives Me Crazy! - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I found you online when i googled "How to Live with a Slob". My husband and I are opposites in the area of how to keep a house -- i am very clean and he is, well, not at all. The clutter drives me crazy! It is just one more issue that impacts our relationship. ...
Views: 598(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: His moods are getting more and more unbearable to live with - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married for almost four years to a man twelve years younger. We have a four-year-old son. My problem is I need to find a better way of dealing with my husband's bad moods, which are getting more and more unbearable to live with. Occasionally I give ...
Views: 1538(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I get my husband into therapy? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : I'm getting worried because my husband is drinking more, and laughing less. He works too much, he has lost interest in his guy friends and sports. He's gotten more tense, and is on edge and irritable. Sometimes he even yells at me and the kids. I think maybe he needs ...
Views: 1576(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I get over the nervousness of dating again? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can one get over the nervousness of dating again when its been quite a few years since their last date? Dear Reader: If your last relationship lasted for a while, dating again can be a scary proposition. These guidelines can help: Dr. Romance's Guidelines for ...
Views: 845(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I help her to turn around? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have read your article "Fair Fight Guidlines" and it is impressive. I like to ask your advise for the following situation: I have married for 20 years and three beautifull children. My wife whom I love the most, uses power struggle tactics: guilt and ...
Views: 1343(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I let go of a toxic relationship? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I wonder if you have an article that you've written that you can point me too on how to let go of a toxic relationship. I've been involved for 7 months with a man who is continually evasive, avoidant-attachment, manipulative and I need to figure out ...
Views: 672(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Let Him Go? - by Submitted on May 07, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read "Letting Go Takes Love" and it really spoke to me. I am in a situation and I was wondering if you could give me quick advice. I feel the need to let go of someone because he basically doesn't know what he wants. We have been going back and forth with the issue ...
Views: 903(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I resume my initial romance with my wife? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a male Kenyan, married with 2 daughter. Of late, have totally lost urge for sex and it can only appear once per week though a weak one. Outside affair is a norm in my religion, but whenever I site a beautiful lady suddenly the mind switches to sex and I go to an extent of ...
Views: 1141(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Sleep with my Ex-girlfriend's Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Maybe you can give me some advice. I am 18. My relationship with my girlfriend ended with her leaving me. She said that we could remain friends. This happened over a month ago. My ex-girlfriend and I have remained friends. She has a new boyfriend and she seems happy. ...
Views: 3122(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I convince my family I'm serious about him? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm 17 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. We have grown up together and he is all I know. We are very mature when it comes to our relationship and our sex life. I want to spend the rest of my life with him but there's a problem. I have made many ...
Views: 682(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I flirt to grab a guy's attention? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'd like to learn something flirty and funny that will grab a guys attention!? I am going bowling with my crush and a group of friends (I never talk to my crush so this is huge!) and I am trying to think of some cute flirty things to say! Any suggestions? Examples please ...
Views: 915(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: how do I forget that she is married and I am single? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a high school assistant and I fell in love with mother of one of my students. She doesn't know anything about and has some difficulty with her son's wife. I told her I want to help you to sort out your problem, but I have no idea how to help her and ...
Views: 792(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I make him understand? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How do I make him understand? So my soon-to-be-ex is still in the house as well as myself! This is not working! He keeps trying to make things better, but I don't feel anything for him anymore. He has been better to me but is still very rude to our son and says hurtful things ...
Views: 867(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How realistic is it for a woman over 40 to expect a date to lead to marriage? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How realistic is it for a woman over 40 to expect a date from an online dating site to lead to marriage? Dear Reader: It's not realistic for anyone to expect one date to lead to marriage, but if you know what you're doing, it is possible to find a spouse via dating ...
Views: 911(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How should I tell her I have feelings for her - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in my first year of high school, but I have no experience in relationships. I'm in contact with a friend who is a year younger than me, and I recently realized I have feelings for her. She's funny and playful, and I just can't help myself. What's your advice ...
Views: 736(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I actually forwarded him the conversation by accident - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I actually forwarded him the conversation by accident Dear Dr. Romance: I am a woman in my thirties. It's been over a month since I last spoke with my ex-boyfriend of one year. He gave me the silent treatment because I hurt him. Or it might be his ...
Views: 1118(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am a Native American woman who has been abused and betrayed - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a native American woman who has been abused and betrayed by my husband. He was my coresearcher and advisor for several ...
Views: 1155(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am allowing my narcissistic ex to run circles around me - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I am mindful that I am allowing my soon to be controlling, narcissist ex (civil law attorney) to run circles around me, just as we did when we were married. After attending a divorce group session at my local church, they recommend that I set up some specific boundaries and ...
Views: 684(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am beyond confused - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need help! I am beyond confused. My husband is having an affair for more than six months with some woman who is 15 years younger than him. He lives with this women for all practical purposes and only comes home to sleep. He shows up at 11:00 p.m. at night and leaves by ...
Views: 1442(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am determined to make a better life for myself no matter what happens to my marriage - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I happen to be going through an extremely difficult time in my life right now. My husband was unfaithful during the time that I was "absent" from the marriage due to my mother dying from brain cancer. Of course, there were problems long before this and this ...
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