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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Common Relationship Mistakes To Avoid - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2019 from Brooke Whistance“We cannot go on like this!” If this is the phrase that is most common in your relationship, it means that something is wrong. The relationship does not go smoothly, and with each passing day, you realize that you are developing bad habits that make your union sink gradually. In ...
Views: 655(1 vote) - Common Sense with a Spiritual Aspect On divorce! Part 2 - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Brian AllenHello again and welcome to part 2 of 7. This part is based upon so called friends as promised in part 1. Please understand that this next part is in no way meant to offend you or any of your friends. It is however meant to make you think about a few aspects of how friends can influence ...
Views: 1858(1 vote) - Communication Advice to Help You Create Relationship Agreements About Tough Topics - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Susie and Otto CollinsIs there an issue about which you and your partner can't seem to see eye-to-eye? Perhaps you two try to avoid talking about or even looking at the tough topic because, in the past, it has only seemed to cause tension and arguments. The trouble is, these sensitive and challenging issues ...
Views: 3273(1 vote) - Communication Through the Body - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2012 from Susan Schwartz, Ph.D.Surprisingly communication is not words alone. It is comprised of a confluence of ways of being oneself and of being together, physically and emotionally. It speaks volumes the way we approach our partner, the air we exude and whether we say anything or not, the totality of the atmosphere we ...
Views: 1415(1 vote) - Confront Jealousy in Your Love Relationship or Marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Susie and Otto CollinsWhen Jeff sees his girlfriend, Tami, flirting with another guy, he gets jealous-- really jealous. It can take every ounce of restraint that Jeff has to not storm over and confront the other man, and Tami too. But Jeff has promised himself-- and Tami-- that he won't let his jealousy take over ...
Views: 3292(1 vote) - Control and Resistance - the Relationship Gremlins - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2007 from Margaret Paul"I'm so sick and tired of Andrea's anger and bossiness that I'm about ready to leave this relationship," said Paul in our phone counseling session. "Everything has to be her way. Why can't she just keep her mouth shut? She is ruining this relationship. I hate her judgmentalness. Every time she ...
Views: 2755(1 vote) - Conversation Secrets On How To Talk To Anyone About Anything - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Greg BakerThis very simple and easy to follow procedure will help you develop strong conversation skills with people you know and people you don’t know. This skill is meant to help you build lasting connections with people and feel at ease while doing it regardless of your knowledge of the subject or ...
Views: 4857(2 votes) - Conversations with V! - How You Can Enjoy an Enriching, Enduring Relationship - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Val McLeodIn consideration of the myriad challenges to having an enriching and enduring relationship, it seems practically oxy moronic to use “healthy, romantic and relationship” in the same context. As a human relations expert, I am often asked, “Is it possible to have an “ideal relationship / ...
Views: 1686(1 vote) - Conversations with V! ~ Love - Work It Out! - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Val McLeod“There is no excess to love” Ralph Emerson Getting regular exercise is important to our physical and psychological well being. Even though it had been a while since I last exercised, in my desire and determination to continue achieving my fitness goals, I recently started to work out ...
Views: 1358(1 vote) - Coping with Critics - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaNo one likes to be criticized, fairly or not. It’s always difficult to deal with, and it can hurt. Because I’m a writer of books and columns, and because I’ve lectured, appeared on radio and TV, I am sometimes recognized in public. I’m glad I’m not more ...
Views: 1467(1 vote) - Coping with Critics - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2015 from Tina TessinaNo one likes to be criticized, fairly or not. It’s always difficult to deal with, and it can hurt. Because I’m a writer of books and columns, and because I’ve lectured, appeared on radio and TV, I am sometimes recognized in public. I’m glad I’m not more ...
Views: 1289(1 vote) - Counseling Help to Put Your Complex Modern Relationship Back On Track - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2018 from Jaclyn TengAccording to a recent relationship survey, the dating rules and habits have changed vastly with the digitalization and modernization. The dating behaviors drastically differ between the ages and therefore, modern day relationship is hard and can get pretty complicated with so many unspoken ...
Views: 576(1 vote) - CRAFT Addiction Treatment and Codependency - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2022 from Darlene LancerThough powerless over an alcoholic-addict's ultimate behavior, we can influence them to get addiction treatment using CRAFT. It's a Community Reinforcement and Family Training program for addiction treatment developed in the 70s that has been effective in training “Concerned Significant Others" ...
Views: 512(2 votes) - Creating Conscious Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2009 from Medea Bavarella ChechikI was out for dinner with a friend a while ago and she asked me several interesting questions: • “Why are relationships one of the most difficult experience there is?” • “Why do we have such deep, innate desire to seek romantic relationships or loving partners?” • “Why is it that at some ...
Views: 1218(1 vote) - Creating Healthy Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.When you expect to get the love you didn’t get as a child from your partner, you are stuck in the pattern of hope and struggle that you cannot win. This is a pattern that is created in childhood that seeps into our relationships (as most patterns do). The pattern comes about because the love we ...
Views: 1641(1 vote) - Cultivating Intimacy In Our Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2011 from Debra RebleAbsolute trust is the cornerstone for cultivating intimacy in our relationships. True intimacy is based on mutual absolute trust and requires that both people are willing to be open, vulnerable and uninhibited with each other. Moreover, we find that the more we open ourselves, the more we ...
Views: 1699(1 vote) - Cultivating the state OK-ness for Anger Management - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2011 from Rich PfeifferThe first thing many mother’s instinctively do when they see a child overcome with emotional distress is to automatically try and calm them down… to return to a state of "OK-ness" before beginning any discussions of triggering events or perusing a teachable moment. Why is it that they do this? ...
Views: 1979(1 vote) - Dating a Sociapath - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2020 from Pearls of WisdomIn my thirty odd years of working as a relationship expert, life coach and agony aunt most of my clients have been women who have been upset because of the broken promises and commitments of a man they trusted. Very often it has seemed to them that their whole World has come to an end because ...
Views: 2491(1 vote) - Dating Nigerian Girls And How To Marry A Nigerian girl - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2012 from David AnanNigerian girls are just like every other girl in the world, with those same yearning and desire to be loved and cared for, they have those same loose grip on situations and everyday happenstance, not being very serious about life and hoping a handsome man would pop out of the sky and swoop ...
Views: 12586(1 vote) - Dating Sites For Bisexual Singles And Couples - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2017 from Jessica LawHave you ever join any bisexual dating sites? If you join them, what do you want to do on these sies？What do you care about on sites? Individual privacy or cost? As a bisexual, being bisexual, It’s not a lifestyle, it’s not a choice. It’s just who we are.We are human beings, we are just who ...
Views: 1180(2 votes) - Dating Sites For Bisexual Singles And Couples - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2017 from Amy LawHave you ever join any bisexual dating sites? If you join them, what do you want to do on these sies？What do you care about on sites? Individual privacy or cost? As a bisexual, being bisexual, It’s not a lifestyle, it’s not a choice. It’s just who we are.We are human beings, we are just who ...
Views: 1468(2 votes) - Dating vs. Godly Courtship - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2010 from Angie LewisWhen we look at both of these styles of “getting to know people” and “having friendships” at face value, it appears they are the same. But Godly courtship is far superior to dating because it is scripturally sound and does not hurt people. Dating is a worldly, cultural way to meet people for ...
Views: 5408(2 votes) - Dealing With Breakup The Right Way - by Submitted on May 27, 2011 from Amuro WesleyWhether you are breaking up with your date or spouse, it is never easy to accept it immediately. Whatever the reasons, you still need to get over this difficult period however depressed and frustrated it is. Here are some ways in not just with dealing with breakup but also making you stronger ...
Views: 748(1 vote) - Dealing With Difficult People From a Spiritual Perspective--5 Tips - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2012 from Scott & Stephen PetulloStrife is a fact of life. No matter how much you try to get along with certain individuals in your life, disharmony prevails. It’s like they are driven by a demonic lord to make your life difficult. Good news! You can’t rid yourself completely of the bad apples in your life, but you can ...
Views: 1338(1 vote) - Dealing with Highly Aggressive People - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2022 from Darlene LancerIndividuals who are aggressive thrive on provoking and escalating conflict. They’re usually domineering and try to control the conversation. They’re distrustful, reactive, highly defensive, intense, dogmatic, and often, though not always, loud. They’re not open to alternative points of view, but ...
Views: 573(2 votes) - Dear Dr Romance: he said I was expecting too much from this relationship - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr.Romance: I can't get over this man, he is 61, I'm in my mid thirties, he is Europe and I'm in North America, we started corresponding and we stopped. I was suffering but time healed me after a year. This year we re started talking back, by Facebook, and when ...
Views: 680(1 vote) - Dear Dr Romance: How do you dump someone without hurting them? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am in a bit of a weird situation... I'm 16 and I am engaged to a guy I only met 2 months ago. I thought he was joking so I just went along with it, and it was only when he gave me a ring and started talking about venues and dates that I realized he was serious. I only ...
Views: 978(1 vote) - Dear Dr Romance: My Girlfriend Doesn't Like Phone Sex - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My girlfriend does not like phone sex. When ever I bring up the topic, she is always mad at me. I don't know; maybe it's the way her ex treated her. Please help. Dear Reader: You can't have phone sex with your girl if she doesn't like it, and you can't force her to ...
Views: 3501(1 vote) - Dear Dr Romance: Should I date my girlfriend's best friend? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need relationship advice!!!? I have been with my girlfriend for 4 months now and her best friend who's a girl is also my best friend and I'm very close with the best friend. me and my girlfriend do fight a lot but there are times where I'm in love with her. and me and the ...
Views: 1075(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: "Love advice would be greatly appreciated!" - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I am in my late 20's and single. My problem is that I am in love with a man (who is the same age as I am) who reciprocates my feelings, but when we start getting close he backs completely off. When we run into one another while we are out with friends we talk and it is like we ...
Views: 1225(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: "that fantasy thing is right on the money for me" - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read "Surviving Loss & Thriving Again" and it helped me a lot. I find the older I get the more I can understand why I do what I do. But, of course, we hope things will be different (see 'Insanity' in the dictionary)! lol Anyway, that fantasy ...
Views: 1015(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: 2 days later, he tells me he's working it out with his ex - by Submitted on May 19, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I met someone from online and we talked for a night and we met that night and one thing led to another and as it turns out he wanted to see me again.2 days later he tells me that hes trying to work this out with his ex wife. How do I not go into that situation? ...
Views: 803(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Age-Gap in Gay Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thank you for such a wonderfully positive article on "generation-gap" relationships. I just finished reading "What's Behind the Trend of Women Dating Younger Men?". Although I am in a gay-relationship, I read the article with ...
Views: 1592(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Although I had to let go, I still care a lot. - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance Your articles are very helpful to me. Can you tell me what book of yours can help me heal from my last relatioship. The pain is still there and although I am sure I had to let go, I still care a lot. Dear Reader: I'm sorry you're hurting. I know how difficult it ...
Views: 789(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Am I Single? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr.Romance: My friends were joking that I have never been single, and I argued that I have - but they said my definition of being single was wrong! true, I tend to have long term relationships, but before I met my last boyfriend I was "single" for nearly a year. I define this as ...
Views: 1036(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Am I wrong for asking for more time for us? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I've been in a relationship for 6 1/2 years with a man I can see myself marrying and growing old. The first 4 years we were on our long distance relationship because I was in college in another state. We then lived together for a year to realize we could work out in ...
Views: 646(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Are there dating guidelines for single parents? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am an elementary school counselor. If you wouldn't mind, I would like to ask you a question that involves a child of a single parent. This 12 year old boy's father died less than a year ago. His mom has started dating again (I believe this to be too soon). I ...
Views: 690(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: At first I was hurt, but now I'm irritated. - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I do not like my job, I have two more classes before I complete my masters in HR to move to a better position and recently passed the PHR certification. I was talking with my boyfriend about the environment at the company and how they are always threatening to fire people as ...
Views: 619(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Can I ask her to give up her job? - by Submitted on May 21, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My wife has developed a connection with someone at work. Can I ask her to give up her job? If the guy she works with is the source of her attention, would it not be better to ...
Views: 1281(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Can you help me save my relationship ? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:I am having trouble in my relationship. My biggest problems are fibbing and patience. Fibbing is what my fiancee calls it, I call it extending the truth a little further than it really is. But, Patience is the thing I've really having trouble with and that I need your help ...
Views: 1066(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Can you refer me? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2015 from Tina TessinaI read your book How To Be a Couple and Still Be Free several months ago and re-read it recently. I would love to receive more one on one help. Do you have anyone you could refer me to? Thank you for your help! Dr. Romance ...
Views: 1198(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Dating a Younger Woman - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:I read your article on the Age Differences in Dating and found it to absolutely be brilliant. I'm wondering though since I'm dating a younger woman, what tips you have on dealing with that. Thanks. Any help you can provide would be greatly appreciated. Dr. Romance ...
Views: 857(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Do I surprise her with a gift? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I know I feel strongly about a certain someone. Do I surprise her with a gift or e-mail her with my recent feelings through a tough time? Dear Reader: It sounds like you're way ahead of yourself and her. I think a gift would be completely out of line at this point. If she's ...
Views: 805(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Do I tell him I can't be his friend or let silence speak for itself? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in need of some serious advice, and I hope you can help. I've been in an extremely long distance relationship with someone for the past year and a half off and on. I live in the US, he lives in Central America. I am 6 years older than he is. I'm ...
Views: 946(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Does Friends with Benefits Work? - by Submitted on May 29, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was browsing the net and came across one of your articles "No Strings Attached Sex" which I found very interesting as it relates to a situation I am facing currently. I am a young male and I cannot handle having sex for a while with a person ...
Views: 1376(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Does Viagra give him Insomnia? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am 39 & my boyfriend is 51. He takes Viagra & Cialis (on an as needed basis). We have a terrific relationship. We seem to have no problem lying there & falling asleep for a short time after making love. I have a really comfortable bed, ...
Views: 1716(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Everyone has been trying to reunite me with my exes. - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: EVERYONE, yes EVERYONE has been TRYING and FAILING at having me reunite with one of my exes…or Something like that. My asinine brother took out pictures of my ex-husband of 9 years and started guilt-tripping me. The funny thing is this: I remained on good terms with ALL of my ...
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