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- A poetic Prayer for memorial Day. - by Submitted on May 26, 2011 from Carl Tuchy PalmieriA poetic Prayer for memorial Day. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Remember them Remember Him Remember them Remember him They died to keep us Free He died for you and me Remember Them Remember Him They were wounded ...
Views: 1674(1 vote) - Feeling Lonely? - How To Attract A Guy And Make New Friends after Being Widowed - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2008 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonThere will come a time when you're ready to move forward after grieving the death of a spouse, to get on with your life and move ahead and discover what this new chapter has to offer. When this happens, you may find it challenging to stop dwelling eternally on what you have lost, and begin to ...
Views: 1667 - Coping with the Loss of a Sibling - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Roberta Stack-CostantinoAre you suffering and not coping well after losing a sibling? If you are, I know what you are going through and I am here to help you. In 1981 my brother was killed in a car accident. It was my first week of college and I came home for Labor Day Weekend. My parents were going out to dinner ...
Views: 1664 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Only Say Nice Things About Their Parents After They Have Passed on? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are likely to be a number of people out there who not only have plenty of good things to say about their parents now that they passed on, but who had good things to say about them when they were alive. When something like this takes place, it could be said that someone valued their ...
Views: 1663 - *** The Ultimatest Most Inconvenient Truth of All - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2009 from Daniel BenorThe pursuit of the truth shall set you free - even if you never catch up with it. - Clarence Darrow We all aspire to know and express truth in one way or another. We want to base our life decisions and actions, minor and major, on the best information ...
Views: 1660(2 votes) - Letting Go and Moving On - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2010 from Grace TallmanLetting Go and Moving On After experiencing a major loss, it is sometimes difficult to move on with your life. Before you can look ahead to a brighter future, you need to learn to let go of your painful past. The loss can involve a break up with someone you care deeply about, a job ...
Views: 1656 - Love And Loss Are Naturally Linked - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2011 from Mary Jane Hurley BrantWhen you open yourself to love, you open yourself to loss. When you suffer the loss of someone you love, you experience the painful emotion we call grief because it's a natural response to loss. Yet, to the person going through this afflictive emotion, the experience feels overwhelming because ...
Views: 1656(3 votes) - What to Do If You Uncover a Secret About Your Deceased Loved One? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2009 from Louis LaGrandHas someone you trust told you a secret about your deceased loved one that has added immeasurably to your grief? Where you going through his/her papers and found some information about the past that has stunned you? Has evidence of physical or emotional infidelity turned up upon reading old ...
Views: 1655 - NAVIGATING THE WATERS OF GRIEF - Grief Recovery from a Spiritual Growth Perspective - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2014 from Mike SchoppNavigating the Waters of Grief … Grieving a loss of any kind can seem as if a storm has ripped away our sail from a well-charted life. The loss of a loved one, a pet, employment, a lifestyle, physical health, or a way of being can seem as if we were unexpectedly thrown overboard into the ...
Views: 1653(1 vote) - *** Remember to Extend Love to Yourself - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2009 from Daniel BenorIf you've got love in your heart, whatever you do from that moment out is likely to be right. If you've got that one true note ringing inside you, then whatever you do is going to be OK. It's love, always love. - Ken Kesey On Valentine's Day we focus on ...
Views: 1647(1 vote) - Believe in New Beginnings.... - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2010 from Ligia HoubenBelieve in New Beginnings.... When we face a difficult transition or a loss we may think our life is over....that we don't have any hope, or that we don't have options. My purpose in life is to help people embrace hope and make them believe in new beginnings. Because...this is possible. I ...
Views: 1647(1 vote) - The Grief And Belief Connection - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2003 from Bob Olson"Grief is healing: To take away our grief is to take away our healing. And learning about life after death helps us heal with greater hope, comfort and peace." ~ Bob Olson In approximately five years of investigating the possibility of life after death, I have discovered convincing evidence ...
Views: 1644(1 vote) - Positive Thinking: Can Positive Thinking Stop Someone From Being Able To Grieve? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences loss, their whole experience of life can change, and when this happens, it is not going to be possible for them to carry on as normal. The thoughts in their mind and the emotions in their body can be different, and the meaning of their life could also have altered. ...
Views: 1643 - Trauma Parent sudden death strikes school - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2012 from Elizabeth McNallyA school’s complete body of students will be impacted upon when the sudden death of a student’s parent becomes known. Come morning, usually, the school’s administration has been notified allowing them to brief their staff before the school’s day starts. The school board’s psychologist will ...
Views: 1643(1 vote) - Coping with Grief - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Shayn CutinoThere have been several high-profile deaths just this week that have dominated the television news coverage and received a seemingly endless amount of written coverage on the internet and entertainment publications. First, we learned of the passing of Ed McMahon, who is undoubtedly the most ...
Views: 1642 - On Coping with Death… Now imagine you are a child. - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2006 from Gary DirenfeldOn Coping with Death… Death. It hits hard and with a loved one, no matter what the preparation, the loss is heartfelt. Now imagine you are a child. Coping with the death of a parent in childhood will be different depending on the age of the child and the nature of the relationship. While all ...
Views: 1641 - Releasing The Pain - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2012 from Trudy-Ann EwanEach day that we awaken is a new day to take our lives forward. It is an opportunity to create something new, something fresh. No matter what you have gone thru, no matter how painful, how heart-wrenching, you don’t have to be in that situation forever. You do not have to be in pain forever. ...
Views: 1636 - Ghosts of the Wheat Harvest - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2011 from Dan L. HaysIn the fall of 1990, I was meeting with two other men on a regular basis to explore our dreams and aspirations. Every two weeks, we would gather at a Chinese buffet and talk for several hours about things we’d like to do some day. It was around the time of the Men’s Movement, where men went ...
Views: 1635(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I just want my husband and best friend back - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband and I married more than five years ago, in our early 30s. We had a good marriage. We agreed that if we would sit down and talk things out should we have issues. We always held true to that until his mom died several months ago. He was very close to ...
Views: 1631 - Mothers in the Military - by Submitted on May 14, 2014 from Abigail FazelatMothers are normally military minorities. Sure, women in general are gaining more recognition in the military, but surely many people forget that a large majority of these women are mothers as well as national heroes. However, balancing these two identities is hardly ever easy. One military ...
Views: 1630 - The Infant Soul's Grief - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2008 from Bhuka Bijumiro-JjumiroWhenever an infant is born into the world of form, it is expected to perform its very first karma or action. That is the action of crying or wailing. If it does not wail, the doctors, parents and friends present get worried; they think something is wrong with the baby. They do everything they ...
Views: 1629 - The 10th Anniversary of 911 - How You Can Help - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2011 from Mary Jane Hurley BrantOn September 11, 2011, we remember the 10th anniversary of the day when nearly 3,000 victims were killed after two airliners were crashed into the Twin Towers in New York City, another plane hit the Pentagon and a final plane crashed into a field in rural Pennsylvania. This devastating number ...
Views: 1627(3 votes) - Grief, Loss, and a Proven Plan for Peace of Mind - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2009 from Louis LaGrandAre you in a state of confusion? Have you made the decision that you will get through this loss? Are you confronting your loss and fears? If not, why not? Peace of mind is the ultimate goal of good grief so that one can begin the work of reinvesting in a life in the absence of the physical ...
Views: 1626 - Connecting to Nature: Sacred Lessons Learned - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2011 from Dr. Jane SimingtonConnecting to Nature: Sacred Lessons Learned “Mom, can you come today? I want to show you the little river Wes and I found yesterday. It’s full of minnows. It’s in that marshy place where they cut down those old trees.” There were indeed minnows in his new found stream. I returned, on ...
Views: 1624(1 vote) - Dealing with Grief Through Meditation - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2012 from Anne RoseYou experienced a horrible loss. The grief has nearly destroyed you. Although you are aware grief has no schedule or timetable, you are a year into your extended mourning session and want it to stop. In fact, you have become nearly paralyzed with sadness and know this can’t go on. What can ...
Views: 1620 - Loss: Is Time A Great Healer? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are times when one can experience a loss and it won’t have much of an effect on them, and then there are times when this won’t be the case. And what can define how much of an impact a loss has on them can all depend on their level of emotional attachment. For example, if one had a ...
Views: 1619 - Finding Purpose Through Death - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2013 from Joeel A. RiveraWe all have a story to tell that makes us who we are today. We ask people to tell their transformational stories in this magazine; therefore, I am going to share my story here this month. Through this letter to my brother, I will share how our enlightened relationship transformed my ...
Views: 1617(3 votes) - Shifting the Grief Healing Paradigm-Authentic Grief Healing - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenWhile grief is a universal experience, the mourning process varies from family to family and from culture to culture. What I am referring to as the mourning process are the rituals that most of us grow up with about how to behave and how to speak when confronted with a loss. In essence, ...
Views: 1615(5 votes) - How Difficult is Grief - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from Maurice Turmel"How difficult is grief recovery?" you may ask. As difficult as climbing a mountain perhaps, or crossing a stormy sea? These are events to remember, aren't they? Well, for certain they are. Such events are quite dramatic, as is the case with Grief, which takes us out of ourselves and tosses us ...
Views: 1613 - CONTROL ISSUES - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2012 from Laura NashJust before Christmas when I was 7 years old my dad died and I experienced a life altering paradigm shift. It was as if the curtains closed at the end of an act on the stage of my life and when they reopened, the scenery had completely changed leaving me feeling unsafe and bewildered. As a ...
Views: 1610 - Passing On: A Father's Enduring Love - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from Jelaila StarrMy father was diagnosed with cancer in October, 2008. Up to that time he had been very healthy. Normally energetic and active, he fought the cancer with gusto. Still, the cancer won and my father passed away in the early morning hours of on Sunday, March 8th, less than 6 months later. I had ...
Views: 1610 - Loss: Can The Need To Be Loyal Cause Someone To Get Stuck In The Grieving Process? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one experiences loss, it might be possible for them to carry on with the rest of their life; however, there is also the chance that they won’t be able to do this. In this case, it is could be quiet some time before they are able to do what they used to do before. What this comes down to ...
Views: 1607 - Valuable Tools For Working With Grief - by Submitted on May 31, 2013 from Kate SinerNo matter where we are from or what has happened to us, each one of us deals with grief throughout our life. There is the grief that comes with the loss of a loved one and there is grief that is a necessary response to what we may carry with us from our childhood. There is also grief as a result ...
Views: 1604(1 vote) - “I Found It Hard To Breathe!” - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I think back to what happened in 2001, I remember that there was a time when I was working out and I ended up finding it hard to breathe. At the time, I just thought that I had a cold coming on. However, after I went to see the doctor, I came to see that it wasn’t a cold. After I had a ...
Views: 1604 - Loss: Is It Normal To Grieve A Number Of Years Later? - by Submitted on May 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has got something to do, they can get it done straight away or they can put it to one side and do something else. And when it comes to what is the best approach to take, it can all depend on what it is that needs to be done. If one had a piece of furniture that needed to be ...
Views: 1602 - How to Support Communities When Mass Tragedy Hits - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2014 from Allidah Hicks Bonnie KnutiWe cringe as we hear of the latest mass tragedy whether it's another shooting, a hurricane, tornado, fire, or flood. It's just one more horrific event that fills our daily thoughts and hearts. Yet, we never believe that something so awful could ever happen to us or to anyone close to ...
Views: 1597 - Dear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? - by Submitted on May 13, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? What are the stages of the grieving process? How long does it take to go through each stage? Can one stage be relived over and over again? Is there a way to help someone through each stage? Dear Reader: If you've had a personal ...
Views: 1596(1 vote) - Surviving Mom - by Submitted on May 16, 2004 from Cate CavanaghHere I was again. From the time I was nine each time my mom went to the hospital I would wonder "Is this it?". "Will she survive?". My mother is now ninety-two and has been the victim of fifteen strokes, seventeen heart attacks and Parkinsons. She also suffers severe and sudden changes in ...
Views: 1590 - The Peaceful Void of Dementia - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2017 from Lisa BoussonWhether it’s bipolar, depression, dementia or any other horrible mental disease, I don’t believe (at least in my findings) that many families can miss the boat. Do you remember that new baby doll smell? I smelled it this morning when I was in the shower (A really good time for spirit ...
Views: 1590 - Grieving the loss of a pet is normal and just as important as grieving the loss of a family member. - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2009 from Christina GarrisonThe relationship with our pet is one of the most important relationships in our lives. Our pets provide us with love, comfort, joy, and companionship throughout their lives. It is only fitting that we mourn them when they pass on. Grieving the loss of a pet is a healthy way for each of us to ...
Views: 1588(3 votes) - The Will To Live: Can Trapped Grief Stop Someone From Having The Will To Live? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had their eye on a new car and they were to take it for a drive, they are likely to find out that it drives well. Along with how it drives, it is also likely to be a comfortable experience. So if they are currently driving a car that is on its way out, this experience is going to be ...
Views: 1588 - There IS Light at the End of the Tunnel - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2012 from Kristie BlankenshipThere IS light at the end of the tunnel! Feel like you are suffocating in the darkness of your pain? Don’t think there’s any hope? When you are in the midst of despair, I want you to know there IS light at the end of your tunnel. You may not think so right now, but it’s there. Many have ...
Views: 1588 - Music During Grief and Loss - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2015 from Dr. Sonara Carter-BarberMusic During Grief and Loss Music touches your soul like nothing else. Music during times of sorrow can be especially helpful. Songs can speak to our emotions and give voice to how we feel. The late BB King said, “Even in your darkest moments, music is a rope to grab onto, something to pull ...
Views: 1587(1 vote) - “I Felt Guilty After My Father Died!” - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen my father had to go into hospital for a heart operation in 2011, I dropped him off at the hospital. And although there was a greater risk due to his age, I thought that he would soon be out. Before he went into hospital, it was clear that he wasn’t in a good way, but as he had been ...
Views: 1587 - Grieving a Spouse - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2009 from Maurice TurmelLosing a spouse is a devastating experience. Our friend, our partner, our soul mate is now gone and we are lost. It feels as if a part of us has died as well. In my practice, helping individuals deal with the loss of their partner was a common occurrence. Young or old, surviving spouses had ...
Views: 1581 - Love, Loss, Trauma, and Community - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Gudrun FrerichsOne characteristic of human societies is that people come together and seek closeness with others in the face of traumatic experiences. "Emotional attachment is probably the primary protection against feelings of helplessness and meaninglessness; it is essential for biological survival in ...
Views: 1581 - “I Knew That Everything Would Be OK!" - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter my father had been moved to a closer hospital, towards the end of 2011, we were pleased that it would be a lot easier to visit him. Even so, this was a time when he was on a life support machine, so it wasn’t as if we could have a conversation with him. There were times when I would ...
Views: 1577 - Where Do You Turn? - by Submitted on May 29, 2006 from Susan DunnWhen my client Lorena was going through her divorce, she said she played the piano every night "until there wasn't an ounce left in me." John went out on his boat and listened to Rachmaninoff. Many of us turn to music when words are not enough, or there are no words. We listen to an opera, or ...
Views: 1572 - A Sad Mother Asks God a Question - by Submitted on May 29, 2007 from Gloria WendroffDear God, I am trying to integrate Heavenletter, #697, What Does Sadness Teach You? It is so good, and I know I am in the verge of understanding it, but not quite getting it. I like the orchestra analogy and only hearing the low notes sometimes when the whole orchestra is playing. My ...
Views: 1571 - Tidal Waves Of Grief - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2008 from Sue FrederickI’m standing on a beach surrounded by a vast expanse of dark sand for as far as I can see. Gulls are squawking in the distance. I’m looking into my father’s watery blue eyes. He’s animated and young, explaining something to me with more passion than I ever saw in the last ...
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