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- The Female Bully and the Codependent Part II: “A Smelly Turd in a Pretty Package” - by Submitted on May 18, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownIn Part One, we discussed some characteristics of the serial female family bully, the way she bullies, her targets and her end game. We looked at some interesting characteristics also seen with the codependent; poor self-esteem and inability to speak her truth or express her anger. In Part ...
Views: 1846(1 vote) - *** End Your Silent Suffering! - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from LeTicia LeeWhy are you reading this article? Why does it resonate with you? Are you in bondage to a loveless marriage, soul-less job/career, in financial debt, anorexic or bulimic? Are you addicted to porn, drugs, video games, social media or alcohol? Did you ever think social media and video games ...
Views: 1479(1 vote) - ****The Subtle Devaluation in a Narcissistic Relationship - When Jekyll Meets Hyde - Laney Zukerman, Relationship & Empowerment Coach, author, Lessons for an Urban Goddess & The Urban Goddess Lesson - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachA romantic relationship with a Narcissist can be an exciting, whirlwind experience. They are often charming and the life of the party. If they are interested in you, nothing will stop them from winning you over. They will flirt, entice, persuade and pursue until you give them a chance. ...
Views: 3131(1 vote) - ***10 SIGNS OF AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2013 from Grace ChattingI often see young women who are suffering from depression, as well as being unhappy (not the same thing). When we peel back the layers of their life a bit, and I ask about their relationship with their husband, often they say, “oh yes, we’re fine”, then they rattle on to ...
Views: 4993(3 votes) - ***DOMESTIC ABUSE: Why Does She Stay? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2013 from Grace Chatting“The psychological impact of subordination to coercive control may have many common features, whether that subordination occurs within the public sphere of politics or within the private sphere of sexual and domestic relations ...... the psychology of the victim is shaped by the ...
Views: 4804(1 vote) - ***Expert List for Narcissistic Survivors - Youtube Video - Laney Zukerman Empowerment & Relationship Coach, Best-Selling Author ~ Lessons for an Urban Goddess & The Urban Goddess Lesson - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachHi Selfgrowth Friends, Since I have been receiving a high volume of readers who are interested in more information on Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and Surviving Relationships with Narcissists, I have created a brief Youtube Video. I have spent many hours reviewing experts on Narcissism and ...
Views: 3915(1 vote) - ***Mel Gibson Had His Button’s Pushed - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2010 from Teagin Maddox,Mel Gibson strikes again, and this time, his disgraceful tirades have been caught on tape and released for all to hear. His behavior has generated a domestic violence investigation and some surprising discussions amongst celebrities, some whom are more upset about the tapes being made public on ...
Views: 3136(1 vote) - ***Psychopaths, Narcissists & Other Lovers by Grace Chatting - by Submitted on May 09, 2014 from Grace ChattingThis is the first of a series of articles about psychopaths, narcissists and other lovers and the contribution they make to Intimate Partner Violence. Perhaps you are familiar with the story about the frog placed in a pan of cold water on a cooker with the heat turned up gradually. The ...
Views: 4554(1 vote) - 10 Tips to Heal from the trauma if you have Been Abused - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2020 from Jaclyn TengThe world we live in is full of miseries and pain. No matter how hard you try, you simply can't avoid the pain and misery that this world carries mercilessly. Therefore, almost all of us are carrying traumas and pain of our own. The only difference is that we all suffer in different ways, and we ...
Views: 905(1 vote) - 3 POWERFUL WAYS TO OVERCOME COVERT EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2018 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachCovert Emotional Manipulation can be crazy-making. It is often subtle, intermittent and doesn't come with any warning signs early on. It is often after many months or years, you may begin to "catch on" that you are being covertly emotionally manipulated! You may begin to doubt your ...
Views: 2343(1 vote) - 3 Smart Moves for Women who are Separating - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2013 from Nancy KayIf you are considering separating from your husband, you are probably overwhelmed with the emotional swings of wondering what will happen next. You may not even want a divorce and are trying hard to reconcile. During a time like this, you may not realize just how critical it is to take ...
Views: 1606(1 vote) - 5 Signs You Are in an Abusive Marriage (by: Dr. Anne Brown PhD, RN) - by Submitted on May 02, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownAre you controlled or in a partnership? Abusive marriages come in different forms. Most people are quick to think of "physical abuse" but there are definitely other acts of abuse that detriment the wellbeing of individuals at the hands of their domestic partner. 1. Physical Abuse In ...
Views: 1408(1 vote) - 5 Ways You Are Ruining Your Unicorn Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2019 from bengio dannyThere are plenty of articles and books out there suggesting people how we can have better sex, a better orgasm, or pieces like "5 Ways You Can Take Your Relationship To The Next Level", and so forth. But how we can achieve those things we often don't hear much of those. Many couples have the ...
Views: 1200(1 vote) - 6 Signs to Know Your Relationship is Over - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2015 from Anand SrivastavaBeing in a relationship can make a strong life, knowing that you have someone special, who will care for you. But at the same time, wrong or bad relationships can play the role of an unwanted drug; which must be left as soon as possible, only to gain a healthier relationship with yourself. ...
Views: 1048(1 vote) - 6 Tools for Resiliency in Recovery - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownResiliency and Recovery have a nice ring. The two R’s! Having a backbone makes this process a lot easier. Resiliency is having the ability to adapt in the face of adversity. The more you know yourself, the greater your self-awareness, and the greater your backbone, the greater your chance ...
Views: 1599(1 vote) - 8 Signs You Are in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2020 from Kalyna KapurWhen we get into a new relationship, everything seems fun and amazing. It feels like the connection we have with another person will last forever, but that is not what always happens. With time relationships change, and people start growing apart. With time you will discover some habits in your ...
Views: 935(1 vote) - 8 Things You Should Never Tolerate While Being In a Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2020 from Kalyna KapurBeing in love is one of the best and the worst feelings in the world. Romance can turn a lot of people blind to signs that their partner is taking advantage of the situation and treating them very badly. When a person is in love, he thinks of his partner like a God who can’t do anything wrong. ...
Views: 882(1 vote) - 9 ways to transform your relationship byraising your self-worth - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2015 from Clement McGrathThere are nine important benefits of high self-worth and when we apply these we will truly create more fulfilling relationships. Here is a brief overview of all nine. There is much more that can be said but this will give you an idea of how you can transform any relationship from stress and ...
Views: 1137(1 vote) - A Closer Look at Abuse - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2011 from Diane BabcockA stagnant stigma Let us take good look at the stagnant stigma surrounding abuse and see abuse for what it really is: an oppressed, suppressed, repressed mighty universal power that has been stolen – mostly feminine. Now look closer. It takes extraordinary resilience and endurance to ...
Views: 1755(1 vote) - A Few Signs of Domestic Violence You Cannot Ignore—Part Four, in a Series of Six - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2011 from Gayle Joplin Hall“My personality and entire lifestyle changed. I had to quit my active involvement with the Chamber of Commerce, could not call on my big corporate accounts with male clients, and was accused daily of having affairs. My long-time friends did not know the hell I was living through. I was so ...
Views: 1371(1 vote) - A Story of Forgiveness - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2011 from Jason FreedmanArticle By: Jason Freedman Po. Box 496 Salt Lake City, UT 84110 JasonFreedmanjournalism@gmail.com The Tragedy to Triumph Story of Teal Scott It was a cold, gray March morning at Greenhouse Effect Coffee in south Salt Lake City. I had arrived early so as to set up my notes and ...
Views: 4775(2 votes) - Abusive Relationships: Why Does Abuse Make People Feel Uncertain? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the consequences of abuse, there are many and some will be more severe than others. One of these consequences is that it usually creates uncertainty in the victim. And this has the potential to create all kinds of problems, because to the degree that one feels uncertain ...
Views: 2238(1 vote) - Addressing The Types Of Gender Inequality Around The World (2): Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2011 from Dotun Adewunmi'Despite the fact that domestic violence appears to be frequent practically everywhere, it is also one of the most underreported offences' [Anna Alvazzi del Frate & Angela Patrignani (1995). Women's Victimisation In Developing Countries, Issues & Reports No 5]. Regardless of the fact that it ...
Views: 2276(2 votes) - Anger - Is It Really Bad? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2011 from Jennifer Elizabeth MastersWayne Dyer is a famous author and metaphysician. He has written many wonderful books on conscious thought, creation and not making excuses. He is a powerful and lovely man. I have met and worked with Wayne in person. My comments about how Wayne feels about anger need to be prefaced with; just ...
Views: 1680(1 vote) - ANGER and our DARK SIDE ~ Do Not Fear It ~ Embrace It - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachAnger and Our Dark Side ~ A force to be Reckoned With In my first book, Lessons for an Urban Goddess, I describe the importance of being in touch with both the light and dark sides of our nature. In order to live your life authentically and mindfully, it is imperative to regulate the ...
Views: 2211(1 vote) - Anger Management - The Difference Between Anger and Aggression - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Joe JamesMost anger management courses should probably more accurately called aggression management classes. This is because anger and aggression are not the same thing. Anger may lead to aggression, but it is something entirely different. If you ask most people what the goal of anger management is ...
Views: 6712(1 vote) - Anger on the Streets of London - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2010 from Martin HoggThere are times in life when feelings can run high and when anger that has been simmering under the surface, bubbles over into full blown chaos. This was the case yesterday during the student demonstration against the planned hike in university fees. In such environments, one angry person is ...
Views: 1453(1 vote) - Anxiety and Depression - Healing From Shame & Cultural Stigmas - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2012 from Trudy-Ann EwanAccording to the National Institutes of Mental Health (NIMH) one in four women will experience severe depression at some point in life. 1 in 4! That’s a very high statistic. The world population stands at around 7,021,836,029 and 49.75% of that number are females. That means a little less than ...
Views: 1414(1 vote) - Are You Codependent? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2012 from Lisa EspichAre you in a relationship with an addict? Have your attempts at helping that person failed? Do you feel powerless? Codependency is a term used when one person develops unhealthy patterns due to the involvement with another person who has the disease of addiction. Some of the negative patterns ...
Views: 1911(1 vote) - ARE YOU DEALING WITH A NARCISSIST? RED FLAGS & HOW TO COPE... - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachAre you dealing with a Narcissist? RED FLAGS & HOW TO COPE From the books: The Urban Goddess Lesson~How to Spot the Bad Boys and Lessons for an Urban Goddess Are you dealing with a true Narcissist? If you believe that you may have a Narcissist in your life, there are specific traits ...
Views: 2170(1 vote) - Are You Feeding Narcissistic Supply? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2021 from Darlene LancerNarcissists hunger to have their needs met. If you’re in a close relationship with a narcissist, they expect you to supply them. The term “narcissistic supply” is based on the psychoanalytic theory that concerns essential needs of babies and toddlers to maintain their mental and emotional ...
Views: 840(2 votes) - Are you in a Toxic Relationship? Should you Stay or Go? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachAre you in a TOXIC Relationship? Are you questioning if you should stay or go? Empowerment Coaching can help. Breaking away from a toxic relationship is very difficult. You may be suffering from emotional abuse, or you may be addicted to an unhealthy love relationship ...
Views: 2090(1 vote) - Are you in Denial? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2014 from Darlene LancerWe’re all in denial. We’d barely get through the day if we worried that we or people we love could die today. Life is unpredictable, and denial helps us cope and focus on what we must in order to survive. On the other hand, denial harms us when it causes us to ignore problems for which there are ...
Views: 1670(1 vote) - Are You Kind or Are You Codependent? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2024 from Darlene LancerDo you wonder whether you're a kind, empathetic person or are you codependent?There is a difference between empathy and codependency. There are codependents who are abusers and not caring, and some people who are caring and aren't codependent. So what's the difference?First, the definition of ...
Views: 287(1 vote) - ARE YOU PUTTING UP WITH AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2011 from Shelley HarrisI was in my thirties before I realised that I was in an emotionally abusive relationship, and it’s a sad fact that many women don’t realise they are. I’ve now learned what a respectful relationship consists of. I know that every relationship is different and everyone’s experiences are ...
Views: 1709(1 vote) - BEWARE OF THE DARK TRIAD - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2018 from Darlene LancerThink of the Dark Triad of Narcissism, Psychopathy, and Machiavellianism as the Bermuda Triangle – it’s perilous to get near it! The traits of all three often overlap and create personality profiles that are damaging and toxic, especially when it comes to intimate relationships, where we let our ...
Views: 1342(2 votes) - Bodily Effects of Torture and Abuse - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2012 from Sam VakninThere is one place in which one's privacy, intimacy, integrity and inviolability are guaranteed – one's body, a unique temple and a familiar territory of sensa and personal history. The torturer invades, defiles and desecrates this shrine. He does so publicly, deliberately, repeatedly and, ...
Views: 2675(1 vote) - Borderline Personality Disorder, Relationships, and Healing - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Dr. Parul PatelWhat is Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) Described as emotional dysregulation, BPD entails a long-term behavior pattern starting at adolescence or young adulthood. BPD is defined by the inability to regulate emotions that manifest in self-image, interpersonally in relationships, ...
Views: 1455(3 votes) - Bullying and The Codependent Part IV: “The Smelly Turd in the Pretty Package” - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownI assess bullying as a form of abuse. Our first child abuse laws had many starts and stops; they did not really gain traction until the 1970’s. These laws addressed physical and sexual abuse, not emotional abuse. Church and State enabled abuse and the paradigm that women and children were ...
Views: 1648(1 vote) - CAN A NARCISSIST LOVE? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2018 from Darlene LancerAnyone who’s loved a narcissist wonders, “Does he really love me?” “Does she appreciate me?” They’re torn between their love and their pain, between staying and leaving, but can’t seem to do either. Some swear they’re loved; others are convinced they’re not. It’s confusing, because sometimes ...
Views: 1088(1 vote) - Child Abuse Prevention Month: Prevention and Education Resources - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2011 from Lisa SiegleApril is Child Abuse Prevention Month in the US, where 906,000 children are victims of abuse or neglect every year. Risk factors include family history of abuse, stress and lack of support, alcohol or drug abuse, and domestic violence. The majority of children in out-of-home care are victims ...
Views: 1714(3 votes) - Child Abuse: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Healing From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can have grown into an adult and therefore left their childhood behind them, it doesn’t mean that they have completely moved on from those early years. Ones childhood influences them in ways that are obvious and in ways that are more or less oblivious. It is a time that plays a ...
Views: 2090(1 vote) - Childhood Abuse and Adult Survivors: Notes from a Seminar - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2013 from Roni Weisberg-RossLet's begin with the statistics - and they are daunting: Approx. 1 in 4 girls & 1 in 8 boys are sexually abused before the age of 18. Even the most conservative estimates put it at 1 in 6 girls & 1 in 10 boys. It is estimated that as many as 40 million Americans - one in six people - ...
Views: 1600(1 vote) - Codependency and Narcissists: What Could Possibly Go Wrong? (Part I) - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownFor this discussion, we are going to stick with our understanding of codependency as a system of distortions that exists on a continuum. Codependents learn personality traits that interfere with knowing one’s self and others. The people-pleasing aspect of codependency might drive the ignoring of ...
Views: 1426(1 vote) - Colleges Must Improve Self-Defense Courses for Women - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2011 from Teagin Maddox,Many colleges offer self defense courses, especially for incoming freshmen, preparing young women with certain skills in physical self defense in case they are ever attacked. This is comforting to parents, but the reality is, their daughters are more likely to be mentally and emotionally ...
Views: 1935(2 votes) - Could Your Partner be a Controller or Verbal Abuser? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2010 from Kari JoysIt’s challenging sometimes to know what’s wrong in your relationship. If you’re like many other people, you probably want a loving relationship more than anything else in the world. Maybe you’ve tried and tried and tried to make your relationship work and yet somehow you just seem to be going ...
Views: 2582(1 vote) - Cyberbullying - The H1N1 of Technology: Implications for Intervention - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Holli KenleyIn Part One: Cyber bullying: The H1N1 of Technology- Causation, several causal factors of cyber bullying we examined. Although the issue is extremely complex, three social norms were explored as being strong contributors to the rampant spread of this technological virus: • The anonymity of ...
Views: 2321(1 vote) - Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2017 from Darlene LancerOur mother is our first love. She’s our introduction to life and to ourselves. She’s our lifeline to security. We initially learn about ourselves and our world through interactions with her. We naturally long for her physical and emotional sustenance, her touch, her smile, and her protection. ...
Views: 2277(2 votes) - Dealing with Highly Aggressive People - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2022 from Darlene LancerIndividuals who are aggressive thrive on provoking and escalating conflict. They’re usually domineering and try to control the conversation. They’re distrustful, reactive, highly defensive, intense, dogmatic, and often, though not always, loud. They’re not open to alternative points of view, but ...
Views: 573(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He gave me a major concussion - by Submitted on May 18, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:I found your site on an internet search. I am in an abusive relationship and am financially dependent on him. I have made him leave several times, only to take him back because of monies. He is an ex cop. I have phoned the authorities many times, they ...
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