An important life lesson that I learnt came from one of the golden rules in public speaking - focus on the connection, not the content. What this means is that the connection a speaker has with the audience is more important than the actual content of the speech.
Sometimes life can be like ... Views: 4724
What is personal power?
Your personal power is based on your thoughts, your feelings, your experiences, and your knowledge.
We all have personal power within us. The level of this personal power varies from individual to individual. The way that this personal power is used also varies from ... Views: 3676
You must have faced obstacles in your life time. I can safely say that every single human being on the face of this planet would have faced obstacles in their lives, and will face obstacles in the future.
Sometimes we tend to exaggerate what an obstacle is, and we may get disempowered in the ... Views: 2946
In his book Public Speaking For Success, Dale Carnegie gives accounts of many people of knowledge who did not publicly share what they knew, purely because they were gripped by the fear of public speaking.
When I first stepped into the public speaking arena, I thought that confidence was ... Views: 2914
One of my earlier mentors in personal development taught me that the word “responsible” carries the meaning of two words “response” and “able”. In other words, responsibility is your ability to respond.
Then, I heard a quote from my single biggest influence on personal development, the ... Views: 2563
When I was doing Life Coaching, every single client that I had, wanted one thing (in some form or another) – motivation! I believe that motivation is something that we all want. Yet, some people cannot seem to actually acquire it.
Motivation can be a very commonly spoken about subject. And, ... Views: 1790
In May 2010, I was called upon to deliver a speech at a leadership convention. It was a cold autumn’s afternoon, as I drove to the venue of the convention while thinking about how to add more impact to my speech.
Although I was asked to speak about goal setting, I decided (in the last ... Views: 1723
Do you remember when you were a kid, and you were encouraged by someone to do something that you liked? What did the encouragement do for you? Chances are, you were given a boost of belief in yourself.
The Power of Encouragement has an amazing effect on children and adults alike. We all ... Views: 1694
Have you ever felt like you needed motivation? Has anyone ever asked you to give them motivation?
The word “motivation” is something that we hear much, yet sometimes we may not understand it enough or may not know how to make it work for us.
While I have written two previous articles on ... Views: 1652
You may have heard that a person’s attitude is very important when it comes to facing challenging situations, which life sometimes (or often) throws at us. A question that I propose to you is this; does your attitude define you, or do you define your attitude? Please have a think about that ... Views: 1652
Is there a formula to get something done? I believe that there are many ways in which you can get something done. It all depends on what works best for you (which you may have figured out by now, or will need to figure out at some stage).
What I have used is this very simple approach, which I ... Views: 1649
On my Personal Development radio segment, I revealed my 7 Steps to living with Purpose & Passion. So here they are:
1. Make a gratitude list daily – you must have something to be thankful for! Make a very comprehensive list of what you are grateful for, every single day. Then read this ... Views: 1620
In the years of coaching and mentoring people, I have noticed that some people want to achieve their goals, yet they do not want to walk on the path to achievement. Yes, there is a path to achievement, and there are no detours from this path!
The real winners in life are the ones who embrace ... Views: 1548
During my days as a Youth Mentor, there were many young people who needed support in either getting their life back on track or in achieving something they desired.
Some of the youth were very challenging to deal with, let alone provide support to, in a professional capacity. The key was to ... Views: 1528
Have you ever felt or thought that you have got much more to offer to the world than what you currently do?
Do you know what your potential and capabilities really are?
Let me ask you another question, how well do you know yourself?
While I consider myself a ‘full time student of ... Views: 1526
Recently I was asked by a Life Coach about what I taught my clients regarding purposeful behaviour. Now, some people will tell you that behaviour is driven by your values! My question is, what are your values driven by? Please think about that for a moment! I advised him that my belief is that ... Views: 1520
It is said that the number one skill required in being able to communicate effectively is the ability to listen.
As you might already realise, listening is different to hearing.
There is a lot of buzz about active listening – where your focus is entirely on the words that are coming out of ... Views: 1489
Setting goals and achieving goals is something that most of us want. The key is to differentiate between a goal and a mere wish. A wish is something that people dream about. A goal is accompanied with a plan and a time line.
My definition of the word goal is:
G.O.A.L – Getting Over All ... Views: 1485
Life will always throws challenges at us. That is a given. I believe that if there were no challenges in life (or ups and downs in life), life would become mundane.
As Tony Robbins nicely put it, “Challenges are required for growth".
If life was always smooth sailing, there would be no ... Views: 1462
An impression is simply a clue.
A fact is something that you believe (through information).
When was the last time you formed got an impression about someone or something that was not based on a fact?
When was the last time you based something on what you thought was a fact, and it ... Views: 1460
It had been raining Friday night and I woke up early on Saturday morning, hoping for more rain so I could wash my car. You see, I live in Melbourne, Victoria, a State in south eastern Australia where we have severe restrictions on water usage, so, I only wash my car when it is raining. I had a ... Views: 1442
On a particular Wednesday morning, I was waiting for a tram, after consulting with a client. A lady walked up to the tram stop, while pushing a walking aide. As soon as we looked at each other, we smiled. In a recent edition of my newsletter - Ideal Insights (www.impetussuccess.com.au), I spoke ... Views: 1430
When I was the lead trainer of an organisation called Speak To Influence, we traveled the country, delivering staff training to medium/large companies.
We taught the attendees of our training sessions how to be influential while communicating (be it one-to-one communication or ... Views: 1356
I regularly train at a local boxing gym in a northern suburb of Melbourne and recently I was fortunate enough to meet an amazing man, Adrian Charter. Now, Adrian comes to the boxing gym to train, just like me. The difference is, I am 31 years old, and Adrian is 72!
I watched Adrian as he was ... Views: 1338
I came to realise the numerous benefits of exercise at a very early age. So, I have made a commitment to myself that I will run every morning, from Monday to Friday. There is a football oval near my house where I go to, for a run in the mornings.
During winter time, it is quite dark when I ... Views: 1306
Have you ever felt like you needed to get something done, and you didn’t have the internal resources to get it done?
We all have had that feeling at some point of our lives. Perhaps it was a combination of internal resources and external support that you needed. Either way, the task at hand ... Views: 1258
In February, 2014, I started training at an MMA (mixed martial arts) gym. At the front door of that gym, there was a poster, which said:
“1 hour is just 4% of your day. So, what is your excuse not to exercise?”
That statement really puts things into perspective, regardless of how busy you ... Views: 1208
When was the last time that someone asked you for motivation? Alternatively, when was the last time that you asked someone else to provide you with motivation? My point is this, it is part of human behaviour to appreciate being motivated! We all have received motivation, and we all have ... Views: 1199
As we start another year, people everywhere are looking for certain things in 2012. Well, whatever you are looking for, you will need to be well prepared for the opportunities, challenges, and rewards in 2012
So, here are my 7 Steps To Creating A More Rewarding 2012.
1. Know where you ... Views: 1187
What do you think someone will think of you, or how will they feel about you when they meet you for the first time?
What type of ‘mark’ will you leave on them?
Have you ever met someone for the first time, and thought or felt “There is something significant about this person?”
I read ... Views: 1174
In the previous article (titled Worrying – The Truth About It), we discussed the negativity that we are exposed to on a daily basis.
To be precise, I suggested “Switch off from the media – the Black Eyed Peas said “Wrong information always shown by the media. Negative images is the main ... Views: 1173
Have you ever been belittled?
Has anyone close to you ever put you down in the presence of others?
How do you normally react when someone does that you?
I can safely say that everyone (to some extent) has been subjected to the above-mentioned.
On my Life Skills radio segment, a ... Views: 1164
Grief is a part of human life, we all experience it during our time on earth. We generally tend to experience grief during a time of loss. Grief can consume us to an extend that getting through the day can be very challenging!
Although there might not be any getting away from grief itself, ... Views: 1156
One of the world’s foremost leadership experts, Dr Marshall Goldsmith (who is like a virtual mentor to me) once said “Personal contact matters — and matters greatly”.
When I was an Executive Coach, I came across many CEOs and MDs who were very emphatic on the personal touch.
Regardless of ... Views: 1154
Motivational speaking legend Les Brown speaks about a study conducted at M.I.T (Massachusetts Institute Of Technology). The study concluded that every time a person directs a negative statement toward you, it takes 17 positive statements just to neutralise the initial negative ... Views: 1143
On 21 June, I was fortunate enough to attend a presentation by Dr Sarah Hanieh (research fellow) at the Doherty Institute, and recipient of a PhD in Medicine from The University of Melbourne).
She titled her speech “Breaking Through The Ice”.
The insights in her presentation were based on ... Views: 1134
“Adapt or perish”.
Have you heard that before?
It is said that the only two certainties in life are death and taxes. Well, let’s add another one – constant change.
Change is an inevitable part of our existence. Almost every aspect of your life will go through some form of change. Those ... Views: 1122
We often hear the word “purpose” in the personal development field. One of my favourite lines that I use in my speeches is “Find your purpose, and live it with passion”. Yet, sometimes we need more clarity on the word “purpose” in the context of personal development.
If I were to ask you ... Views: 1115
What is it about you that sets you apart from the masses of the population?
Have you thought of doing something that is considered significant?
Would you like to do something that will be considered significant?
Creating something significant in your life is not just about being ... Views: 1106
What is self love?
Self love is the process of acknowledging, validating, honouring, and respecting yourself!
So, why is self love important? The importance of self love can be traced back to the effects of nurturing yourself. When you nurture and support yourself, you are in a far better ... Views: 1102
A very happy new year to you! I hope that you really enjoyed the Christmas season with family and friends.
Seeing that now things are getting back to the normal routine (people are going back to work, and children are preparing to go back to school), we must focus on what we can do to make ... Views: 1101
In one of his recent articles, New York Times Best-Selling Author and Leadership Specialist, Dr Marshall Goldsmith spoke about feedback and feedforward.
I have considered Dr Goldsmith to be a virtual mentor for the past 6 years. His articles are always insightful. On a personal note, he has ... Views: 1084
I recently read an article (on how successful people set goals and follow through) by leadership expert and New York Time best selling author, Dr Marshall Goldsmith.
In that article Dr Goldsmith speaks about ownership. He said “successful people have a high need for and reliance upon ... Views: 1080
Have you ever wanted to do something that seemed important to you, but you didn’t go ahead because you were gripped by the fear of failure?
If so, you are not alone. The fear of failure is a crippling force that affects almost every single human being.
Why?
In an article in Forbes, ... Views: 1071
At the beginning of every year, so many people set “resolutions” for the year ahead, hoping to create some, or massive personal change.
In a very insightful article by Ray Williams (published in Psychology Today), he mentioned that by the month of February, most people have started to ... Views: 1066
This year will be over in a matter of days. Then, 2014 begins.
I would suggest that you take a long and hard look at 2013 (the year that it was, for you). While I realise that some people may say that the past is irrelevant, I strongly believe that the past can teach us a great deal.
So, ... Views: 1058
When was the last time someone told you about something they wish to achieve?
Whether they are looking at doing something big or doing something minor, there is an underlying reason for wanting to achieve that goal.
At the end of the day, what most people seek is joy, fulfilment, ... Views: 1052
Imagine this – something goes wrong in the life of someone close to you. That person is shattered. What is one of the first things they could do?
They could look for someone to blame.
In my Life Coaching career, there have been many clients who chose to blame someone when things went ... Views: 1051
In my experience through working with youth and with people with mental illnesses (such as depression), I have discovered that support from a human being can go a very long way in creating positive changes.
This also applies to the workplace and at home. Support can be very uplifting in ... Views: 1035
June 2011 saw the successful launch of my very first book, WELCOME TO YOUR LIFE – simple insights for your inspiration & empowerment (www.WelcomeToYourLifeBook.com).
Throughout the whole process (from writing the manuscript, to releasing the book), I learnt many valuable life lessons, which I ... Views: 1033