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- Drinking: The 'Relationship' to the Bottle - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from Ken HowardOver my 18 years as a psychotherapist, one of the most frequent issues my clients bring to me is a concern about their drinking, or perhaps their drug use. There is a wide range; some people don’t have large problems with drinking or using, but they have some concerns about it after a ...
Views: 1483(2 votes) - Guidelines for Determining a Toxic Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownShould I leave my relationship? This question is probably one of the top ten reasons people have come into my practice asking for help. I am a therapist who prefers to work preventatively. I would like someone who is in the market for a relationship to already be in therapy. A good therapist can ...
Views: 1508(2 votes) - Healing My Anger - Defusing a Time Bomb - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysFor many years, I would have told you that yes, there was drinking in my house while I was growing up, but I got out just fine, and it didn’t really affect me. Then when I was in my early ‘30s, I started to see signs that such was not the case. I worked for a time with a prison ministry, ...
Views: 2391(4 votes) - How Drugs Work - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2010 from Aaron PeterDrugs have become an important element in the history of medicine to cure or increase the immunity in humans against various diseases. Due to continuous innovation, research and development in the past 4-5 decades, drugs are now available to cure majority of diseases. When taken in prescribed ...
Views: 1457(1 vote) - How to Heal from a Relationship with a Narcissist! - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2019 from Dr. Anne Brown“Sometimes, you find yourself in the middle of nowhere, and sometimes, in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself.” In our article about Leaving a Narcissist, I spoke about knowledge being your best weapon. Only with knowledge about what is happening, how it is happening, and how to counter ...
Views: 1616(2 votes) - How To Release Addictions And Bad Habits With Ease And Grace - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2009 from Bill AustinThese are practices that I do whenever I am trying to release a pattern that no longer serves my highest good. I am using smoking as an example but you can fill in any other habit instead of smoking like drinking, drugs and other addictive behaviors. It is easier to release old patterns and ways ...
Views: 4019(1 vote) - I Saw the Enemy - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2009 from Keith BrayAlways interesting to see what thoughts run through my head as I try to shut down my conscious thinking and spend quiet time in the morning. About fifteen years ago I sat in a treatment centre, Homewood, in Guelph, Ontario. I had been alcohol and drug free for about 3 months, and this did allow ...
Views: 1540(1 vote) - Identifying PTSD from Childhood Abuse-3 Steps to Healing - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from Bettina Sparkles ObernuefemannI’ve learned during the past 20 years that almost all of us on planet earth have experienced some kind of trauma or loss, now more commonly recognized as POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER (PTSD). We become trauma victims when we experience natural disasters, murder, suicide, gang fights, robbery, ...
Views: 6365(3 votes) - If he hits you once, he'll hit you twice!! - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2009 from Christina HallTwenty-one is the age where teenagers are turning into young adults and most young adults at this age love to go to parties and have a good time. Maybe because they know that they won’t be able to do this for much longer. Well, at least for most people that is. I was one of those people. I ...
Views: 2372(1 vote) - In the Playhouse of Your Mind - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2011 from Richard (Dick) WarnBrian Tracy, Canadian-born American trainer and author, said, “Our mind is the most valuable possession we have. The quality of our lives is, and will be, a reflection of how well we develop, train, and utilize this precious gift.” It has been said that 2% of the people think, 3% of the ...
Views: 1486(2 votes) - Is Suffering Optional? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from Dr. Kathleen YoungMy title is prompted by the oft repeated phrase: Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. What is your experience of this? Is suffering optional? Is that even a desirable goal? Or are there experiences that automatically cause suffering? Is there a function to “suffering” or feeling one’s ...
Views: 1384(2 votes) - Is Your Loved One Ready For Alcohol and Drug Treatment? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2010 from addiction professorJust because you want your teenage son to quit drinking, that does not mean he is ready for an alcohol and drug treatment program. The odds are he does not even think he has a problem. Most addicts do not. An addict has to desire change himself. If he’s not ready to change, then he will make no ...
Views: 1157(2 votes) - Mobbing in the Workplace: Has This Happened to You? - by Mobbing in the workplace has long been studied in Europe. Just look it up on a search engine. Described in "Mobbing: Emotional Abuse in the American Workplace", published by Davenport, Elliott, and Schwartz in 1999, mobbing is about collective assault in the corner office, in cubbies, on the ...
Views: 23780(1 vote) - Mother Love / FEMALE ABUSERS - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-Ross“A Social Problem Does Not Exist For A Society Until It Is Recognized By That Society To Exist” – H. Blumer The following is the first of a three-part series of articles: It was in a high school literature class that I was first introduced to the Oedipus Complex, defined as “a boy’s ...
Views: 14093(2 votes) - Motherless Daughters Healing The Pain - by Submitted on May 28, 2011 from Gail OKeeffeThere is nothing like Mother's Day to remind you of just how much you have lost and how painful that loss is if you are estranged from your mother due to abandonment (disclosing your abuse, mental illness, drug abuse, physical or emotional abuse etc) or loss. When I disclosed my abuse to my ...
Views: 3225(2 votes) - My JOURNEY of LOVE - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2005 from Danish AhmedBack in 1976, my family was living in Pakistan, where I was conceived. My dad had borrowed just enough money to fly himself to Canada. It took him four years before he could save up the money to fly my mom and my five siblings to Canada as well. So, I had absolutely no communication with my ...
Views: 1197(2 votes) - Myth of Silence - by Submitted on May 26, 2011 from Gail OKeeffeMyth of Silence Silence as a survival tool. Generations of children have been sexually abused. It was done to them in secret and they remain silent. Not talking about the painful childhood experiences has been a survival tool. The shame and secrecy that surrounds sexual abuse of ...
Views: 1435(1 vote) - Need A Recovery Program? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2011 from Keith BrayNEED A RECOVERY PROGRAM? I am blessed to be acquainted with a great group of people who are involved in addiction recovery and helping others. Patrick Meninga who operates the web site www.spiritualriver.com is one of those people. Over the years, Patrick and I have collaborated on several ...
Views: 1619(2 votes) - New Therapy Breakthrough for PTSD - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2010 from Adele Tartaglia INSTANT SUBCONSCIOUS REPROGRAMMING The Life Management Center 480/220-2089 eztherapy@gmail.comIf you have experienced a traumatic event or series of events that you have not really recovered from, you may be suffering from PTSD, post traumatic stress disorder. You don’t feel like you did before the incident, you are easily triggered, too guarded to connect with your family, fearful, ...
Views: 2426(1 vote) - Night Night, Sleep Tight: A Look at Sexual Abuse - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIn every story worth telling, there is a colorful beginning. This one begins with me… When my stepfather started caressing me, and lightly tickling my arms, legs, and back, it felt nice. I felt loved. I was often watching television when he would cuddle with me on the sofa. My ...
Views: 3288(1 vote) - Pre-Marital Counseling In View Of Abuse - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2009 from Gary DirenfeldPre-Marital Counseling In View Of Abuse My boyfriend and I getting married in a few months and I am worried because although he is so great, he does have a temper. When he gets mad he becomes scary. At times he yells and screams and at other times he throws and breaks things. He’s only hit me ...
Views: 1637(1 vote) - Sexual Addiction: A Brief Description, Part 1 - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2009 from Peggy FergusonIf you see yourself in this brief description of sexual addiction, it can be the beginning of achieving recovery and getting your life back. The hope is that there is recovery, that it is possible. "The journey of a thousand miles begins by taking the initial step". The good news is that you ...
Views: 2697(1 vote) - Sexual Addiction: Are You a Sex Addict? Part 2 - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2009 from Peggy FergusonSexual addiction is a dysfunctional pattern of compulsive sexual behavior that continues even after the addict knows that it is causing major problems in their life. The sex addicts has a compulsion to engage in the problem behavior despite the fact that it has become emotionally dissatisfying ...
Views: 1996(1 vote) - Should I Quit my Job Or Get Fired? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2008 from Mistina Thomson"In the song ""The Gambler,"" Kenny Rodgers sang, ""You got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em, know when to walk away, and know when to run."" If that seems to sum up your job situation, then you may be wondering if you should quit or allow yourself to get fired. Here are some ...
Views: 10802(2 votes) - Signs Of Alcohol Abuse: When Use Becomes abuse. - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2011 from Charles SomerMany people often wonder what alcohol abuse is and what the signs of alcohol abuse are? While most people will find that they do drink a single drink every night, they will assume that this doesn't constitute abuse in any form. The truth of the matter is that there are different levels when it ...
Views: 2185(2 votes) - Spiritual Healing Of Emotional Abuse - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2011 from Robert FritchieI have spent 29 years as a technical researcher facilitating healings on a variety of illnesses. In the beginning, my understanding of“energy” was strictly that taught in engineering school. There was no mention of energy associated with the human body. Those of us studying energy today view ...
Views: 4440(1 vote) - Spotting the Signs: Is Your Child Being Cyberbullied? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2017 from KidGuard Inc.As cyberbullying has emerged with the development of technology, for many parents, it may feel a bit like uncharted territory. On many difficult topics, We often relate to our children by similar experiences during our childhood. However, due to its recent appearance, cyberbullying is likely not ...
Views: 1240(1 vote) - Taking the Bully by the Horns - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesBullies are people we deal with 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. They’re our coworkers, neighbors, acquaintances, strangers, and, yes, even family and friends slip on their bully masks from time to time. (Some more than others!) No matter who, where, or why, bullies can make you feel miserable and ...
Views: 1201(2 votes) - Ten Tools to Boost Your Self-Worth - by As I prepared my educational sessions each week I noticed a trend I could not deny. No matter what subject I selected, whether it was honesty, denial, defenses or boundaries the core issue always returned to a lack of self-worth. If the clients felt a sense of self-worth, there would be no ...
Views: 8353(1 vote) - The Emergence of Female Sex Addiction: Understanding Gender Differences - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2012 from Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed. LCPC CADCHome Our Team About Us Services Staff Sites Addiction Services Articles Networking Trainings Location Contact The Emergence of Female Sex Addiction: Understanding Gender Differences Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC Clinical Care ...
Views: 5972(2 votes) - The Heart-Break Of Ego - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2010 from Tom WrightTom Wright Many brilliant theorists, philosophers, self-help gurus, and psychiatrists, often speak of the "ego" as if "it" were something other than what it is: an illusion. An illusion is something that is real, but temporary. What we refer to as the ego has no permanent existence, any ...
Views: 3813(3 votes) - What is SHAME? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Donna TorbicoTHE BAD SEED I was born bad & I’ll always be bad Guilt is about actions - it’s the emotion which is caused by disobedience to rules we deeply believe in. On the other hand, SHAME is about our identity - about who we are, fundamentally. It says that our very essence is bad, unlovable, ...
Views: 2336(1 vote) - Who Is An Alcoholic - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2011 from Charles SomerHave you ever wondered if you or a loved one is an alcoholic? There are many different definitions and explanations of what alcoholism is and who can be classified as suffering this addiction. Many times these designations are chosen by the various treatment facilities, perhaps the best way to ...
Views: 1657(2 votes) - Why Parents Need to Read Fairy Tales (Part 5) - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2009 from Glenn BergerAs we have learned in this series so far, fairy tales are ironic. They tell a truth so shocking that it can only be revealed in innocent children's stories. 2500 years ago, in Plato’s Republic, Socrates said the truth exposed in these stories was so dangerous that they should not be allowed to ...
Views: 3846(1 vote) - Wisdom and Wellness: Boundaries - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2014 from Lynn BlanchardThis week I've been working with how much courage it takes, for those who are people-pleasers , to be authentic. It's a fact that you can't set a boundary to take care of yourself, and take care of the other person's feelings at the same time. For many, the prohibition against hurting someone ...
Views: 1610(1 vote) - “WHAT OTHERS THINK OF ME IS NONE OF MY BUSINESS” - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2011 from Donna TorbicoLONELY CREATURES We’re all social animals, even when we sometimes need our privacy Many people in the mental health field, spiritual practices & new-age wisdom say we shouldn’t worry about what others think of us. Yes, OK, but it’s not that simple! What they don’t tell you is that there’s 2 ...
Views: 1991(2 votes) - ***Abuse is a Bad Word - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2011 from Janet NestorI don't know the percentage of people who come into my office living in abuse or needing to work through past abuse. The ratio is astoundingly high. When I worked in substance abuse residential care, the percentage was probably 99%. Physical abuse and verbal abuse are easier to recognize ...
Views: 3793(11 votes) - Ritual Abuse - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2009 from Neil BrickRitual abuse exists all over the world. There have been reports, journal articles[1][2][3], web pages[4][5][6][7][8][9] and criminal convictions of crimes against children and adults [10][11][12]. Contents * 1 Definition * 2 Origins of the term * 3 Evidence * 4 ...
Views: 5872(7 votes) - Sexual Addiction Behavior Types (Patrick Carnes) - by Submitted on May 30, 2011 from Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed. LCPC CADCAccording to Patrick Carnes, there are 11 sexual addiction behavior types. This information is important when when working with sexually addictive or codependents or co-addicts of sex addicts. As you will see, sex addiction comes in many forms and types. Anything from the lone web surfer who ...
Views: 8379(5 votes) - Siblings - The Forgotten Ones - How Siblings Get Hurt - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2010 from Judy HerzanekThe Parable of the Prodigal Son While he was still a long way off, his father saw him coming. Filled with compassion the father ran to the son, threw his arms around him and said, "Welcome home." His son had come to his senses. "Let's have a party!" His brother refused to come ...
Views: 2903(5 votes) - Breaking Boards and Breaking the Silence - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2009 from Lisa ChristiansenGi-Dee-Thlo-Ah-EE, This is the name given to me by my mother Sosti (Mary Ann Groundhog) at the time of my birth, My Name is Lisa, I am from the Blue People Clan and I will Break the Silence! As you come to know me better my hope is that you will feel the pride that I have lived with in my ...
Views: 2033(3 votes) - Getting Past Emotional Pain - by Submitted on May 24, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraAll of us have been emotionally hurt at one time or another—it doesn’t matter who and what you are, really. However, there are also people who seem so totally unreceptive to emotional pain. These are the type who doesn’t give a smack when someone tries to get close to them with a bit of an ...
Views: 4520(3 votes) - Holodynamics: Compassion meets physics - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2009 from Andrew ScheimI would like to share with you a very powerful form of consciousness work called Holodynamics. First a brief background on how I came to this work. In my practice I work with very challenged individuals. The patterns that cause illness on all levels are quite deep and usually clouded in ...
Views: 4333(3 votes) - Michael Jackson: The Lost Childhood - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2009 from Jim HagueNow deceased, Michael Jackson is more powerful than ever before. This story has made frontline news in all the world’s paper for 3 days straight now. No other news is seemingly is so captivating; not Jon and Kate, not US economic woes, not even the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan. Michaels’ ...
Views: 5032(3 votes) - Motivating the Village to Protect the Children - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from Lisa SiegleChild abuse is a painful reality, but one that is preventable. As caring, thinking adults, we could have a profound impact on the lives of vulnerable children if each and every one of us reached out to other adults and inspired them to help protect kids. As a community, we can make a difference ...
Views: 1649(3 votes) - Why Sit Here Until I Die? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Audrina BuntonThe bible tells a story about four men who sat at the entrance of the city's gate dying with leprosy, an incurable disease which causes terribly visible swelling and sores on the skin, only then to eat inward to the bones. These lepers sat outside of the city because they were not permitted to ...
Views: 3078(3 votes) - HEALTHY OPPOSITES - Change Your Behavior, Change Your Life - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from Donna TorbicoFor ACoAs- (Adult-Children of alcoholics, abusers, abandoners & other narcissists) ACoAs know how they would like their life to be: TO have a fulfilling career, loving relationships, less pressure, a little fun... and they try, struggle, obsess - but not much changes. They become more & more ...
Views: 2873(5 votes) - The Hunt - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. Hays(Written September 20, 1988) We were in a house trailer just outside the Lindreth trading post, in northwest New Mexico. There were six of us on the hunt that year: My Dad and I; Morris - Dad's best friend, and his son Brad; Don - who owned the trailer and was to be our guide, and his son ...
Views: 1933(9 votes) - Adult Talk - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2009 from Fireflies Team"Not again!" I screamed silently as my dad's footsteps careened him into the wall. . . slurring a curse, he stumbled. He was home and drunk - again. "I hope. . . " I continued my silent plea, "I hope you just keep on going past me. No need to say anything." The very large house I lived ...
Views: 1360(2 votes) - Advantages of Multi-Panel Drug Test - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2010 from Aaron PeterDrug testing at homes, workplaces, schools, and sports is important as it helps to identify drug addiction among teenagers, employees, students, and athletes respectively. Performing drug testing using multi-panel urine drug test is easy, convenient, and provides quick results. Multi-panel urine ...
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