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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dr. Romance on The Freedom of Maturity - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2016 from Tina Tessina"And then, not expecting it, you become middle-aged... You achieve a wonderful freedom. It is a positive thing." -- Doris Lessing Maturity or middle age means different things to different people, writes Dr. Romance, but for most, reaching a mature age means developing a new set of ...
Views: 1288(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on The Meaning of Life - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: A seeker goes to Nepal and climbs into the Himalayas to find a teacher, a guru he’s heard about. After months of searching and struggle, he finds the famous man, and asks his burning question: "What is the meaning of life?" "The meaning of life is a ...
Views: 1205(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on The State of the Union Meeting - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr Romance recommends couples increase their mutual respect and appreciation by having a regular "State of the Union" meeting. Here are two simple techniques you can use in all kinds of relationships: couples, families, even work partners and friends, to enhance your cooperation, ...
Views: 1177(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Winning the War Within - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Do you sometimes feel locked in a struggle with yourself? I know I do. Why is it that we know what we want to do, but it’s such a struggle to actually get it done? Even Saint Paul writes, in a letter to the Romans, “I do not do the good I want, but the ...
Views: 1366(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on You Be The Judge - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: In my therapy practice, I witness a lot of confusion about the proper role of judgement in life and relationships. Often, when I ask clients to analyze whether a person they’re dating has good character, they tell me they don’t want to be judgmental. People in twelve step ...
Views: 1108(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Your Job on Earth - by Submitted on May 11, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: It's easy to get discouraged when we become aware of the suffering throughout the world: natural disasters; racial prejudice; addiction and self-destruction; political oppression in its many forms (starvation, war, torture, misinformation, imprisonment, denial of ...
Views: 1008(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: Apology and Forgiveness - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: In my clinical experience, I've encountered many clients who are afraid to admit they're wrong. This comes from a culture of blaming and accusing -- where one's early family may have picked a "culprit" when something went wrong, and focused on blame, rather than ...
Views: 1280(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: Getting To Yes - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2011 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: The average person pays more attention to what she's saying or thinking about than what she is hearing, or how her words are "landing" on the other person. This self-involvement gets worse during an argument. You can become a much more effective communicator by using what I ...
Views: 1039(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: No Cooperation? Solve It Yourself! - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: What do you do after you have tried everything and your partner, friend, child or colleague still won't negotiate? In previous articles, like “Asking for What you Want,” “Couples Can Cooperate for Success” and “Gentle Persistence” we’ve explored a lot of communication ...
Views: 857(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: Should I Start a Family? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: The skills couples need to keep intimacy alive in a long-term relationship differ from new relationship intimacy skills, and they're not obvious because people don't talk about them. Most couples need to lower their expectations of romance and glamour and raise the ...
Views: 656(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: The Power of Politeness - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Politeness and sensitivity are not held in high esteem in the media these days. The nastiest politicians get the most air time. Many media spokespeople, stars and commentators, “gangsta” rappers, nasty radio talk show stars and “edgy” comedians; as well as personalities ...
Views: 1633(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: Why does my partner insist on being right? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2021 from Tina TessinaWhen your partner refuses to help solve the problem, you have no choice but to focus on your own need until you get cooperation. As long as you offer every opportunity to cooperate and you extend an invitation to your partner to join you whenever he or she wishes, you are free to focus your ...
Views: 567(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: Without Ego - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: When reading philosophical teachings and writings, I often wonder why the body and the ego are seen so negatively, as if they somehow are antithetical to spirituality. Although ego, body and mind are not all we are, each is part, an ...
Views: 1220(1 vote) - Dr. Romance says: "Lighten Up - Cures for Marital Boredom" - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: The old folk songs say it: Oh, love is handsome, love is fineLove is a jewel when it is new; But when love's old, it waxes coldAnd fades away, like morning dew. Folk wisdom says it: If newlyweds put a penny in a jar for every time they make love in the first year, and ...
Views: 798(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: 5 Tips to Move on Emotionally after Divorce - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2012 from Tina Tessina(To view the video, go here: http://youtu.be/98RZAsK9c6c) Going through a divorce is devastating. You not only lose the marriage and break up your family; you also lose all the hopes and dreams you had for happiness here. Dr. Romance helps you to pick yourself up from the rubble and move on ...
Views: 3312(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: Dating after Widowhood - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2013 from Tina TessinaTo view the video, click here. Dr. Romance's 3 Tips for Finding New Love For a while after a relationship ends, you may not feel like considering a new relationship, which is probably good. Jumping right from one relationship to another usually doesn't work. A relationship that ...
Views: 1593(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: How to be Civil to an Ex-Husband - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2012 from Tina Tessina[View the video here: http://youtu.be/1DM_RHzOBEk] The divorce was ugly, he was a jerk, but you still need to have contact with him because of your kids or finances. You hate to have to deal with him, but you have to. What can you do to make it better for yourself and your kids? Tina B. ...
Views: 1871(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: Infidelity -- Stay or Go? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2012 from Tina TessinaIf video doesn't load, click here. Discovering your partner has been unfaithful is a shock. Your first instinct may be to run, but if you have a shared history, children and finances, you may wonder – should you stay or go? Dr. Romance shows you how to decide. When you get ...
Views: 2473(1 vote) - Dr. Romance's Guidelines for A Great First Date - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2018 from Tina TessinaGoing on the first few dates with a new person can be nerve-wracking. These Dr. Romance guidelines can help you be safe, find out the important things you need to know, and have fun. *Safety First – Before you go on this date, make sure you have thought about who will be in ...
Views: 896(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: "Don't Call Your Ex!" - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance "Don't Call Your Ex" Dr. Romance’s How to handle being dumped DO put it in perspective If you're dumped, it hurts, but count your lucky stars. You don’t have a relationship if the other person's not really interested. DO understand that there were problems already ...
Views: 1877(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: "How to Deal with a Partner's Annoying Quirks" - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2019 from Tina TessinaMany guys, especially younger ones, are well known for having 'courting behavior' and then relaxing into their old, slobby selves once you're committed. It's not that men are from Mars, women from Venus - it's more like all of us have grown up on different planets. Couples can get caught up in ...
Views: 810(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: 16 things to consider before moving in together or making financial commitments: - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2020 from Tina TessinaMoving in together is a financial commitment, and so is marriage, so it’s important to consider the tough issues you’ll face as a cohabiting or married couple. Dr. Romance's Financial Questions to Ask Before Marriage or Moving in Together The family you grew up in shapes an ...
Views: 829(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: 3 Ways to Ruin Your Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2020 from Tina TessinaEspecially during trying times like isolation, relationships can be devastated by simple, thoughtless things. Bad behavior will ruin your marriage faster than any temptation from the outside. Dr. Romance points out the worst mistakes to make in a marriage. Dr. Romance's 3 ways to ...
Views: 738(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Dating after Widowhood - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's 3 Tips for Finding New Love For a while after a relationship ends, you may not feel like considering a new relationship, which is probably good. Jumping right from one relationship to another usually doesn't work. A relationship that follows too quickly is called a ...
Views: 685(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Got a Tough Ex? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Tina TessinaRelationships: Three Tips to Dealing with a Really Difficult Ex-Spouse Dr. Romance’s three tips to dealing with a difficult ex. 1. Choose your battles. One of my clients once said “I don’t want to die on that hill.” She meant: that battle isn’t worth what it will cost me – I’ll ignore ...
Views: 1826(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: How to Create a Good Roommate Situation - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance: More and more people are sharing quarters since the pandemic. Being social distanced all alone is difficult, and financial problems are making roommates seem more desirable. Here's how to set up a situation you'll be glad about. The best way to have a good ...
Views: 676(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Is there a right way to ask for more sex? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2021 from Tina TessinaIf you and your partner are not on the same page sexually, you need to learn how to talk with each other about sex: Dr. Romance's Guidelines for Creating a Sexual Agreement: * Set up a problem-solving session: * Having a time to talk about sex will help you create trust and sexual ...
Views: 812(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Make your love life sparkle! - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's Top 5 ways to take your marriage from good to great. 1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other about your frustrations, about sex, about anger, about disappointment, about your appreciation of each other, about the meaning of life, about everything. No topic should be ...
Views: 964(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Reluctant to Marry Again - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaWhen a relationship that probably began in hope and joy has ended in failure, grief and pain, It's very understandable to be concerned about repeating an action that was so hurtful. Here are some Happiness Tips for recovering from divorce. Dr. Romance’s 3 tips for letting go of the ...
Views: 673(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Spouse's Child - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2016 from Tina TessinaIt’s not the first thing everyone thinks of, but the existence of an out-of-wedlock child will have a big economic impact, and the financial responsibility will grow with the child. 1. Unless you can settle with the child’s other parent out of court, court costs can be very expensive. ...
Views: 1343(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2012 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Many people ask me, “How will I know if I'm in love?” Answer: Anyone who's in love usually knows it; the real question should be are we mutually in love, or am I wasting my time? If you want to be secure in your primary relationship, knowing how to create mutuality and ...
Views: 1876(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Many people ask me, “How will I know if I'm in love?” Answer: Anyone who's in love usually knows it; the real question should be are we mutually in love, or am I wasting my time? If you want to be secure in your primary relationship, knowing how to create mutuality and work ...
Views: 1005(1 vote) - Dr. Romance’s guide to dating safely: - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2018 from Tina TessinaI have encountered so many people who have been disappointed, ripped off or worse when dating online, that I drew up some guidelines for keeping yourself safe. Dr. Romance’s guide to dating safely: Be skeptical, not gullible. When you're meeting dates online (it is not dating until it's ...
Views: 1057(1 vote) - Dynamic Marriage - The Perfect Valentines Day Gift - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2011 from Tom KingAre you at a loss about what to give your wife for Valentines Day? What can you give your man that will make a big impact on him? The answers lie in understanding what your spouse really wants and needs from you. Let me give you some ideas. We all have common human needs but our priorities ...
Views: 1224(1 vote) - Easy to Follow Instructions for Condom Use - by Submitted on May 08, 2013 from Amy ShepherdIf you are looking for a simple guide about how to put on a condom then follow the 15 simple steps below: 1.Erection It seems like an obvious thing but you need to have an erect penis before you attempt to put on the condom. Roll the condom down the erect penis before any anal, oral or ...
Views: 1913(1 vote) - Eat Your Heart Out - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeAccording to a new research study in the UK (http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1341660/Six-10-women-dont-like-eating-partners.html?ITO=1490), more than 60 percent of British women in relationships do not feel comfortable eating in front of their partner, and almost half get shy when ...
Views: 1109(1 vote) - Effortless Ways to Get Your Ex Back - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2011 from Patrick MorrisBreakup really sucks, does it not? However, there are good things that might come out of every breakup. For instance, you can have the precious time with yourself that you hardly have while in a relationship. But if you are really into a person and you want to get your ex back, you will need to ...
Views: 685(1 vote) - Eight Apparent Signs that you are in a Toxic Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2020 from Kalyna KapurIt is a matter of fact that when you are in a healthy relationship, you bloom and grow in your own way. A healthy relationship is built with love, trust, and compromise. Everything seems to work out when you are in a healthy relationship. You share every detail, cover your partner’s weak points, ...
Views: 504(1 vote) - Embracing Grief - by Submitted on May 06, 2012 from Anne BaigentEmbracing grief and seeing it as part of life’s’ normal cycle of events, when dealing with life changes will assist in seeing a clearer path moving forward and dealing with the events leading you to this place in time. Remember grief is not just the result of death, but any major life changing ...
Views: 2117(1 vote) - Emotional Expression: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Hide How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is not in a good place emotionally, they could end up talking to a friend about how they feel. Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean that they will want this person to do anything; simply sharing what is going on for them could be enough. Opening up about what is going on for them ...
Views: 772(1 vote) - Ending Relationships Gracefully - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2005 from Margaret PaulIn my counseling practice, I often hear the question, “How do I end a relationship without hurting someone’s feelings?” Whether it’s a romantic relationship or a friendship, ending it gracefully is generally a challenge. The problem arises because so many people see it ...
Views: 2420(1 vote) - Energy Bank Account: Are You Overdrawn? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2011 from Elaine CorreiaI have a wonderful feedback system that really gets my attention. In fact it is so effective that when I overdraw my energetic bank account, it won't allow me to function very well and go further into energetic debt! It seems that banking practices apply to both your money and finances and ...
Views: 1376(1 vote) - Even the best relationships come to an end! - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Dr. D. Ivan YoungChances are, that relationship you’re ending has been knocking at death’s door for quite some time now or should never have begun to start with. The handwriting has been on the wall but you didn’t have the courage to say that it’s over. Bad advice from your peers, relatives and ...
Views: 3105(2 votes) - Events & Stories - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2010 from Steve DahlWe have often heard they hurt my feelings or if that happened I would finally be happy. What someone did or what happened is just an event, it is our story about it our beliefs about it that create our feelings. Some clarity on the difference between events and stories. Events just are what ...
Views: 1529(1 vote) - Expect The Holiday Season – Ways To Get Your Girlfriend In Time For Christmas - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2011 from Michael LoisThe loneliest season to breakup together with your girl is about Christmas. All over the place you appear you are encircled by happy couples roller skating, kissing underneath the mistletoe, and hugging together for warmth. The greater you’re faced with one of these happy couples the greater ...
Views: 653(1 vote) - Expectations in Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2011 from Zile HinaVery often, the expectations we have of others stem from our own consciousness, our own psyche, and have little or nothing to do with the other person. When we take our own ideals, standards, and values and use them as benchmarks of whether someone is good enough for us or good enough to us, ...
Views: 1307(2 votes) - Express your romantic emotions on valentine's Day with poetry - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2019 from Merlyn SeeleyEveryone has a romantic side; they just have to learn to use it. We have all experienced love of someone and quite a bit of us have experienced true love that is unmatched. Some may say that it is harder for a man to express his emotions but there are some guys that have a good way of doing it. ...
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