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- Stop the Cycle of Abuse! - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2013 from Heather WattersConstantly leaving and being persuaded back into the trap of an abusive relationship is a cycle that needs to stop, and you can stop right now. This cycle will not end until you completely end all contact with your partner. Do not under estimate the power they have over you, and stop ...
Views: 1329(1 vote) - Surviving Your Divorce when the Courts are New to Emotional Abuse! (by: Dr. Anne Brown RNCS) - by Submitted on May 19, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownPrepare to Fight When one person only wants to control and sabotage during the divorce, mediation is usually not an option and a waste of money. I have seen victims of emotional abuse in their marriage be victims of mediation because they are the only person bringing adult behavior to the ...
Views: 1366(1 vote) - Symptoms of Children of Narcissists and Addicts - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2024 from Darlene LancerChildren of narcissists and addicts (all substance abusers) grow up in a stressful, dysfunctional family environment, which in most cases leads to codependency. Due to the symptoms and defenses related to substance abuse and narcissism, particularly impaired boundaries, lack of empathy, and mood ...
Views: 290(1 vote) - Tall, Dark and Dangerous - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2010 from Susan GreenI remember the first time I saw him. I had just turned 18 and was at my first, yes my first, boy girl party. He was tall dark and very handsome and he oozed confidence. I was shy and a bit of a wallflower, but he wandered over and asked me my name. From that day on we would be inseparable. My ...
Views: 2380(1 vote) - The ABC's of Healing From Abuse or Trauma - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2011 from Laura Bonetzky-JosephA - Acknowledge your tragedy and the truth surrounding it so healing may begin. Without acknowledgment, you can't begin to heal no matter what you try. B - Be gentle with yourself when you come to a speed bump in your road called "life". This is the universes way to force you to slow down and ...
Views: 8229(4 votes) - The Five Best Friends of the Abusive Man - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2012 from Gary DirenfeldThe Five Best Friends of the Abusive Man Truly abusive men are out for themselves. These are the narcissists and sociopaths who walk among us in plain clothes. Abusive men rely on these five strategies to gratify their needs ahead of or at the expense of their partner: 1. Denial Even with ...
Views: 2696(1 vote) - The Narcissists' Hidden False Self - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2024 from Darlene LancerNarcissists have a false self. They're master illusionists. They behave like a little king or queen — whether bragging or sulking. Their whole personality is a charade crafted to deceive you into believing they are confident, superior, self-sufficient, likable, and caring. In studies, groups of ...
Views: 290(1 vote) - The Secret Life of a Feminist - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2013 from Lisa RaphaelThe Secret Life of a Feminist By Lisa Raphael The story of O was my bedside companion from the time of my first sexual encounters until I left my husband, thirty-five years later. A liberated woman, I never understood my fascination with the book. The story of O describes the ...
Views: 1112(1 vote) - The Truth about Abusive Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2012 from Darlene LancerOver three million incidents of domestic violence are reported each year, and that includes men as well as women. One-fourth of U.S. women and one-third of women worldwide will experience violence in her lifetime. What isn’t talked about, but is serious, is emotional abuse that ranges from ...
Views: 1821(2 votes) - The Way I Made It Through Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Dan WooledgeThis story began when I flew from California to see a good friend that moved to Houston. He and I went out one night and all of a sudden, standing right in front of me, appeared the man of my dreams! This guy was captivating and exceedingly attractive. About six weeks down the line, I left my ...
Views: 712(1 vote) - THINKIATRY & LIFE WITHOUT NEGATIVE THOUGHTS - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2011 from John O'Brien, Ph.D.THINKIATRY & “LIFE WITHOUT NEGATIVE THOUGHTS” Posted on Thursday, January 6th, 2011 at 9:43 am THINKIATRY & LIFE WITHOUT NEGATIVE THOUGHTS - CLICK THIS LINK TO VIEW VIDEO. If you value the quality of your mental health and want a happier life, please make the time to try this simple ...
Views: 1238(1 vote) - Three Secret Behaviors of Narcissists - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2024 from Darlene LancerNarcissists’ entire personality is a defense to help them manage their hidden insecurity and inner turmoil. There are three secret behaviors they do that aren’t immediately obvious, but if you think about them, they would make sense to you and explain their manifest behavior.These behaviors stem ...
Views: 282(1 vote) - TIPS: How to Cope with Financial Abuse - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2013 from Sam VakninQ. Would narcissists often try to restrict their partner's independence by reducing their access to shared family finances? Why? A. Narcissists are control freaks, paranoid, jealous, possessive, and envious. They are the sad products of early childhood abandonment by parents, caregivers, role ...
Views: 2059(1 vote) - To Forgive Or NOT To Forgive Your Abuser or Offender? 3 Benefits of Forgiving And 3 Dangers of Not Forgiving - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2011 from Felicity OkoloForgiveness is a topic that is hard for people to come to terms with. Many people have their own views and opinions about forgiveness. Whether you choose to forgive your abuser or offender or you choose not to forgive, the choice is yours. Forgiveness is a choice. But before you decide whether ...
Views: 2713(2 votes) - Toxic People or Situation? LEAVE IT IN THE 'MYSTERY' - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2011 from Chelle ThompsonAll of us will encounter toxic individuals and circumstances in our lives at one time or another. During those experiences we need to use whatever helpful tools we can find to stay balanced and clear about "who we are." One of the methods I use to maintain perspective is to create a "healthy ...
Views: 1710(1 vote) - Toxic Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2012 from Michael ClearmanToxic Relationships Every person reading this piece is either in, has been in, or knows someone who has been in, a toxic relationship. The term is self-descriptive, the relationship is poisonous, and it is deadly. Remaining in this type of relationship may or may not lead to physical death ...
Views: 2694(3 votes) - Twenty Questions Identify Codependency Issues - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineIs Codependency a Problem in Your Life and in Your Relationships? Take the Quiz To find out if codependency is a problem in your life, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions: Do you put others’ feelings, desires and needs before your own? Are you drawn to ...
Views: 1770(1 vote) - Unexpected Trauma after Abuse - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2019 from Darlene LancerCodependency robs us of a self and self-love. We’ve learned to conceal who we really are, because we grew up pleasing, rebelling against, or withdrawing from dysfunctional parents. This sets us up for trauma. As adults, even if we’re successful in some areas, our emotional life isn’t easy. ...
Views: 1310(2 votes) - Violence Against Women - Healing and Realization of the Good Within - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2011 from Cindy L. HerbThere is an enormous amount of violence against women. After such trauma, many of these women may feel there is no good within them. Therefore, healing from abuse may be necessary. Specifically, rape victims, sexual abuse survivors and/or domestic violence victims may require help to improve ...
Views: 1513(1 vote) - Warning! Bad Boys may be dangerous to your emotional health! - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship Coach(Note: Bad Boys is a metaphor for toxic partners. Just flip the pronoun to female depending on your relationship). Bad Boys are everywhere. The corporate office, the gym, your neighborhood, a charity gala or the backyard bbq. Before they end up in your heart and in your bed, it will be in ...
Views: 1569(1 vote) - Warriors say No With Dignity, NOT With Excuses! - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownPeople-pleasers are at risk in the domains of finance, love, sex, family, and friendship. How is it that we can manage a successful business but still have a failed personal life? Extending a hand to others after taking care of yourself is how we make the world a better place for our children ...
Views: 1155(1 vote) - What are the Types of Domestic Violence and What to do about them - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2020 from Jaclyn TengWhat comes to your mind when you hear the term words of domestic violence? Typically, people associate violence, including domestic violence, physical violence, and assault, resulting in injuries and wounds. The sad truth is that this type of physical assault is only one amongst the ...
Views: 881(1 vote) - WHAT IN THE WORLD IS A LIFE COACH? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2013 from Marina RatmanskyMany people have no idea what or who is a life coach and why in the world would they need one? OK, I will attempt to explain it to you. A life coaching is the relationship based on trust. The life coaching process helps people to identify what makes them frustrated and unhappy in their ...
Views: 778(1 vote) - What Is a Trauma Bond? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2022 from Darlene LancerA trauma bond is an attachment to an abuser in a relationship with a cyclical pattern of abuse. Patrick Carnes, Ph.D., coined the term in 1997. He defined it as an adaptive, dysfunctional attachment occurring in the presence of danger, shame, or exploitation in order to survive. It is a trauma ...
Views: 674(2 votes) - What is Narcissistic Abuse? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2016 from Darlene LancerNarcissists don’t really love themselves. Actually, they’re driven by shame. It’s the idealized image of themselves, which they convince themselves they embody, that they admire. But deep down, narcissists feel the gap between the façade they show the world and their shame-based self. They work ...
Views: 2505(1 vote) - What's Behind Your Anger? - by Submitted on May 25, 2013 from Zarla LeahThe majority of people on the planet have had some sort of problem with anger and with people doing things that make them feel angry. People have looked at and dealt with anger in a variety of ways. I want to speak about anger today and what I have learned about it over the years. For a few ...
Views: 1376(1 vote) - When the Abused Becomes the Abuser - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossIt doesn't always happen. But it happens to a large enough degree that it can be referred to as commonplace. A number of studies indicate that between 30 - 70% of young abusers (physical or sexual) have been sexually abused themselves. Statistics on adult abusers who were sexually abused as ...
Views: 14652(1 vote) - When Your Partner Is the One Knocking Down Your Dreams! - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2011 from Trudy-Ann EwanHave you ever come across an individual who knocks you down, tear you down over everything that you are about? S/he will criticize you, condemn you and basically let you know or feel that you are an idiot for even thinking what you are thinking or doing what you are doing. Then several ...
Views: 1368(1 vote) - Why She Doesn’t Leave Him - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2012 from Debra FentressShe can be the woman in the market with the bruises on her face and you look at her with pity, wondering why she stays. Or she could be the woman at gatherings who goes off by herself, seldom speaking, quietly watching—a shell of a person. She could be your sister who never wants to come to the ...
Views: 2288(1 vote) - Your environment is everything! - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2013 from Heather WattersOur environments are all that matters. The people in it have a direct impact on the quality of our lives. Ways to ensure a life free from abuse and torment, is to clean out your environment. No matter how small or insignificant the interactions may be, we must always be aware that everything ...
Views: 1548(1 vote) - Your Ex Boyfriend Will Want You Back If You Do This One Thing Now - by Submitted on May 11, 2011 from Charles UadialeYou wake up every morning with one constant thought. You desire with all you have that your ex boyfriend would become conscious of what he is missing in you and return to you. He never realizes that as each day passes. Rather, you sit and wait making an effort to figure out a plan that is going ...
Views: 24964(1 vote) - “I Attract Abusers Like a Magnet” - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2012 from Sam VakninMany victims of narcissists are firmly convinced that they have been "chosen" by their abusers because of their capacity to empathize, their innate sensitivity, compassion, and their ability to love and care. Indeed, these qualities tend to attract exploitative psychopathic predators who ...
Views: 5415(1 vote) - “It's All My Fault for Having Provoked Him” - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2012 from Sam VakninHow often have you heard the following phrases coupled with the most horrific physical, verbal, and psychological abuse: "It's all your fault, you made me do it" or "look what you made me do!" Abusers have alloplastic defenses and an external locus of control. This means that they tend to ...
Views: 2996(1 vote) - ***Where have my civil liberties gone? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. My wife and I had a wonderful trip to the Los Angeles area last week. We enjoyed the sun and fun – even rented a convertible. The ocean off Malibu Beach and Santa Monica was grand and glorious – resplendent in sunshine. We got married on ...
Views: 3722(14 votes) - ***Marriage and the Pain of Abuse - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. While we normally write positive stories about successful marriage, a recent interview caused us to alter course, albeit, temporarily. A few weeks ago we interviewed a woman who had recently gotten divorced. Her story was so emotional and ...
Views: 3270(11 votes) - ***Are You Married to a Bully? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Don’t you just hate bullies! They try to get what they want by bullying you, by intimidating you, and by making you feel inferior to them. If you are like us, this NEVER works! Yet, so many good folks succumb to the bully. And we wonder ...
Views: 6955(19 votes) - ***Morally Indefensible Notions About Marriage - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have never heard anything as outrageous as the views espoused in a book entitled, A Gift for Muslim Couple, by Maulavi Ashraf Ali Thanvi. Us being sick to our collective stomachs is a gross understatement of the outrage we feel about the garbage ...
Views: 2728(18 votes) - Diary of an Ex-Spouse - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2011 from Dana McIntyreDIARY OF AN EX-SPOUSE Many people going through a divorce or child custody case think that their lawyer will keep all of their records of who, what, when, why & where. That's what you are paying them for, isn't it? The answer is NO. Your attorney is probably handling anywhere from 20-30 ...
Views: 2475(3 votes) - Surviving "Stress-Full" times - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2011 from Dilani DivaAs a personal counselor I have had many a session with my dear clients who are going through, or have been through tough emotional situations. No one is excluded. I too sometimes face such personal crisis. The aftermath of such emotional trauma can me rather damaging. Causing some never to ...
Views: 1919(3 votes) - ***Can hostile, aggressive angry people really change their behavior? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2013 from Marc SadoffAnger Management skills can be helpful for people ranging from the mildly miffed to the violently vengeful. You do not need to be in a physically violent relationship to benefit from understanding and learning about communicating angry and hurt feelings constructively. Secondly, if you are ...
Views: 5859(2 votes) - Respect, Elders and Elder Spirits - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2010 from Paula Johnstone-WhitehawkThis writing was first placed on the internet by me in 1996. I feel this writing is more relevant now. So I am placing it here for further contemplation. This is a spiritual writing and is meant to be read a minimum of four times. This is only a partial teaching of the wisdom of Respect. ...
Views: 2169(2 votes) - Traubuse: The Trauma and Abuse Symbiosis - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2011 from Diane BabcockPsst! Abuse. Shhh! Voicing openly on the subject of abuse is still largely considered taboo and best kept as ‘civilized’ society's dirty little ‘bully secret’. When you think about it, it’s quite inconceivable that in every society bullying as domestic abuse is more acceptable than ...
Views: 1908(2 votes) - Who is in Command? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2010 from Elsabe SmitI am always fascinated about how our questions get answered - and sometimes how we are steered in a direction without even asking the question. Someone very dear and close to me is at a point where he has no dignity or quality of life left. He had told me in so many words that he is not ...
Views: 1333(2 votes) - 7 Tips to Honor Your Boundaries - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2010 from Geoff Farnsworth1. Begin by becoming aware of your boundaries. Take notice of your feelings. They are your inner messengers, your inner guidance system. When a boundary is crossed, there is a definite physiological response. If someone’s comments or actions make you uncomfortable, notice how you react ...
Views: 1896(3 votes) - SEXUAL TRAUMA - Loving Your Abuser - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossRecognizing you are being abused is difficult when you love the person who is abusing you. This is true for both children and adults. The mind will go to great lengths to protect a person who cannot emotionally accept that they are being abused. The greater the abuse, the more elaborate the ...
Views: 3925(3 votes) - What You Should Know about Narcissists, Their Partners, & NPD - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2019 from Darlene LancerPoor Narcissus. The gods sentenced him to a life without human love. He fell in love with his own reflection in pool of water and died hungering for its response. Narcissism was named for him. Like Narcissus, narcissists only love themselves as reflected in the eyes of others. It’s a common ...
Views: 1506(3 votes) - ***Let’s talk about non-consensual sex - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2011 from Erin McClellandIf you are not aware that the topic of non-consensual sex has yet again found its way onto the front page of Pittsburgh’s local news, then perhaps you should stop re-watching the Stanley cup finals on your DVR and check out a newspaper or two. The topic is again, as always, drenched in ...
Views: 4466(2 votes) - ***To Date A Beater or Not? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2010 from Teagin Maddox,Any man who hits a woman is not a man who can be trained not to hit a woman; it is one of the lowest things a man can do. It cannot be undone, and it cannot be explained; he will not grow out of it or find someone whom he won’t abuse. His aggression speaks to his raw character and tells you ...
Views: 2974(3 votes) - 3 Steps to Surviving a Verbally Abusive Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2013 from nancy traversAre you living in a situation that is unreal to you? Did you think you would have a good life with your partner, but instead, you suffer emotional pain? Does your relationship, which looked so attractive at first, turn out to make you miserable? Even while other people might look on your ...
Views: 1100(1 vote) - 5 Signs that It's Time to Go - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2011 from Susie and Otto CollinsJessica is a mess. She has cried herself to sleep-- all alone-- more nights than she can even keep track of. Her husband, Charles, has been absent a lot of the time. He stays out all night, partying with friends or, when he does come home, he sleeps on the couch. When Jessica and Charles ...
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