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- Empaths: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Empaths? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile all human beings have a physical body, that doesn’t mean that they experience life in the same way. If one was to think about why this is, they might focus on how we are born into different environments and how these environments can be the defining factor. However, without even going ...
Views: 2809 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Always Try To Please Others? - by Submitted on May 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile trying to please others can be something everyone does from time to time, for others, it is the focus of their lives. What this person wants from life as whole or what they want to do from moment to moment is then secondary. The needs and wants of others are far more important than ...
Views: 2804 - Intimacy: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Fear Intimacy? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile human beings need to experience intimacy, it doesn’t mean that this always take place. In fact, one might be in a position where it is not part of their life and never has been. This means that some people are used to experiencing intimacy and this is ‘normal’, and others are not used ...
Views: 2798 - Needy: Why Are Some People Needy? - by Submitted on May 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part is part of being human and this means they are nothing to be ashamed or something that one should try to remove. If each and every one of us was inherently independent, then we wouldn’t have needs. But as we are all interdependent, it means that we all have needs. ...
Views: 2790 - Relationships: Do Some People Analyse Others In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it could be said that there are some people who are highly curious, it could also be said that there are others who are the complete opposite. This is not to say that this is something that is black and white; as there are going to be people who fall into the middle of the spectrum. ...
Views: 2783 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Sabotage Healthy Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo have a relationship that is healthy and functional is something that most people want in this world. Now, for some people this is reality and for others; this is often nothing more than a good idea and something that eludes them. And while there are people who have fulfilling relationships ...
Views: 2763 - Energy Vampires: What Is An Energy Vampire? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe term ‘Energy Vampire’ can conjure up all kinds of associations and meanings. What Does Energy Vampire Mean? The question is: What does the term Energy Vampire mean? The logical answer would be to describe someone that causes another to feel emotionally and mentally drained and ...
Views: 2747 - Shyness: Can Toxic Shame Cause Shyness? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who come across as confident and as though nothing fazes them, and then there are others who are the complete opposite. Based on how they behave, they will be seen as lacking confidence and as though they can’t handle life. But while people are often are labelled as ...
Views: 2740 - Role Models: Who Are Our First Role Models? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the moment one is born, one is exposed to different people. And at the beginning of their life, these people are typically caregivers. So in the majority of cases, ones first role models are their parents. This can then go on to include siblings, other family members and family friends. ...
Views: 2727 - Self-Reflection: Is Self-Reflection Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, people are often so caught up in their day-to-day lives that they don’t have time to think about their life. As a result of this, it can set them up to go in a direction that doesn’t match up with their true needs. Along with this, their relationships can reflect who they ...
Views: 2726 - Emotional Abuse: The invisible Killer - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe name of this article might sound a bit extreme and over the top, however I thought it was relevant to create awareness around this often overlooked area. This is a general description of Emotional Abuse, which is based on my current awareness and observations. Physical Abuse Very ...
Views: 2714(1 vote) - Self-Centred: Can Pain Cause Someone To Be Self-Centered? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are inherently selfish and the only thing they care about is themselves. There are going to be some people who agree with this and there are going to be others who don’t. If a being from another planet landed on earth and heard this outlook from a human ...
Views: 2708 - Body Language: Can Trapped Emotions Define Someone’s Body Language? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the words that someone uses, there is the potential for one to cover up what is really going on. Here, one can say what they think they should be saying or what sounds right. And while another person can take this as the truth, it could be just a half truth or a complete ...
Views: 2691 - Defence Mechanism: Reaction Formation - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe ego mind uses defence mechanism for protection and to ensure its own survival. There are many of these available and this will often depend on two factors. This can be: the type of experience that one has and how one interprets the experience. Reaction formation is a way for the mind to ...
Views: 2689(1 vote) - Anger: Is It Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word anger and the behaviour that it creates is not something that is typically looked upon with acceptance or positivity. Anger is often portrayed as a troublesome emotion; an emotion that leads to destructive and abusive behaviour. And there is no denying that anger can be extremely ...
Views: 2687(1 vote) - Belonging: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Feel As Though They Don't Belong? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have an inherent need to belong and when this need is not fulfilled, it can lead to all kinds of problems. Many years ago, if one wasn’t part of the tribe, their time on this earth would soon come to an end. In some parts of the world this is still going to be the case, however, ...
Views: 2677 - Self Worth: Why Do Some Men Let Women Define Their Self Worth? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone looks towards other people to define how valuable they are, they are going to be dependent on their approval and acceptance. And the other hand, if one was to define their value and not look towards others, the need to receive the acceptance and approval of others is not going to be ...
Views: 2673 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Walk All Over Others? - by Submitted on May 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are used to having people walk all over them, there are other people who are used to walking all over others. The former is going to live a life of being violated and compromised, and the latter is going to live a life of violating and compromising others. Now, not everyone ...
Views: 2646 - Anxiety: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Anxiety? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile anxiety is just one of many emotions that one can experience throughout their life and without too many problems arising, it can also be something that ends up being completely out of control. It is then not just another emotion that one can experience; it is something that can end up ...
Views: 2638 - Emotions: Do Emotions Have A Purpose? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years there has been increased awareness around emotions. Before all of this came about, IQ (Intelligence quotient) was seen as the most important factor in deciding how intelligent someone is and in how there life would play out. This was until EQ (Emotional Intelligence Quotient) ...
Views: 2633 - Celebrities: Are Some Celebrities Hypocrites? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to a famous actor or singer, for instance, it could be said that their purpose is either to act or to sing. This is then no different to how a plumber or an electrician, for instance, is going to have their own purpose. Now, this is not to say that a singer or an actor won’t ...
Views: 2624 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Try To Impress The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on May 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to hear that they should just be themselves around the opposite sex or the same sex, depending on their sexual preference. And while this sounds accurate and exactly what one should be doing, it doesn’t mean that this is what always happens. There will be some ...
Views: 2618 - Abusive Behaviour: Why Do People Put Up With Abusive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAbusive behaviour can include all that makes one feel compromised, undermined and taken advantage of. It can be in the relationships one has with: friends, family, colleagues and in intimate relationships. The type of environment it is, or whether one is male or female, the race or the ...
Views: 2602 - Ungrounded: Can Trapped Emotions Make Someone Feel Ungrounded? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is a term that is typically heard in the area of spirituality and self development; where someone can feel a bit spaced out and disconnected from the earth. Perhaps one has engaged in some kind of energy healing or spiritual practice. And it can also take place when one been reading for a ...
Views: 2599(1 vote) - Interviews With Successful People - Raphael Yadgaroff - Krav Maga Instructor - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperKrav Maga was something I had only heard about recently, when a friend of mine mentioned that he knew someone who taught it. My friend put me in touch with this guy, Raphael Yadgaroff, and we soon arranged a time to conduct an interview. One of the primary things that interests me about ...
Views: 2596 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Hate Women? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe title of this article may sound a bit extreme and yet when it comes to male and female interactions, there is not always peace, harmony or respect. Throughout time, women have been murdered, manipulated and abused by men. And although the rights of women have gradually improved in certain ...
Views: 2596 - Addictions: Are Addictions A Bad Thing? - by Submitted on May 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to current societal problems, the word addiction is often mentioned. And there are certain things that are generally spoken about, when it comes to what people are addicted to. These are often: drugs, alcohol and gambling for instance. And due to the exposure that these ...
Views: 2595(1 vote) - Relationships: What Roles Are We Playing In Our Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhat I am referring to by the term ‘roles’ is the way one behaves in the relationships in their life. So with the description out of the way, the first question is; what causes one to behave as they do in relationships when their behaviour is dysfunctional and disempowering and doesn’t lead to ...
Views: 2594 - Communication: Is Being Present Important? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone is talking to another person, it doesn’t mean that they are actually aware to what is being communicated. Physically they are there and this is visible to the other person and to anyone else that is around them and yet emotionally and mentally they could be somewhere ...
Views: 2589 - Abandonment: Why Do Some People Fear Abandonment? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe fear of abandonment can affect someone's life in many different ways. There is the internal experience and the external experience. And this doesn't mean that abandonment actually has to occur, in order for one to feel abandoned. As a result of the power and the imagination that the mind ...
Views: 2586(3 votes) - Relationships: What Is The Purpose Of A Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI believe that one of the purposes of a relationship is to lead one back into wholeness. This includes the relationships we have had, the relationships we have and the relationships we will have in the future. They each contain the experiences and situations that are perfect for one to regain ...
Views: 2582 - Self Neglect: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Neglect Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one may find it easy to take care of other people’s needs, they might find it hard to take care of their own needs. Putting other people’s needs first and being ‘selfless’ is often glorified; whereas if one puts their needs first, they can end up being portrayed as ‘selfish’. But to ...
Views: 2573 - The Media: Does The Media Control People's Minds? - by Submitted on May 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe common assumption about the media is that they are simply informing people about what is going on in the country where they live or in the world at large. Here the media are simply observes of what is taking place and are then relaying it to the public. As people are generally busy with ...
Views: 2571 - Depression: Is Self-Awareness An Important Part Of Dealing With Depression? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperEveryone on this planet will have experienced physical pain at one point or another, and there is also the chance that they have suffered mentally and emotionally. And although it could be said that there is a greater awareness around the former than the latter, it doesn’t mean that this is ...
Views: 2569 - Social Media: Can Social Media Create Discontentment? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence and while this may be true, there is also the chance that it isn’t. Moving to another area might make one’s life so much better and there is the chance that they are better off where they are. Just as one could ...
Views: 2553 - Passive Aggressive Behaviour: What Causes It? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what gender someone is or where they have come from, there is likely to be moments where they feel angry. This is part of the human experience and it plays a valuable role in our survival as individuals and as a species. In most cases, anger is nothing more than feedback and is ...
Views: 2542 - Love: Do Some People's childhoods Set Them Up To Reject Love? - by Submitted on May 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are able to receive, there are others who are unable to do so. What this means is that although someone needs something, it is not possible for them to have it. There are then going to be others who experience life differently, and it will be possible for them ...
Views: 2521 - The Adjustment Bureau: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperMy interest in this film came about after hearing that it was based on a short story by Philip K. Dick. Blade runner, Next, Minority Report and Total Recall are just a few of the films that have been based on his stories. The storyline 'Do we control our destiny, or do unseen forces manipulate ...
Views: 2517 - Letting Go: Why Is It Hard To Let Go? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen the term letting go is mentioned, it would be normal to think about physically letting go of something. Just like how one might open their hands and drop something. However, the letting go that I am about to describe here, has more to do with psychologically letting go. This is something ...
Views: 2507 - Child Abuse: Why Has Child Abuse Gone On For So Long? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAwareness around child abuse has gradually increased over the years. This can only be a good thing and something that will help to reduce the amount of child abuse that is in the world. However, in this day and age it may be hard for some people to comprehend why this has gone on for so long ...
Views: 2494 - Emotional Acceptance: Why Is It Difficult To Accept Our Emotions? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperEmotions can be pleasurable or they can be painful and being human means that we have the potential to experience the full spectrum of emotions. I say potential, because there are ways that we can stop them from appearing. Pleasure and pain is something we are all familiar with and this ...
Views: 2488 - Communication: Is Posture Important? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be some people who have always had good posture, and there will be others who have developed their posture during their adult years. However, there will also be people who had good posture at one point in time and then ended up going the other way, and others who haven’t taken ...
Views: 2483 - Defence Mechanism: Displacement - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is a defence mechanism that is no different to any other, in that it allows the ego mind to ensure its own survival. If there is a situation where the ego mind perceives that it is unsafe to express an emotion or to behave in a certain way; the ego mind will have to suppress what is ...
Views: 2481 - Needs: Why Do Some People Not Expect To Get Their Needs Met? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf human beings were not interdependent, it wouldn’t matter if other people were available to meet their needs. This is not to say that someone’s need’s can only be fulfilled by other people; this would be inaccurate and a sign of dependence, not interdependence. A child on the other hand, ...
Views: 2478 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Fear Intimacy? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a woman wants to be in an intimate relationship, it doesn’t mean that this takes place. However, while there will be some women who realise that this is because they fear intimacy, there are going to be others who are unaware of why they are unable to experience it. In the first ...
Views: 2478 - The Media’s Portrayal Of Beauty: Is It Dysfunctional? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe title of this article might seem out of place and even slightly unnecessary. You might be wondering how a word of such meaning, can be used to describe something as normal as responsibility. There might also be the chance of your thoughts being along the same lines as what I am about to ...
Views: 2477 - Interviews With Successful People - Mark Simmons - Taekwondo Champion - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years, I have seen the dedication and the passion that Mark Simmons has towards taekwondo, I remember having a conversation with him many years ago and it became clear that this was someone who knew what he wanted to do and where he was going, there was a certainty about him. When I ...
Views: 2474 - Social Media: Can Social Media Cause Someone To Be Addicted To Attention? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted attention in the past, they would have had to be around people. Nowadays, this is no longer necessary; the only thing they need to do is to use social media. It is then possible for them to receive attention for something that relates to their own life, or they can ...
Views: 2473 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Fear Losing Themselves In Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe whole idea of someone losing themselves in a relationship may sound completely ridiculous. And if this was to be taken literally, then yes, it does sound crazy. Because physically it is impossible to lose oneself in another person; there is nowhere to go and it is clearly not possible. ...
Views: 2471(2 votes) - Appreciation: Can Suffering Lead to Greater Appreciation Of Life? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that it is human nature to only appreciate something when it is not longer available. So when one has something in their life, it is easy for them to take it for granted. Not only can this apply to ‘things’, it can also apply to the people who are in one’s life. In the ...
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