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- Needs: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Suppress Their Needs? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have the tendency to ignore their own needs. In fact, they could find that, in general, they are not even aware of their needs. Apart from their basic needs, then, such as their need to eat and ...
Views: 260 - Passive: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Be Passive? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there is a time to be and a time to do, someone could be in a position where they find it hard to get things done. It could take a lot for them to get moving and when they do move, it could typically be because they have to. For example, if they didn’t have to go to work, they could ...
Views: 261 - Developmental Trauma: Can Someone Carry A Wounded Infant If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is an adult and thus their childhood will be well and truly behind them, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. Of course, they will no longer be a toddler, infant or even a child; that will be clear from their appearance. But, while this will be clear from the ...
Views: 295 - Decisions: Can Developmental Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Make Decisions? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they find it hard to make decisions. Therefore, when it comes to deciding what to do, their mind could go blank. By being this way, it is likely to be a challenge for them to move forward in a number of ...
Views: 282 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Guilty For Putting His Needs First? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will have his own needs to meet, he could spend most of his time meeting his mother’s needs. As a result of this, he is going to neglect most, if not all of his own needs. However, this is something that can take place without him even being aware of the fact that he is largely ...
Views: 459 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Like His Partners Possession? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperDuring the beginning of a relationship, a man can look forward to spending time with his partner. So, when he is not with her, he can spend a fair amount of time thinking about her and the moments that they have shared and will share in the future. This will be a time when he experiences ...
Views: 260 - Needs: Can Someone Feel Guilty For Putting Their Needs First If They Had A Manipulative Parent? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that it is typically a challenge for them to not only listen to their needs but to also fulfil them. In general, they could overlook them and go along with what another person wants and/or what they think they want. They could find that this is something that just ...
Views: 209 - Needs: Can Someone See Their Needs As A Burden If They Were Neglected During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could come across as though they are needless and this could take place without them being consciously aware of it. Therefore, they won’t choose to hide their needs from others, this will just be what typically happens. What this is also likely to mean is that they will ...
Views: 293 - Receiving: Can Someone Find It Hard to Receive If They Had A Manipulative Parent? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they typically give a lot but they rarely receive what they need, let alone what they want, they could struggle to understand what is going on. Naturally, as they are doing a lot of the right things, this is to be expected. One thing that they may have done ...
Views: 273 - Needless: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Be Needless? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow, although someone is interdependent and therefore needs others, it doesn’t mean that they realise this. If they were told this, they could say that they don’t need others and are happy being by themselves. So, by being this way, they are going to see themselves as being independent and ...
Views: 330 - Boundaries: Can Someone Find It Hard To Say No If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were able to reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to do what they don’t want to do. They may see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Thus, instead of asserting themselves and saying no when they don’t want to do ...
Views: 279 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Feel Worthless If They Were Neglected As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone feels worthless, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. However, by not having a felt sense of worth, their life is likely to be anything but fulfilling. In general, they could have the tendency to please others and ignore their own needs and feelings as ...
Views: 296 - Father Wounds: Can Man Have The Need To Be Rescued If His Father Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will be an adult, it doesn’t mean that he will typically feel strong and capable. Instead, he could typically feel weak and incapable, which is likely to mean that his life will often be too much for him to handle. In general, it could be as though his circumstances are ...
Views: 260 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Like An Extension Of His Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to come to see that he is in a position where he is overly preoccupied with his mother’s needs, he is like to wonder what is going on. He could also see that he has been this way for as long as he can remember. This will also mean that he is unlikely to have much of a life ...
Views: 395 - Manifestation: Can The Law Of Attraction Allow Someone To Avoid Their Emotional Wounds? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter living a life that is anything but fulfilling, someone could end up coming across the law of attraction. Thanks to this, they could soon come to the conclusion that this law will allow them to finally live a life that is worth living. It could be as though their luck has finally ...
Views: 378 - Death: Can Someone Have An Irrational Fear Of Death If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what they may find is that they experience a fair amount of anxiety. Along with this, they could often experience panic and even have panic attacks from time to time. At other times, they could be overwhelmed with fear and ...
Views: 619 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Find It Hard To Accept That They Have Inherent Worth If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was told that they have inherent worth, it might be something that sounds good but that could be about as far as it will go. If they were to think deeply about this, they could question how this is so. This could be due to the fact that they don’t feel good about themselves or ...
Views: 288 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Parentified Woman End Up With A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being in a relationship for quite some time, a woman may come to see that she is with a man who is overly focused on his mother. As a result of this, it will be clear that he is not available. Naturally, due to how consumed he is with his mother’s needs, he won’t have much time for ...
Views: 295 - Manifestation: Can The Law Of Attraction Cause Someone To Disconnect From Themselves? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter learning about the law of attraction, someone could soon come to the conclusion that they need to feel good as much as they can and to have positive thoughts. This is because both their feelings and their thoughts will play a big part in what they do and don’t experience. So, as the ...
Views: 279 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Worthless If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on his life, he may find that he often feels worthless and as though he is bad. Due to this, he may find that it is a challenge for him to embrace good things as he won’t feel worthy of them. As a result of this, he may see that he has pushed a lot of ...
Views: 288 - Repetition Compulsion: Can Someone Engage In Repetition Compulsion If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about their life, they may see that there is what they want to experience in one area of it and what they actually experience. Due to this, this area of their life is likely to cause them to experience a number of ’negative’ feelings and thoughts. Then again, this ...
Views: 316 - First Chakra: Can Developmental Trauma Mess Up Someone’s First Chakra? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlong with having a physical body, someone also has an energy body, and this part of them contains seven energy centres. The first one can be found at the bottom of their body, while the last one can be found at the top of their head. When each of these centres is in balance, they are likely ...
Views: 308 - Invisible: Can Someone Feel Invisible If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone finds it hard to be seen and they were to share this, another person might find it hard to understand. They could say that they can see them, so there is no way that this could be an issue for them. However, being physically seen is unlikely to be the real issue; what they will ...
Views: 259 - Sense Of Deserving: Can Developmental Trauma Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Deserving? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there is the ability to give, and, on the other, there is the ability to receive. When someone has the ability to both give and receive, it could be said that they will be in balance. The reason for this is that they will be playing their part by giving or contributing to the ...
Views: 273 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Engaging In Repetition Compulsion If She Is With A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being with a man for a little while, a woman may have come to see that he is overly focused on his mother. Consequently, he is not only going to neglect her but he will also neglect himself. But, if most of his time and his energy are being directed towards his mother, he is not going ...
Views: 343 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is It Ever Too Late For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Change His Life? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter living in a way that wasn’t serving him, a man can now be in a position where is aware of this. There can be a number of reasons as to why he has been able to see what is going on. He may have recently experienced a breakup or he may have just got into a relationship. Then again, he ...
Views: 441 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Regularly Humiliated During Their Childhood? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the challenges with early abuse and neglect is that by the time someone is an adult, they can have no recollection of what took place at this stage of their life. This is not to say that once they get to this stage of their life, they will have chosen to block it out. No, what it comes ...
Views: 336 - Repressed Pain: Does Someone’s Pain Disappear Once It Has Been Removed From Their Conscious Awareness? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, someone is often thought to begin and end with their conscious mind. Other than their physical body, then, this will be seen as who they are and there won’t be another part of them. Due to this, if someone’s “mental health” is not in a good way and they were to reach out to ...
Views: 449 - Human Contact: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Fear Human Contact? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are those who are able to be by themselves and to be with others, there are also those who are unable to relate to this. As a result of this, they are likely to feel uncomfortable around others and they can feel uncomfortable being by themselves. For that reason, their life is ...
Views: 527 - Personality: Can Developmental Trauma Define What Someone’s Personality Is Like? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about what they are like, a number of things could come to mind. For example, they could say that they are often anxious and fearful, easy-going, a follower and do what they can to please others. This could be how they have been this way for as long as they can ...
Views: 409 - Inner Strength: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That Life Is Too Much To Handle? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that they often end up being knocked down by life and feel helpless as a result. When this does take place, it could take a while for them to get back on their feet. This could be something that takes place on a regular basis. Due to how often it takes place, they ...
Views: 306 - Self Worth: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Feel Totally Worthless? - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can lack a felt sense of worth, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Even so, they may be aware of the impact of not having this in place. The reason they may be aware as opposed to will be aware of this is because how they experience life could just ...
Views: 331 - Emotionally Empty: Can Someone Feel Emotionally Empty If They Were Neglected During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that they often feel flat and as though they are missing something. During these moments, they are not going to be filled with energy or feel alive. When this happens, they could feel the need to do something, which could soon allow them to change what is going on for ...
Views: 378 - Withdrawal: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Withdraw Under Stress? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences stress, they could soon feel the need to get away from everyone and everything. As a result of this, they end up pulling themselves away from life. This could mean that they will spend a lot of time at home and only go out when they need to. They might rarely answer ...
Views: 325 - Critical Thinking: Is The Feminine Seen As Being Inferior To The Masculine In Today’s World? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn most, if not all societies around the world there is typically a focus on the doing, so taking action and getting things done. As a result of this, the other side of this, the being, is rarely given much consideration. It is often as though the only thing that matters is achieving things ...
Views: 462 - Inner Security: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing Inner Security? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that if a house doesn’t have strong foundations, it probably won’t stay in place for very long. Or, if it does, it will be in for a rough ride as will the people who live in the house. Another example would be the difference between someone being on a rubber dinghy and being ...
Views: 452 - Emotionally Shut Down: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Shut Down? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could find that it is a challenge for them to connect to their needs and feelings. Along with this, they could find that they often feel numb and don’t have a great deal of energy. By being this way, it is going to be a challenge for them to live a life that is deeply ...
Views: 376 - Boundaries: Can Someone Build Walls Around Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life, is that it is hard for them to get close to others. In general, they may prefer to keep their distance and only have surface-level connections. Due to this, they could often feel lonely and yearn to have closer connections with ...
Views: 441 - Mother Wounds: Can Someone Find It Hard To Trust If They Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s developmental needs were rarely if ever met during their early years, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Thanks to how painful this stage of their life would have been, their brain would have ended up blocking out what took place. This would have been something that ...
Views: 308 - Human Doing: Can Someone Be A Human Doing If They Received Conditional Love During Their Childhood Years? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that it is normal for them to more or less always be on the go. So, from the moment that they wake up, until the moment they go to bed, they could generally be doing something. And, even when they go on holiday, that’s if they do ...
Views: 305 - Disembodied: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Themselves? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperFor someone to be able to take life in, to receive, they will need to be able to inhabit their body. This will allow them to be in the part of their being that truly experiences life as opposed to the part that simply observes it. To use an analogy: it will be the difference between someone ...
Views: 290 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Trust If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a man to go to sleep at night and to leave his bed in the morning, he will need to have a sense of trust. Without this, he won’t be able to let go and fall asleep and he won’t be willing to leave his home and go out into the world. However, although he might be able to do this, ...
Views: 335 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man See His Needs As A Burden If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find is that, in general, he is out of touch with a number of his needs. As a result of this, he could typically be aware of his physical needs but that could be about as far as it will go. Therefore, his emotional needs are going to largely be overlooked and he might rarely ...
Views: 439 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Sexualise His Emotional Needs If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has a high sex drive, he might not be too concerned about being in a relationship. His priority could just be to share his body with other women and this could be something that he wants to do on a regular basis. Then again, sharing his body with an endless amount of different women ...
Views: 540 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That A Woman Will Complete Him If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man could often spend time thinking about what it would be like to be in a relationship, with this being a time when he feels good. This is not to say that he hasn’t been in one before, though. If he has, he could see that when he has been in a relationship, he has felt whole and complete. ...
Views: 342 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Helpless If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find is that he has the tendency to feel helpless and as though he has no control over his life. By being this way, his life is likely to be far harder than it needs to be and it is unlikely to be very enjoyable. However, although simply being aware of this is not going to ...
Views: 285 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Fear Human Contact If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man may want to experience intimacy, it doesn’t mean that he has been able to fulfil this need. What he may find, if he was to reflect on his life, is that he has only been able to get so far when he has been in a relationship. He could see that he has been with a number of women ...
Views: 543 - Mother Wounds: Does A Man Need To Heal His Mother Wounds In Order To Become A Man? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what it means to be a man, there are a number of different views. For some people, it will relate to someone who is mentally strong, is able to provide and can lead, while for others, it will relate to someone who is in tune with his feelings, cares about others and takes ...
Views: 363 - True Self: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone’s True Self To Be Imprisoned By Their False Self? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, someone can appear to be free to express who they are. However, although this may appear to be the case, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they can actually relate to. And, to make matters worse, there is the chance that they are not fully aware of the fact that ...
Views: 283 - Sibling Wounds: Can Someone Sabotage Their Life To Please Their Sibling? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is finding it hard to move forward and this is how their life has been for as long as they can remember, the last thing on their mind could be that this has got anything to do with their sibling. This is assuming that they have one, of course, and are not simply an only child. As ...
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