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- There's a Hole in my Sidewalk. Part 1 in the Portia Nelson series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerPortia Nelson is an amazing woman; a singer, songwriter, actress, and author who passed on in 2001. Her brilliant poem entitled: Autobiography in Five Short Chapters, is published in her book: There's a Hole in My Sidewalk. Copyright © 1993 Portia Nelson, Beyond Words Publishing, Hillsboro, OR, ...
Views: 8252(1 vote) - How Stress Changes during the Four Stages of Learning, part 1 - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYou don't need me to tell you how stressful life can be. You experience stressful situations while attempting to navigate new relationships and learn new routines at home and work. It helps to understand how to reduce stress in the four stages of becoming competent as change your life by ...
Views: 4751(1 vote) - How to Respond rather than React, the basis is Responsibility! - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerRespond and responsible have the same Latin root [re 'again', spondere 'to promise']. You can respond when you take responsibility. This is a decision that you are accountable for your circumstances, which doesn't mean you're to blame. Be Responsible Without taking responsibility, you ...
Views: 3298(1 vote) - Tips to Help You Follow Through on Your Promises. Part 3 in the Commitment series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerIf you're wary of making commitments, see that making and keeping promises strengthens your personal power, which helps you realize your dreams. This implies that dislike of commitments is pure self sabotage. So to become more effective in keeping your promises, enjoy these tips to change your ...
Views: 3268(1 vote) - Experience - the crucial difference between Real Knowledge and just Understanding - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerAre you gullible - do you just believe what other people tell you? Or do you appreciate the vital difference between understanding something and real knowledge? My Brother's Shiny New Red Bicycle Many years ago, I was just five, my older brother was given a bicycle, a deep red bicycle. I was ...
Views: 3257(4 votes) - Deal with it - Proactively! Reduce your Stress with this Proven Tip, part 2 - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerWould you prefer an easier life? Me, too! Yet how many of us are willing to put in the effort for life to become easier? You already appreciate the value of investing so you have money for later, but is that the only thing that will give you an easier life? Let's agree what's plain to see: ...
Views: 2753 - Be Trustworthy, follow the Golden Rule - its Context can Change Your Life! - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerDisappointed is not the word for it! Not at what his email contained, but at what it didn’t say. Charles was a new friend, we'd met on a personal development course. He was American, I'm English Canadian, and we’d connected. He told me he was a real estate investor. “I do it both for ...
Views: 2482(1 vote) - Consensual Sex or Rape? Part 1 of the Truth on Assange - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2013 from Cris BakerHas America declared War on Assange and WikiLeaks? The disclosures by Australian journalist Julian Assange and WikiLeaks have clearly upset America. Yet the right to expose shameful US government secrets is protected by the First Amendment's rights to free speech and press freedom. As ...
Views: 2475(1 vote) - The power in Skepticism, the weakness of Cynics and the Gullible. Part 3 in the Self-Sabotage Series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerAre you gullible? When somebody says something do you automatically believe them? Or do you automatically disbelieve, assume they have a hidden agenda, and discount everything they say? Both are reactions, yet a reaction, to re-act, to act again as you did last time, has little personal ...
Views: 2466(1 vote) - How Effective are Gun Bans Overseas? Part 7 in the Right to Protect Yourself - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThe USA is not alone in facing this problem of mentally deranged individuals and criminals. Both Britain and Australia suffered mass shootings in the 1980s and 1990s, despite their already stringent gun laws. Both countries nevertheless decided that even stricter gun control was the most ...
Views: 2405(1 vote) - How to Change Bad Habits! What Works - rather than what doesn't - in Breaking a Habit - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerBreaking bad habits is simple but not easy. Just do what works! But you need to avoid the common mistake that gets most people doing what doesn't work to break a habit instead. Explore the difference as you find out why I kept stopping smoking, and see how to increase your personal power and ...
Views: 2271(2 votes) - Your Answer to What Am I? is Fundamental to your Success. Part 5 in the Secret of Success series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThe secret of success, as you saw in the previous articles in this series, is neither what you have, nor what you do. To use this secret and change your life you first need to authentically know what you are. Have you spend enough time contemplating the crucial question asked earlier: What Am ...
Views: 2186(3 votes) - Why does President Obama want to Attack Syria? Part 2 - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerPresident Obama's commitment to Peace President Obama evidently wants to bomb Syria. But why? He received the Nobel Peace Prize in 2009 for his commitment to world peace. His response this week to those who believe he wants to attack Syria in order to defend his own credibility? "I didn’t ...
Views: 2131(2 votes) - Wolves - the Cherokee Indian viewpoint on the Enemy Within - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerCherokee Indians have an interesting insight on your internal motivation which can change your life. They say two wolves live inside everybody : a black wolf and a white wolf! The black wolf feeds on negativity, it lives to bring you undesirable experiences. It's the enemy within, also known ...
Views: 2090(3 votes) - The Government Response to the Previous School Massacre. Part 1 in The Right Response? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThe 2012 mass shooting at Sandy Hook, Connecticut has disturbing similarities to the 1999 Columbine High School mass shooting where two angry young men slaughtered a teacher and twelve students. Since all actions have both seen and unseen consequences, an effective response to reduce the ...
Views: 2057(1 vote) - Three Swedish Prosecutors Dismiss All Charges. Part 2 of the Truth on Assange - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2013 from Cris BakerWikiLeaks, headed by Julian Assange, has released a whole bunch of American government emails showing how America deceives the world. Is he really being hunted by the American oligarchy, with the active cooperation of British and Swedish authorities? Or are the allegations of sexual assault ...
Views: 2048(1 vote) - Why does President Obama want to Attack Syria? Part 1 - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerWhy has President Obama Threatened War on Syria? Syria's president, Bashar al-Assad, has been murdering his own countrymen for years. A couple of years ago, some Syrians citizens objected and started the civil war in Syria. This has claimed a lot of innocent lives, yet al-Assad is clinging to ...
Views: 2044(2 votes) - If You don't Know Where You're Going, Any Road will do! Part 5 in the Change My Life series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris Baker"To change my life, I have to make a change in my life." This made so much sense to me when I first came across it! One of my goals was to change my life and, since you're reading this article, I guess it's one of yours too. My list was rather long, how about yours? You want life to become ...
Views: 2005(2 votes) - How the Power of Context can Supercharge your Results. Part 1 in the Secret of Success series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerWhy are their Results so Different? "What makes the difference in the results they achieve?" asked the instructor. She'd told us to assume two identically trained and equally capable lawyers have set up shop in opposite corners of the same town's main intersection. The woman lawyer has a ...
Views: 1961(1 vote) - Do you have the Right to Defend Yourself? Part 3 in the Right to Protect Yourself - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerSelf-defense is a basic right.* If someone attacks you, you have the right to defend yourself. Yet strict gun control regulations interfere with that right because ordinary citizens abide by the law while criminals acquire guns illegally. That leaves honest people at a distinct disadvantage - ...
Views: 1947(2 votes) - Does Your Word have any Power? Part 1 in the Commitment series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerIs your word to be trusted? How much of the time can your promises be relied on? Perhaps your answer depend on who you make the promise to. For many people, giving your word to another person is more important than a commitment they make to themselves. They value the way other people see ...
Views: 1946(1 vote) - The Drawbacks to Being Cynical. Part 4 in the Approach to Life series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerIs being cynical the best approach to life? Does it beat being either skeptical or gullible? Being cynical is a very negative way to approach your life. A cynic focuses on the problems rather than the benefits, sees what could go wrong and says no. He tends to reject things and experiences he ...
Views: 1941(1 vote) - The Second Amendment Exists for a Very Good Reason. Why? Part 9 in The Right Response? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerFollowing the War of Independence against the arbitrary and unjust policies of England's King George III, the USA needed a new legal framework. All American citizens had learned to distrust oppressive taxes imposed by the legal British government. The framers of the US Constitution created ...
Views: 1936(2 votes) - Why do US Politicians Support the UN's Global Gun Grab? Part 12 in The Right Response? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerIs the Sandy Hook tragedy being used by the administration to implement the United Nation's Arms Trade Treaty - the global gun grab? Many other shooting sprees have resulted in equally cynical gun ban attempts across the world. Are gun laws to control guns, or to control people? The British ...
Views: 1924(2 votes) - Jury Nullification Protects You Against Bad Laws. Part 15 in The Right Response? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYou have a Right to Protect Yourself Across the world, government bans on their people's right to protect themselves with firearms is increasingly widely ignored. The enormous outcry against the gun bans proposed by President Obama, Senator Dianne Feinstein and their Democratic allies ...
Views: 1858(1 vote) - Do you Think Consciously or Unconsciously? Part 2 in the Choice Series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThoughts can be seen as one of two types. Thoughts that just appear, random ones you haven't chosen to think. And thoughts that you choose to think. The first are generally far more numerous. Normal thinking - random thoughts - bring the regular consequences which people experience much of ...
Views: 1850(1 vote) - Distinctions lead to Clarity, Clarity gives you Power. Part 6 in the Change My Life series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThe value of goals, of knowing where you're going, was discussed in article #5 in this Change my Life series. And most people start by wondering what they should do, what should they change. Change is vital because unless you make a change in your life, nothing will change in your life. You ...
Views: 1835(1 vote) - From Unfair to Fair - the Four Steps to Filling your Life with Power - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2013 from Cris BakerPoliticians benefit by pretending life is unfair Life is not fair! complain envious citizens when they see someone with more than they have. Life should be fair! says the politician, and I can fix the problem. Elect me and I'll ensure the law is changed to make it fair. There are many ...
Views: 1820(1 vote) - Are Britain and Sweden helping the USA Target Assange? Part 3 of the Truth on Assange - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2013 from Cris BakerAustralian journalist Julian Assange believes he's the subject of a witch-hunt by the USA. Assange fears that submitting to the controversial Arrest Warrant issued by the fourth and latest Swedish prosecutor will lead to him being illegally extradited to America. He has been granted asylum by ...
Views: 1811(1 vote) - Does Banning Guns Solve the Problem? Part 4 in the Right to Protect Yourself - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerDoes Banning guns solve the problem? Does banning guns work to eliminate people's violence. The UK experience is instructive. Now Britain enforces a near-total ban on guns, the Telegraph reports that: "The United Kingdom is the violent crime capital of Europe and has one of the highest rates of ...
Views: 1800(1 vote) - Does What you Have or Do make you Successful? Part 3 in the Secret of Success series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerAlong with most everyone, you want to be more successful. Yet success means different things to different people. The old adage suggests success is fame and fortune, and fame can indeed be seen as success. It's even been speculated that the man who vandalised Michelangelo's Pietà statue in ...
Views: 1778(1 vote) - How to Defend Yourself and Best Protect your Children. Part 16 in The Right Response? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerGovernment Failure? Or Government Oppression? Citizens all across the world are increasingly recognizing the problem of government failure. Many governments are increasingly incompetent at that most fundamental of tasks: protecting their citizens from harm. From Tunisia in North Africa to Syria ...
Views: 1777(2 votes) - Is President Obama's Support for the UN Arms Trade Treaty Unconstitutional? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerIs President Obama Concerned for your Safety? Is President Obama really concerned about your children's safety, or do his actions contradict his rhetoric? Is he aiming to deny you your right to defend yourself and your children? Years ago, he did say he recognizes that "gun owners in ...
Views: 1776(1 vote) - Four Important Questions which Improve - or Worsen - your Life. Which do You Choose? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerDo you want to improve the results you achieve? Better understanding of your subconscious motivation is crucial to reduce self-sabotage and change your life. The ability to make effective decisions makes a big difference! How to make effective decisions How do you make decisions with the ...
Views: 1771(1 vote) - Do your Thoughts Sabotage or Support You? Part 6 in the Self-Sabotage Series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerWhere do thoughts come from? Do you have control over what you think? Sometimes, yes, but not always. Thoughts can just spin round and round, ignoring your screams of enough! Some seem to arrive from nowhere, and some thoughts come from your beliefs. Change your Perspective What are beliefs? ...
Views: 1765(1 vote) - Are you Being Right - even though you're Wrong? Part 4 in the Self-Sabotage Series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerStop Confusing the Issue with the Facts "It doesn't matter what you say, I've made up my mind and I'm not going to change it." Such self-sabotage is widespread, you've probably seen it often. Everybody likes to be right. But when the need to be right is exacerbated by the dislike of change, ...
Views: 1764(2 votes) - You'll Face the Consequences, so Beware of Believing Others. Part 7 in the Change My Life series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerAchieving anything needs personal power which comes by increasing your awareness, as we saw previously in this Change my Life series #6. So how do you become more aware? Start Noticing Start by noticing more. The more you notice, the more you realize there is to notice. As the brilliant ...
Views: 1745(2 votes) - Improve Your Life, Give up what Doesn't Work for You! Part 4 in the Change My Life series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerIf you insist you are right, and someone else is wrong, this stops you looking at their perspective. Why would you waste time looking at something that you already know is wrong? When you know you are right, this prevents you learning anything new, which halts progress. Yet real progress can ...
Views: 1743(2 votes) - Don't be Right, be Effective! Part 3 in the Change My Life series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYou are right does not necessarily mean the person arguing is wrong! It just means they see things from another perspective! Each person's context is different, because their parents, education, religious upbringing, and experiences are different. Along with their acceptance of social ...
Views: 1736(1 vote) - Do Guns Kill or Protect? People Kill People using Hammers and Guns. Part 2 in The Right Response? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerDo Guns Kill - or Protect? If guns are responsible for killing people, then spoons are responsible for making people fat, and beds are responsible for women becoming pregnant. Such fallacious thinking may be behind fundamentalist Muslims insisting their women are covered from head to foot, ...
Views: 1735(1 vote) - Increase your Chances of Success, how to Avoid Self Sabotage! Part 4 in the Commitment series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerHow can you improve at following through on your commitments? Explore your Chances of Success Look at the commitments you've made in your life. What percentage were completed by the deadline - write down your answer between 0% and 100%. If it's not 100%, then what's the difference ...
Views: 1729(2 votes) - Do Guns or People kill People? Part 5 in the Right to Protect Yourself - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThe simplistic answer to the Sandy Hook massacre is obvious: Just make all guns illegal. But is any law 100% effective? Criminals don't obey the law. The UK experience from banning guns - the UK is now the violent crime capital of Europe according to the European Commission (see previous ...
Views: 1725(2 votes) - Are You Willing to Pay the Price? Part 3 in the Most Important Question series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerHaving chosen your most important question, see the previous articles in this series, there are some crucial related questions for you to answer. Actions have Consequences Are you prepared to pay the price? Your actions will provide the answer in due course, yet to ensure your future has ...
Views: 1723(2 votes) - You're Unique, so why try to Duplicate Another? Part 2 in the Secret of Success series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYou do all kinds of things which are necessary in your life. Yet one thing remains common and that is your consciousness, a golden thread running through all your actions. Your body changes and your actions change, but you're there unchanged. When you change your context by increasing your ...
Views: 1710(2 votes) - Do you defer gratification by doing it now or later? Part 2 in the Most Important Question series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYou saw that there are four important questions which you can ask yourself as you make a decision. Those questions, from the first in this Most Important Question series, are: Do I feel like doing it? Do I want to do it? Is it me? Do I want the results that doing it will bring? Which ...
Views: 1702(1 vote) - An Inspiring Take on What Influences You! Part 1 in the Inner Motivation series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerAre you internally motivated? The Cherokee Indians say that everybody is, not just the self-motivated! They know that you have both a black wolf and a white wolf giving you internal motivation. Are you Self-Motivated? The self-motivated decide on their own goals and then pursue them. They ...
Views: 1698(2 votes) - Integrate your Three Aspects to Enhance your Success. Part 7 in the Secret of Success series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerSo far we've covered several crucial secrets in this article series on the secret of success, now let's look at another. Your Three Aspects You have three aspects to your being. Intellectuality, emotionality, and your sensuality. Reason is your intellectual capacity, thinking, your head. ...
Views: 1692(1 vote) - Why does President Obama want to Attack Syria? Part 3 - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerSee a far more comprehensive introduction to the motivations behind this subject in part 1 and part 2 of this series. Does President Obama really want Peace? There are plenty of issues that President Obama could spend his time on which would improve America and give you a better quality of ...
Views: 1690(1 vote) - It's My Thought, so it Must Be True! Part 1 in the Self-Sabotage Series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerDo you ever find yourself wondering: why did I do that? Something which produced such an unfavorable outcome that you feel a bit stupid? Why do we do such things? Are your thought processes so confused that you can't tell good consequences from bad ones? Or don't you know how to think things ...
Views: 1677(1 vote) - A Surprisingly Novel Idea - Doing What Works! Part 1 in the Do What Works series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYou want success in whatever you choose to do, and the secret of success is to adopt principles which enable you to be successful. The old adage says that all roads lead to Rome, and it's indeed true. But it's generally not explained that some roads are more direct than others, they'll get ...
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