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- How do You Make Up your Mind? Part 1 in the Approach to Life series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYour Approach to Life What's your approach to life? Do you first ensure that something is plausible? Are you generally gullible, cynical or skeptical? You can be gullible, say yes and accept something without question. You can be cynical, say no and reject it without checking it out. Or you ...
Views: 1587(1 vote) - Everyone Wins when you Follow these Two Strategies. Part 5 in the Bad Mood series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYet more strategies to improve your state and overcome a bad mood. Inspire a Good Mood in Another It only takes one person to initiate a bad mood which can then affect everyone around them. A single determined person may also inspire a good mood in others. You can change your life by ...
Views: 1545(1 vote) - Time-proven Easy Strategies to Improve Your Mood. Part 4 in the Bad Mood series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerWhat gives you joy? How do you take your attention away from feeling unhappy? What do you enjoy doing? Which activities give you a rush, or maybe even just get you to smile inside? When you have an urgent need to get out of a bad mood, how do you stop your self sabotage? Anything which works ...
Views: 1470(1 vote) - The Value of Being Positive. Part 3 in the Bad Mood Strategies series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerWhy Make the Effort? Why spend the time to come up with bad mood strategies to get yourself into a good mood in the first place? You're busy doing what you're doing and such pre-emptive planning can take a significant amount of time and energy. The answer is very simple: It's far more fun ...
Views: 1420(1 vote) - The Secret to Improving your State. Part 2 in the Bad Mood series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerIf money or your economic circumstances are getting you down, then start by realizing that, in Dan Hannan's succinct phrase: You cannot spend your way out of recession or borrow your way out of debt.* This applies to governments just as it does to companies and individuals. Of course, ...
Views: 1475(2 votes) - Feeling Down? What to Do to Control your Mood. Part 1 in the Bad Mood series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerDo you have complete control over your mood? You like to think you're a positive person, yet some days do you find that you're just in a bad mood? My mother used to call this getting out of bed on the wrong side. Now I don't know that the side of the bed has anything to do with it, but bad ...
Views: 1515(1 vote) - Inspiring Examples to Motivate You. Part 3 in the Portia Nelson series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThe previous articles in this series explained how Portia Nelson's awesome poem, Autobiography in Five Short Chapters, identifies some of the difficulties in overcoming challenges in life, which she calls holes in the sidewalk. Illustrations can be very helpful, so let's look at some conduct ...
Views: 1459(2 votes) - If it Isn't Your Fault, Why are You in the Hole? Part 2 in the Portia Nelson series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThe first article explained how Portia Nelson's outstanding poem, Autobiography in Five Short Chapters, identifies some of the difficulties to overcoming challenges in life, which she calls holes in the sidewalk. Each situation you encounter can help you gain the inner power to overcome ...
Views: 1385(2 votes) - There's a Hole in my Sidewalk. Part 1 in the Portia Nelson series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerPortia Nelson is an amazing woman; a singer, songwriter, actress, and author who passed on in 2001. Her brilliant poem entitled: Autobiography in Five Short Chapters, is published in her book: There's a Hole in My Sidewalk. Copyright © 1993 Portia Nelson, Beyond Words Publishing, Hillsboro, OR, ...
Views: 8219(1 vote) - Discover the Satisfaction of Seeing How It All Fits Together. Part 7 in the Personal Power series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThe effort you put into overcoming your self sabotage increases your personal power. If you allow the self sabotage mechanism to win, you feed it - which improves its inner strength and decreases yours. So whenever you just know you should do something, that's a great opportunity to increase ...
Views: 1562(1 vote) - Don't just Agree, Make Sure You Understand. Part 6 in the Personal Power series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThis Personal Power series has explored some crucial distinctions. You've seen how personal power grows rather than being increased from outside. That gaining experience is a big secret of success. Just knowing about something won't change your life. The lasting benefit you gain by investing ...
Views: 1520(1 vote) - Conventional and Authentic Knowledge, the Powerful Difference. Part 5 in the Personal Power series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerConventional Knowledge The previous articles in this Personal Power series discussed some differences between the logic of the outer world and the intuition of the inner world. You've seen how something can be both right as well as wrong, rather than either right or wrong. This resembles the ...
Views: 1617(1 vote) - Your Inner World is Very Different. Part 4 in the Personal Power series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerBe Logical Our society teaches that it's right to be logical and, when dealing with the outside world, being logical is indeed very valuable. There's always at least one opposite, and logic deals very well with the opposite. You can change your life by investigating the possibilities and ...
Views: 1416(2 votes) - Truth, the Source of Inner Power. Part 3 in the Personal Power series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerIf you are following this Personal Power series, and have experienced the increase in inner power possible, then you've already seen the big advantage of changing your perspective. Recognize the Source of Personal Power When you come across a fundamental truth, something within you ...
Views: 1454(1 vote) - The Key to Improving Your Results is to Become More Powerful. Part 2 in the Personal Power series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThis Personal Power series started by simplifying the complexity of life and seeing that there's no free lunch. Just as you don't benefit by delegating your exercise, you can't change your life by delegating your thinking. Personal power is crucial, it enables you to produce desirable results ...
Views: 1264(1 vote) - You can't Delegate your Workout, nor Delegate your Thinking! Part 1 in the Personal Power series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerLife is difficult. What an awesome start to psychiatrist Dr. Scott Peck's seminal book, The Road Less Travelled. So Much to Learn! Life is also complex, so much to learn and so many rules to follow. There are so many laws and regulations on the books in America it's been said that, reading ...
Views: 1345(1 vote) - Seeing sense, the feeling of satisfaction once you appreciate how it all fits together - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYou can See Sense Once you realize how something fits together and makes sense, you say you see sense. And you actually do, you get the picture. You know it stands to reason since it has the ring of truth. When you get the picture, your context suddenly expands and that enlarged knowing ...
Views: 1551(1 vote) - If Only is a Very Common Thought - Does It Do any Good? Part 3 in the Inner Motivation series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerAs you saw previously in this Inner Motivation series, everybody has both a negative and a positive side to their character. The Cherokee Indians say you have a black wolf strenuously promoting the negative, and your white wolf gently advocating the positive. Following the black wolf has arduous ...
Views: 1404(2 votes) - Inspiration and the Origin of Negative Consequences. Part 2 in the Inner Motivation series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThe Cherokee Indians say that everybody is internally motivated, as you saw in part one of this Inner Motivation series. They know that, along with everybody else, you have both a white wolf and a negative black wolf to provide internal guidance! Do you Just Know? When you just know ...
Views: 1550(1 vote) - An Inspiring Take on What Influences You! Part 1 in the Inner Motivation series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerAre you internally motivated? The Cherokee Indians say that everybody is, not just the self-motivated! They know that you have both a black wolf and a white wolf giving you internal motivation. Are you Self-Motivated? The self-motivated decide on their own goals and then pursue them. They ...
Views: 1667(2 votes) - Are You Willing to Pay the Price? Part 3 in the Most Important Question series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerHaving chosen your most important question, see the previous articles in this series, there are some crucial related questions for you to answer. Actions have Consequences Are you prepared to pay the price? Your actions will provide the answer in due course, yet to ensure your future has ...
Views: 1693(2 votes) - Do you defer gratification by doing it now or later? Part 2 in the Most Important Question series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYou saw that there are four important questions which you can ask yourself as you make a decision. Those questions, from the first in this Most Important Question series, are: Do I feel like doing it? Do I want to do it? Is it me? Do I want the results that doing it will bring? Which ...
Views: 1669(1 vote) - How do You Choose to Do What You Do? Part 1 in the Most Important Question series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerMaking the right choices is a crucial secret of success in life. But how do you make the decisions you make? How do You Make your Choices? Some people muddle through without a viable strategy to give them the results they want. Then they're surprised when those results don't show up in their ...
Views: 1334(1 vote) - Do you just Know About It, or have Authentic Hands-on Experience? Part 4 in the Do What Works series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerDo Only What Works To achieve the results you want, you need to do what works and not to do what doesn't work. And it's your job to ascertain which is which! Once you know the difference you'll be more effective in achieving your goals. When you have experience in a field, it's natural to ...
Views: 1601(1 vote) - How do you Know What Does Work? Part 3 in the Do What Works series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerDo What Works, and Don't Do what Doesn't Work is easily comprehended and provides enormous guidance. But it doesn't tell you what to do, that's where you come in. You need to make that decision. Your job is to ascertain what works, and what doesn't work for you. Which means the secret of ...
Views: 1484(2 votes) - If You're in a Hole, then Stop Digging! Part 2 in the Do What Works series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerStop Digging! Not doing what doesn't work is a fundamental secret of success. This focus on effectiveness is behind the simple aphorism: If you're in a hole, then the first thing to do is to stop digging. This is the natural law that many politicians in many countries just ignore, they run ...
Views: 1521(1 vote) - A Surprisingly Novel Idea - Doing What Works! Part 1 in the Do What Works series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYou want success in whatever you choose to do, and the secret of success is to adopt principles which enable you to be successful. The old adage says that all roads lead to Rome, and it's indeed true. But it's generally not explained that some roads are more direct than others, they'll get ...
Views: 1637(5 votes) - Give your Word more Power! Part 5 in the Commitment series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYou want what you want, which you get by using the three tools of creation: Thought, Word and Deed (action). The more power in each one, the more it helps you achieve your goals. The more you desire, the more you need your Word to contribute to its achievement. So increase the power of your ...
Views: 1604(2 votes) - Increase your Chances of Success, how to Avoid Self Sabotage! Part 4 in the Commitment series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerHow can you improve at following through on your commitments? Explore your Chances of Success Look at the commitments you've made in your life. What percentage were completed by the deadline - write down your answer between 0% and 100%. If it's not 100%, then what's the difference ...
Views: 1697(2 votes) - Tips to Help You Follow Through on Your Promises. Part 3 in the Commitment series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerIf you're wary of making commitments, see that making and keeping promises strengthens your personal power, which helps you realize your dreams. This implies that dislike of commitments is pure self sabotage. So to become more effective in keeping your promises, enjoy these tips to change your ...
Views: 3240(1 vote) - Your Word is Worth what you Say It's Worth! Part 2 in the Commitment series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerCommitment can be seen as a muscle, a mental muscle. And just like physical muscles, the secret of success is to keep your mental muscles fit and toned. Keep fit Physically Physically, exercise keeps your muscles strong. Yes, I know that physical workout can be a pain. I've stopped asking my ...
Views: 1440(2 votes) - Does Your Word have any Power? Part 1 in the Commitment series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerIs your word to be trusted? How much of the time can your promises be relied on? Perhaps your answer depend on who you make the promise to. For many people, giving your word to another person is more important than a commitment they make to themselves. They value the way other people see ...
Views: 1912(1 vote) - Integrate your Three Aspects to Enhance your Success. Part 7 in the Secret of Success series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerSo far we've covered several crucial secrets in this article series on the secret of success, now let's look at another. Your Three Aspects You have three aspects to your being. Intellectuality, emotionality, and your sensuality. Reason is your intellectual capacity, thinking, your head. ...
Views: 1661(1 vote) - What will You Be This Time? You Have a Choice! Part 6 in the Secret of Success series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThe fundamental secret of success, as you saw in the previous article in this Secret of Success series, is your choice of what to be. Every time is different. There's no one answer or even a right answer to this crucial question. It's always: What am I this time? (I am, you are and he is form ...
Views: 1570(2 votes) - Your Answer to What Am I? is Fundamental to your Success. Part 5 in the Secret of Success series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThe secret of success, as you saw in the previous articles in this series, is neither what you have, nor what you do. To use this secret and change your life you first need to authentically know what you are. Have you spend enough time contemplating the crucial question asked earlier: What Am ...
Views: 2157(3 votes) - What Are You, since You're Not what you Have nor what you Do? Part 4 in the Secret of Success series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThe key to real success, as we saw in the previous article in this series, is neither what you have, nor what you do. So what is it? How much time have you invested in contemplating this crucial question? First Reflect on Your Answer If you haven't already come up with your answer then ...
Views: 1579(2 votes) - Does What you Have or Do make you Successful? Part 3 in the Secret of Success series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerAlong with most everyone, you want to be more successful. Yet success means different things to different people. The old adage suggests success is fame and fortune, and fame can indeed be seen as success. It's even been speculated that the man who vandalised Michelangelo's Pietà statue in ...
Views: 1749(1 vote) - You're Unique, so why try to Duplicate Another? Part 2 in the Secret of Success series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYou do all kinds of things which are necessary in your life. Yet one thing remains common and that is your consciousness, a golden thread running through all your actions. Your body changes and your actions change, but you're there unchanged. When you change your context by increasing your ...
Views: 1676(2 votes) - How the Power of Context can Supercharge your Results. Part 1 in the Secret of Success series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerWhy are their Results so Different? "What makes the difference in the results they achieve?" asked the instructor. She'd told us to assume two identically trained and equally capable lawyers have set up shop in opposite corners of the same town's main intersection. The woman lawyer has a ...
Views: 1931(1 vote) - You'll Face the Consequences, so Beware of Believing Others. Part 7 in the Change My Life series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerAchieving anything needs personal power which comes by increasing your awareness, as we saw previously in this Change my Life series #6. So how do you become more aware? Start Noticing Start by noticing more. The more you notice, the more you realize there is to notice. As the brilliant ...
Views: 1711(2 votes) - Distinctions lead to Clarity, Clarity gives you Power. Part 6 in the Change My Life series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThe value of goals, of knowing where you're going, was discussed in article #5 in this Change my Life series. And most people start by wondering what they should do, what should they change. Change is vital because unless you make a change in your life, nothing will change in your life. You ...
Views: 1806(1 vote) - If You don't Know Where You're Going, Any Road will do! Part 5 in the Change My Life series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris Baker"To change my life, I have to make a change in my life." This made so much sense to me when I first came across it! One of my goals was to change my life and, since you're reading this article, I guess it's one of yours too. My list was rather long, how about yours? You want life to become ...
Views: 1973(2 votes) - Improve Your Life, Give up what Doesn't Work for You! Part 4 in the Change My Life series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerIf you insist you are right, and someone else is wrong, this stops you looking at their perspective. Why would you waste time looking at something that you already know is wrong? When you know you are right, this prevents you learning anything new, which halts progress. Yet real progress can ...
Views: 1712(2 votes) - Don't be Right, be Effective! Part 3 in the Change My Life series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYou are right does not necessarily mean the person arguing is wrong! It just means they see things from another perspective! Each person's context is different, because their parents, education, religious upbringing, and experiences are different. Along with their acceptance of social ...
Views: 1705(1 vote) - Why Argue? Disagree and Increase your Personal Power Instead. Part 2 in the Change My Life series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYou argue when you both decide the other person is wrong. Two people are needed to argue, yet stopping an argument actually only requires one. You both insist you are right, which causes the argument. And from the viewpoint you each have on the issue, both of you are right. But are you ...
Views: 1247(2 votes) - Since I'm Right, you must be Wrong! Part 1 in the Change My Life series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerThe way you see things, you know you are right. And that's true, you are indeed right from your perspective. But when someone disagrees with you, they see things differently, and from their viewpoint they are also right. But how can two contradictory things both be right? Simple! Here's how ...
Views: 1355(1 vote) - Deal with it - Proactively! Reduce your Stress with this Proven Tip, part 2 - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerWould you prefer an easier life? Me, too! Yet how many of us are willing to put in the effort for life to become easier? You already appreciate the value of investing so you have money for later, but is that the only thing that will give you an easier life? Let's agree what's plain to see: ...
Views: 2722 - How Stress Changes during the Four Stages of Learning, part 1 - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYou don't need me to tell you how stressful life can be. You experience stressful situations while attempting to navigate new relationships and learn new routines at home and work. It helps to understand how to reduce stress in the four stages of becoming competent as change your life by ...
Views: 4717(1 vote) - How to Respond rather than React, the basis is Responsibility! - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerRespond and responsible have the same Latin root [re 'again', spondere 'to promise']. You can respond when you take responsibility. This is a decision that you are accountable for your circumstances, which doesn't mean you're to blame. Be Responsible Without taking responsibility, you ...
Views: 3258(1 vote) - Do you Wonder What To Do? Yet your Real Choice comes Earlier! Part 3 in the Choice Series - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Cris BakerYou always have a choice, they say. And they are right, you do have a choice, always! But not the one you think you have. Some people look at their possible responses, asking themselves how to react in the situation; should they do this, or that, or the other? Do you ever wonder how it will ...
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