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- How to Express Yourself to Others - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2010 from Greg BakerOne of the hardest things to do when you're communicating with someone is expressing yourself. How many times have you said something that just didn't come out the way you wanted it to? How many times have we said something that we really didn't mean, but we were too frustrated to stop it from ...
Views: 31293(14 votes) - The Difference Between Jealousy, Covetousness, and Envy in Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2010 from Greg BakerMany relationships have been destroyed over the jealousy issue. However, sometimes it isn't so much jealousy but envy and covetousness that is the real root of the problem. Here is a brief definition of each before we get into a lager discussion of these. Jealousy - The fear of losing ...
Views: 14266(4 votes) - The Main Causes of Your Irrational Anger - by Submitted on May 12, 2010 from Greg BakerPeople often get angry and many times they don't even know why they get angry. As a counselor, I've dealt with many people who are genuinely puzzled why they got so angry. Have you ever gotten angry over something small, stupid, or just plain silly? Have you ever sat down later and felt ...
Views: 13920(3 votes) - How To Build Good Character - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Greg BakerBuilding good character is all about addition, not subtraction. What I mean is this: when it comes to change, our focus is usually on the aspects of our lives that are bad. We try to cut out or cut off these negative or bad qualities. We try to improve by subtraction. That is not how you build ...
Views: 12118(12 votes) - Fixing a Broken Friendship - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2010 from Greg BakerFriendship isn't a unique relationship in addition to all the other ones. In fact, friendship is more than that. When any of your relationships can become friends, then it has reached the pinnacle of that relationship. I don't have a wife, children, parents, and then friends. No, each of ...
Views: 11912(2 votes) - The Ten Christian Principles For A Successful Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2010 from Greg BakerI’ve counseled and been the pastor of marriages for years. In all that time, I have come to realize what makes a successful marriage. Any marriage, and I mean any marriage, that follows these ten principles will be successful. Yes, these are Christian principles. Here are the Ten Principles ...
Views: 11838(3 votes) - Dealing With Unrealistic Expectations In Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2010 from Greg BakerOne of the great relationship destroyers is that of unrealistic expectations. Expecting something out of the relationship that the other is either ignorant of, unwilling to provide, or simply unable to provide. Frustration and anger is the result. This article deals with differing expectations ...
Views: 11176(7 votes) - The Nature Of A Misunderstanding - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2010 from Greg BakerMisunderstandings are perhaps the single greatest source of our arguments and fights with each other. They occur for many reasons. Understanding where they come from and how to avoid them will go a long way to strengthen relationships and avoid fights. It is important to understand what ...
Views: 10944 - Do You Have A Fear Of Embarrassment? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2011 from Greg BakerMaking mistakes is part of life. But making mistakes in front of your peers, family, friends, or loved ones often brings a sense of embarrassment. Fearing this embarrassment will invariably cause you even more humiliation. Find out why and what you can do. Embarrassment is the natural result ...
Views: 10194(2 votes) - How To Win Someone’s Heart - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2010 from Greg BakerEver tried to penetrate the tough guy facade? Or been turned away by the ‘I don’t need you or anyone else’ face? There is a secret to winning someone’s heart. This article does not guarantee that you will it merely equips you with the best tools to do so. It does not matter if the situation ...
Views: 9506(1 vote) - Dealing With The Pressures And Stresses Of Life - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Greg BakerThere is a difference between pressure and stress. One causes the other, and one we can reduce and shunt off. Learn the difference between these two in your life and what you can do about them. Stress is the product of pressure. Set an empty plastic water bottle upright and place the palm of ...
Views: 8560(7 votes) - Our Words Define Us More Than Our Actions - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Greg BakerWe think that our actions define us more than our words. But the reality is exactly the opposite. Our actions are important, but our actions are psychologically used to verify the truth of our words and not the other way around. Be careful what you say. This article attempts to prove that your ...
Views: 8301(1 vote) - Three Attributes of Someone Slow to Anger - by Submitted on May 07, 2010 from Greg BakerThe key to control of your anger is to be slow to anger. No one can turn anger on and off like a light switch. But having a very, very long fuse is the key to anger management. There are three attributes that are common, however, to someone that is slow to anger. GRACIOUS People who have ...
Views: 7689(3 votes) - How To Bury A Bad Past - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2010 from Greg BakerThe greatest problem with a bad past is not that you made mistakes or did things wrong. It is that you can't go back and undo it. That is the most frustrating part about guilt and regrets. We are hands on people. We want to fix mistakes and right wrongs. But once the moment has slipped into the ...
Views: 7454(4 votes) - How To Become More Intelligent - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2010 from Greg BakerIt may not be that intelligence is a measurable quality. We establish IQ scores, true, but these scores are not set in stone. Our brain is like any other muscle, if it is exercised, it grows stronger and more agile. Therefore, it may not even be accurate to assume that one person is necessarily ...
Views: 7231(4 votes) - The Importance of Presenting a United Front Before Your Children - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2010 from Greg BakerConflicting authority is the largest contributor to rebellion in children. When parents--authority--conflict it can cause rebellion in your children. You, as parents, need to have a united front for your children. Here are some tips on how this can be done. Rebellion is the result of ...
Views: 7216(5 votes) - How Rejection Causes Depression And Social Anxiety - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2011 from Greg BakerRejection is one of the main causes of depression and social anxiety. Understanding why may help you combat and even overcome some of your depression and social anxieties. Rejection causes a series of emotional and spiritual issues that need to be addressed. God did not create us to be ...
Views: 6069 - The Three 'Magic' Questions To Save Your Marriage - by Submitted on May 10, 2010 from Greg BakerFor years, as a Pastor and counselor, I've had to figure out how to save someone's marriage. Here is a short formula that I use to find out where the problems may truly lie, and knowing them, I can recommend a plan on what needs to be done to fix the broken relationship. You can follow it for ...
Views: 5763(2 votes) - Reasons Why You Feel Rejected Or Why Everyone Hates You - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2011 from Greg BakerEver feel that way? Do you feel that everyone hates you? As a pastor and counselor, I have encountered many people who feel this way. In looking into it, I have pinpointed a variety of causes and effects for this discouraging feeling of rejection. In knowing the causes, you may be able to combat ...
Views: 5734 - How to Prevent a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Greg BakerIt seems that we've all suffered a broken heart at one time or another. The pain that it causes and brings is horrific. Few, if anyone, ever wants to go through that again. So how do you prevent it? And if we can actually do that, is it a good thing? The only sure way to prevent a broken ...
Views: 5680 - How To Express Yourself With A Letter - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2011 from Greg BakerWriting can be an incredible outlet to expressing your emotions, feelings, and desires without necessarily causing an argument, feeling frustrated, or having your thoughts come out wrong. This article contains some tips on how to express yourself in writing. WHEN TO WRITE A LETTER There ...
Views: 4973 - Instilling Good Values In Your Children - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2011 from Greg BakerIt is important to transfer your values to your children. They won't pick up on them unless taught. But for some reason we fear to do so or we don't know how. Read on to discover how you can transfer those good values to your children. “Praise the Lord! I Found One!” These are the words ...
Views: 4884 - Conversation Secrets On How To Talk To Anyone About Anything - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Greg BakerThis very simple and easy to follow procedure will help you develop strong conversation skills with people you know and people you don’t know. This skill is meant to help you build lasting connections with people and feel at ease while doing it regardless of your knowledge of the subject or ...
Views: 4857(2 votes) - The Relationship Between Fear And Anger - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2010 from Greg BakerOur greatest fears are the result of what we do not understand. Our minds have the capacity to create the worst scenario possible for a given situation. This creates fear. Fear, more often than not, creates anger. Fear of the unknown is akin to the fear of loss. When we don’t understand ...
Views: 4698(2 votes) - How To Break Free From A Dead End Life - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2010 from Greg BakerIn my role as a Pastor and counselor I encounter many people who have found themselves seemingly at a dead end in life. Not only do they lack purpose—or the purpose they have is not one they sought or wanted—but they seem to blunder from disaster to disaster on a fairly consistent basis. And ...
Views: 4679(1 vote) - Why The Niche Newspaper is Thriving - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2010 from Greg BakerThe niche newspaper is one that is specific to a particular market, business, or company. While the daily subscription newspaper is being replaced with news from the internet, a niche newspaper is bringing in clients, customers, and revenue. Read on to find out why! A MORE POWERFUL MESSAGE ...
Views: 4678 - Is Jealousy Normal? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Greg BakerWe are taught that jealousy is wrong. Indeed, it often leads to disastrous results. But is it normal? Or is it the result of some wrong thinking or wrong decisions? Find out. First, it is essential to accurately define jealousy as compared to two other terms—envy and covetousness. Since I am ...
Views: 4394 - Dealing With Other People's Anger - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2010 from Greg BakerThere is a very revealing verse in the Bible that helps define the psychology of an angry person. Proverbs 22:24 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: The warning is very poignant. Angry people are exceptionally difficult to deal with. But for many ...
Views: 4157(3 votes) - Making and Keeping Good Friends - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2010 from Greg BakerThere are many reasons why people struggle to make friends. Here are a few: Insecurity Selfishness Pride An Introvert Personality Fear of People Overwhelming and dominate personality Depression But whatever the problem is, it needs to be addressed and ...
Views: 3941(3 votes) - How to Maintain Realistic Expectations Within Your Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2011 from Greg BakerEveryone enters a relationship with expectations. There is just no getting around this. Our own nature and desires form our ideas of what a good marriage means, what a friend ought to be, and even how children and parents ought to interact with each other. This article details a means of forming ...
Views: 3870(1 vote) - How To Start A Very Profitable Funny Pages Newspaper Business - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2010 from Greg BakerHere is a business that has remarkable profit potential with only a part time effort. Requiring no start up costs, you will find everything you need in this article to start, maintain, and make a success of this business. Read on! THE NUTS AND BOLTS OF A FUNNY PAGES NEWSPAPER BUSINESS You ...
Views: 3801(7 votes) - Healing From The Trauma Of An Extramarital Affair - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2011 from Greg BakerYour spouse cheated on you. Nothing you can do will change that. Still, you’ve decided to stick it out and try to make the marriage work. Only you don’t trust him/her anymore, you are incredibly suspicious, and your anxiety of possibly being betrayed again is eating your heart out. You still ...
Views: 3436(1 vote) - How to Help Someone With a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Greg BakerYou know someone that has had their heart broken and they are so hurt that they seem to withdraw from everyone and everything. You want to help, but you just don't know what to do. Read on for a few suggestions and tips. Now if you did the heart breaking, that would be an altogether different ...
Views: 3432(3 votes) - Dealing with a Midlife Crisis - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2010 from Greg BakerIf you or someone you know is having a midlife crisis, then you may want to know how to properly deal with it. This period in a person's life is extremely dangerous. They can become depressed, disillusioned with life, and even quit things or relationships they should not. Primarily, a midlife ...
Views: 3201(4 votes) - The Worst Thing You Can Do When Your Heart is Broken - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Greg BakerWhen someone breaks your heart, you have an immediate tendency to do the very worst thing possible. It is almost a knee jerk reaction that often hinders your ability to heal and lengthens the time you'll hurt. This article addresses the absolute worst thing you can do when your heart is ...
Views: 3122(2 votes) - Handling Criticism - by Submitted on May 06, 2010 from Greg BakerPeople will criticize you for all sorts of reasons. And if you take any sort of stand, good or bad, you will be criticized for it. But how you deal with it is a key to retaining sanity and an even disposition through life. I pastor a Church. I have my own opinions about God, religion, ...
Views: 3109(1 vote) - The Process of Healing a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Greg BakerLoss of sleep, an ache deep in the bit of your stomach, frequent tears, a heart seems to get heavier as the days go on, depression, and feelings of isolation and abandonment are all signs of a broken heart. How, if possible, do you heal from a broken heart? There is no quick fix. If you are ...
Views: 3009(1 vote) - Establishing Rules For Your Children - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2010 from Greg BakerLearn how to properly establish rules for your children. Done right, you can avoid anger and resentment when you are forced to enforce your rules. Done right, your children won't fight your discipline. One of the methods that I use with my own children is contained in this article. Setting ...
Views: 2941(3 votes) - The Greatest Reason Why Marriages Struggle To Recover From Problems - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2010 from Greg BakerEvery couple will have their ups and downs. But more and more marriages struggle to recover from problems, issues, and difficulties. Many marriages survive these problems, but they don’t recover. They are like a volcano sealed with a plastic lid. It won’t hold. It will explode. But why? ...
Views: 2912(3 votes) - Expressing Yourself Using the Question Tree Technique - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2010 from Greg BakerExpressing yourself is not always easy. There can be many things that go wrong when you try to express yourself. Misunderstandings are perhaps the most destructive communication mishaps in relationships. So how do you solve it? No method is perfect, especially when you are dealing with someone ...
Views: 2827(12 votes) - What Is a Real Friend? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2010 from Greg BakerFor most people having friends is having someone who likes them. And it is true, that a friend will certainly like you, but being popular-which is the goal of most people seeking friendship-is not the same as having a real friend. If your goal is to be popular, be with the in crowd, be well ...
Views: 2806(1 vote) - Communicating With Your Children - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2010 from Greg BakerWhen communicating with children it is important to keep your goals in mind. The younger the child, the more difficult it is to reason with a child. A very young child won't be able to give you the reasoning for his actions. "Why did you hit your brother?" you demand. "Because I hit him?" ...
Views: 2720(6 votes) - Three Important Leadership Qualities that Boost Morale - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2010 from Greg BakerIn this article, we will explore three essential leadership qualities that boost morale among followers. Every leader must learn what being a leader means. These qualities are important to every leader. They are important to any follower. They are a must. BE APPROACHABLE Those leaders who ...
Views: 2694(5 votes) - The Relationship Between Fear, Anxiety, And Depression - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2011 from Greg BakerUltimately, all our depression and anxiety are born out of some sort of fear or the realization of a fear. Fear, according to the Bible, brings torment. This article explores the various mental, emotional, and spiritual torments that often lead to depression and anxiety. There is a direct ...
Views: 2669(1 vote) - The Difference Between Preaching And Teaching - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2010 from Greg BakerWhat, if any, is the difference between preaching and teaching? Some preachers teach and some teachers preach. Is a lecture more preaching or a speech more teaching? I am a pastor with nearly 20 years of preaching experience. I will attempt to explain the difference. As a pastor, the ...
Views: 2645 - What Determines How People Perceive Your Personality? - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2010 from Greg BakerHave you ever been misunderstood, taken the wrong way, or categorized and stereotyped incorrectly? Find out why this happens and what you can do to be perceived correctly by those around you. WORDS DEFINE YOUR PERSONALITY Essentially, you define yourself to those around you by the words ...
Views: 2575 - Combating Depression By Building Self-Confidence - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Greg BakerOne of the main causes of depression is a lack of self-confidence. When we no longer believe in ourselves, we begin to fall into a pit of depression and anxiety. This is a Pastor’s take on building self-confidence. On one hand, we are all filled with some degree of insecurity. For most ...
Views: 2495 - Three Essential Leadership Qualities - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2010 from Greg BakerAnyone who is in a position of leadership must be able to exhibit the following qualities in this article. From a parent to an employer to a politician, these leadership qualities are essential to being a good leader. LEARN TO COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY, A leader that cannot communicate his ...
Views: 2361(5 votes) - Growing Your Church in Tough Economic Times - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2010 from Greg BakerEvery church wants to grow and reach the community. But all outreach programs and ministries cost money. The key is to develop outreach ministries that are self-supporting and self-sustaining. Our church started one that has been incredibly effective, costs us nothing except time, and even makes ...
Views: 2347 - Tips On Getting Your Children To Listen To You - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2010 from Greg BakerGetting your kids to listen to you can be a problem at times. Undoubtedly, you've tried a variety of methods from shouting, finger pointing, scowling, threatening, and the famous counting to ten. Kids seem to tune out your words if your tone is saying something else. Your tone of voice ...
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