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- One Surprising Way Men Help Us While Hurting Us - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerIt’s your fear of rejection that is getting you rejected. ~~ Bobbi Palmer I know…I write about rejection a lot: how to recognize when it is and isn't real; how there’s no such thing as rejection when you’re meeting guys using online dating; and how to learn from it, recover and move on to the ...
Views: 1188(3 votes) - [Video] What To Do When It Doesn’t Work Out - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerTo Watch Video Click Here I had a disappointment today. I blew an opportunity to do well at something that was super important to me. I was struggling to find a way to fix it…to make it right. So I thought: What would I tell another sister to do in this situation? I came up with the ...
Views: 1197(1 vote) - [Video] Dating New Men: How to Tell Him the Scary Stuff - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerTo Watch Video Click Here Ungrateful children. Mortgage that’s killin’ you. Surgical scars. Chronic health problems…these are all realities of life after 40. Let’s face it: we’ve been around a while. We have “stuff!” When you’re dating ...
Views: 1058(1 vote) - [Video] How Do I Get Myself to Think Nice Guys Are Hot? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerTo Watch Video Click Here Last weekend was my live event in Los Angeles: Mastering the Art of Magnetizing Men. During this two-day event I gave women tons of advice and step-by-step tips to help them attract quality men so they could finally meet their loving lifetime partner. If ...
Views: 1061(1 vote) - How to Magnetize the Men You Like: Top Tips [Video] - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerTo Watch Video Click Here Since you all can’t all attend my upcoming Live Event “The Art of Magnetizing Men“, I wanted to share my #1 Top Tip for being a midlife man magnet. Then I figured: why not invite my two guest experts to share theirs! Let me know your ...
Views: 1149(1 vote) - How to Say “No” (Whether You Like Him or Not) [Video] - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerTo Watch Video Click Here What do you do when a man asks you out and you aren’t interested? Are you worried about hurting his feelings? I get this question quite frequently because, after all, we want to please men, right? Here are my simple tips for how to say “no” to a ...
Views: 1137(1 vote) - How to Answer Those Personal Questions You Don’t Want to Answer [Video] - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerTo Watch Video Click Here Were you at last Friday’s Grownup Girls’ Night Out Live Man Panel? I had three men — ages 40s, 50s and 70s – generously share their thoughts and feelings about what attracts them to women, what to do on dates, how to tell if a man is into ...
Views: 1126(1 vote) - How to Shake Up Your Love Life This Weekend [Video] - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerTo Watch Video Click Here Do you feel like you’re in a bit of a rut? Sometimes, especially when we’re older and haven’t dated for a while, we can start feeling bored, boring or invisible when it comes to men. I recorded this video to help you shake things up! With very ...
Views: 1170(1 vote) - [Video]How Do I Tell Him I Have Herpes? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerIf you are over 40 and dating, it is extremely likely that you have something about your past or your present you’re afraid to share when you meet new men. As I talked about in my last Grownup Girls’ Night Out, there is a good time AND a good way to talk about your ...
Views: 1252 - The One Word You Can Use to Magnetize the Right Man - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerA single man I know once said: If a woman I'm interested in doesn't seem to love herself, why should I love her...and trying to convince her that she's great would be too exhausting. When a man meets this kind of woman he may be attracted initially, but after figuring out that she is a ...
Views: 1929(1 vote) - What Is Your Online Dating IQ? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerI know I sound like a broken record about the benefits of dating online, especially if you are single and over 40. I’m going to continue to nag you about this because I want what you want: for you to find the man of your dreams, and to never let each other go. Getting online is the best way to ...
Views: 1617 - How to Tell if He Is Second-Date Worthy - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerI read this quote recently: I love that feeling of being in love, the effect of having butterflies when you wake up in the morning. That is special. ~ Jennifer Aniston I love her, and no offense meant, but how has that butterfly-thing been working for Jen so far? During my 35-plus years ...
Views: 1974(1 vote) - Delicious Life Lessons I Learned from My Father - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerMy Dad died. There…I said it out loud. Even though I was by his side and saw him take his very last breath, it’s been hard to believe he’s gone forever. F-o-r-e-v-e-r. I wanted to write this article for Thanksgiving so I could publicly thank him and show my gratitude. How trite, I thought. It ...
Views: 1647(1 vote) - Answering the $1 Million Question: Is He In To You? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerAnswering the $1 Million Question: Is He In To You? At least half of all the emails I get from wonderful women who are over 40 and looking for love are about the same question you’ve probably been asking since you were a teenager: “Is he in to me?” Often the answer is: If you have to ask, ...
Views: 1965(2 votes) - 3 Online Dating “Do’s” to Keep You Happily Meeting Men - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerYou can meet the spectacular, special man who is going to be your life partner using online dating. I met the love of my life on www.match.com, so of course I recommend it to all my friends, coaching clients, in my workshops…really to anyone who will listen! Here are three things I recommend ...
Views: 2514(2 votes) - Is "Should-ing" on Yourself Blocking Your View of a Beautiful Future? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2012 from Bobbi Palmer"If it were a snake, it would 'a bit ya!" That's what Ethel Mertz always said to her husband Fred (Lucy Ricardo's neighbors in I Love Lucy) when he'd wander around looking for his glasses – which were always on top of his (bald) head. Do you remember that? Well, this is what I could have said ...
Views: 2813 - Are You Ready to Teach and Tame Her? (FemiTypes - The Epilogue) - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerOver the past few months I’ve profiled six types of women – I call them FemiTypes – who have less than healthy relationships with men. I’ve written about The Princess, The 18 Year Old, The Scaredy Cat, The Wow-Me Woman, The Bitter Woman and The Sexpot. Why have I written about women when you ...
Views: 1865(1 vote) - Are You Attracting Cads and Pingers? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerLet me start today by telling you how magnificent you are. The fact that you are a woman over 40 and reading this tells me that you are all the more spectacular. Really, it does! One of the reasons finding love over 40 can be the most gratifying time of all is that you know your sphere of ...
Views: 2272(1 vote) - Do All Men Make You Mad? The Bitter Woman - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerDo All Men Make You Mad? (FemiType #5: The Bitter Woman) In an effort to help you understand the man side of this midlife dating experience, I’ve introduced you to The Princess, The 18 Year Old, The Scaredy Cat and The Wow-Me Woman: all FemiTypes* that send good men running. Today I’m going ...
Views: 2406(3 votes) - Are You Waiting to Be Wowed? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerNewsflash: Women constantly push really good guys right out of their lives without even knowing it. We do it by behaving in ways that, until pointed out by someone else, are a complete mystery. Finally having this pointed out to me in my early 40s was a huge part of my transition from a ...
Views: 2652(5 votes) - Your Fear of Rejection Is Getting You Rejected (FemiType #3: The Scaredy Cat) - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerWe all know that dating over 40 can be a bit of a jungle with challenges, surprises and pitfalls. I'm sure you've encountered your share of Pingers, Needy-men and Players as you meet single men. I get it, and you belong to a large, loving sisterhood. But it's not only us gals who have dating ...
Views: 2984(4 votes) - Are You Still 18 When It Comes to Dating and Relationships? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerDating like a grownup is the quickest path to finally enjoying mutually nurturing relationships with men who are full of respect, adoration and commitment. If you're going to date like a grownup, developing empathy for men is crucial. Just like all your relationships, when you have the ...
Views: 2343(5 votes) - Are You a Princess? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerIf you're going to be a successful dater (which means you have fun and meet good men), an essential tool is the ability to empathize with the men you meet. Empathy is not feeling sorry for someone. It's being able to put yourself in their shoes and understand their experience. I believe that ...
Views: 2765(4 votes) - What Dating Is Like for Men (Oh…ya think you know?) - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerLast week was Men’s Health week; and as another nod to the guys, I thought I'd help them by helping you better understand them. (Did you follow that?) In particular, I want to help you better understand the experience men have when they're trying to “date like a grownup.” If you've read my ...
Views: 2739(4 votes) - New Ideas for Things to Do This Weekend - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerWhen I was single I had a love/hate relationship with weekends. I loved having the extra time off work; I hated that I didn’t have a man to spend the time with. The truth is, though, that I didn’t need a man to have fun or accomplish something meaningful. In many cases, I just needed ME! I ...
Views: 2063(4 votes) - Avoid Dating Burnout by Thinking More Like a Man - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerThis week I spoke with my client, “Sue,” who recently entered the online dating world. Right off the bat she had scoped out a profile she really liked and emailed him. He seemed interested, attentive and pretty fabulous on paper. The next thing you know…she has a date! When they met in real ...
Views: 3141(5 votes) - Don't Sleep through your Sex Life - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerHave you ever found yourself in a sexual lull? Maybe you're in one right now. During my oh-so-many single years, I used to call my gaps in dating and intimacy "being on hiatus." And the hiatuses were often pretty long. (Sorry…TMI?) The truth is that extended periods of celibacy are somewhat ...
Views: 2106(5 votes) - Two Simple Thoughts That Will Change the Way You Date - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerMy guess is that you’ve been dating a while and not getting great results. You’re here reading this, after all. The best way to shift into having dates that render positive outcomes – like having more fun and eventually meeting The One – is to change the way you talk to yourself before you even ...
Views: 1503(4 votes) - How to Get (the Right) Man to Like You - by Submitted on May 30, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerI'm sure you know that in order to attract the right man you need to feel great about yourself. That's why Step One of my 6-Step Find Hope and then Find Him System is Who Am I: Falling in Love With Myself. You have to know why you rock and truly believe that you'll make some lucky man a superb ...
Views: 1579(5 votes) - Can I Find Love When I Have Serious Life Problems? - by Submitted on May 24, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerI received an email yesterday that I want to share. I hear some form of this a lot: “I’m [not perfect because of fill-in-the-blank] and I’m worried no man will ever want me!” I get it but I can’t tell you how much this breaks my heart. I lived in the “no man wants a fat girl” reality for a ...
Views: 1642(3 votes) - Nine Ways to Make Your Date Great (in the First Ten Minutes!) - by Submitted on May 20, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerThe first 10 minutes of a date often determine whether a second date is even going to happen. And let's face it: second dates are not the norm for many. That was definitely my story until I learned about (what I now call) "Date Waste." Date waste is when a date is a drag but has little to do ...
Views: 1450(3 votes) - Are You Dating Like a Grownup? - by Submitted on May 17, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerI’m often asked what I mean by Dating Like a Grownup. It’s obviously a great question that I probably should answer every so often. (I am, after all, the CEO of Date Like a Grownup!) I’m going to give you my definition, and then I’m going to tell you about a great book I’ve read that does a ...
Views: 1599(3 votes) - Online Rejection: There’s No Such Thing! - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerThis is one skill I want you to master: Rejecting online rejection. Learning to accept rejection gracefully, with as few “dings” to your self-esteem as possible, is key to finding your true love. As a dating coach, I’ve found the #1 reason you won’t have success online is giving up too soon. ...
Views: 1645(3 votes) - Will He Like You Naked? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerAre you excited about the notion of hopping into bed with your new guy? Slowly undressing…eyes locked…savoring each other’s bodies…lust so intense that you both might explode… …or does the thought of it make you so nervous you want to puke? Let’s face it: if you’re working on attracting ...
Views: 2041(4 votes) - ***Why You Might Want to Stop Looking for a Man - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerI know you say you're looking for a loving and committed man to share your life, but I have to ask...have you found yourself yet? I know you've heard this before and it sounds trite, but everyone says it for a good reason. If the answer to the question is no, beats me, or who cares...then you ...
Views: 1443(4 votes) - ***"What Looking for Love and Birthing a Baby Have in Common" - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerThere are so many women I care deeply about —both friends and clients — who are holding themselves back from bringing love into their lives. Are you one of them? Are you saying "I want a fabulous man in my life" and "I know I'm a catch," yet not doing much to actually reach your self-described ...
Views: 1272(9 votes) - ***What Men Say About Women (It May Surprise You!) - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerWhat if you could hear men honestly share their thoughts and feelings about women, dating, sex and relationships? I had the opportunity to do that twice last week when I hosted and observed "man panels." If you've never been fortunate to hear a man panel, it works like this: we gather men — ...
Views: 1195(14 votes) - ***How to Decide When to Have Sex - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThe ladies in my Master the Mystery of Meeting Men telecourse have been talking about S-E-X. When is it okay to have it? How do you decide? This is such an important conversation! You may think "I'm not even dating yet...who cares!" But the decision may be closer than you think, and I want you ...
Views: 1380(8 votes) - ***Why the Gracious Needy Gal Gets the Guy - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerNeedy women attract good men. "Low-maintenance" women attract jerks…or no men at all. Is this counter to what you've always thought? Did you think that the less you expected from a man, the more he'd like you? Well, consider this: A Good Man – one who is confident, mature and ...
Views: 2095(13 votes) - ***Are You Expecting Men to Act Like Women? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerMy idea for today's post came from a seminar I hosted last week called "Making Sense of Men." It was co-led by a trainer for PAX Programs International, which is in the business of educating women about men. If you haven't familiarized yourself with PAX, which is the brilliant work of Alison ...
Views: 1424(18 votes) - ***Key #5 to Finding Hope and Finding Him: Real Women Find Their Man - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThis is the fifth and last in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. The 5 Keys are: M - Me and Me first. A - Assess your list. S - Shed your stuff. T - Time to get out and Trail blaze. R - Real women find their man. The truth is that as we get older, ...
Views: 1476(26 votes) - ***Key #4 to Finding Hope and Finding Him: Time to Get Out and Trail Blaze - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThis is the third in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. The 5 Keys are: M - Me and Me first. A - Assess your list. S - Shed your stuff. T - Time to get out and Trail blaze. R - Real women find their man. I say you need to Trail Blaze because, as you ...
Views: 1384(3 votes) - ***Key #3 to Finding Hope and Finding Him: Shed Your Stuff - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThis is the third in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. The 5 Keys are: M - Me and Me first. A - Assess your list. S - Shed your stuff. T - Time to get out and Trail blaze. R - Real women find their man. I know you are a fabulous, smart, ...
Views: 1698(17 votes) - ***Key #2 to Finding Hope and Finding Him: Assess Your List - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThis is the second in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. The 5 Keys are: M - Me and Me first. A - Assess your list. S - Shed your stuff. T - Time to get out and Trail blaze. R - Real women find their man. Most of you probably have a list of what you ...
Views: 1360(11 votes) - ***Key #2 to Finding Hope and Finding Him: Assess Your List - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThis is the second in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. The 5 Keys are: M - Me and Me first. A - Assess your list. S - Shed your stuff. T - Time to get out and Trail blaze. R - Real women find their man. Most of you probably have a list of what you ...
Views: 1360(11 votes) - ***Key #1 to Finding Hope and Finding Him: Me First - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThis is the first in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. The 5 Keys are: M - Me and Me first. A - Assess your list. S - Shed your stuff. T - Time to get out and Trail blaze. R - Real women find their man. A single man I know once said, “If a woman ...
Views: 1781(17 votes) - ***How to Talk to Men (in a Way That They Like!) - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerNot only is it okay to talk about yourself to men, but it is 100% essential to getting first dates and future dates. When I tell women that it’s GOOD to talk about themselves, it’s generally met with complete shock. But don’t guys love it when we let them do all the talking? Well, yes. Who ...
Views: 1478(2 votes) - ***How to Be a Powerful, Feminine Woman - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerWant to attract a confident, grounded man who will enhance your already great life? The best way to do it is to act like a lady. Yes, that age-old scenario is still true: masculine men are attracted to feminine women. Men want to know that they're contributing to our lives. When a man cares ...
Views: 1712(12 votes) - ***Is Something Surprisingly Simple Keeping You From Finding Him? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerI learned something this week that completely rocked my world: when you apply eyeliner, you should start from the inside of your lid, not the outside. Did you know that? I’m 52 years old, and for my entire life I’ve been doing it wrong. No wonder it was always a struggle! I was never able to ...
Views: 2420(4 votes) - ***How to Make Every Date Great - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThe first ten minutes of a date often determine whether a second date is ever going to happen, and let's face it: second dates are not the norm for many. That was definitely my story until I learned about (what I now call) "Date Waste." Date waste is when a date is a drag but has little to do ...
Views: 1495(14 votes) - ***Why Every Single Woman Should Use a Vibrator - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerMasturbation. There…I said it. The "Big M." I don't generally talk about this, so it may shock you. But the time has come to chat about the role sex – or lack thereof – plays in the life of a woman in her later years who is single and looking for love. There are many circumstances that may ...
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