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- Divorce and Abuse: 3 Things to Avoid to Improve Your Success in Family Court - by Submitted on May 14, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.If the system is broken, how can you make it work for you? This is a question that puzzles battered women in family court. They show up expecting the court to protect the rights of their children and themselves, only to discover that it becomes an uphill battle to simply defend against losing ...
Views: 1103 - Domestic Violence and the Parental Alienation Syndrome - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.In marriages in which there is no domestic abuse and parental alienation upon divorce, it is more often the woman who is the alienating parent. Whereas in marriages in which there is domestic abuse, the victimized partner is in most cases the alienated parent. Why these trends? PAS in ...
Views: 1089 - Domestic Violence Awareness – Risks, Causes and Signs of Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Domestic violence is best known before it comes knocking at your door. College World Reporter Donell Edwards interviews domestic abuse consulting expert Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. to help educate young college women about domestic violence. 1) DONELL EDWARDS: In recent weeks, the alleged attack of ...
Views: 1084 - Family Court Violence and Crazy-Making Maneuvers - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.If I tell you that you are “crazy” and threaten to punish you because of what I have said, a part of you begins to question that maybe what I have alleged is true. Crazy-Making from the Outside In Then, if I tell someone in authority that you are “crazy” and consequently they set forth to ...
Views: 1035 - Recovering From Physical Abuse: 3 Keys To Your Body's Miracle Makeover After The Domestic Abuse Assault - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Broken bones, ruptured spleen, bruised swollen tissue, and ultimately a diagnosed clinical condition labeled as “degenerative disc.” Such a label can connote a permanent, defective body part, and ultimately an image of broken body. I hear domestic violence survivors talk about their ...
Views: 1033 - Friend or Daughter in an Abusive Relationship - 3 Secrets to Saving Your Relationship with Them - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Why do we hate victims of domestic abuse? We hate the hold their perpetrators have over them when it interferes with us getting what love and affection we are accustom to receiving from them. We hate the frustration of not being able to shake them awake. We hate their choosing to be controlled ...
Views: 1026 - Family Court Violence - When Psychiatry and Law Serve as the Batterer’s Club - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Institutionalizing battered women in psychiatric hospitals is as old as prostitution. It’s an effective way to silence and discredit them. In My Own Practice I remember a case over 20 years ago in my own practice of a patient referred by a social worker for a stress-related neuromuscular ...
Views: 1019 - Domestic Violence Prevention is the Cure - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.There are as many variations on this story as there are people living it. Yet there are a few common themes that present in most renditions of established intimate partner violence. These are: a) There may very well be a price when you leave. b) Getting to that point will likely involve a lot ...
Views: 1013 - Family Court Collateral: How Divorce Court Agents Feed on Maternal Instincts - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.It’s no secret that our children are collateral in family court. So, why is it that when we turn to this institution of justice, do we expect it to serve and protect the interests of our children? My sense of this is our educated mind doesn’t really expect anything more than what we ...
Views: 1013 - The Childless Scarlet A: Healing from Family Violence and Legal Domestic Abuse - by Submitted on May 28, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Some wounds are so severe that words cannot capture their complete pain. Being pushed out of one’s children’s lives or the lives of your grandchildren is one of these. When this is yours, the depths of it take your breath away. I hear women tell me the cries that come out of them over their ...
Views: 1013 - Abusive Relationships - Why Do People Return To Their Abusive Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.A common question people have about individuals in abusive relationships is: why do they stay? A more perplexing question to bystanders looking in is: why do they go back? And moreover, why do they go back again and again and again? It is estimated that a domestic abuse survivor will return to ...
Views: 998 - Domestic Violence and Child Custody - Legal Psychiatric Ploys of Divorce Lawyers - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.When divorce and domestic violence are before the court, the children can often serve as the vehicle for the perpetrator to save face and maintain control over the family. Sound familiar? If you are in family court with an abusive partner, or abusive ex-partner, and there are children ...
Views: 992 - Family Violence - Lost Mothers, Lied To Children & The Legal Abuse Syndrome - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.“Where is your Mom?” asked a little boy to another. The little boy replied, “I don’t know.” From his point of view, she was lost. She was gone. She left him. She abandoned him. ...And the conclusions go on and on, each one with more and more potential to fracture a ...
Views: 976 - Divorce Visitation - When Domestic Abuse Revels Itself in the Interest of the Controlling Parent - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.In helping people negotiate child custody and visitation schedules, I’ve come to see a pattern express itself in terms of parents’ desire for their children to have equal access to both parents. The moment I see resistance to equal access to both parents based on what a parent “may” do without ...
Views: 974 - How to Help Shine the Light on Domestic Abuse - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.I’m frequently approached by families to help them “yank” their adult daughter or son out of an abusive relationship. And they come to me wanting me to “do it” as they have attempted to “do it.” That is by trying to influence their adult child’s choices in whatever way the parents are accustomed ...
Views: 974 - Legal Domestic Violence - 3 Secrets of Divorce Lawyer’s Seduction Strategy with Battered Women - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Oftentimes battered women leave abusers only to find out that they are in an abusive relationship with their own divorce lawyer. And unfortunately, many spend as long awakening to this reality as they did admitting the abuse they endured by their former intimate partner. Here are some seduction ...
Views: 971 - The Psychosocial Politics of Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.As a psychologist, I’m often asked what is the psychopathology of individuals in abusive relationships? The perpetrator’s mental health status is usually more self-evident, whereas the victims’ mental health status is clouded with the psychosocial politics of domestic violence ...
Views: 941 - Abusive Relationships - What is the Difference between Being Abusive and Being an Abuser? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.What is the difference between “being abusive” and “being an abuser?” I hear this question by people trying to determine if they are entangled in intimate partner violence, even when they don’t know this term. What they want to know is: Am I in a dangerously abusive ...
Views: 913 - Signs of an Abusive Relationship - 6 Personal Questions that Can Help You See Partner Abuse - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.It's no secret that we see what we project. And when it comes to abuse, doing so can have repercussions for all of us. Prior abuse in one's life can set the stage for misinterpretations of our adult partner's actions, intentions, feelings and relationship to us. Now this doesn't mean that when ...
Views: 913 - 7 Tips to Help Your Loved One in an Abusive Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.We often hear friend’s and family members of domestic abuse victims express frustration over their loved one’s choosing to remain in their abusive relationships. This is understandable. Question is how can they help the abused? In working with families over the years, I find the ...
Views: 903 - Abusive Relationship - Why Does She Let Him Talk To Her Like That? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.What’s wrong with her for “letting” him talk to her like that? This is the first thought of an outsider looking in on an abusive encounter of an abusive relationship. Dr. Phil was interviewing a couple obviously in an abusive relationship. He asked the woman how she felt about ...
Views: 902 - Signs Of Abusive Relationships: Conditioning that Kills From The Inside Out In Abusive Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.We know the drama of domestic abuse from the outside looking in, as it is popularized by the media and by entertainment mediums. But the silent insidious inner deaths that take place are more pervasive and, and in some cases, more debilitating for the domestic abuse survivor. What are the inner ...
Views: 867 - Domestic Violence Divorce: Legal Psychiatric Rape - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.When a victim leaves a battering relationship and moves out OR speaks out, is she safe? Not necessarily so. Statistics show she is more often at greater risk after she leaves. Far too often we hear about battered women falling through the cracks of the system on their way out of an abusive ...
Views: 865 - Family Violence Healing: 3 Keys to Healing Parental Alienation - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.When children go away to college and get away from “who and what” the controlling family members want them to be, a window opens up. What they discover is their essence. Now here’s the gem... That essence is a composite of their formative years. If you were in their lives ...
Views: 865 - Domestic Abuse - Why Water For Domestic Abuse And Trauma Recovery? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.What’s with the water for domestic abuse survivors? Water can be like soap to the body on a cellular level. It flushes out the impurities in the system. And let’s face it when you live with someone who tells you that you are junk...toxicity builds up in your system. So how do you ...
Views: 862 - Abused Men - Are You In The Doghouse Of An Abusive Relationship? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Abusive women put their men in the doghouse when they are misbehaving. And the shame these men feel is no different than that felt by battered women. It’s a shame that has many dimensions: a) I let my partner down. b) I don’t measure up to my partner’s expectations and/or ...
Views: 857 - 5 Benefits of Learning to Identify Intimate Partner Abuse - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.If you have read my writing, you may know me as someone who encourages people to recognize intimate partner violence. But, I wonder if you know why I’m so steadfast about this. Learning to Meditate Is Like Learning to Mate I’m reminded of the days when I taught biofeedback and ...
Views: 854 - After The Abusive Relationship - 7 Clues for Knowing You're Doing What Is Right For You - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Domestic violence survivors often wonder what next? Now, that I’m no longer defined by my role in my “other life,” then what next... Who is this person? What is this person? What ought this person be doing with her life? In some respects this pondering is typical of battered ...
Views: 845 - Abusive Relationships - Why Doesn't She Just Leave, for Crying Out Loud! - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Almost as common as the question why doesn’t she just leave are the answers. So why do people continue to ask? I suspect it is because a victim’s staying in an abusive relationship is truly perplexing looking from the outside in. Here are 3 clear explanations for why she ...
Views: 838 - Adult Child's Abusive Relationship - How to Support Your Child's Psychotherapeutic Growth - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Parents are often the instruments of change for adult children in abusive relationships. And at the same time, they can also impede the change process. The Process Yields the Result Psychotherapy is a process; it’s not an injection. Even though there are psychotherapeutic techniques ...
Views: 828 - Legal Domestic Abuse: 7 Signs Your Attorney Has a Vested Interest in Helping Your Opposition - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Imagine rallying up the courage to leave an abusive partner and find yourself in a relationship with counsel in which you are the same as you were in relation to your partner...only difference is you’re in the seduction/promises phase of the relationship. Far too often we see women seek ...
Views: 810 - Abused Men: Abusive Partner And The Gender Factor - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Common thinking is that domestic violence is a “women’s issue.” While it is true there are more reported abuse cases involving women, it is a fact that men are abused by their domestic partners as well. My belief is that there is indeed a gender factor when we think of abuse ...
Views: 800 - Abusive Relationship - Double Dynamics When Sons And Daughters Are In Abusive Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.It’s no secret that we use our adulthood to work out our unfinished business with our parents. And when domestic violence is on our plate we may even see it as an opportunity to get even. Young people in abusive relationships sometime remain in these relationships because their parents ...
Views: 792 - What You Must Know to Leave an Abusive Relationship Safely - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Often times we hear that leaving an abuser, can be deadly. According to FBI reports 75% of all homicides by intimate male partners occurred after the victim left. Battered women are far more vulnerable to physical attack as well as attacks to their personal privacy, their civil liberties and ...
Views: 792 - Domestic Abuse and Family - The Use of Your Immediate Family to Carry Out Your Abusive Partner's Agenda - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.To add insult to injury, confusion to the complicated, mystery to the already oozing drama is the use of your own family to carry out your abusive partner’s agenda. Why? Whose Family Is My Family? If you’re perplexed as to why your parents are suddenly supporting your ...
Views: 790 - Domestic Violence and Child Custody: From the Frying Pan to the Fire of Family Violence - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Can we bring justice to family courts? That’s a highly political question, and I think the answer has more to do with the nature of the human beings behind the system and the misconceptions of those using the system to seek safety. We hear of battered women falling through the cracks of ...
Views: 787 - Leaving an Abusive Relationship - How to Insure a Safe Departure from an Abusive Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.If you’ve read my writing you know I’m a proponent of leaving an abusive relationship quickly and quietly, when you decide to do so. Now that doesn’t mean you jump in the car and go “out of the blue.” No not at all. Because if you do, chances are you’ll be ...
Views: 779 - Abusive Relationship - 8 Reasons You Haven't Left Your Abusive Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.You know from the core of your being that living in an abusive relationship is not good...not healthy…outright destructive. But you struggle with leaving. And those that know of your circumstances remain perplexed as to why you just don’t go. I understand and so do the millions of ...
Views: 775 - Abusive Relationship - The Power Of A Diagnosis in Understanding And Ending Domestic Abuse - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.The value of the diagnostic label has more to do with the way it impacts the person with the condition than anything else. Can you remember a time in your life when you had a medical condition and you received a diagnosis that immediately lifted the weight off your shoulders and sent you to ...
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