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- Is this your husband? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2011 from Maryanne ComarotoI think I used to be funnier than I am now. I’m not sure if that’s true but it feels true. And I am not exactly sure what happened or when, but it might have something to do with the fact that it’s scarier now to be decidedly anything…out loud. Including satirical blogger, politician ...
Views: 1383 - It's In the Cards - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2011 from Maryanne ComarotoIt's in the cards! Ericka wrote to Ask Maryanne: I have two questions. 1) My husband and I are moving to California to start a business. Do you see this being a positive move towards our goal? 2) Lately I have had the feeling that I need to discover myself, like there's more to me. What does ...
Views: 1159 - 500 Words - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2011 from Maryanne Comaroto500 Words: “If today were my last day on Earth and I could share 500 words of brilliance with the world, here are the important things I'd want to pass along to others… The first thing I would share would be to stop at nothing to know the truth. Particularly know the truth about who you are, ...
Views: 1300(3 votes) - Men Who Wear Wigs - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2011 from Maryanne ComarotoWhen I was a kid I figured Nature was basically a guy thing, the same way I supposed wearing wigs, for example, was primarily a girl thing. That’s probably because when I was growing up it was men who did things like: hunt, spear, shoot, capture and in some cases kill while the females stayed ...
Views: 2832(1 vote) - About Face! - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2011 from Maryanne ComarotoWe are reminded that “a face has launched a thousand ships,” according to Christopher Marlowe referring to Helen in Homer’s Odyssey. Yet what most of us forget is that Helen was 12 years old! What child isn’t precious and beautiful (and certainly worth sending out a rescue mission for) at age ...
Views: 1365 - What to do when confronted by "The Pink Elephant" - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2011 from Maryanne ComarotoEvery now and again you come across a situation in your life that blows your hair back, your skirt up or...just blows. For example: you find out the person you’re seriously considering spending the rest of your life with isn’t interested in a long term relationship with you. Or you discover one ...
Views: 1436(1 vote) - When Opposites Attract - by Submitted on May 27, 2011 from Maryanne ComarotoRemember the days of that sizzling hot/heart-thumping/I’ve never felt this way before/best sex you’ve ever had in your life/can’t eat, can’t sleep, “can’t live without” relationship that you had? Census bureau says it probably turned into a baby, or two...or three. And that, like it or not, ...
Views: 1214 - What do sex and money have in common? - by Submitted on May 12, 2011 from Maryanne Comaroto1) Money makes you more of who you are: meaning, whatever your money issues or beliefs are, you bring them with you into your relationships. It’s almost always the case that whatever values and beliefs you have about money, you will die with—unless you’re willing to do the work and get to the ...
Views: 1551 - The best gift ideas of all! - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2010 from Maryanne ComarotoIt’s easy to get besieged by the sheer volume the holiday season brings with it. And while much of what we are actually celebrating and why gets buried underneath our “list” (which seems to grow each year, and not always in proportion to our bank account), there’s plenty of time to resurrect the ...
Views: 1127 - Can prayer spice up your love life? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2010 from Maryanne ComarotoI know, most of us cross our legs when we think about GOD and sex simultaneously, so surely it’s a stretch to imagine praying could be spicy. And then there are those of us who a long time ago made the separation between church and mate and don’t give it a thought. But why not? What if we did ...
Views: 1514(3 votes) - All you need is love? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2010 from Maryanne ComarotoDear Maryanne: One of my best friends has been unhealthily obsessed with the same guy for almost four years (we're now seniors in college). They have hooked up intermittently over this time but have never been on a date or spent any platonic time together. He has never displayed any actual ...
Views: 1368(4 votes) - Being Heart Smart Part Two: The Inner View - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Maryanne ComarotoOne of my favorite Maryanne mantras is; you have to learn how use this (your head) before you do this (have sex) so you don’t break this (your heart)! And for many of us we can sadly add…again. Sounds simple enough, right? Yeah, well, we all know that when we get the urge to merge it can be so ...
Views: 1558 - Death becomes you - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Maryanne ComarotoWhat if you just let go? Let it all go? All your attachments: your life as you know it, your identity, what you think of other people, of what other people think of you? Any and all ideas you have about who you are, what is and how it supposed to be, vanishing in the distance as you voluntarily ...
Views: 1385(1 vote) - No benefits- all friends? - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Maryanne ComarotoIt’s that time of year. Spring has sprung and the fever pitch is HIGH! No more bundling up your chakras, you say, it’s time for some “sex on the beach”! A few spring fling tips: 1) Pay attention (pay now or pay later); 2) Think it through. Make sure the good outweighs any potential side ...
Views: 1238(3 votes) - Full-spectrum Emotion - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Maryanne ComarotoI’ll have one fabulous relationship; hold the full spectrum of unpleasant human emotion please!” Used to be, it could bring me to the edge when anyone would tell me to “calm down” or “just relax.” “OH, you think THIS is upset? Well, you haven’t seen upset!” I would declare, and there I’d go ...
Views: 1446(3 votes) - Who's to blame? - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Maryanne ComarotoBBC report today: Iranian cleric blames quakes on promiscuous women Promiscuous women are responsible for earthquakes, a senior Iranian cleric has said. Hojatoleslam Kazem Sedighi told worshippers in Tehran last Friday that they had to stick to strict codes of modesty to protect themselves. ...
Views: 900 - What’s the difference between a tramp and a prostitute? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2010 from Maryanne ComarotoOddly enough, never once in all the years we struggled to make that relationship work did it ever occur to me to call my local paper and give a blow-by-blow description to people who deliberately use the information to humiliate and desecrate the people involved; namely, his wife and family. I ...
Views: 1663 - Are monkeys more sexually evolved than we are? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2010 from Maryanne ComarotoListener Question: Tell me, why does dropping one’s drawers have to be the line of demarcation? Is that really the point of no return? If so, then why do you consider it as such? My studies of aboriginal Polynesian societies have led me to delve into customs of touching in other nearly nude ...
Views: 1179(2 votes) - Pro Life? How about Pro Dad? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2010 from Maryanne ComarotoFirst, this is a rant, not a blog. I hope you will indulge me anyway. Having been a single mom for over ten years, I know so many of you can, do and will relate. And I must warn you, it’s rated R. According to Maria Sudekum Fisher, with the ASSOCIATED PRESS: Scott Roeder had confessed ...
Views: 785(1 vote) - BOYZ, GUYZ, MEN~ - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2010 from Maryanne ComarotoWill your partner make a good Dad? You have amazing sex. You're physically compatible. You have great dates. Each time you're, well, intimate, you're reminded of how great you are together. But is that all there is? What if you're not alone? What if – even if you took precautions – you end up ...
Views: 1453(1 vote) - Ask Maryanne Blog: Addictive love and relationships - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2010 from Maryanne ComarotoThe Greeks had five words to describe the different levels of love: eros, passionate love, essential desire and longing, romantic love; philia, friendship, loyalty; storge, natural affection; agape, selfless giving; and thelema, desire or will to do something. In the English language we have ...
Views: 1505(1 vote) - Setting yourself up—to succeed in the New Year! - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2010 from Maryanne ComarotoCan you remember what your New Year’s resolutions were last year? How did that work out for you? Let’s see, mine were: to be less judgmental, and to slow down and take myself less seriously. No easy task for the hyper-vigilant monster that dwells deep in (and, unfortunately, outside) my ...
Views: 1201 - Healthy M & M’s ? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoAll the good ones are taken Let’s start with the word ALL. Right away, this sweeping generalization has to tip you off to the fact that’s it not even possible to get around to all 3.4 billion members of the male population to test this ridiculous yet popular notion. Instead, this is an idea ...
Views: 1563(1 vote) - Naughty or nice, presence or presents? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoHere’s an email I got recently: “I wanted to thank you also for your story about "presence" that you told at your talk recently at Open Secret Book Store in San Rafael. I had an important experience of that this weekend. I have been contemplating dating a man I met recently who is a ...
Views: 1368(1 vote) - Can your friends or lovers be holding you back? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoI can remember getting what for me was my first big break in my budding media career. I squealed with delight when the producer called from a popular syndicated radio show asking to interview me. My heart pounded, my mouth went dry ~ I had worked so hard and now it seemed things were about to ...
Views: 909 - Sustainable relationships - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoIf you have had a few relationships you know what I mean by “sustainability,” especially ones that have been a source of pain or suffering to some degree. (Some of which have compelled you to dispose of them by almost any means, organic or not.) But what of the ones you wish to keep, nurture and ...
Views: 2287(1 vote) - Got friends? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoMy mother told me I was lucky if I could count all my real friends on one hand! Must have been fifteen or so years ago now, when it occurred to me after a string of disappointing intimate relationships that maybe she was right—again. That it might be wise to invest more time in creating some ...
Views: 1170 - Aren’t in the relationship of your dreams? Find out why! - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoHere’s the deal. Most of us approach relationship like drunken sailors, intoxicated with the ideas and fantasies we have about relationship as opposed to the sobering reality of them, and desperate (or lonely, as the case may be) like your ship has just come in—or is about to leave port. Not a ...
Views: 1259 - Develop great Mate-dar! - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoSo, whatever the reason, you're on the prowl for a significant other. Maybe you feel you're ready for a commitment. Maybe you're looking for companionship. So you feel like your “Mate-dar” (your ability to suss out a great mate) is in full force, turned up top notch. But the truth is – even if ...
Views: 1275 - Top 10 Qualities Most People Want in Their Partners? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoI heard the most evil thing the other day. My definition of evil is often flexible, lying somewhere in between totally heinous and completely ridiculous. This story falls in there--you decide for yourself. My gal pal told me she read a book this guy wrote ( If I had one less scruple, I might ...
Views: 1932 - R-E-S-P-E-C-T - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoGuys, this one's for you – and ladies, feel free to pass it on to any guy you know in your life who's on a path toward thinking holistically about love, relationships and family. In my work over the past two-plus decades, I've focused on relationships of many different types – dating, ...
Views: 1233 - RAT, Relationship Aptitude Test: How to smell a Rat—or find out if you are one! - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoI went to a memorial this week. A friend passed away suddenly; a shock to us all, but to none more than to his bride of twenty-some years. My heart went out to this brave woman and her three children who watched her life change dramatically without any warning. She told me that it was all so ...
Views: 1756(1 vote) - How to Tell if Someone is a “Leaker” or Really Likes You! - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoHe loves me, he loves me not, he loves me… and her too? I can’t tell you how many times friends or clients have complained about their disenchanting, painful encounters with “leakers.” Men and women who seem so great at first, almost to good to be true and then…wham, bam, ouch, waah… What’s a ...
Views: 1715(2 votes) - You Can’t Handle the Truth… - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoMany years ago, having been married a brief time, I came home after having had a strong, yet curious, experience. One I was both eager and frightened to tell my husband about, knowing what I had to say was considered a taboo subject. Eager, because I was the taboo-slaying Joan of Arc; ...
Views: 1529(1 vote) - 10 Things You Can Do When You Are Lonely But Not Ready for a Relationship (Part 2) - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoBeing alone can be, well, LONELY! And most of us – even those who like to be alone – don't really like to be lonely. But what can we do about it? Many of us find ourselves alone, and lonely, for a reason: our previous relationship just ended, we've tried and tried to sustain a successful ...
Views: 4536(1 vote) - 10 Things You Can Do When You Are Lonely But Not Ready for a Relationship (Part 1) - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoI know of a woman who so longed to be loved, held, and not feel lonely that she gave her lover, a man she hadn’t known long and knew to be a criminal, all of her life savings—some forty-three thousand dollars to be exact. He promised, along with his abiding love, that he would give her back her ...
Views: 1397(1 vote) - Figure out the Bad Stuff NOW - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoWhen do you want to find out that the pilot flying your plane has no license—or, worse, does not know how to fly—before or after the flight? When do you want to know the person performing open-heart surgery on you has never been to medical school, or is drunk—before or after the operation? How ...
Views: 1310 - Disposable…Relationships? And How to Spot Them! - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoOh yeah, one of my favorite topics. The “kick it to the curb, eat ya up and spit ya out, get in, get on, get out,” craze. It feels soooo.. .what’s the word? How about “effing painful.” Well, it can be truly painful if you haven’t learned one of two things: the technique of shutting your own ...
Views: 8953 - Bachelor's Bull Blog - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoI forced my adoring husband to watch The Bachelors last episode, not that either one of us had ever wasted our time watching it prior; we hadn’t. For almost two hours I watched my husband alternately squirm and moan, shaking his head, muttering ”Stupid…Stupid,” and watched what’s-his-face make ...
Views: 1080 - Truth or Dare - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoSo, my dog ate a ten dollar bill in the prosperity corner of my house today. And I will get to the relevance of this canine maneuver in a minute. Let me first pose our ASK MARYANNE question which is, “When I ask someone I just met an important question, like ‘Are you married?’ or ‘Do you have ...
Views: 1054 - The Things We Do for Love - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoThe list is long of the things we have all done to find, get and keep love in our life. Abandoning our authentic selves to become some variety of whomever you want me to be ranks among the top few. At some point we learned this was a good idea; probably the same place we all learned a version of ...
Views: 1180 - Relationships Don't Have to Be Hard - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoDo you ever feel like relationships are 2 parts game, 1 part luck? Or maybe you are at the point where it feels like ALL game to you…and you’re all gamed out? Maybe you just wish it could be like in the movies, a little: boy meets girl, some witty banter, your souls become one, you get married ...
Views: 950 - Great Relationships Begin Within - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoI heard a great story years ago about a kid whose mom asked him to make her some eggs. She instructed him to scramble one and fry the other. He, being a “good egg” and of course wanting to please his mother, did just that. He stood and beamed proudly before his mother, presenting her with what ...
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