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- Don’t Let Shyness Blind You to the Dangers Of False Friends - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2010 from Timothy ArendsThere was a story recently in the news of a young Harvard Law student who got in big trouble! She was having an e-mail discussion with some “friends” and she made the dire mistake of confiding a politically incorrect opinion or two. Unsurprisingly (or I wouldn’t be writing about it) the e-mail ...
Views: 2566 - A Three Step Plan for Overcoming Loneliness In Three Weeks - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2010 from Timothy ArendsA New York psychotherapist has called loneliness one of the leading problems of our time. Researchers in the United States, Finland and Sweden found that loneliness ranks right up there with smoking as a health hazard and that people with strong social support networks are half as likely to die ...
Views: 2408 - What To Do About Shy Kids - 3 Simple Tips - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2010 from Timothy ArendsDo you have a child or children who are shy? Perhaps you are a teacher or a caretaker for a number of children. If this is the case, perhaps the question has crossed your mind, "What to do about shy kids?" Shyness may or may not be readily apparent in young children. Some children may cling ...
Views: 2158 - How To Know If a Shy Woman is Interested in a Man - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2010 from Timothy ArendsIs she sending out the signals? Or not sending out the signals? Maybe she is just shy. Perhaps you're curious about how to know if a shy woman is interested in a man. It can be hard to "read" anybody, even talkative, outgoing people. But shy people can be doubly difficult. Because of their ...
Views: 3667 - Creative Conversation Topics - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2010 from Timothy ArendsWant some creative conversation topics? These are good topics or questions to have in reserve if conversation starts to lag on a date or in any other situation. First of all, however, don't overlook the obvious topics. Talking about the weather is seen as hackneyed, but it can lead to a very ...
Views: 3649 - How To Know if a Shy Woman Is Interested in a Man by Taking Action - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2010 from Timothy ArendsEverybody has certain verbal and nonverbal cues that indicate how they feel. Very rarely do people come right out and tell someone about their deepest emotional states. On has to learn how to interpret these nonverbal signals. Doing so is is the key to how to know if a shy woman is interested in ...
Views: 2101 - How Shy Men Act Around Women They Like - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2010 from Timothy ArendsWant a crash course in how shy men act around someone they like? Put yourself in their shoes. Think of a time that you felt shy yourself. How did it feel? How did you react? Shy people often have trouble making eye contact. They may tend to look down at their feet more than extroverts. ...
Views: 9676(4 votes) - Prolonged Eye Contact, Smiling = Flirting - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2010 from Timothy ArendsProlonged eye contact, smiling = flirting. Remember this formula and you have gone a long way towards knowing the secrets of flirting. If I were to expand the process to five steps, I would express it thusly: 1. Make eye contact. Holding another person's gaze sends a powerful message ...
Views: 8562(2 votes) - How To Have A Conversation With Difficult People - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2010 from Timothy ArendsTo talk to difficult or disagreeable people, you want to increase your "likability factor". One way to do this is by handling your emotions. A difficult person is more likely to criticize, to raise his voice or to lose his temper. Therefore, by controlling your emotions and not falling prey to ...
Views: 1910 - How To Have A Conversation With Difficult People--By Remembering - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2010 from Timothy ArendsThe ability to deal effectively with other people, including disagreeable and sometimes even downright difficult people, is one of the most important skills of daily living. Being able to get along with a wide variety of people and knowing how to have a conversation with difficult people ...
Views: 2689 - Shy Guys Decoded - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2010 from Timothy ArendsGirls, do shy guys seem to be a mystery sometimes? Do they throw out signals that they're interested in friendship, dating and romance one moment and then seem aloof and distant another? What you need is to have shy guys decoded. If he is a shy guy he may have trouble taking the initiative. ...
Views: 6260(3 votes) - Shyness Confused With Arogance -- How To Prevent It - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2010 from Timothy ArendsIs shyness confused with arogance? Sometimes. But how to prevent this? Some people advise the shy person to confess that she is shy. To keep people from seeing her as cold and aloof, a case of shyness confused with arogance, she is advised to admit her shyness. Perhaps she might say something ...
Views: 2112 - Is Shyness Confused with Arogance? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2010 from Timothy ArendsThe late author Isaac Bashevis Singer once wrote, "I don't think that people should get over being shy. It is a blessing in disguise. The shy person is the opposite of the aggressive person. Shy people are rarely the great sinners. They allow society to remain in peace." But is shyness ...
Views: 4981(2 votes) - Do Guys Notice Shy Girls? Yes, If They Follow These Four Simple Tips - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2010 from Timothy ArendsDo guys notice shy girls? Unfortunately, not as often as they notice the outgoing ones. Why is this? Perhaps a talkative girl gets the attention from guys for the same reason that the squeaky wheel gets the grease -- -- she draws more attention to herself. Of course the attention should be ...
Views: 4495(3 votes) - How Is Assertiveness Different From Aggression? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2010 from Timothy ArendsWe hear a lot about assertiveness, but how is assertiveness different from aggression? The two behaviors are really almost polar opposites. Aggressiveness may make people dislike you, but assertiveness often makes people like and respect you more! In fact, assertiveness is really about ...
Views: 3473 - Steps Dealing with Difficult People - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2010 from Timothy ArendsDealing effectively with other people is one of the most critical abilities of daily living. It affects one's level of success at home, in school, and on-the-job. Yet many of us are woefully inadequate when it comes to knowing the correct steps dealing with difficult people. Because of the lack ...
Views: 2766 - Co-workers Who Are Troublemakers in Packs - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2010 from Timothy ArendsProblems at work are a typical topic of advice columns. Many working people have their own unhappy stories to tell, and entire books have been written on the subject of problems at work. Discussions of sexual harassment have been commonplace in recent years, but dysfunctional on-the-job ...
Views: 2654 - Co-workers who are Troublemakers - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2010 from Timothy ArendsCo-workers who are troublemakers can be a problem for anyone, but shy people may have particular trouble with difficult fellow employees. Shy people often find themselves to be judged more harshly than extroverts on the job. Dr. Jonathan Cheek has found that underemployment, uneasy work ...
Views: 1484 - How To Deal with Co-workers Who are Troublemakers - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2010 from Timothy ArendsWe all must work if we are to succeed in life. Unless we were born wealthy, we have no choice in the matter. We have many challenges in any job. To add the need to deal with coworkers who are troublemakers is one more difficulty. It is through our jobs that we get our feeling of self ...
Views: 3399 - Beta Blockers For Shyness - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2010 from Timothy ArendsBeta blockers can provide some benefits in lessening the distressing physical symptoms of social anxiety, such as pounding heart,, shaking, sweaty palms, et cetera. It is possible that medication can even reduce some of the negative thoughts felt by anxiety sufferers, although this is not ...
Views: 4147(2 votes) - Steps To Over Come Shyness - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2010 from Timothy ArendsShyness can be a very serious problem. It can keep you from making friends, finding a mate, or even getting and holding onto a good job. Fortunately, there are some definite steps that you can take to overcome shyness that will help to alleviate the problem. One of the most important steps to ...
Views: 2007 - No Eye Contact + Shy Men: the Scoop - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2010 from Timothy ArendsDid you know that the amount of eye contact you make is crucial to how people judge you? It's true. People who fail to make enough eye contact are seen as less confident, less capable, and maybe even less honest. As Julius fast wrote in his book Body Language, “Of all parts of the human body ...
Views: 6041(2 votes) - Shy guys and communication - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2010 from Timothy ArendsWhat is it about shy guys and communication? Shy guys may have a little more trouble expressing themselves in an outgoing people. Sometimes they need that little extra "push" to get them talking. On he plus side, shy guys are less likely to be loudmouthed or dominate the conversation. They ...
Views: 3461(1 vote) - How To Have Confidence Overcoming Shyness, Girls - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Timothy ArendsWant to have confidence overcoming shyness, girls? Here are three power steps to do so. 1. Fake it till you make it. By behaving in certain ways, we can change how we feel. Studies done at the University of California School of Medicine in San Francisco had volunteers make six facial ...
Views: 2981(2 votes) - 3 Simple Tips on How To Help Your Child Get Over Shyness - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Timothy ArendsToo many parents are too busy with their lives to worry about interacting with their children. But the first opportunity the child gets to socialize with people is with members of his or her own family. In the early stages, the child may want constant attention. "Mommy, mommy, look at this!" ...
Views: 1921 - How To Help Your Child Get Over Shyness - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Timothy ArendsShyness is very common in children. Think of how often a very young child is afraid of strangers. Perhaps a child hides when a service person comes to visit, or even during a visit from Uncle Charlie or Aunt Freda. On the other hand, a child may seem to be gregarious in his or her early years, ...
Views: 2141 - Powerful Ways to Prevent Childhood Shyness - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Timothy ArendsShyness is very common in children. Think of how often a very young child is afraid of strangers. Perhaps a child hides when a service person comes to visit, or even during a visit from Uncle Charlie or Aunt Freda. On the other hand, a child may seem to be gregarious in his or her early years, ...
Views: 2152 - Why You MUST Remember People's Names - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2010 from Timothy ArendsHow many times have you had the embarrassment of seeing someone on the street, in the cafeteria, in class, or elsewhere and been addressed by name--but, for the life of you, you couldn't remember the other person's name? But what's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would ...
Views: 2570 - How to Remember People's Names in 5 Simple Steps - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from Timothy ArendsHow would you like to know that you could go about improving your memory for people’s names by probably 40 or 50% simply by learning a few simple tips? You can — by using a simple procedure used by Napoleon the third, nephew of the great Napoleon. He boasted that even with all his duties as ...
Views: 1131 - Keys to Overcoming Loneliness - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from Timothy ArendsAccording to a New York City psychologist, "Loneliness is a leading social problem of our times. And when people make no attempt to overcome it, the consequences are often stagnation, sitting in front of TV doing nothing, anxiety and depression." In fact, researchers in the United States, ...
Views: 1254 - A Powerful Five Step Plan for Beating Loneliness - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from Timothy ArendsAccording to a New York psychotherapist, "Loneliness is a leading social problem of our times. And when people make no attempt to overcome it, the consequences are often stagnation, doing nothing, anxiety and depression." Unfortunately, there are a number of misconceptions floating around ...
Views: 1133 - Top 5 Myths About Loneliness - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from Timothy ArendsAccording to a New York psychotherapist, "Loneliness is a leading social problem of our times. And when people make no attempt to overcome it, the consequences are often stagnation, doing nothing, anxiety and depression." Unfortunately, there are a number of misconceptions floating around ...
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