Overcoming physical, emotional and even sexual abuse can be a life-long struggle. The effects of these traumas reach into every aspect of the victim’s life and ability to see them as valuable, lovable, respectable and HAPPY. I know this because I am one of them.

It may help to know that our purpose here, in this human form is to learn. We choose this existence to learn and grow in our consciousness and awareness of ourselves, our spirituality and each-other. We are here to better understand WHY we are here and how our lives are best spent in order to contribute in a positive way to the human condition. We are here to come to terms with our BEING and connect with our-SELF as the world throws lesson after lesson at us from all sides. We are here to add to the accumulative consciousness of the world so we can preserve ourselves as a species.

Are you an Old Soul? Have you lived many lives and are now “aware” that you are in this existence as a student and that the traumas you live through can thrust you out of the thick layer of ego and unconsciousness and give you sight to your real purpose? Not to say that trauma is necessary, but it is a way to see the positive in a very negative event.

Human behaviors that are negative or cause pain to others are simply unconscious spirits reacting with the animal brain we all have. Unconsciousness is not evil and it is not malice. It is simply an un-enlightened un-awareness. In other words, it is the dark side of consciousness. Darkness is the absence of light. Light allows us to “see”. Seeing is awareness… consciousness. Darkness is an unawareness of your potential for peace and love. Darkness keeps us blind to the possibilities so we strike out in the dark and only use our basic instincts to only survive.

Seeing others through this enhanced perspective allows us not to take on the guilt of trauma and to SEE that our life lessons are critical to how sharply we see and how clearly we understand. You mostly hear about near-death experiences that thrust an aspirant to the next level of consciousness. As if a blanket was removed from over their heads and they now “see”. This is the same concept, here. Trauma is trauma and the way we perceive that trauma will determine whether or not we benefit from the experience. Did the trauma cause you to recede and drop out of your life, or did it give you a second sight into our potential as loving spirits? Do you feel helpless and alone or do you now “know”? Knowing is a gift we receive when we are ready to fully embrace what it means to know. Knowing is peace and personal prosperity not in spite of – but all inclusive to all of our lives… good, bad, ugly and beautiful. Your perception of your life and your life-experiences determines your level of engagement. Your inclination to embrace all of your life’s experiences is your ticket to the front row seat of the rest of your life.

Objectivity is the tool used to come to terms with our traumas. If we only feel the pain and allow that pain to change who we are in a diminished and negative way, we will never learn to LEARN about ourselves and about others, which will give us the knowledge… the knowing we need to see above the trappings of guilt and to understand that we are all on our own learning and consciousness journey and will arrive at our appointed destinations in our own time and manner.

Now –I am in no way advocating or forgiving negative, destructive behavior in others. I am only trying to help you see your options in assimilating and processing these intrusions as a means for you to grow and to not wilt. Wilting is the reward that is won by guilt. Guilt will hold you back from learning and rising above to a higher level – a better vantage point for “seeing”. Guilt is also a coping mechanism that shields us from other pain in our lives whether trauma related or not: Lost relationships, failures in business or with our children provides all the same trappings of trauma caused by others. It allows us to disconnect from our responsibility to ourselves to live our best lives. The absence of guilt is the absence of self-hatred. The absence of self-hatred is self-love. Self-love is the only path to true awareness and the ability to truly love others.

To learn more please visit my website and my book 50 Practical Steps to Living Life On Purpose With Purpose http://www.ginavitalone.com/.Or contact me at gvcoach@gmail.com

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Author's Bio: 

My own journey began like most others with a chaotic and abusive childhood followed by years of searching… for what, I wasn’t sure. For me, the birth of my daughter and then my divorce was the catalyst for me understanding the importance of taking care of and growing myself. After all, I had a precious life I was responsible for ensuring had a warm and loving and nurturing environment. How could I provide all this when I was so… broken?

Nothing happened overnight but seeing my beautiful daughter grow and flourish was easy motivation to keep going, to keep learning… to learn to love myself. I knew deep down that if I wanted her to love herself; I had to love me, first. This was a life lesson that changed who I was from the inside –out. Now that my daughter is grown I am ready to give back. To share what I know and to help others live happy and fulfilled and to know their intrinsic value.