***5 Things Women Do on Dates that Make Men Run for the Hills!

I’m sure many of you have wondered why a man didn’t call back — or call you at all after you had what you thought was a wonderful conversation.

It’s very confusing. Doubts swirl through your mind such as: was I too quiet or too opinionated? Did I talk about my ex too much?

I wish I had a magic answer or a sure-fire way to know a man’s heart. After all, some men like agreeable women, while other men like women who challenge them.

However, my research revealed the top things women do that drive men away. 

5 Things Not to Do

1. Don’t be a smothering mother. Most men and women appreciate a little bit of help once in a while, but we usually don’t want someone to take over our whole lives. When women feel the urge to offer advice or assistance, they need to gauge the degree of their help.

Ask yourself: am I offering too much too soon and too fast?

For example, one woman, Patricia,in my study was so excited when ‘Randall’ agreed to meet for coffee to get advice on moving companies.

When they met, she already compiled a list that included detailed notes about which men from each company to request and a list of storage and packing supply companies.
Randall was appreciative and seemed anxious to leave. Patricia ignored the signs and offered to go with him to select packing supplies and even to pack. “You can put your most precious possessions at my place if you have any concerns,” she added. 

Randall took her up on all her offers — except leaving things at her place — and then never contacted her again.

Weeks later, when Patricia reflected on the experience, she said she would heed her newly found advice:

• Don’t offer to do too much or “plan on a plan” without his input
• Pay attention to his body language, words and facial expressions for clues about his feelings
• Be aware of your own feelings of desperation, intensity and hope.

2. Don’t ramp up your contact with him. Too many emails and text messages can morph into annoyance — and then verge on stalking. Become mindful of your enthusiasm.
After Patricia finished helping Randall, she sent him text messages such as: “Didn’t u think I was the packing wizard?” Randall replied with “Thanks,” but that wasn’t enough for Patricia. She sent more texts about “have a nice day” or other offers for help. 

It is okay to send a text message saying that you had a good time, but don’t overdo it. 

You may not be nearly as clingy as Patricia, but limit your messages and wait for him to respond with a request.

3. Don’t have sex too soon. Yes, few men will turn down appealing opportunities for sex, but sex without love, connection or meaning puts you in a danger zone of that morning after regret and hollowness. It can also make you leap before you look to see if the man could become physically abusive.

If the relationship truly is good, you can always do more than have sex: you can make love later.  Once you’ve had sex too soon, though, it’s difficult to dial back and enrich the relationship.

Sex too soon can also signal a man that you are desperate. Men want to feel special and chosen.  And they want to fall in love, too. 

4. Don’t tell him your entire life story. Both men and women want to know more about their dates. But don’t flood your date with too much details and emotional content.
Railing about your ex or your rotten childhood creates a terrible impression and casts doubt in the man’s mind about your suitability.

Take charge of that first impression. Instead of displaying your anger and regret, you can talk positively about what you’ve learned and how you now have great couple skills.

5. Don’t, on the other hand, be too unavailable. Men don’t like to be rejected either. Don’t play hard to get or give the impression that you don’t have any time for him in your demanding life.

If you are very busy, let the man know that you are interested. You can set a definite date and agree to stay in touch. This situation actually thrives on emails and text messages.

Overall, treat others the way you would want to be treated. And look for cues in the words and actions of him — and you.