The car door opened and I was thrown out…

Behind me, I had the car roar as though it was going to drive off without me and I turned to shout “Wait for me!”…

But I was surprised to find that the car was shorter than I was…

Which is okay if you are an adult, you kinda expect that unless it a jeep or something…

But I was about 6 years old…

The car had always been taller than me and now, I could see over its ceiling and my family was trapped in there…

I had been holding my baby brother in my lap when something strange had begun to happen which ended up with me being thrown out of the car and my family being trapped in the car…

This was the day everything changed…

The car I was in had somersaulted 3 times…

My dad’s spinal cord had snapped leaving him unable to move…

A promising career destroyed in a few seconds…

And I started, or possibly continued a path to being a victim of circumstance for the next 25 years or so…

Of course, I had no control over whether the accident happened or not…

But I certainly had control over my reaction to the events following the accident…

But hey I was 6, right?

I had to go with the flow of the adults in my life…

Great excuse until I hit 18…

And could make my own choices…

But a lifetime of feeling victimized by car accidents, crazy adults that wanted to lord it over me, armed robbers who wanted me to be afraid, ‘Uncles’ who wanted me for sexual purposes…

Left me feeling like I had a right to be a victim…

And leader, I get it…

You may have a worse story than me…

One that you have overcome…

I, on the outside, seemed to overcome mine…

I became a pharmacist…

I seemed to be a success…

And I could have lived that way forever…

But it was all a fear-based response…

I was a victim and so I needed to be safe…

To forget my own dreams and desires and take the safe path…

The path MOST travel…

And I had to learn to ignore the whispers in my heart that this was not the path for me…

I had to learn to shut it all down in order to be safe…

To get the ‘successful’ life…

And then to go on to look after my extended family with all this ‘safe’ money…

Because the whole tribe is rigged to make sure that every member grows up and subscribes to the fear…

Fear of being ejected from the tribe, if you do not follow the silent rules and play the games…

And finally, I got done with it all!

Leader, you know what I mean…

You are probably still playing by the rules…

Feeling trapped by them, but you don’t see that there is a way out…

You overcame a lot and your life is defined by that story…

And it can be one that empowers you or it can be one where you keep trying to stay safe and therefore, you become a victim of your story.

And honey, victims never win…

Victims do not get to wake up and love their life…

Victims live fearfully…

Trying so hard to hold on to a semblance of safety and security…

Trying so hard to control everything…

Trying so hard not to offend anyone…

Trying so hard to fit in, to blend in, to be liked…

Trying so hard to forget, dampen, destroy the longings in your heart because they sense that if they give in to the yearnings to be more, then they will have to give up the safety…

And people may not like them anymore for upsetting the applecart…

And so they choose to be liked and to be safe, rather than to live, to really live…

And they are ‘successful’, just not really…

Leader, is that what you want?

It is what the tribe would dictate that you SHOULD want…

But do you want it?

I still remember going to a cousin’s wedding when I was considering marrying my husband, the one my family did not want me to marry…

And my cousin’s wedding was a tribal affair…

Everyone and their dog turned up…

I did not know most of the people and I get the feeling that she didn’t either…

But it was the done thing…

And I was being chastised for loving my husband, then boyfriend…

And someone asked me “Don’t you want a wedding like this?  Where everyone comes and they are all happy?”

And I am like ‘NO! I don’t want a wedding which makes my parents proud but leaves me feeling like I had to kill off my desires in order to give it to them’

If the prize for killing off myself is just that I get to kill off myself some more and possibly for the rest of my life to keep getting the conditional love, then why the hell do I want that mess?

But I still played along as much as I could…

I have always been a a bit of a rebel…

BUt never courageous enough to be fully one until I realised, this was my one life…

And it may seem selfish to norms who just want to be liked…

And maybe I am making all kinds of mistakes…

But it is MY ONE LIFE!

And I choose to live it the best way I know how…

Not from fear!

NOT FROM FEAR of being disliked, or of making mistakes, or of being cast out of the tribe…

I allowed my story to make me a victim for way too long…

But I am done with that!

Are you, leader?

Or are you still telling yourself that it is noble to lay down your vision, your dreams, YOUR LIFE to make the people in your life happy?

I could and I was even about to tell you of all the people you are really called to serve and how they are not being served when you live the small fear-based life but you know what?!

This is not about guilting you into anything…

That is still fear-based living!

And again, there can be no victims in the life I am calling you too…

VICTIMS DON’T WIN!

And I want you to win!

Choose the champion’s life because you want to…

Choose to go after every dream in your heart because YOU WANT TO!

Choose YOU, because YOU WANT TO!

Let your story be part of your power…

Your story of overcoming the past and waking up to the potential within you…

Let that empower you to greater things…

BECAUSE YOU WANT TO!

You are leader, born to dominate, to win, to realise every dream and vision within you…

Fight for, deliberately design THAT life…

Because you want to

PS – ‘GET IT DONE ALREADY’ Wealth Accelerator Days are here…

I have opened my calendar to spend a few full-on, adrenaline-fuelled, money making days with a few clients one on one!

This is for the driven, the determined, the deliberate leaders who are done with being stuck, held back by technical stuff or their own internal nonsense about what is possible. We will work together and in one day, we will…

1. get clear on what your purpose is and what you need to do to make it happen
2. get clear on who your person is and what you help them with
3. Get clear on how you neeed to show up to make sales thick and fast
4. get a lead magnet up and ready to rock and roll
5. get your mailing list automated and ready to receive your people
6. get your first digital product written up and ready to sell
7. map out the rest of your business
8. get your website up and running
9. set up your social media presence and have a plan of attack which you will start implementing that very day
10. 2 follow up one on one calls with me to make sure everything is locked and loaded in the first 4 weeks after our day together

Spend the day with me, in person or online, and let’s hash out your whole business, lets get you onto the fast track to success, let’s get you showing up, having fun, making sales, being THAT person who wins and loving every minute of it!

Send me a message if you are ready to get you and your business out into the marketplace now.

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Rosemary Nonny Knight used to be a pharmacist and then decided to do her own thing and gain freedom. She made it happen with real estate management and now shows others how to set up their own business and get those first few customers online