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- Interviews With Successful People - Daniel Kandi - Producer, DJ & Label Owner - by Submitted on May 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the first songs I heard from Daniel Kandi was ‘’Make Me Believe’’, and at the time of its release, I was blown away. Although this song is now over five years old, it is still one of my favourite songs. Since then, I have heard many other productions and remixes from Daniel. What ...
Views: 2282 - Emotional Healing: Why Don't Some People Heal? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to healing or moving on from the past; some people progress a lot faster than others. There are also other situations where some people are perpetually caught up in their past and feel as if nothing is changing. Now, the past that one has had and the pain and trauma that may ...
Views: 2281 - Secondary Gain: What Is Secondary Gain? - by Submitted on May 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn the world of psychology and personal development, there is a term that is often used called secondary gain. This is a gain that is often hidden and unknown at a conscious level. And although the word ‘gain’ is typically used in a positive manner, in this instance, it is not a positive ...
Views: 2281 - Confidence: What Is Confidence? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word confidence is a term that is often hard to define. What is it and what does it look like? Are questions that can be asked. Through the act of comparison, one can see that there is a difference between people that are confident and people that are not confident. Many years ago I was ...
Views: 2277 - Astrology: What Does Astrology Mean To You? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI do not claim to be an expert on astrology or someone that see's astrology as the be and end all. For me, it is another point of interest and something that can be used as a mirror; to assist in self awareness and awareness of others. What I am going to take a closer look at here is how the ...
Views: 2272 - Relationships: Can Sex Create The Illusion Of Love? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world the general approach towards sex has changed and instead of it being something that one engages in after a certain time, it can take place without too much time having passed. And like most things in life, there are pros and cons to this type of behaviour. For some people, ...
Views: 2270 - Associations: Do Our Associations Create Our Reality? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAssociations have incredible power and they are occurring in many areas of life. Ones relationships with: family, friends, lovers and professional relationships are all being affected by associations. As well as ones experience with the world and to material things. Brands rely heavily on the ...
Views: 2266 - Addiction: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Have Addictive Personalities? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are able to drink alcohol or even take drugs without their whole life being taken over, there are others who are not able to exercise the same level of self-control. If they were to drink or to even take drugs, they would soon find that their life has been taken over. One ...
Views: 2264 - Self Harm: Can Toxic Shame Lead To Self Harm? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon to hear how important it is to be kind to others and while this is important, it is also important for people to be kind to themselves. In fact, if one is kind to themselves, they‘re more likely to be kind to other people. The reason there is a greater focus on how someone ...
Views: 2263 - The People Who Have Influenced Me: Dov Baron - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to my journey of self awareness, there are some people who stand out when I look back on where I have come from. And one of those people is Dov Baron. This is a guy who was born in Manchester in England and is based in Canada. The Interview Many years ago I heard him speak on ...
Views: 2262 - Communication: Is Eye Contact Important? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one experiences eye contact from another person it can cause them to feel: acknowledged, respected and important. And yet when this doesn’t take place, one can end up feeling: ignored, disrespected and unimportant. Eye contact could be seen as something that is relatively effortless and ...
Views: 2261 - The Iron Lady: My Interpretation of the Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt wasn't until after I had seen the trailer that I become interested in watching this film. I didn't know much about Margaret Thatcher (Not that this film can be completely trusted in its portrayal of her), but what I did know is that this looked to be a powerful film. The films tagline 'never ...
Views: 2261 - Relationships: Should Someone Try To Rekindle A Friendship? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that one’s friends are the family they choose, and this is why someone can feel as close to their fiends as they can to their family. In some instances, the connection one has with their friends could be greater than the connection they have with their family. When this ...
Views: 2252 - Gravity: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe trailer to this film really caught my eye and stood out like very few films do. And while some are quiet engaging and interesting, this was gripping and instantly pulled me in. It soon became apparent that George Clooney and Sandra bullock were in the film. After watching it, I mentioned the ...
Views: 2251 - Boundaries: Can Skin Problems Be Caused By A Lack Of Boundaries? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one saw perfect skin in the past, it may have been because they were looking at images in a magazine; however, if one was to come across perfect skin in today’s world, it could be because they are using social media. And as one can use social media whenever they like, it also means that they ...
Views: 2245 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Focus On Celebrities To Distract People? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one pays attention to the mainstream media, they are likely to see that they give a lot of exposure to celebrities. But even if this wasn’t the case, they would only need to pick up a paper to realise this. This is not to say that all news sources give them the same amount of exposure ...
Views: 2241 - Relationships: Does The Fear Of Rejection Cause Some Men To Please Women? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how men behave around women, there are two types of behaviour that are often spoken about. On one side, there is the man who acts as though he doesn’t care and, on the other, there is the man who cares too much. Two Sides There is then a spectrum, and a man can be on ...
Views: 2240 - Abusive Relationships: Why Does Abuse Make People Feel Uncertain? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the consequences of abuse, there are many and some will be more severe than others. One of these consequences is that it usually creates uncertainty in the victim. And this has the potential to create all kinds of problems, because to the degree that one feels uncertain ...
Views: 2238(1 vote) - TRON: Legacy: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I heard that the film was all about taking down the master control system I was instantly intrigued. Although I hadn't seen the first film I went with friends to see what it was all about. And with it being in Disney Digital 3D, I had a feeling it was going to be good. And after watching ...
Views: 2238 - False Self: What Is The False Self? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn the world of psychology and self realisation there are two terms that are often mentioned. And these are known as the true self and the false self. One usually comes to understand what is true about oneself, as a consequence of becoming aware of what is not true. By seeing the contrast or ...
Views: 2236 - Friends: My Interpretation Of What They Are - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI was thinking the other night while I was getting to sleep, how being on one of those flat elevators at the airport is a great metaphor for describing how friends come and go in our life. While we are on them some people stay at the same speed as us, going only as fast as the elevator takes ...
Views: 2236(2 votes) - Victim Mentality: Is There A Benefit To Being A Victim? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of ways in which someone can see themselves, and while some of these ways are empowering there are others that are not. For example, if one was to see themselves as someone who is successful, it is likely to have a positive effect on their life. However, if they were to ...
Views: 2236(1 vote) - Smartphones: Can Smartphone’s Cause People To Be Self-Absorbed? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wants to use the internet, they no longer need to sit in front of a computer; the only thing they need to do it to use a Smartphone. This means that one can go online no matter where they are or what they are doing. As a result of this, going online has become a normal part of ...
Views: 2230 - Purpose: Why Is It So Hard To Find Our Purpose? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOnes purpose could be described as a combination of factors. With ones dreams, goals, intensions and behaviour all combining to express and fulfil this often elusive thing known as ‘purpose’. Some people say it is something we find and others see it as something that we create. Dreams No ...
Views: 2229 - Entitlement Mentality: Has The Internet Created An Entitlement Mentality? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one liked a certain song in the past, they would either have had to wait for it to be on the radio or they would have had to go and buy it. However, in today’s world, one no longer needs to buy a song; the only thing they need to do is to go onto the internet and to do a search. And after ...
Views: 2228 - Relationships: Where Do Men’s Expectations Of Women Come From? - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what a woman is going to be like, a man will have a set of expectations. And sometimes these can be consciously known and at other times, they can be completely unconscious. However, no matter whether these are conscious or unconscious, they will still have a massive impact ...
Views: 2226 - Commitment: Why Do Some People Fear Commitment? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one may want to commit to a relationship, it doesn’t mean that they feel comfortable doing so. On one side they may have to have the need to be with someone and at the same time, it could be something they fear. And while this could be something that only has an impact on their ...
Views: 2220 - Projection: Do People Project Their Issues Onto You? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who do everything they can to be perfect and then there are other people who feel like a failure because they’re not perfect. And whether one can relate to this or not, perfection is nothing more than an illusion. It can’t be attained and so if one is doing everything ...
Views: 2220 - Bullying: Why Do Some People Bully Others? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn one form or another and under one name of another; bullying has been around for a very long time. And it is not limited to a specific environment and neither is it only experienced by a certain type of person. Human beings of all backgrounds can come face to face with this type of ...
Views: 2218 - Thinking Differently: Does Our Environment Shape Our Thinking? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperSome people might believe that their thoughts are their own and that their environment has no effect on them whatsoever. And there are going to be other people who will see how their environment does affect them; but this may only relate to certain factors that are relatively easy to notice. ...
Views: 2218 - Critical Thinking: Is ‘Toxic Masculinity’ The Reason Why Some Men Don't Express How They Feel? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man behaves in a negative or destructive manner, it is often put down to ‘toxic masculinity’. This is something that a feminist on TV can come out with, as well as someone who isn’t a feminist. Now, it could be said that this is because feminists have a good understanding of what is ...
Views: 2215 - Back Pain: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Back Pain? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is the potential for one to experience pain in all areas of their body. These can relate to one having a headache, stomach problems, tension in their shoulders and/or their lower back for instance. With it being highly likely one has experienced at least one of the above this year, let ...
Views: 2214 - Dependent: Why Are Some People Dependent? - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people talk about what it means to be an adult, being independent is never too far away. Here, one will be empowered to live their own life and to support themselves. So whereas a child is dependent on their caregivers to survive, an adult is not dependent on anyone in particular. And so ...
Views: 2214 - Regret: Are Regrets Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough life is rarely black and white, it doesn’t mean that some people won’t see it as being this way. And while most people are going to see it this way from time to, there are going to be others who are unable to see it differently. They are then on one side or they are on the other and ...
Views: 2214 - Receiving: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Receive? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side is the ability to give and on the other is the ability to receive. And it is often said that unless one can receive, then it won’t be possible for them to give. So the ability to receive is generally considered to be the most important aspect. This makes me think about how ...
Views: 2209 - Isolation: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Isolate Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere will be times when one will want to spend time by themselves and there will be times when they want to be around others. This is not to say that one will spend the same amount of time with others as they will by themselves; as it is not black and white. How one spends their time will ...
Views: 2206 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Blame Others For How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one takes responsibility for how they feel, they are going to be seen as mature and self aware. And yet when one doesn’t take responsibility for how they feel in the majority of cases, they are likely to be seen as lacking awareness and being undeveloped. But while an outside observer ...
Views: 2204 - Abuse: Is Grieving Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part Of Ending The Cycle Of Abuse? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is abused during their childhood years, they can end up doing the same thing and abusing others or they can put an end to the abuse. And based on how much pain one would have experienced when they were abused, it is often hard for people to understand why they would end up doing to ...
Views: 2202 - Body-Shaming: Why Do Some People Who Exercise Shame People Who Don't? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, a gym membership was not something that many people had, and while this was partly because of the cost, it was also due to the fact that there wasn’t as much pressure on people to exercise. This is not to say that people have only recently been encouraged to exercise; what it comes ...
Views: 2202 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Feel More At Peace When They No Longer Need Anything From The People Who Abused Them? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused at the beginning of their life, it is likely to mean that they experienced a lot of pain during this time. In addition to this, most, if not all, of their development needs might not have been met. As a result of this, even though a number of years will have passed ...
Views: 2199 - Relationships: Do Some People like Being Controlled? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the common challenges in relationships and a challenge that has existed throughout time is that of control. This can be something that is fairly subtle and anything but overwhelming. And then it can be so extreme, that one’s whole life is taken over by another person’s control. So ...
Views: 2193 - Child Abuse: Why Do Abused Children Idealise Their Parents? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there is no such thing as a perfect childhood, that doesn’t mean that everyone is treated in the same way. There are going to be some people who were treated well on most occasions and there are going to be others who had the opposite experience. In this case, one would have been ...
Views: 2191(1 vote) - Depression: Can Repression Cause Depression? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, depression has become a word that carries enormous weight; either for people who have it or for people who hear about it. It could also be described as a modern day taboo, with people often wanting to avoid the whole thing. However, what is clear is that depression is not ...
Views: 2182 - Self Sabotage: What Is Self Sabotage? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere is something that is known as self sabotage and what this actually means may not be clear to many people. So let’s look at what the word sabotage means first. On the dictionary.com website sabotage is described as: any underhand interference with production, work, etc., in a plant, ...
Views: 2180 - Interviews With Successful People - Ben Wright – Professional Stuntman And Actor - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having interviewed a number of DJ’s and producers, I thought that it would be a good idea to interview someone from another profession. So after hearing about a stuntman from someone I know, I thought that it would be great to interview him. Through typing his name into Google, I was ...
Views: 2171(1 vote) - Relationships: Can Environmental Factors Stop Someone From Moving On From A Breakup? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationships ends, there is the chance that it will lead to one experiencing a lot of emotional pain. There is also the chance that one will be quiet happy with what has happened and although there may be a mild sense of loss for example, they will soon settle down and be on their ...
Views: 2170 - Needs: Why Do Some People Always Put Other People's Needs Before Their Own? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part of being human and this means that they can’t be overlooked or denied without certain consequences arising. This doesn’t mean that one will always have their needs met; this is not going to be possible. But if one’s life has taken on a pattern where their needs are ...
Views: 2164 - Abuse: What Causes Abuse? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt can be difficult to describe what abuse is and this is because the word ‘Abuse’ can mean different things to different people. For one person it might relate to emotional pain, for another it might involve physical pain. With there being different degrees of pain and hurt within these two ...
Views: 2160 - Self-Talk: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Have Negative Self-Talk? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere is how one is spoken to by others, and then there is how one speaks to themselves. And what is taking place internally can often be known through what is taking place externally. This means that how one allows other people to talk to them is often a reflection of how they talk to ...
Views: 2160 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Repeat Unhealthy Relationship Patterns? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because one is with someone who looks different to the person they were in a relationship with before, it doesn’t mean that their experience is going to be any different. And if ones last experience was generally healthy and functional, this is not going to be something that one is going to ...
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