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- Don’t Let The "Evil Eye" Wreck Your Marriage! - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2010 from Noelle NelsonYou’ve been together – oh, it seems like forever. Anywhere from six months to umpteen years. And somewhere along the line you’ve developed the Evil Eye. You know the one. That critical look you cast on your Sweetheart, that has little sweet in it and even less heart, the look that says “How ...
Views: 4077(1 vote) - Let Go Or Get Dragged - by Submitted on May 06, 2011 from Noelle NelsonYou cope pretty darn well with the crises and emergencies of life. Somehow you get through them, over them, and get on with life. But then there are things that aren’t crises, yet somehow manage to irritate, annoy or aggravate you every time you bump into them. Things you don’t get over ...
Views: 3245 - Your Relationship Breakup: Was It Complete Failure or Just Complete? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2010 from Noelle NelsonYou’ve tried. You really have. You loved this man, you believed he truly was your “happily-ever-after.” You wanted this to be THE relationship of your life. When things started going downhill, you read all the self-help articles, more books than you can count, went to couples counseling ...
Views: 2827 - Eliminate the Fear Factor: 90-Seconds and You’re Out! - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou’re up for that job that could be a career changer--you’re scared! What if you flub the final interview, what if you say something really stupid, what if the CEO hates your hair? You’re dating a special someone you really like. You can feel yourself falling for him/her, big-time--you’re ...
Views: 2567 - Too Many Missed Opportunities? Power Off Your Smart Phone! - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2012 from Noelle NelsonThe courtroom is hot. The lawyer drones on and on. The jurors are bored. The judge is bored. His Honor’s gaze strays over to the jurors. One juror seems relatively awake. That’s because said juror is texting one-handed, surreptitiously, down by his knee. But his interested expression gives him ...
Views: 2208 - OMG--He's a Sex Addict! - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2010 from Noelle NelsonYou storm into the living room, where your honey sits hunched over his laptop, TV blasting, after-work-beer close at hand. “What’s this?!” you exclaim, waving a magazine at him. “Huh?” Honey replies. You grab the remote, power the TV off with a jerk. You tap your foot. You glare. He sees the ...
Views: 2175(2 votes) - Be Truly Human: Practice Random Acts of Kindness! - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2012 from Noelle NelsonRemember the slogan “Practice random acts of kindness”? It’s been around for a long time—all the way back to 1982 or so. More often than not, it was dismissed by most folks as a cute New Age aphorism and has largely been forgotten in the years since. Certainly in our hurried, harried ...
Views: 2075 - A Non-Waste of Time Team-Building Exercise [and yes you can try this at home] - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou moan, you groan. Your manager has called one of his infamous “team-building” meetings, and it’s only the threat of getting fired that propels your butt out of your chair and into the meeting. What a waste! Sitting around doing departmental Kumbaya when you have piles of work marked “Urgent!” ...
Views: 2060 - Are You Listening Competitively? Or Listening to Learn? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2015 from Noelle NelsonYou know how you can be going along in a conversation with a friend or a loved one, and it all seems to be good, and suddenly, you say something and the conversation stalls or stops entirely. And you’re thinking “What happened?” You didn’t say anything insulting or mean, you just voiced your ...
Views: 2025 - The Ultimate Valentine’s Day Gift: Forgiveness - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2014 from Noelle NelsonWhat if you made this Valentine’s Day more than a day about hearts and flowers? What if you made this Valentine’s Day about expanding your love, taking it beyond whatever wonderfulness you now experience to something even more amazing? It’s doable, you know. And all it takes is giving your ...
Views: 1991(2 votes) - How to Tame the Stress Monster - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2016 from Noelle NelsonYou bury your head in your hands. You’d really like to run screaming from your cubicle, but for one, that would get you instantly fired, for two, your shoes are definitely not made for running. But the stress! Not only does your job stress you out, but there’s your family, friends, chores, ...
Views: 1935 - Cheat-Proof Your Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Noelle NelsonYour one-and-only isn’t behaving his one-and-only self lately. He’s distracted, spends more time at work, on the Internet, everywhere but with you. He’s not that interested in being intimate – oh, he joins in just fine if you make the moves, but he’s not initiating things. You hear “yes, dear” ...
Views: 1924(3 votes) - The Best Valentine’s Gift Ever: “I Don’t Care”! - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2016 from Noelle NelsonNo, not “I don’t care about you” – that would be awful! Just “I don’t care.” By itself. As in “I don’t care that you left your socks on the floor.” “I don’t care that you over/under-tipped the server.” “I don’t care that you were five minutes late.” Because here’s the thing: nothing kills ...
Views: 1847 - Tip Your Marital Scales Into Joy! - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2012 from Noelle NelsonYour husband wakes up grumpy, stumbles to the bathroom, glances at your reflection next to his in the mirror, and says “What’s wrong with your hair?” You glare: “I slept on it funny. Good morning to you too.” Strike one against husband: “Why do you have to be so unpleasant first ...
Views: 1828 - Angry at Work? Have a Friends/Family Brainstorming Session! - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2012 from Noelle NelsonBeing angry and frustrated at work is its own special brand of misery. Why? Because you can’t lash out at the co-worker or manager or VP that is driving you nuts without risking the loss of your job. Whereas at home, you can probably get plenty angry at your teenager, your spouse, or your ...
Views: 1780 - Step Away From The Comparison Game: Just Be You! - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2012 from Noelle NelsonHarried, bedraggled, already late for work, you do your best to be patient as your kids scramble out of the car juggling school backpacks and soccer gear, when your youngest pipes up “Where’s my lunch?” Oh, shoot. In the fridge, that’s where his lunch is. You root in your purse, grab some bills ...
Views: 1694 - Lose the Guilt-ridden “Shoulds” for the Magic of “Could” - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2014 from Noelle NelsonThe alarm rings. Too early, much too early. A whole hour early. You know you should get up. You promised yourself you’d start working out. Today’s the day! Huzzah! Yesterday it seemed like such a great idea. You even set out your gym gear, ready to get going first thing. Groan. Aargh! You ...
Views: 1672 - Great Time For Bosses to Say Thanks to Employees--And Show They Mean It - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2011 from Noelle NelsonThose who are fortunate enough to have a job in these tough economic times are often working longer hours and carrying the workload normally done by two or more workers. The holiday season is the perfect time for employers to show their employers they appreciate their efforts. Appreciation ...
Views: 1633 - What My Rescue Puppy Taught Me About the Power of Together - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2014 from Noelle NelsonRecently, I adopted a rescue dog - a one year old German Shepherd - and as is true of most rescue dogs, he was an anxious, insecure puppy. Nonetheless, as I stood in front of him and gently petted his head, I was surprised when he cringed and backed away. Then I remembered that his experience ...
Views: 1596 - HALT: A Masterful Technique for Working with Yourself and Others - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2016 from Noelle NelsonMy German Shepherd-mix rescue pup, Baer, is a great dog. He’s all legs and energy, so sometimes I think of him as Fred Astaire, and sometimes more as the Energizer Bunny on steroids. Especially near mealtimes. I feed my dogs twice a day, and I’m convinced they have clocks in their stomachs, ...
Views: 1578 - Ditch The “Have-To’s” and Get To The (Way More Fun) “Want-To’s”! - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2015 from Noelle NelsonEver notice the list of “have-to’s” you’ve got going? As in ‘have-to’ get up and get yourself going, ‘have-to’ get everybody fed-dressed-out-the-door, ‘have-to’ get to work, ‘have-to’ do the work, ‘have-to’ put up with a boss/co-worker/client you can’t stand, ‘have-to’ run the errands, do the ...
Views: 1575 - Choose Your Thought Reps Wisely! - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2014 from Noelle NelsonOne of my dogs, Kobe, has epilepsy. It’s very well controlled with--of all things--Chinese herbs, but when there’s a major stressor, Kobe may be wracked with seizures. In his world, mercifully, there are few major stressors, but one of them is--thunder. We had a major storm in California last ...
Views: 1572 - Regain Peace of Mind: Trash Those Unwanted Thoughts! - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou made up. The argument is long over; life with your sweetheart is back to normal. Except for that little nagging thought that keeps running through your brain, with the determined persistence of a hamster on a treadmill: “How could he/she do that? How could he/she say that about me in front ...
Views: 1567 - Want to Stay Young? Get Busy! - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2016 from Noelle NelsonI’m endlessly fascinated by children in airports. As I sit, waiting patiently (sort of) at the gate for my flight, I watch children – in particular the 3 to 5 year olds – run, stumble, and climb over, through, and around anything stationary: people, suitcases, seats, recycling bins. They won’t ...
Views: 1545 - Turn “Yeah, but” On Its Head - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2014 from Noelle NelsonEver have one of those “Yeah, but” conversations? Your friend has lost her job. Being the supportive friend that you are, you say: “Hey, you’ve got tons of skills. All you need to do is revamp your resume, and you’ll be hired in no time.” “Yeah, but the economy sucks. It’s gonna take ...
Views: 1537 - Tame the Holiday Perfection Grinch - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2011 from Noelle NelsonYou’ve made your list, you’ve checked it twice. Oh, no, not that list – I’m talking about the list you’ve made of the 1022 ½ things you need to get done for the Holidays, everything from the perfect gift for Cousin Henry, to the perfect surprise for your sweetheart, to the perfect outfit for ...
Views: 1530 - The Greatest Gift of All: Hope - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2017 from Noelle NelsonIt’s been a rough year for many of us. Our country, as well as many others across the globe, has been ravaged by fierce political and social divides, unprecedented mass violence, and natural disasters from fires to hurricanes with the unfortunate promise of more to come. As the Holidays roll ...
Views: 1526 - Get to the Heart of Your Apology: Speak to the Hurt! - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2014 from Noelle NelsonThe dog ate the cord to your laptop battery, which fortunately wasn’t plugged in at the time--who knows how many volts run through those things, your dog could have been twitching for hours--but meanwhile, you’re without your computer. You have an important presentation at work in a couple of ...
Views: 1524(1 vote) - What I Learned From Yucky Fish - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2014 from Noelle NelsonWe’re great at giving our very best in the hard moments, the crises. We pull out all the stops to save a loved one’s life, rescue a child from a burning building, salvage our marriages on the brink of divorce. We are truly, then, the shining example of what a human being is capable of. But ...
Views: 1513 - Geocache Your Way to Happy Holidays! - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2014 from Noelle NelsonA friend introduced me recently to the wide wonderful world of Geocaching. For those of you unfamiliar with the concept, Geocaching, according to Wikipedia, is: “…an outdoor recreational activity, in which participants use a Global Positioning System (GPS) receiver or mobile device and other ...
Views: 1511 - Live a Simply Fabulous Life—Whatever Your Decade! - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2016 from Noelle NelsonThe recent “Longevity Issue” of Time Magazine held great promise—an entire issue devoted to the joy of longevity, how great! Then I read the very first article title on the cover: “The Alzheimer’s Pill: A radical new drug that could change old age.” My heart sank. My excitement vanished. Once ...
Views: 1501 - A Thanksgiving to Be Grateful For - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou love your extended family, you really do, and the thought of all those aunts and uncles, in-laws and parents, cousins and various spouses and children warms your heart. Until it’s time for them to descend on your home for Thanksgiving. Even if it’s just a parent or solitary in-law or ...
Views: 1499(1 vote) - Wanna Be Happy? Practice! - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2013 from Noelle NelsonIf ever there was a miserable day, this is it: your six year old threw a tantrum because her favorite socks have a hole in them, your SO forgot about an early meeting, so you had to take the kids to school rushing all the way, hair still damp from your shower because who had time to dry it, much ...
Views: 1491(1 vote) - A Heartfelt New Year’s Resolution: Show You Care! - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2016 from Noelle NelsonI heard the sirens behind me before I saw the flashing lights of an ambulance, followed closely by a fire truck. Like everyone else on the roadway, I looked around trying to figure out where the ambulance was heading, and as soon as I saw the lights, eased my car over to the right side of the ...
Views: 1486 - Want a Miracle? Shift Your Perception! - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2015 from Noelle NelsonLosing is painful. It doesn’t matter what - a job, a promotion, your health, a lover, a spouse - it’s painful. Sure, the pain is greater, the greater the loss, but whenever we lose something, we feel it deeply. A friend of mine, a trial lawyer by trade, recently lost a big case. He’s not in ...
Views: 1480 - Don’t Settle: Get Inspired With New Year’s Resolutions for What You Really Want! - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2015 from Noelle NelsonAtlanta’s Homeward Choir, a group of 26 homeless men from Atlanta’s Central Night Shelter, was invited to sing at the White House in December of 2015. When the group got the invitation--and how that came about is a wonderful story --among the many questions the choir members asked of their ...
Views: 1468 - Solution! Solution! Solution! - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2018 from Noelle NelsonLife on planet Earth is riddled with problems. Little problems, big problems, we all have them, pretty much every day. But what matters isn’t the problem, it’s the solution! And oh, how easy it is to lose sight of that. My phones went down a couple of months ago. Since we don't get cell ...
Views: 1467 - When You Look In The Mirror, What Do You See? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2016 from Noelle NelsonWhen you look in the mirror, what do you see? That you’re too short, too tall, too fat, too skinny? That you somehow grew a pimple overnight, or a new set of crows feet, or maybe it’s time to go shaved-head considering that ever-expanding bald spot? Or do you see your wonderful smile, the ...
Views: 1465 - The Follow-Through Challenge: Caesar and Nine-Year-Old Jahkil - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2017 from Noelle NelsonCaesar, not as in “Caesar’s Palace” in Las Vegas, but Caesar, as in Julius Caesar, the man, was truly an amazing individual. If he were alive today, I sincerely believe he’d be the most successful man on the planet, for one simple reason: the dude had incredible follow-through. Whatever he ...
Views: 1452 - Want A Happier, Healthier, More Successful New Year? Become An Optimist - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2012 from Noelle NelsonThe holidays are just about over, your decorations are slowly making their way back into storage boxes, the euphoria of gift-giving and receiving has given way to the mundane “Here we go, another year” where you still have to make a living or figure out how to make it through the next month, ...
Views: 1452(1 vote) - Commit Non-Random Acts of Kindness and Watch Your Happiness Grow - by Submitted on May 11, 2016 from Noelle NelsonTraveling through Burma (aka Myanmar) recently--a fascinating country, known as “The Golden Land” because of the tens of thousands of pagodas gleaming with gold-leaf covered spires—I learned about the different ways Buddhism is practiced there. Oh, the essential aspects of Burmese Buddhism are ...
Views: 1451 - Don’t Leave Yourself Out of Thanksgiving Gratitude! - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2014 from Noelle NelsonThanksgiving is almost here - that time of year when “get your gratitude on!” is the game of the day. And indeed, you do have your gratitude well in gear. You are ready to express your gratefulness for your family, your friends, your job (maybe, could be a stretch), Pilates, football, the ...
Views: 1450 - Make A Different Kind of New Year’s Resolution - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2012 from Noelle NelsonYou know your usual litany of New Year’s resolutions: “This year I’m gonna lose 5 – 10 -50 pounds. This year I swear I’ll get to the gym at least twice a week. This year I absolutely positively will not spend past my credit limit. This year I swear I’ll never have another ginger Martini (given ...
Views: 1449 - Resolve Upsets with Genuine Explanations - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2019 from Noelle NelsonAs a peace-loving Libra, I’m always looking for ways to minimize conflict, ways for us to get along better, regardless of our differences. So I was quite taken with a post a friend forwarded to me: “Explain your anger, don’t express it, and you will immediately open the door to solutions ...
Views: 1447 - If Only… - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2018 from Noelle NelsonEver had a case of the “if onlys”? You know, as in; “If only I’d gotten that job,” “If only that guy/gal hadn’t broken up with me,” “If only I hadn’t been passed over for that promotion,” “If only I’d won the lottery!” “If only I had more talent,” and so on. Unfortunately, once you get ...
Views: 1445 - Enrich Your Life: Befriend an Extrovert if You’re an Introvert, or an Introvert if You’re an Extrovert - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2015 from Noelle NelsonI went to the movies recently with a friend. It was billed as an action comedy and I was looking forward to some good laughs. What I hadn’t realized is that the movie was 90% action and 10% comedy. Oh, the comedy was great! We’re talking LOL rolling in the aisles funny--and the action was just ...
Views: 1442 - Get Out of My Head! - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2015 from Noelle NelsonYou want to know what’s the single biggest obstacle in the way of your doing pretty much anything? It’s not your boss, your mate, the economy, your kids, your mother, or whatever else is your “why-I-can’t-be/do/have it” mantra, it’s that thing you keep repeating to yourself over and ...
Views: 1437 - Be the Master of Your Universe—Without Bloodshed - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2016 from Noelle NelsonSummer blockbusters are full of Masters of the Universe—Superheroes/heroines, Emperors and Kings—in righteous battle. And, when someone storms your castle – be that of your thoughts, your actions, your behavior—don’t you defend it with all your might? “You’re wrong!” “You messed up, not me!” “I ...
Views: 1435 - Domestic Violence Is Not Just The NFL’s Problem - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2014 from Noelle NelsonDespite how it appears on the 24-hour news channels, domestic violence is not likely to be any more prevalent between professional athletes and their partners as in relationships in other segments of society. Domestic violence can happen to anyone at any time and does not respect age, gender, ...
Views: 1428(1 vote) - Smile Mindfully: it’s Good for Your Health! - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2017 from Noelle NelsonBabies smile - a lot. Beauty queens smile - on cue. Winners smile – most of the time, in between all that jumping and high-fiving. Smiles are a way of expressing our happiness, our joy, our pride, our gratitude. More than that, smiles are a way of connecting, of saying – without words – I’m ...
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