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- Depression 101: Radical Acceptance - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2010 from New Harbinger PublicationsMost of the pain of overwhelming emotion is caused by our struggle against feeling the emotion. We fight against our situation, wishing things were different, being disappointed when our expectations aren’t met, and telling ourselves we shouldn’t be upset, depressed, sad, disappointed, or angry. ...
Views: 3216(1 vote) - Depression 101: Quick Fixes for Overwhelming Emotions - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2010 from New Harbinger PublicationsAt times, everyone experiences emotions so intense that there’s no controlling them or talking ourselves out of them. When the emotions you feel are so overwhelming that you just need to stop what you’re doing and deal with them, here are some tips for what to do. Remember that feeling your ...
Views: 9025(1 vote) - Depression 101: Two -Minute Reality Check - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2010 from New Harbinger PublicationsThe negative effects of overwhelming emotions often have more to do with our reaction to the emotion than to the emotion itself. If you feel extreme rage and act on that rage by breaking a window or physically assaulting the person you’re angry at, the problem then becomes the damage you’ve ...
Views: 2091(1 vote) - Stress Reduction for Teens: Noticing the Little Things - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2010 from New Harbinger PublicationsThere are two types of mindfulness practice: formal and informal. In formal practice, you actually set aside an amount of time and dedicate it to being mindful. Informal practice doesn’t require any extra time; the idea is to bring moment-to-moment awareness to everything you already do, to zero ...
Views: 1453(1 vote) - Stress Reduction for Teens: Good Stress and Bad Stress - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2010 from New Harbinger PublicationsYou probably think of stress as bad or negative, but there are times when stress actually helps you. Andrew plays soccer on his school’s team. He tends to get really nervous before a game, and his stomach often feels a little queasy. At the same time, his adrenaline increases and that helps ...
Views: 2638 - Whole-Body Approach to Osteoporosis: How to Create an Anabolic Body - by Submitted on May 14, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsNo matter who you are, if you walk deeply into the forest enough times, you’re going to get lost. I certainly have—several times. Dark, twisting ravines, steeply sloped hillsides, and impenetrable tangles can be disorienting. That’s the bad news. The good news is that if you persist, if you ...
Views: 3463(1 vote) - Key Nutrients for Bone Health - by Submitted on May 14, 2009 from New Harbinger Publications• Calcium. This mineral is vital for skeletal mineralization, blood clotting, conduction of nerve impulses, buffering of acidic blood, enzyme activity, and muscle contractions. • Phosphorus. This mineral is important for energy, enzyme activity, muscle contraction, and nerve ...
Views: 5831(1 vote) - Bone-Healthy Muffin Recipe - by Submitted on May 14, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsINGREDIENTS · 2½ cups whole-wheat pastry flour or gluten-free baking flour from garbanzo beans · ½ cup wheat bran · ½ cup whey protein powder · ¼ cup ground flaxseeds · 1 teaspoon baking soda · ¼ teaspoon baking powder · 2 teaspoons cinnamon · ½ teaspoon nutmeg · 3 eggs · 1 cup xylitol · ¾ cup ...
Views: 3262 - Chemotherapy Survival Guide: Dealing with Nausea - by Submitted on May 14, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsHere are some suggestions to help you get through your chemotherapy treatment. By preventing nausea you can be comfortable, stay well nourished, and feel better sooner. BEFORE TREATMENT It’s not necessary to have an empty stomach before getting chemotherapy. Staying well nourished and well ...
Views: 3657(1 vote) - Chemotherapy Survival Guide: Getting Your Questions Answered - by Submitted on May 14, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsWhen you’re first diagnosed, you may not even know what questions to ask. And the answer to one question often leads to many more questions about things you may not have considered before. It’s hard to take in a lot of new information when you feel anxious. It’s normal to need information to be ...
Views: 1388 - Chemotherapy Survival Guide: Questions to Ask About Your Treatment Plan - by Submitted on May 14, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsDECIDING ON THE TREATMENT PLAN During your next visit, your doctor may recommend chemotherapy alone or in combination with radiation therapy, hormonal therapy, targeted therapy, or surgery. Your doctor will explain treatment options and why a certain one is recommended. Your doctor may be able ...
Views: 1499(1 vote) - Mindful Motherhood: Sensing - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsIn every situation you’ll encounter as a new mom, whether it is chaotic or mellow, there are three things happening. Examine what’s going on for you right now. You are probably having some thoughts, or your mind is focused on reading and digesting this information. You may be having some ...
Views: 1176(1 vote) - Mindful Motherhood: Feeling - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsIn every situation you’ll encounter as a new mom, whether it is chaotic or mellow, there are three things happening. Examine what’s going on for you right now. You are probably having some thoughts, or your mind is focused on reading and digesting this information. You may be having some ...
Views: 1275(1 vote) - Mindful Motherhood: Experience - Thinking - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsOne of the participants in our Mindful Motherhood Training for new moms (I’ll call her Cindy) told us a story about one of those moments that every mom dreads. At the park one day, she and her husband took their toddler and their four-month-old baby in her stroller to the pond to watch the ...
Views: 1272(1 vote) - White Knight Syndrome: Subtypes - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsTo create our subtypes we reviewed numerous cases of rescuing behavior in intimate relationships. We examined and compared the personality styles, behavior in relationships, and early history. From this review, four basic subtypes of rescuers emerged: the overly empathic white knight, the ...
Views: 17203 - What is a White Knight? - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsWhite knights have a compulsive need to rescue, but how and why they rescue can be quite varied. The following is an overview of the basic characteristics common to all white knights. There are also four subtypes: the overly empathetic white knight, the tarnished white knight, the terrorizing/ ...
Views: 3563 - Pregnancy & Postpartum Anxiety: How Dads Can Support Mothers - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsEmotional difficulties in women during pregnancy and after delivery are surprisingly common. For example, studies consistently show that approximately 14 percent of women suffer from postpartum depression (Paulson, Dauber, and Leiferman 2006). In addition, some studies have found around 16 ...
Views: 2220(1 vote) - Pregnancy & Postpartum Anxiety: What Dads Might Experience - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsWhether you’re a new dad or a dad-to-be, you probably already realize something about fatherhood: it’s the highest of the highs—and the lowest of the lows. You’re on an emotional roller coaster unlike any you’ll ever experience. One moment, you’re beaming, the proud dad of a beautiful newborn. ...
Views: 7306(1 vote) - The Insomnia Workbook: Dispelling Sleep Myths - by Submitted on May 12, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsNow that you’ve learned some of the basics about sleep, let’s take a look at some common myths about sleep that may be contributing to your sleep problems. MYTH 1: Spending more time in bed at night will give me a better chance of falling asleep. Actually, the opposite is true. The longer you ...
Views: 1927 - ACT With Love: Tips for developing Self-Compassion - by Submitted on May 12, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsHere are some tips for developing self-compassion: + Start with mindful breathing. Breathe slowly and deeply. Breathe into your body, wherever it hurts most. Imagine your breath flowing into and around the pain; feel yourself opening up around it. + Place a hand on the area that is most ...
Views: 4430 - ACT With Love: Learning to Fight Fairly - by Submitted on May 12, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsIf you’re going to address an issue, first think about the outcome you are looking for. If you want to waste your energy in a useless fight, you know what to do: put on your armor, pick up your sword, and charge. Leap into the fray, armed to the teeth with accusations, strong words, criticisms, ...
Views: 1225 - ACT With Love: NAME Your Feelings - by Submitted on May 12, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsNAME your feelings If you want to handle your feelings effectively, NAME them. NAME is an acronym for: N – Notice A – Acknowledge M – Make space E – Expand awareness Let’s go through these steps for handling your feelings, one by one. STEP 1: NOTICE When strong feelings show up, the first ...
Views: 3562 - ACT With Love: The Land of Rules - by Submitted on May 12, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsIn the right context, rules are very useful. We’d be in trouble if we didn’t have rules about which side of the road to drive on, or how fast we can drive, or how much we can drink before we drive. However, rules can be problematic if we hold them too tightly. We can become rigid or inflexible, ...
Views: 1154 - ACT with L.O.V.E. - by Submitted on May 12, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsLet’s discuss LOVE: L – Letting go O – Opening up V – Valuing E – Engaging Let’s now explore each of these elements in more detail: LETTING GO “Letting go” is the escape route from inside-your-mind, one of the elements that DRAIN your relationship. Your mind is like a master storyteller ...
Views: 2794 - The Good News About Herpes: Sustained Emotional Reactions - by Submitted on May 12, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsAfter you’ve had herpes for a few weeks or months, the emotions surrounding it sometimes change. You might still have some of the initial ones we talked about, but they’ll tend to fade a bit as you get more information about herpes, in general, and your case, in particular. But now, some new ...
Views: 8428 - The Good News About Herpes: Early Emotional Responses - by Submitted on May 12, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsPeople seem to go through two separate periods in their reactions to having herpes. The first obviously comes right away; it starts as you sit in your clinician’s office and hear the words, “I think you may have herpes,” and continues until you get your test results that confirm those ...
Views: 8691 - The Top Ten Questions About Genital Herpes: Everything You Always Wanted to Know but Were Afraid to Ask - by Submitted on May 12, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsOne late-night talk-show host is famous for his top-ten lists. I hope he won’t mind, but I’m going to borrow his idea. Here’s my top-ten list of questions asked most often about genital herpes. They come from patients at my clinic and from the WebMD message board. And if your question isn’t in ...
Views: 25436(1 vote) - Freedom from Self-Harm: Urge Surfing - A Mindfulness Skill to Cope with Urges - by Submitted on May 11, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsFind a quiet place where you will be relatively free from distractions and unlikely to be bothered by anyone. Sit in a comfortable position. Write down how strong your urge is on a scale from 0 (no urge at all) to 10 (the strongest urge you’ve ever had). Then, write down how much you feel as if ...
Views: 6673 - Freedom from Self-Harm: Important Steps When You’re Seeking Help - by Submitted on May 11, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsHopefully, you now have a better idea of where to find information on self-harm, the types of resources that are out there, and some of the treatments for self-harm. Below, we turn our attention to the specific ways in which you can go about finding help in your area, as well as some important ...
Views: 2294 - Freedom from Self-Harm: Specific Types of Psychological Treatments for Self-Harm - by Submitted on May 11, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsSeveral different types of treatment may be helpful for self-harm, including the following: + Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) CBT helps people learn new skills for managing their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. CBT is often a fairly structured treatment, with a clear agenda for each ...
Views: 2730 - My Mother, My Mirror: Going on a Mother-Guilt Trip? Change Course! - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsYou’re Off the Hook Unwittingly, your female forebears passed the carnival mirror self-image down to you, and, unwittingly, or unintentionally, you have passed it down to your daughter. (Many mothers may be sensitive to their influence on their children and still find themselves unable to ...
Views: 1869 - Five Good Minutes in Your Body: A Grateful List - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsYou know it’s a good idea—to make a list of what you’re grateful for—but you just don’t get around to actually doing it. So take the next five minutes and do it now. 1. Grab a pen and paper. 2. Start with your body and record what you’re most thankful for. You may list: Good health, good ...
Views: 1526 - The Mindful Couple: Finding Beauty - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsAn older couple, Shirley and Rick, planned what they thought would be one of their last vacations. Finances and aging were making their trips more difficult. They wanted to travel to southern Utah and take in the beauty of the national forests. They had heard from a number of friends about the ...
Views: 1174 - Overcoming Bipolar Disorder: The Clinical Side of Treatment - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsTREATMENTS FOR A BIO -PSYCHOSOCIAL CONDITION Understanding and treating bipolar disorder requires tuning in to biological, psychological, and social aspects—it is a bio-psychosocial condition. Typically, bipolar disorder is treated with one or more medications plus some type of counseling or ...
Views: 1875 - Overcoming Bipolar Disorder: Anger - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsEveryone experiences feelings of anger or irritability, but people with bipolar disorder are especially prone to these feelings and the adverse effects of anger. In fact, sudden feelings of anger or irritability are key symptoms of mania. Inappropriate anger attacks occur in up to 60 percent of ...
Views: 30227(10 votes) - Overcoming Bipolar Disorder: Identifying Depression Triggers - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsResearch indicates that a variety of factors can be associated with the onset of depressive symptoms for people with bipolar disorder. It is important to recognize such potential triggers, because avoiding or reducing exposure to them can reduce the likelihood that depressive symptoms will ...
Views: 3189 - Overcoming Bipolar Disorder: Identifying Mania Triggers - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsResearch indicates that a variety of factors can be associated with the onset of manic symptoms (Johnson 2005; Goodwin and Jamison 2007; Bauer 2008a). It is important to recognize such potential triggers because avoiding or reducing exposure to them can reduce the likelihood that manic symptoms ...
Views: 9162 - Emotional Fitness for Intimacy: Intimacy Makes Us Vulnerable - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsIntimacy, by its very nature, requires us to be vulnerable. Our partner, lover, or mate can know us to our very core, sometimes better than we know ourselves, and that can make anyone feel as though they were totally exposed. Intimacy can be intimidating. However, it is also an amazingly freeing ...
Views: 3279 - Feeding the Starving Mind: The Connection Between Anxiety and Eating Disorders - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsAnxiety disorders are a group of psychological disorders characterized by debilitating anxiety that interferes with a person’s functioning. The following explores the connection between starvation eating disorders, core anxiety, weight obsessions, and compulsions. Beyond the relationship between ...
Views: 5688 - Emotional Fitness for Intimacy: True Love vs. in Love - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsI have had many people sit on the therapy couch, look deeply at their partner, and say, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” As the eyes of their other half fill with tears, I explain to both of them that this is not a bad thing. Now they can get down to the business of having a real ...
Views: 2707 - The Women's Guide to Thyroid Health: Understanding Symptoms of Hypothyroidism - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsThe things that can go wrong with your body when your thyroid function is low are so pervasive and extensive it’s startling. So many of the difficulties and indignities we learn to live with, thinking they’re an inevitable part of aging, are actually the result of low thyroid function and are ...
Views: 26761(4 votes) - Butternut Squash with Onions and Tarragon - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsThis is a delicious and easy way to prepare squash. If you have any leftovers, they make a great soup. Just puree them in a blender with enough stock or water to reach the consistency of a creamy soup, then heat and season to taste with salt and pepper. 1 tablespoon extra-virgin olive oil 1 ...
Views: 4386(1 vote) - Stir-Fried Bok Choy with Shrimp - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsFor a vegetarian variation, replace the shrimp with cubed seasoned, smoked tofu (available at natural food stores). If you use shrimp, keep the shells for stock; just throw them in a bag in the freezer until you're ready to use them. 4 leaves bok choy 1 tablespoon extra-virgin olive oil 2 ...
Views: 1288 - The Whole-Food Guide to Strong Bones: Creating a Program That Works for You - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsI genuinely believe that in order to create an effective exercise habit, you must think about what you can sustain not for weeks, but for decades. What sort of movement and exercise can you do that you'll enjoy and that won't elicit the mule response? What feels good to your body? In terms of ...
Views: 1237 - Our Seven Structures - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsLet's take a look at our personal, emotional, and spiritual support systems, as they will hold up our physical structure - and not the other way around. What follows is my interpretation and synthesis of the work of many masters, principally the seven levels of judgment of George Ohsawa, ...
Views: 1278 - The Whole-Food Guide to Strong Bones - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsThe human body is a very complex system. It is a whole much larger than the sum of its parts. And most importantly, all of the parts work together in synergy, and all depend on one another for proper function. Being but one element in this complex system, calcium needs many other nutrients to ...
Views: 1328 - Messages: Listening For Couples - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsPerhaps the most important application for your listening skills is when you communicate with your partner. A process called reciprocal communication provides a structure in which you can really hear each other. Here's how it works. When you're discussing a topic that is a conflict area for ...
Views: 1679(1 vote) - Bipolar 101: Name Your Stress Reducers - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsHow do you relieve stress? Coping with stress requires that you identify and understand the source of your stress and then make a plan for how to reduce the impact of that stressor on your life. The next set of action steps will give you some tools to help you identify stressors, and learn how ...
Views: 1908(1 vote) - Pleasure Healing: Positive Affirmations to Behold the Beauty Within - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsDo you know how beautiful you are? Yes, you! You're beautiful beyond compare. Affirm this to yourself ten times right here and now. Okay, now that you're back, think about how you felt as you affirmed your beauty. Did you feel a spark of power? What if you used that spark to ignite filling ...
Views: 2900 - Interview with Dr. Lara Honos-Webb, Author of Listening to Depression - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2009 from New Harbinger Publications~ HOW CAN A PERSON USE THEIR DEPRESSION TO CHANGE THEIR LIFE, INSTEAD OF BEING RENDERED POWERLESS BY THE EXPERIENCE? ~ If you can translate your depression into a message that you need to make some changes and set out to discover precisely what those changes are, your depression may prepare ...
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