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- Feeling Alone? How to Cope with Feelings of Loneliness - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2011 from Jonathan HuiePerhaps you are recently divorced or separated. Perhaps it has been a long time since you have been in a meaningful relationship. Or perhaps you are stuck in a relationship that doesn't provide you with the emotional intimacy you need. In any case, you are feeling lonely - very much alone, ...
Views: 3391(2 votes) - Feeling Down? Change Your Sad to Glad - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2011 from Jonathan HuieDoes it feel as if the whole world is conspiring against you? Does it seem that everything that could go wrong is going wrong right now - and is directed against you personally? You got fired. Your credit card is overdue and is in collection. The bank is foreclosing on your mortgage. Your spouse ...
Views: 1958(1 vote) - Your Relationship Broke Up - What to Do? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2011 from Jonathan HuieYour relationship broke up and you are heart broken. What should you do now to heal the hurt and move on with your life? First, examine what Not to do. These are things that will make your situation worse. 1. Don't try to get back together. There must be some very strong reasons why you ...
Views: 2625(2 votes) - How to Let Go and Move On - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2011 from Jonathan HuieYou can't live a joyful life until you learn to let go of your past. Whether you have gone through a break-up, lost a loved one to death, had a feud with friend or family, or have lost a job, you must learn to move on and let go. Life can be rewarding and joyful again. Avoid making your ...
Views: 3981(3 votes) - How To Not Care What Other People Think About You - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2011 from Jonathan HuieDo you feel concerned over what other people think about you? Do you find yourself worried about what others say about you? While it is normal for everyone to seek the approval of others, self-confident people with a high self-esteem are able to ignore the negative opinions of others and to ...
Views: 3185 - Sleep Better Tonight: Ten Common-Sense Tips - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Jonathan HuieAre you concerned that you may not sleep well tonight? Getting a good night sleep is important to your health, but falling asleep easily and sleeping well are complex and can be interrupted by a wide range of factors. Insomnia can be a symptom or a result of a serious medical condition. For ...
Views: 3247(4 votes) - How to Cope with Feeling Lonely: Tips for Coping with Loneliness - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Jonathan HuieLoneliness is a state of mind rather than a measure of how many people you interact with. You can be overwhelmed with a feeling of loneliness in a bustling restaurant or a cheering football stadium, in a business meeting or a family gathering, even while having sex. You can feel contented, ...
Views: 5988(6 votes) - 10 Suggestions for Surviving the Annual Office Holiday Party - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2009 from Jonathan HuieIt's that time of year again. Perhaps the annual holiday party your boss throws is the highlight of your year, but for many of us the annual office holiday party is an event of discomfort, an awkward time we wish we could avoid but believe we must survive and make the best of. Whether the ...
Views: 2926(3 votes) - Five 30-Second Emotional-Spiritual Techniques to De-Stress at Work - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2009 from Jonathan HuieTo reduce the effects of stress in the workplace, take an emotional and spiritual, as well as a physical break, at least every two hours, preferably every hour. Here are five de-stressors you can do in thirty seconds each... 1. Stretch your hands, arms, and shoulders. In addition to ...
Views: 2151(4 votes) - Is There a Place for Honor in the Twenty-First Century? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Jonathan HuieWhat images come to mind when you visualize Honor? Medieval knights jousting for the hand of a fair maiden? Sir Walter Raleigh laying his magnificent cape in the muddy street so his lady's feet don't get soiled? Soldiers riding off to war to defend the "honor" of their country? A working ...
Views: 1862(2 votes) - Forgive and Forget? Can You Really Lift Your Burden of Resentments? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Jonathan HuieThe questions keep coming... "How can I forget all the wrong things that have been done to me throughout my life. How can the thoughts that are in my brain be erased so that they do not keep popping up over and over again. It is not easy to forgive what my brain cannot erase. Who knows the ...
Views: 2862(2 votes) - Zero-Based Gratitude - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Jonathan HuieThere are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. - Albert Einstein Perhaps you have heard of zero-based budgeting as a technique for governments, businesses, and occasionally individuals. Zero-based ...
Views: 2654(3 votes) - Ten Little Tips to Feel Happier Right Now - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2009 from Jonathan HuieDon't wait to make a big change in the quality of your life. Eight of these ten little ways to happiness can be done in less than five minutes. 1. Smile. Raise the corners of your mouth. Soon your smile will become genuine. The smile that begins as an effort and a pretense quickly grows ...
Views: 2578(5 votes) - Happier Friends, Happier You - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2009 from Jonathan HuieHappy people tend to be found in the company of other happy people, while unhappy people are likely to spend time with unhappy people. You are probably saying, "Yes, that's right." You may have thought about this relationship before, or you may just now be scanning through a mental list of ...
Views: 1948(3 votes) - Forgiveness and Acceptance - Keys to a Great Marriage - by Submitted on May 22, 2009 from Jonathan HuieIf you have lived in the same home for years, you probably have a lot of stuff stored away. However neatly packed, anything you haven't put to good use for more than a year is probably a burden rather than a blessing. In a similar way, you likely have old stuff tucked away in the corners of ...
Views: 1993(2 votes) - Go With the Flow - Six Ways to Live a Happier Life - by Submitted on May 18, 2009 from Jonathan HuieMost unhappiness comes from resisting life. Occasionally, we have such a strong commitment to changing the world order that it is worth struggling against the flow of life. Perhaps you have a cause such as universal veganism - your life is committed to preventing even one more animal from ...
Views: 1732(2 votes) - Six Ways to End Bickering About Money - by Submitted on May 15, 2009 from Jonathan HuieOne of the most common causes of arguments between couples is disagreements over money, mostly about how it should be spent, or not spent. Arguments over money generally fall into two general areas, differences in fundamental attitudes, and bickering over day to day details. Sometimes the ...
Views: 1994(3 votes) - Moderating the Anger Response Through Training - by Submitted on May 07, 2009 from Jonathan HuieYou probably can't hit a baseball as well as Albert Pujols. Why? Certainly major league players were born with some level of physical advantage over the rest of us, but most of their skill comes from training - relentless training, year after year. Imagine a baseball coming toward you at a ...
Views: 1604(2 votes) - Alcoholism in a Relationship - When to Stay, When to Leave - by Submitted on May 04, 2009 from Jonathan Huie"Alcoholic" is one of those words that raises high emotions. We tend to think of an alcoholic as someone who is violent, dangerous, and self destructive. We may also visualize an alcoholic as being selfish and not caring about anyone but themself. Sometimes those stereotypes are appropriate, ...
Views: 1721(2 votes) - The Silver Lining of Losing Your Job - 8 Upbeat Ideas - by Submitted on May 03, 2009 from Jonathan HuieCould there be a silver lining to the crisis of losing your job? Actually there are several. Understand that being downsized, cut back, or just plain fired isn't likely to make you feel good. It creates fear - How will I pay the bills? How long will it take to find another job that pays as ...
Views: 1664(2 votes) - How to Avoid Falling in Love with Love - by Submitted on May 02, 2009 from Jonathan HuieFalling in love with love has been the subject of parody from the time of ancient Greece, to Shakespeare's Twelfth Night, to the present. The 1938 Rodgers and Hart show tune describes falling in love with love as "falling for make-believe" and "playing the fool." Do real life people actually ...
Views: 1717(2 votes) - The #1 Secret of Great Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Jonathan HuieBehind all the issues that separate an ordinary relationship from a great one, is one common factor. Behind all the truly helpful advice on improving your life together, there lies one key to a great relationship. Many different kinds of problems can cause a relationship to fall apart. ...
Views: 1489(2 votes) - This Above All, To Thine Own Self Be True - 5 Ways to Apply William Shakespeare's Advice Today - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2009 from Jonathan HuieThis above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man. - William Shakespeare If Bill were around today, I think he would appreciate hearing the flight attendant say, "Put on your own oxygen mask first." Before any of us ...
Views: 3091(2 votes) - Don't Stay in a Broken Marriage "For the Children" - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2009 from Jonathan HuieIf you are clear that you are miserable in your relationship, don't procrastinate on getting a divorce "for the sake of the children." While some experts would argue that having one parent move out of the home increases the stress on young children, consider the likelihood that the benefit of ...
Views: 2973(2 votes) - Try Daily Journaling - 7 Hints for Beginning a Rewarding Journaling Practice - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2009 from Jonathan HuieIf you have never experienced the practice of daily journaling, give it a try. I highly recommend it. When I say "journaling," I am not referring to a diary in which to record the events of your life, I am talking about a place to record your feelings - a friend with whom to share your ...
Views: 1421(2 votes) - Take Charge of Your Life - 9 Secrets for Getting Un-Stuck - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2009 from Jonathan HuieFrom the way most people live, one would never guess that humans are beings of free will. Repetition can be a choice, but often it isn't. The athlete or pianist who practices the same routine day after day, year after year, has their eye on a goal. The unending repetition is a conscious ...
Views: 1332(2 votes) - 7 Secrets of Happy Couples - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2009 from Jonathan HuieWhy do some couples stay happy together for a lifetime, while others are in conflict almost from the beginning? Part of the answer is compatibility - making the initial choice of a partner with whom you share common values. Equally much, however, depends upon the choices each partner chooses ...
Views: 1818(2 votes) - Is Your Relationship in Danger? Take This 10 Question Quiz to Find Out - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2009 from Jonathan HuieYou have the occasional argument. Sometimes you feel frustrated, and you have that uneasy sense that everything is not as it should be. Is your relationship in trouble? The answer may not be obvious. Take this quiz to measure the overall state of your relationship and highlight the trouble ...
Views: 1357(2 votes) - What to Do When Your Whole World is Falling Apart? 6 Support Ideas to Give You Back Your Life - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2009 from Jonathan HuieWhat if you lost your job, your house burned down, the creditors were closing in, and your marriage had become hellishly confrontational? No, that's not make believe. That's the real life of a real person. How can you maintain a positive outlook under such stress and strain? Six ways to find ...
Views: 1456(2 votes) - How To Be Happy In Life - The 9 Paths To Happiness - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2009 from Jonathan HuieSometimes it appears that life throws more obstacles in our path than we can handle. However, even in the face of the most challenging circumstances, you can make the choice to be happy by following these 9 paths to happiness. 1. Honor Yourself: Remember what the flight attendant says, "Put ...
Views: 1762(2 votes) - A Friend Died Today - 5 Ways To Cope With Loss, Grief and the Fear Of Your Own Mortality - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2009 from Jonathan HuieAs I write this, the house is quiet. My wife and her good friend are attending a funeral. Their long-time mutual friend and fellow artist, who I never met, died suddenly at 62, leaving a husband in chronic ill health. I first became aware that death - for anyone - is never far away when a ...
Views: 1674(2 votes) - Choose Your Habits, Choose Your Life - 5 Secrets For Breaking Your Bad Habits - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2009 from Jonathan HuieBy nature, we are all creatures of habit. We instinctively adopt familiar routines for most activities. We eat about the same number of meals each day - at more or less the same times. We have a regular pattern of sleeping - unless it is perturbed by illness or shift work. Most everything we ...
Views: 1474(2 votes) - Beyond the Grief of Divorce - 7 Steps Toward New Beginnings - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2009 from Jonathan HuieIf you have been divorced, you know it hurts - especially if your marriage had lasted many years. Whatever the circumstances of your relationship, and whatever the nature of its ending, there is always grief and regret - perhaps regret over the ending or perhaps regret over not ending the ...
Views: 2057(2 votes) - Never Let Anyone Get Your Goat - 6 Ways to Cope - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2009 from Jonathan HuieStay Happy, never let anyone get your goat Whether phrased as "push your buttons," "get your goat," "get you riled up," or "annoy you," it's no fun to be on the receiving end. How to cope? 1. Don't take it personally. Even when someone criticizes your actions or demeans your very nature, know ...
Views: 3012(2 votes) - Your Marriage in Trouble - Is a Trial Separation the Way to Go? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2009 from Jonathan HuieYour relationship has gotten so bad that you are talking about divorce - when you are talking at all. Should you consider a trial separation? Why and why not. A trial separation is a huge step to take - an acknowledgement that your marriage is on the brink of collapse - a public statement of ...
Views: 15676(2 votes) - Who Leads the Happier Life, the Cynic or the Believer? A Look at Both Perspectives - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2009 from Jonathan HuieFirst, let's define both "Cynic" and "Believer," as both words are more likely to provoke emotional reaction than thoughtful analysis. When I use the term Cynic, I simply mean someone who holds the opinion that people are motivated wholly by self-interest. Do not confuse the factual definition ...
Views: 2043(2 votes) - Where There is Love, Nothing is Missing - A Parable - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2009 from Jonathan HuieThe businessman looked around the vacation villa in Puerto Vallarta. Plain, but clean and well furnished. A good place to grab a few days away from his failing business and troubled marriage. He had brought a large supply of sleeping pills and had requested several bottles of ...
Views: 1604(2 votes) - You are Never Too Old to Give or Get Gold Stars - Five Ways to Show Honest Appreciation - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2009 from Jonathan HuieWhen I was very young, my mother gave me gold stars whenever I did something she liked. Usually they were small gold foil shapes with sticky backs, but Mother also saved some really big ones - three inches across - for extra-special accomplishments. Together with Mother's love, those stars ...
Views: 1498(2 votes) - Joy is a Choice - but Not an Easy Choice - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2008 from Jonathan HuieOf course you want to be happy, but life is hard. Your job's a pain, your family nags, and sometimes your body hurts, so how can a Joyful Life be a choice? It isn't an easy choice, but Joy IS a choice that you can make. Some choices are easy, because clearly defined alternatives are available. ...
Views: 2019(2 votes) - Less Stress - More Joy - Making Healthy Choices - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2008 from Jonathan HuieStress is to your emotional health as junk food is to your physical health. You need a certain amount of food to sustain your life, but overeating and eating the wrong foods are unhealthy and sometimes dangerous. As you need food to live, you also need a certain amount of emotional stimulation, ...
Views: 1547(2 votes) - Stop Anger Before It Stops You: 7 Secrets - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2008 from Jonathan HuieBeing angry is as close as a human being can come to experiencing hell on earth. - jlh Anger is something that each one of us has experienced - some of us only occasionally, some almost daily. Can we eliminate all anger? Probably not. We will always have expectations, and those expectations ...
Views: 1620(2 votes) - The "Spousal We" and 6 Other Ways to Leave Your Lover - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2008 from Jonathan HuieYou really want to end your relationship, but you don't have the courage to say so directly. What to do? Here is a tongue-in-cheek list of ways to force your partner to make the break first. 1. Use the "Spousal We": "We need to remember to take out the garbage." ...
Views: 1330(2 votes) - Stop Anger Before it Stops You - 7 Secrets - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2008 from Jonathan HuieBeing angry is as close as a human being can come to experiencing hell on earth. - jlh Anger is something that each one of us has experienced - some of us only occasionally, some almost daily. Can we eliminate all anger? Probably not. We will always have expectations, ...
Views: 1440(2 votes) - How to Know When "Mister Right" is Mister Wrong - 7 Keys to a Great Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2008 from Jonathan HuieYou are in love. Your hormones are surging, so you know this must be "the one." Besides, you are lonely and you want someone to hold you and make you feel cherished - now. "Mister Right" is saying all the things you want to hear. He says he adores you and ...
Views: 1326(2 votes) - 7 Secrets for a Happy Life - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2008 from Jonathan HuieWe all want to be happy, but something always gets in the way. There is never enough time... or money. Somebody is always failing to do what they are "supposed" to do... or not do. Our boss, our spouse, our kids, our parents, our friends, government, big business, whoever... "They" aren't doing ...
Views: 16901(3 votes) - Overwhelmed By Abundance - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2008 from Jonathan HuieMae West - known for her wit and double entendre - said "too much of a good thing can be wonderful," but for the rest of us, "too much of a good thing" tends to be a confusing situation. It’s Autumn and the ground beneath our apple tree sports an abundance of fallen apples. The deer, ...
Views: 1872(2 votes) - Even Cathedrals Need Toilets - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2008 from Jonathan HuieThe human spirit ranges across a truly amazing diversity of experiences and emotions - the highest peaks and the lowest valleys. Even cathedrals need toilets. - jlh One minute we merge in awe with the compassionate creative universal force,and the next minute the cramping in our intestines ...
Views: 1553(2 votes) - Living The Unconcerned Life - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2008 from Jonathan Huie“Unconcerned” doesn’t sound so great at first. “Living the Unconcerned Life” may seem that we are advocating living unconsciously - without attention, thought, or compassion. Shouldn’t we want to be “concerned” about the affairs of our lives and ...
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