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- Emotionally Needy Friends: Where Do You Draw the Line? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2012 from Randi FineFriendship is one of life’s greatest gifts. It is a fulfilling relationship that is shared by two people who care about each other, trust each other, and want only the best for each other. A good friendship is honest, loyal, and truthful; good friends understand and accept each other in ways no ...
Views: 18895 - Does Goodness Always Prevail? - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Randi FineMany of the morals and principles that we live by throughout our life were ingrained in us by our parents when we were young. Among other things, parents are largely responsible for building the character of their children. They are our role models. Children are sponges—they absorb all that ...
Views: 4886(1 vote) - Karma: The Cause and Effect of our Actions - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2012 from Randi FineThe word Karma is new age and trendy. We see it used on food products, bath and body products, on business names, as titles of songs, etc. But how many of us really know what it means? Karma is often thought of as reciprocal punishment, with the same connotation as, “An eye for an eye.” ...
Views: 4847 - Relationship Codependency: Everything You Need to Know - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2011 from Randi FineExcerpted from the April 21,2011 episode of my radio show, A Fine Time for Healing Roughly 100 million Americans suffer the effects of codependency today. Relationship codependency is often referred to as the “White Knight” syndrome, because the codependent tends to be a rescuer. ...
Views: 4557(1 vote) - Twenty Questions Identify Narcissistic Parental Triangulation Among Siblings - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineHave You and Your Siblings Been the Target of Narcissistic Parental Triangulation? To find out if your narcissistic parent has used triangulation to divide you and your siblings, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions: Is there one sibling in your family who is your ...
Views: 3812 - Narcissistic Parent and Enabling Parent - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineIs One Parent a Narcissist and the Other an Enabler? To find out if you have a narcissistic parent and a parent who enables him or her, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions: Did you grow up in a two parent home with one parent significantly more domineering than ...
Views: 3329 - You Are the Creator of Your Own Life Story - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Randi FineDaily OM When you remember that you are the author of your own life story, you are free to create a masterpiece. We all have our own life story. It is filled with relationships and events that help shape who we are and what we believe to be true about the world. Depending on our ...
Views: 3299(2 votes) - Knowing What Our Future Holds - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Randi FineWhat is the destiny that awaits each of us? Do we really want to know? All of us want to look forward to the prospect of a life that’s new and exciting. When we’re hurting, we want to know when there will be a brighter day. We all want to believe in a future that is better than the life ...
Views: 2926(1 vote) - Picking Up Good Vibrations - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Randi FineThe attraction we have to other people is often felt immediately upon meeting them. Think about the people you know or have met in your life who seem to naturally draw people to them with an unexplainable magnetism. These people give off a vibe that makes us feel, comfortable, happy, and ...
Views: 2641(3 votes) - Spirituality: The True Essence of Our Being - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Randi FineThe word spirituality is often interchanged with the words faith and religion. Though they are interrelated, the terms have very different meanings. This article will specifically focus on what it means to embrace spirituality, and the many positive attributes of living a life that is ...
Views: 2627 - Living Life to the Fullest - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2011 from Randi FineThe most difficult people in our lives end up being our greatest teachers. The hurdles they place before us and the challenges they present to us are only lessons that we must learn for our greater good. Think of the oyster…without the irritating grain of sand there would be no pearl. ~ ...
Views: 2471(3 votes) - Connecting With Loved Ones Who Have Passed - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Randi FineAs I stated in my January 16th article, “Is There Life After Life,” for many years I’ve had a curiosity about the infinitive properties of life. This curiosity has lead me to fill my personal library with books written by noted, and in some cases scientifically tested, psychic mediums such as ...
Views: 2450 - Life After Death: Where Do We Go From Here? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2011 from Randi FinePartial transcript from 9/12/11 episode of my radio show, A Fine Time for Healing Death is one of the greatest mysteries of life. Haven’t we all thought about what happens to us after we die. Every religion claims to have the answer, but all the answers differ. There are many points of ...
Views: 2403 - Embracing Life Transitions - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2015 from Randi FineTranscript from 6/14/12 blog talk radio show A Fine Time for Healing, Transitions in Life Transitions in Life Written by Randi G. Fine Life is a series of beginnings and endings. Seasons change; trees blossom and then go barren, flowers bloom and then go dormant, day turns to night, years ...
Views: 2297 - Forgive or Not Forgive Narcissistic Abuser - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineShould Narcissistic Abusers Be Held Accountable for Their Actions? Excerpt from January 7, 2014 show on A Fine Time for Healing, Whether to Forgive or Not Forgive the Narcissistic Abuse Many recovering victims of narcissistic abuse struggle with the dilemma of whether or not to hold the ...
Views: 2292 - Adult Children of Narcissistic Abuse - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2016 from Randi FineA Preview From Randi G. Fine’s Upcoming Book Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: Surviving Pathological Narcissistic Abuse This is copyrighted material. It may not be reprinted, or used in whole or part by anyone other than the author. As an Adult Child of Narcissistic Abuse you can learn ...
Views: 2237 - Shine Your Spiritual Light to Overpower the Darkness of Others - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2011 from Randi FineAs I discuss many times in my memoir, Fine…ly, I’ve been a creep-magnet far too often in my life. I share a lot of stories in regard to this odd phenomenon in my book, but I couldn’t possibly share them all or my book would have lost its focus. There have been several instances of people ...
Views: 2218(1 vote) - Personal Bill of Rights - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Randi Fine1. I have numerous choices in my life beyond mere survival. 2. I have a right to discover and know my Child Within. 3. I have a right to grieve over what I didn’t get that I needed or what I got that I didn’t need or want. 4. I have a right to follow my own values and standards. 5. I ...
Views: 2207(2 votes) - Narcissistic Triangulation Sabotages Sibling Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineNarcissistic Parents Divide Their Children Through Triangulation Conflict is a normal part of family dynamics. The fact that a family argues from time to time does not make it a dysfunctional family unit. What makes a family dysfunctional is the emotional pain and confusion that prevails ...
Views: 2199 - Letting Go: Releasing the Pain that Holds You Captive - by Submitted on May 31, 2011 from Randi FineTranscript from May 19, 2011 Blog Talk-Radio Show, A Fine Time for Healing http://www.blogtalkradio.com/randi-fine We have, or will all experience shattering times or violations in our lives that wound us deeply. To quote Thomas Chandler Haliburton, “The memory of past favors is like a ...
Views: 2193(1 vote) - What is Our Purpose in Life - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2011 from Randi FineDo you remember being a child and asking your teacher or parent why you had to learn something that you'd never use in life? A child's world is small; their limited perspective is based on the quality of love they receive, what their senses tell them, and what they have experienced in their ...
Views: 2092(2 votes) - Is My Abuser a Narcissist Psychopath or Sociopath - by Submitted on May 19, 2016 from Randi FineNarcissist, Psychopath or Sociopath? Excerpt from Randi Fine's Upcoming Groundbreaking New Book, Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivors Guide to Healing There is a great deal of false information on the internet about narcissistic personality disorder and its ...
Views: 2002(1 vote) - The Narcissistic Mothers Accomplice - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineWhen Children Don’t Stand a Chance Narcissistic mothers do not have children for the right reasons. They are not nurturers. They have no maternal instincts or genuine love to give. To the narcissistic mother, children represent a captive narcissistic supply. Because a young child’s very ...
Views: 1992 - Nothing Personal - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Randi Fine“Whatever you think, whatever you feel, I know is your problem and not my problem. It is the way you see the world. It is nothing personal, because you are dealing with yourself, not with me.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements. Why do most of us find it so difficult in the face of an ...
Views: 1978(1 vote) - Have You Ever Asked, “Why Don’t Others Ever Appreciate What I Do For Them?” - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Randi FineMany of us do not understand the importance of having emotional “boundaries” in our interpersonal relationships. Many of us do not even understand what the term “boundaries” means in that context. And many of us do not even know whether the emotional boundaries in our life are healthy or not. ...
Views: 1943(1 vote) - Everything Will Be Okay - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2011 from Randi FineThe angels are always near to those who are grieving, to whisper to them that their loved ones are safe in the hand of God. ~ Quoted in The Angels’ Little Instruction Book by Eileen Elias Freeman, 1994 In 2004 my husband was in the market for a mid-seventies Corvette or Trans Am to add to his ...
Views: 1936(1 vote) - Love Is As Love Does - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Randi FineThe desire to love is not itself love. Love is as love does. ~ M. Scott Peck, M.D. Love is often characterized by the overwhelming feeling that is commonly associated with it. We have all experienced the giddy feeling of falling in love, a feeling that eventually fades and gets replaced by ...
Views: 1927(2 votes) - Thanksgiving: A Time to Be Grateful - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2011 from Randi FineWith the Thanksgiving holiday approaching, I find myself reflecting on all I have to be grateful for; I have much to acknowledge. Each day I open my eyes to the morning light, look out into my lovely bedroom, and am reminded of how far I have come in life. There was a time when I didn’t have ...
Views: 1871(1 vote) - Forgiveness Means Letting Go of the Past - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Randi Fine“Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.” ~ Mark Twain We are all likely to be wronged by others more than a few times in the course of our lifetime. Living in this imperfect world we will surely find ourselves faced with the dilemma of ...
Views: 1849(1 vote) - Therapy is Best When Self Help and Mind Over Matter Techniques Fail - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2011 from Randi FineSelf-improvement advice on virtually any topic that interests us, written from endless points of views, is right at our fingertips. Most of the articles I write are of this genre, often with a New Age slant. Websites like SelfGrowth.com and Curezone.com are entirely devoted to this topic. A ...
Views: 1833(1 vote) - Broken Sons of Narcissistic Mothers - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Randi FineSons of a Narcissistic Mothers Randi G. Fine, Author From the book Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivor’s Guide to Healing and Recovery © 2017 The experience I have with sons of narcissistic mothers was gained through my counseling work with them. I can assure ...
Views: 1774 - "A Fine Time for Healing: A Sanctuary for Your Emotional Wellbeing" Hosted by Randi Fine on Blog Talk Radio - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2012 from Randi Fine"A Fine Time for Healing" is a Blog Talk Radio podcasted half hour sanctuary for your emotional wellbeing. Show host and author of Fine...ly, Randi G. Fine, discusses life-skill topics that heal and enhance our life experience. Tune in for informative, inspiring, uplifting, and empowering tips ...
Views: 1771(1 vote) - Twenty Questions Identify Codependency Issues - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineIs Codependency a Problem in Your Life and in Your Relationships? Take the Quiz To find out if codependency is a problem in your life, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions: Do you put others’ feelings, desires and needs before your own? Are you drawn to ...
Views: 1770(1 vote) - Narcissistic Pride Trumps Personal Health and Safety - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineNarcissists Need to Show Perfection to the World, At Any Cost There is an elderly woman I know (whom I will not name) whose narcissism is so severe that it is physically destroying her. This woman has been suffering from a painful auto-immune disease for thirty-five years. Progressively ...
Views: 1764 - Ten Tips Prevent Narcissistic Re-victimization - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2019 from Randi FineTen Ways to Prevent Narcissistic Re-victimization One of the greatest fears of those in recovery from narcissistic abuse is re-victimization. People feel powerless against the covert mind control used by narcissists to trap unknowing victims. Knowledge is power. Awareness is protection. ...
Views: 1750(1 vote) - Is Narcissistic Personality Disorder the same as Narcissism? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineNarcissism is an instinctive trait of self-love that everyone possesses to some degree. In infancy we all possess traits of narcissism that are appropriate for that level of development such as self-absorption, omnipotence and grandiosity. However, these same characteristic are seen as ...
Views: 1704 - The Memoir Whisperer: Voices From Beyond - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Randi FineOne would think that by the time we reach our fifties, our abilities and hidden talents would have already become apparent. Well that may be true for many, but it wasn’t true in my case. What is odd is that before it happened to me, I had always looked upon the talent that suddenly sprung from ...
Views: 1659 - When Our Heart Compels Us To Make Difficult Choices - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Randi FineIt isn’t always easy to do something that we feel in our heart is the right thing to do. Often we find that a difficult decision we felt compelled to act upon is unpopular and met with judgment, hostility, and reprimanding by those who are not even personally affected by our actions. Those ...
Views: 1632(1 vote) - Having Faith In An Uncertain World - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Randi FineThere are many times in life when we find ourselves walking in the dark--faithfully moving forward but unsure of where we are heading or what obstacles we will bump or stumble on along the way. The only way to navigate through the uncertainty of life is to have faith in something greater ...
Views: 1610 - Healing the Emotional Pain of a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2011 from Randi FineAn excerpt from upcoming 8/25/11 blog radio talk show "A Fine Time for Healing" If you’ve ever been in love, chances are that you have suffered the devastating feelings of at least one relationship break up. Immediately following the death of a love relationship, your heart is shattered. ...
Views: 1582 - Laugh at Yourself, Laugh at Life - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Randi Fine"Among those whom I like or admire, I can find no common denominator, but among those whom I love, I can; all of them make me laugh" ~ W. H. Auden A few days ago I went to visit my ex-mother-in-law, along with my daughter Cammy (her granddaughter) who was in town for the weekend. I usually ...
Views: 1565 - Staying True to Your Inner Voice - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineAlways Remain True to Yourself We each have subtle senses; intuitions, gut feelings, little voices inside our heads that guide our judgment. We do not need to elicit our intuition every time we have a decision to make. Many of our decisions are determined by conscious thought, prior ...
Views: 1540(1 vote) - Success Means Fulfilling Our Life Purpose (Previously: Measuring Our Personal Success) - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2011 from Randi FineWe all live in a material world and each of us has material needs and desires. I have to admit, I do enjoy having my physical comforts and a sprinkling of luxuries, though I wouldn’t call myself largely indulgent. I believe that in our fast-paced, money driven world many of us have forgotten ...
Views: 1536(1 vote) - How to Get What You Want - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2011 from Randi FineExcerpted from 5/31/11 Blog Radio Talk Show A Fine Time for Healing http://www.blogtalkradio/randi-fine , "How to Attract What You Want in Life: Gratitude and Abundance" We cannot possibly realize the immense power that comes from our thoughts. What we focus on grows…that is the law of the ...
Views: 1528(2 votes) - There Is No I In The Word Parent - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Randi FineChild Abuse, Children, Faith, Family, God, Happy, Health and Wellness, Hope, Inspiration, Love, Motivation, Parenting, Relationship, Spiritual, Spirituality, Success, Thoughts, Words, Writing There is No “I” in the Word Parent In Family, From The Writers Desk, Gratefulness, Healing, Inner ...
Views: 1523(2 votes) - Empathy Connects Us To The Heart Of Others - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineWhere Has Our Ability to Empathize Gone? Excerpted from August 2, 2012 show on A Fine Time for Healing, Is Our Ability to Empathize Eroding? Empathy is the ability to emotionally put oneself into someone else’s shoes—the capacity to share and understand the feelings, emotions, and ...
Views: 1521 - Adult NPD Survivors Defenseless Against Ignorant Judgment - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineAdult NPD Survivors Further Assaulted By Ignoramuses When people hear that I have chosen to have no contact with my highly toxic, aged mother and father they always tell me how sorry they feel for my parents. I can only assume that in me they see a happy, well-adjusted adult woman and must ...
Views: 1518 - Synchronicity: Recognizing the Stream of Consciousness Through Which Life Flows - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Randi Fine“Coincidences are spiritual puns”~ G.K. Chesterton We’ve all heard the common mantra, “There are no coincidences.” Whether believer or skeptic, we have all experienced these fascinating and seemingly random occurrences in life that seem too improbable to be chalked up to just chance. Often ...
Views: 1510(1 vote) - Letting Go of Your Past Emotions Assessment - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineWhat is Your Emotional Awareness About Your Past? Identifying Unexpressed Emotion To find out if you are having trouble letting go of the past, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions: Do you have painful childhood memories that you have yet to deal with? Do you ...
Views: 1483 - Is There Life After Life? - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Randi FineI really can’t say where the fascination began, all I know is that for many years I’ve had an insatiable thirst for knowledge about the “Afterlife.” It is not a morbid preoccupation with death but rather a spiritual curiosity about the infinitive properties of life. It is said that only the ...
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