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- How to Fix A Struggling Marriage – Step #1 - by Submitted on May 15, 2017 from Nicola BeerNatalie had lost herself in her marriage. She was constantly running errands for her children, husband and checking in on both sets of parents, that she had neglected her own needs. By her own admission, she was far too busy and stressed to enjoy life. David her husband was also stressed, ...
Views: 1324 - How to get over a cheating husband/wife and save the marriage - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2017 from Nicola BeerAnne (name changed) emailed me after she discovered her husband had been having an affair. She was deeply hurt and angry at his betrayal. But she didn’t want to leave him and break up the family. They have two beautiful girls who dote on them both, plus the fact that deep down she still loved ...
Views: 1493 - How to Heal From An Affair – Surviving Infidelity - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2017 from Nicola BeerNothing is more painful and crushing than finding out the partner you promised to have and hold forever has cheated and lied to you. It can ton feel like your whole world has come crashing down like a ton of bricks. Feelings of anger, fear and hurt can flood your system. Along with the ...
Views: 1711 - How To Restore Intimacy & Connection in a Struggling Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2017 from Nicola BeerWhy do couples struggle to stay intimate? This is a question that baffled me when I started working in this field. Many women would say to me “what do I do when the feelings in a marriage are gone?” or men I work with to save their marriage would share “when a marriage is over to one person can ...
Views: 1696 - How to Restore Respect in a Relationship – Overcome Marriage Problems - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2017 from Nicola BeerLack of respect is one of the key reasons many couples get divorced. It is one of the major marriage problem signs. It destroys love, connection and intimacy. Many individuals and couples that join my online save my marriage program, share that respect has been missing or lost in their ...
Views: 2446 - How to Stop Defensive Behavior & Save Your Marriage - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2017 from Nicola BeerWhen we feel that we have been wrongly accused of something a common reaction is to put up our defences so our partner will back down. But all this succeeds to achieve is to make our husband/wife feel that we are not taking them seriously. Where the real underlying issues in a marriage don’t ...
Views: 1555 - How to Stop Disagreements From Escalating in Your Marriage – Relationship Advice - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2017 from Nicola BeerWhen couples begin my private online 1-to1 or group coaching packages, one of the first things they say to me is they have a problem with their communication. I often hear the following: “We can’t communicate” “They don’t listen” “Everything ends up in a row.” “We sometimes don’t ...
Views: 1255 - How to STOP the Same Arguments Resurfacing and Become Closer - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2017 from Nicola BeerAre you exhausted of the same topics, issues or arguments resurfacing time and time again in your relationship? Are you sick and tired of the emotional relationship rollercoaster you find yourself on? If you have tried speaking to your spouse (or even tried marriage counselling) and nothing ...
Views: 1558 - How To Support a Partner Struggling with Symptoms of Depression – Relationship Advice - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2017 from Nicola BeerWhen one spouse is depressed, a marriage is depressed. As depression often erodes emotional and sexual intimacy. It also floods the relationship with negativity that can cause resentment, anger and isolation. Even the happiest, strongest spouse may get pulled into the depressions strong ...
Views: 1234 - Husband or Wife Not Affectionate – How to Deal with a Lack of Affection in Your Relationship! - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2017 from Nicola BeerTips on How To Save An Affection-Starved Marriage and Keep Your Relationship Happy Affection can be one of the first things to go after children are born or when a marriage is in trouble. BUT it doesn’t have to mean something serious and it can be naturally restored as I will go on to ...
Views: 2614 - Infidelity - 4 Steps To Affair Proof Your Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Nicola BeerWhen it comes to infidelity and after the affair recovery in couple therapy, here are the top 3 common questions I often get asked: Is it possible to avoid affairs and affair-proof your marriage? Are there ways to ruin my cheating husband's / wife's affair and show them what they have with ...
Views: 1225 - Infidelity - How to Help your spouse Heal from Your affair - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Nicola Beer* If you’ve had an affair, are regretful and desperate to save your marriage, don't let another mistake-ridden day go by without reading these tips. * If you are the betrayed spouse and your cheating partner is unintentionally hurting you in his/her attempts to make you feel better, put this ...
Views: 2133 - Intimacy Differences – Low Desire V’s High Desire Partners in Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2017 from Nicola BeerDifferences are an inevitable fact in any relationship. One very common difference is the difference in sexual desire. Low sexual desire or “low libido” as it is often called is actually very common for many men and women. They estimate about 40% of women will experience this and 17% of men ...
Views: 1609 - Is Alcohol Ruining Your Relationship? Tips to Tackle It… - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2017 from Nicola BeerHaving worked with 1000’s of couples now either 1 to 1 or in my online empowered love program, conflicts over drinking are common. Nothing is more difficult or heart-breaking than being married to someone who changes personality and is horrible when they are drunk. Katy met Steve (her now ...
Views: 1274 - Is Guilt a Reason to Stay in a Relationship? Marriage Advice - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2017 from Nicola BeerLast week a lady I’m supporting in the in the US said: “Nicola, I want out of this marriage but I feel too guilty to leave.” Many men have shared the same with me. Staying in a relationship because of guilt alone can be a miserable way to live. If this is really all that is keeping a couple and ...
Views: 1586 - Is it okay to snoop on your partner’s phone? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2017 from Nicola BeerSnooping comes up time and time again in my work with couples from all over the world online. Arguments over discoveries after snooping on phones are frequent. This has included 1. Facebook messages to ex’s, 2. Whats app messages sharing intimate details or marriage complaints to friends, ...
Views: 1584 - Is Love Enough? 3 Truths about Romantic LOVE… - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2017 from Nicola BeerI hear people say all the time… I love my husband/wife but I’m not “In Love” with him/her. I’m just not sure if I love them anymore. I love them but he/she said I don’t love you anymore, is my love enough? These kinds of statements can be extremely confusing not to mention painful ...
Views: 1353 - Is Resentment Harming Your Relationship? FREE Gift to Release It Now - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2017 from Nicola BeerWarning: This Gift Might Be The Best Relationship Gift You'll Ever Get Whether you are married, dating or divorced resentment will affect you and your relationship current or future if you do not release it. What is Resentment? Resentment is a sense of unfairness - that you are not ...
Views: 1256 - Marriage Counselling Tip - How to Avoid Angry Silence & Outbursts in Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Nicola BeerAnger is a normal, healthy emotion, it’s perfectly healthy to feel angry when you’ve been mistreated or wronged by someone you love, but when it becomes consistent or explosive anger or spirals out of control, it can have serious consequences for your marriage, your health, and your state of ...
Views: 1514 - My Husband / Wife Won’t Go To Marriage Counselling… What Do I Do? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2017 from Nicola Beer“Nicola, My husband won’t go to marriage counselling, I’m desperately unhappy what shall I do?” “My wife refuses to speak to anyone, she says we are beyond help, it’s too late. Shall I give up?” These are statements I hear time and time again, and to be honest I don’t blame a husband or ...
Views: 1674 - Porn Addiction, What To Do If It Is Affecting You and Your Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2017 from Nicola BeerThis is a topic no-one talks or writes about yet it is really common and the number is rising. Why? Well for one is has become accessible to almost everyone. If you think about it nearly everyone has a mobile phone and most people have a lap top or tablet on top. Statistics show our addiction to ...
Views: 1854 - Rebuilding After Affairs - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Nicola BeerSince working with individuals over the years to heal from infidelity and marriages with multiple wives, I have learnt what successful re-builders do compared to those unsuccessful in repairing their relationships after affairs. Whilst there is no denying that affairs can destroy love, ...
Views: 1371 - Rebuilding After Affairs - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Nicola BeerSince working with individuals over the years to heal from infidelity and marriages with multiple wives, I have learnt what successful re-builders do compared to those unsuccessful in repairing their relationships after affairs. Whilst there is no denying that affairs can destroy love, ...
Views: 1734 - See it, Smell it, Taste it! How to Create the Perfect Holiday - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2016 from Nicola BeerEvery year in December, magazines cover the same old story, how to survive the holidays. Every year they generally say the same thing; keep it simple, have a plan, be HoEvery year in December, magazines cover the same old story, how to survive the holidays. Every year they generally say the ...
Views: 1267 - Sick & Tired of Doing Everything in Your Relationship? STOP! This is the Secret to Happiness… - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2017 from Nicola BeerDoes it feel like everything is up to you to make the relationship work? Does everything seem one-sided right now? Do you feel you are the only one taking care of the important stuff? If yes that’s totally natural Relationships are like a seesaw The more one person does something, ...
Views: 3509 - Staying Connected - 12 Tips To Successful Long Distance Parenting - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Nicola BeerStaying Connected To Children When Living Apart - 12 Tips for Successful Long Distance Parenting Of all the challenges, change and stress divorce brings, long distance parenting is one of the most painful and difficult to face. And yet, it is a very real experience for countless numbers of ...
Views: 2324 - To Stay or Leave a Struggling Marriage? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2017 from Nicola BeerToday we live in an age that promotes self-awareness BUT when it comes to relationships, it fails to show us how to use our self-awareness to arrive at good decisions. Most of the advice we get makes our problems even worse. There are literally millions of men and women ambivalent about ...
Views: 1640 - Who Wears the Pants in Your Relationship? Marriage Problems -5 Signs of Controlling Behaviour - by Submitted on May 23, 2017 from Nicola BeerWe all know the saying ‘Who wears the pants in your relationship’ but have you ever taken a step back and really thought about it? Who wears the pants in your relationship? Do you both wear them, or does one of you predominantly wear the pants and control the relationship? Either way, a healthy ...
Views: 1350 - Why Marriage Counselling Can Fail & What to Avoid - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2017 from Nicola Beer” 75% of people say they’re Worse off or Even Divorced after Marriage Counseling! Don’t Let That Happen To You! Today I got an email from a couple who I was working with this month to strengthen their relationship. With their permission, they have let me share their story in order to help ...
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