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- See it, Smell it, Taste it! How to Create the Perfect Holiday - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2016 from Nicola BeerEvery year in December, magazines cover the same old story, how to survive the holidays. Every year they generally say the same thing; keep it simple, have a plan, be HoEvery year in December, magazines cover the same old story, how to survive the holidays. Every year they generally say the ...
Views: 1267 - Tips to Getting Through Rough Patches in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2016 from Nicola BeerOne of the biggest issues that couples face is that after the first few blissful months or years together we begin to see our partner’s flaws, the things we don’t like and the things that upset us and annoy us. When we initially fall in love it is with the feeling it gives us. We feel on top of ...
Views: 1378 - Remember Michael Jackson's Hit Man in the Mirror? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2016 from Nicola BeerCHANGE YOUR WAYS TO CHANGE YOUR RELATIONSHIP If there were any lyrics that best describes today’s message it would be from Michael Jackson’s 1987 hit song ‘Man in the Mirror’ “I’m starting with the man in the mirror. I’m asking him to change his ways and no message could have been any clearer ...
Views: 1365(1 vote) - Did I Marry the Wrong Person? Marriage Problems & Marriage Advice - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2016 from Nicola BeerWhen people get to the stage of seeking help for the dissatisfaction or conflict in their marriage, they often wonder “Did I marry the wrong person?” or “Did I marry right or well?” These are common thoughts many share with me that they struggle with. So, how do you know if you have? Is there ...
Views: 1464(1 vote) - If You Think an Ultimatum is Your Only Option… Think Again! Marriage Advice - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2016 from Nicola BeerAre you sick and tired of your spouse’s behaviour? Do you have no more to give? Are you at the end of your tether? Do you think an ultimatum is your only way out? We hear people giving ultimatums every day. “If you don’t stop doing X then Y will be the consequence.” However, more often than ...
Views: 1533(2 votes) - Relationship Advice - How to Keep Marital Satisfaction High After Children - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2016 from Nicola BeerThe effects of having a child are immeasurable. Whilst most parents say the greatest moment and thing in their life was the birth of their son or daughter. The effect that having a child can have on your marriage is immense. Marital dissatisfaction can ensue after having a child and it can ...
Views: 1232(2 votes) - Are you Spending Enough Time Together? Relationship Counseling Advice - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2016 from Nicola BeerTime can be a big source of conflict in relationships. When you get married “your time” also becomes “their time” and if you have children then you need to also schedule in “family time” and time for family chores. Many couples I speak to are feeling so busy and stressed by feeling pulled ...
Views: 3972(1 vote) - Infidelity - How to Help your spouse Heal from Your affair - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Nicola Beer* If you’ve had an affair, are regretful and desperate to save your marriage, don't let another mistake-ridden day go by without reading these tips. * If you are the betrayed spouse and your cheating partner is unintentionally hurting you in his/her attempts to make you feel better, put this ...
Views: 2133 - How to Change the 5 Negative Thought Patterns that Lead to Divorce... and Transform Your Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Nicola BeerAfter the honeymoon period in a relationship is over, and our partner raises complaints about us, or does things we don't agree with or is somehow absent, we often start to make or draw slightly negative conclusions about them or the relationship. Typically it starts off as a thought one day, ...
Views: 1647 - Couples Therapy - How to Deal with Your Spouses Annoying Habits - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Nicola BeerWhat are your spouse's most annoying habits? Is it the way they talk, eat, sit, clean up or snore when they sleep? Do they perhaps hum an annoying tune or crack their knuckles? And when was the last time they did something that irritated you? Last week? Yesterday? An hour ago? One of the most ...
Views: 1639 - Marriage Counselling Tip - How to Avoid Angry Silence & Outbursts in Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Nicola BeerAnger is a normal, healthy emotion, it’s perfectly healthy to feel angry when you’ve been mistreated or wronged by someone you love, but when it becomes consistent or explosive anger or spirals out of control, it can have serious consequences for your marriage, your health, and your state of ...
Views: 1514 - 7 Ways To Stop Work Stress From Ruining Your Marriage - Marriage Counseling Advice - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Nicola BeerThere is no doubt that work stress has become an increasing factor in marital dissatisfaction. Today couples work on average a thousand more hours each year than people did thirty years ago. This number tends to increase further in expat cities, as well as if you are an entrepreneur. All the ...
Views: 1471 - Infidelity - 4 Steps To Affair Proof Your Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Nicola BeerWhen it comes to infidelity and after the affair recovery in couple therapy, here are the top 3 common questions I often get asked: Is it possible to avoid affairs and affair-proof your marriage? Are there ways to ruin my cheating husband's / wife's affair and show them what they have with ...
Views: 1225 - 7 Steps to Keep Your Hobbies and Marriage Intact - Save Your Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2016 from Nicola BeerIan and Kim were a couple who came for marriage counseling, as they were constantly fighting over Kim's love of fashion and the financial cost of her shopping sprees, her husband Ian couldn't keep up with it and thought that there were far more important things to be spending money on. Kim felt ...
Views: 1809 - Couple Therapy - 5 Secrets to Protecting Yourself From Your Spouses Negativity - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2016 from Nicola Beer"Nicola, my husband is chronically complaining and forever in a bad mood. He manages to find something wrong with everything and is constantly feeling hard done by and down. I don’t know how to help him or live with him at times! I don’t want him to ruin the holidays for me and the children ...
Views: 1314 - Helping Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Nicola BeerMost unfaithful partners underestimate the damage and fallout after infidelity. Many claim that they didn’t think of the consequences and often, when faced with losing what they have, panic. This panic can lead them to make further mistakes in their attempts to help their injured partner. If ...
Views: 1813(1 vote) - Rebuilding After Affairs - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Nicola BeerSince working with individuals over the years to heal from infidelity and marriages with multiple wives, I have learnt what successful re-builders do compared to those unsuccessful in repairing their relationships after affairs. Whilst there is no denying that affairs can destroy love, ...
Views: 1734 - Rebuilding After Affairs - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Nicola BeerSince working with individuals over the years to heal from infidelity and marriages with multiple wives, I have learnt what successful re-builders do compared to those unsuccessful in repairing their relationships after affairs. Whilst there is no denying that affairs can destroy love, ...
Views: 1371 - Rebuilding After Affairs - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Nicola BeerSince working with individuals over the years to heal from infidelity and marriages with multiple wives, I have learnt what successful re-builders do compared to those unsuccessful in repairing their relationships after affairs. Whilst there is no denying that affairs can destroy love, ...
Views: 1348(1 vote) - Staying Connected - 12 Tips To Successful Long Distance Parenting - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Nicola BeerStaying Connected To Children When Living Apart - 12 Tips for Successful Long Distance Parenting Of all the challenges, change and stress divorce brings, long distance parenting is one of the most painful and difficult to face. And yet, it is a very real experience for countless numbers of ...
Views: 2324 - Do You Have A Shared Meaning For Your Marriage? Happy Marriages Do! - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Nicola Beer“Marriage isn’t just about raising kids, splitting chores, and making love. It can also have a spiritual dimension that has to do with creating an inner life together — a culture rich with rituals, and an appreciation for your roles and goals that link you..." according to Gottmans 40 years of ...
Views: 1564 - Do You Have A Shared Meaning For Your Marriage? Happy Marriages Do! - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Nicola Beer“Marriage isn’t just about raising kids, splitting chores, and making love. It can also have a spiritual dimension that has to do with creating an inner life together — a culture rich with rituals, and an appreciation for your roles and goals that link you..." according to Gottmans 40 years of ...
Views: 1435 - 5 Steps to Overcome Divorce & Separation Anxiety - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2015 from Nicola BeerFear of an uncertain future can stop us from doing great things, and it can keep us holding onto things and habits that are hurting us. Today I will share 5 steps to deal with separation and divorce anxiety. I think it is fair to say, that the majority of us from time to time wonder what the ...
Views: 2435(1 vote) - How Not Forgiving Your Partner or Ex, Harms You! - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2015 from Nicola BeerAre you struggling to forgive your ex or current partner for something they did? Are you still carrying a grudge, feel resentment or anger towards them? In all romantic relationships (past and present) there will be times where the one you love will hurt you. It could be something small, ...
Views: 1867 - Feeling Guilty about ending your Marriage? Secret Tips to Let Go of Guilt - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Nicola BeerGuilt is a painful, uncomfortable and often lingering emotion that many individuals I work with suffer from. You will learn about John and Dana’s experience today, and at the end are my 3 secret tips to letting go of guilt. Take John’s case, after many years of endless agonizing and ...
Views: 8238 - Do You Ever Think How Can I Change My Spouse? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Nicola BeerYou wouldn’t believe the amount of husbands and wives that come up to me and say “Nicola, how do I get my Spouse to Change? ”If you are trying to save your marriage by desperately attempting to change your partner to no avail - STOP! Want your partner to exercise more? Stop social media? ...
Views: 990 - Divorced Parents - What Do You Do When Your Child Doesnt Want to See You or Your Ex? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Nicola BeerLet’s face it co-parenting after divorce isn’t easy. Many children of divorce go through a roller-coaster of emotions like their parents do when the family splits. Children may isolate. Have angry outbursts. Refuse to eat. Cry. Say horrible things. Throw tantrums. But what do you do if they ...
Views: 1535 - Grieving the End of the Marriage – 4 Steps to Begin Healing - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Nicola BeerDivorce is a word that we see and hear everywhere. In our daily lives divorce attorneys solicit their services in commercials, billboards, print media and flyers. Television shows and films trivialize divorce as it's cloaked in steamy affairs, romanticized depictions of fragmented families and ...
Views: 3299 - Help! My Spouse is Driving Me Mad – 6 Steps to Deal with Annoying Habits - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Nicola BeerWhat’s are your spouse’s most annoying habits? Is it the way they talk, eat, sit, clean up? Do they perhaps hum an annoying tune or crack their knuckles? When was the last time they did something that irritated you? Last week? Yesterday? An hour ago? One of the most annoying things about ...
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