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- A Pair of Jackasses Beats a Straight Flush - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dr. Neder, I have been reading your column for a while and I never thought that I might need help myself. But lo and behold I am here writing you this letter. I am naturally a cocky, funny asshole beautiful girl which lets me date out of my league and makes men bend over backwards for ...
Views: 812 - Dating on Facebook - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederHello Dr. Neder: This last weekend, I bumped into an old friend that happens to be friends with my ex. She was with another friend with whom I hit it off really well. We all decided to go hang out for a while. She and I flirted quite a bit and we spent the entire evening together. She and I ...
Views: 940 - Sexual Stigma, Labels and Morality - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dr. Neder, How come in the old days women were considered sluts and freaks if they enjoyed having sex or watching porn? How come the girl had to stay a virgin until marriage but no one cared about the guy? Is it because men needed to know their wife was pregnant with their baby and no one ...
Views: 1172 - Going Too Fast, Going Too Slow - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dr. Neder, What's a good way to enter into a sexual relationship so that you don't go too fast or too slow? Sometimes if the guy goes too fast it can be really threatening to the woman (unless she likes it of course.) Hello! This is an excellent question! The key is to not try to ...
Views: 1674(1 vote) - How to Move On - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederHave you been having trouble moving on after breaking up with an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend? This can be very difficult to do! I’m going to show you an incredibly powerful technique to help you get healed quickly and permanently and to move on so that you can find that next great love and ...
Views: 1165 - Avoiding Dating Games - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Dr. Neder: My problem is that I don’t want to play the dating game and I don’t know how to avoid it. I’m not interested in the type of relationship that’s a sort of fragile peace treaty after a war of conquest. When I consider what’s involved in the dating ...
Views: 2872 - Should I Stay or Should I Go? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dr. Neder: My boyfriend and I have only been dating a year and 2 months. I do really care for him and I pray he cares for me as well. Here is my concern, he has hidden things from me before, and I have found out and now I'm getting afraid he is doing it again. He has promised me that he ...
Views: 654 - Compromise to Get Him Back or Bolt? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederDr. Neder: I've been dating a guy for 6 months. We were inseparable we spend loads of time together. We get along fantastic our families love each other. There is one big problem. I had to move back to the town I'm from which is where he lives. I noticed that he didn't want me in his home when ...
Views: 912 - Just Never Satisfied! - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Dr. Neder, I am a 24 year-old med student and cannot find the right woman. I have been told I'm a handsome and outgoing, and my women friends always tell me I'm a catch. I've been involved with a couple women that logically seem like the type I'd like to get involved with, but I never ...
Views: 764 - Will He Marry Me? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Doc: I guess my situation is common but let me ask what you think any way. I am a 42 year old woman that has been dating a 50 year old man for 4 years now, we have been living together for 2 years now and we’re both divorced. When we met I was very clear what I wanted and he seemed ...
Views: 3294 - Sex or More? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHi, There's this guy at work that I've really hit it off with. We've been flirting lots but have also chatted lots and I started falling for him and thought he felt the same. We'd been texting and the other night we'd both been drinking, him out with his mates, me at home. When he got back into ...
Views: 741 - The Bureaucrat And The Girl - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dennis, Five years ago, I hired this bright, good looking employee. She delivered her results well, and soon moved to an assistant manager position through department assessments. All through, I heard of her 'negativity' and 'attitude', from female managers, and felt this may be female ...
Views: 673 - This Guy Is Too Damn Nice! - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dr. Neder: I am 22 and the guy I am writing about is 35. The age difference doesn’t bother me at all but the fact he treats me like a princess does. I have always been attracted to the bad boy type so really I am not sure why I was even attracted to this guy. He is an amazing guy ...
Views: 783 - Seth Rogan – Male Role Model? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederMaybe you’d be surprised at the number of letter I get from women that begin, “I recently met this really cute guy…” and end with “How do I get him to ask me out?” And then again, maybe you wouldn’t; particularly if you’re a woman. It seems that today’s man is all but devoid of basic manly ...
Views: 1171 - Girlfriend Travels With Ex-Boyfriend - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederI am in a serious relationship with this girl, and we are seriously contemplating getting engaged in the future. However, we often get stuck on one issue: her ex-boyfriends. She keeps in touch with several. She has always been very honest with me about them, but it is obvious that she is very ...
Views: 3367 - Many, Many Mixed Signals - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHi, I first met this guy through mutual friends about 2 months ago. The second time we all hung out during 4th of July in which case, he instantly showed me interest and invited me to another party. We flirted heavily and had a good time until 4 am. When we parted he invited me to hang out with ...
Views: 687 - In Love With A One-Night-Stand Man - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederDr. Neder: I met a man through the oddest of ways – a mis-sent text message! It went to the wrong phone number and somehow we started to text each other, exchanged photos of ourselves and started to flirt. He is an older man with a really sexy voice and is a successful business owner. We ...
Views: 859 - How Much Should You Share With Your Date? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Doc! I've been dating off and on since my divorce a few years ago. I generally am completely open with my dates, and willingly share information about my life history. I've just met a gal who is a Psychologist. She has challenged my practice, saying that there are some things that are ...
Views: 667 - That Damn Ticking Clock - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederDr. Dennis, So I am about to turn 33. I’m financially stable and have a great career. But when it comes to dating I don't feel like I’ve found the "1" so I am starting to think about having a baby on my own... scary. I know it's not the ideal idea. Trust me, I imagined having met Mr. Amazing ...
Views: 715 - A Matter Of Trust - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederDoc: I have been seeing this woman on and off for over 1 year, we have only been seeing each other seriously since the beginning of May. We have had difficulties with trust from both ends in the past, but things have improved dramatically over the past few months. 99% of the time I trust her ...
Views: 833 - When The Rules Change - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederI’ve been seeing this girl for 3 weeks now. We recently bumped into each other at a get together and were childhood sweethearts - big crushes on each other! Just a few days ago we where at a bar and her roommate introduced her to a friend and he instantly started hitting on her, right in front ...
Views: 701 - When The Rules Change - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederMy Wife and I have been married for almost 8 years. We have 2 beautiful boys and a girl (7, 4 and 5 y/o.) Lately it has been totally impossible to get her to have "alone time" with me. I have tried talking to her, flirting with her and just doing special romantic things for her but every night ...
Views: 657 - Being Single Or Together - At A Distance - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederMy boyfriend and I have been dating about a year. We have a good relationship and we're both sure we want to continue moving forward. We live about 700 miles apart and see each other 1-2 times a month. Here's the problem: my boyfriend has been single almost all of his adult life. He's enjoyed ...
Views: 713 - How (and Who) Do Professional Women Date? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHello Doc, For professional women (doctors, lawyers, CEOs etc) can you please tell me what is the best type of man that you've seen from your experience for these women to date or marry? For instance, when us ladies are out on the prowl for a nice gentleman what are some qualities to look ...
Views: 652 - Did My Compliment Make Him A Lost Cause? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Dennis, I like this guy. He’s one of those really hot guys that every girl likes and he knows it and he seems stuck up and conceited about it. He knows all the women want him and definitely knows he's hot stuff but all the times I have talked to him he seems nice. So today I saw him ...
Views: 676 - The "Date Canceller" and other Feminine Games - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Doc! I've noticed a trend in my dating life that is really starting to piss me off. It's rare for me to make plans with a girl and to not have her try to cancel on me or suddenly be "too busy" to keep our date. I'm so tired of games like that. Are they trying to see how much I want them or ...
Views: 899 - Getting a Girl To Date Me - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederI’ve been friends with this girl all through high school but since December we have been best friends. The past 2 months we have brought our friendship to a new level - friends with benefits you could say. She has been going out with another guy for about 2 years but they were on a "break" ...
Views: 655 - A Woman's View Of "The Test" - by Submitted on May 21, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Dennis, I have been working on putting together a few work shops for women on how to attract the kind of man they desire so naturally I have been doing my research on how the other side goes about this. From a woman's perspective, you are 100% on target. Just reading what suggestions you ...
Views: 740 - Getting My Man To Commit - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederLast year, I met a 36 year-old man (I am 45) and when we instantly connected. We met through a dating site. He picked me up at home and the rest is history. He knew I was falling for him and began to retreat. He travels a lot with his job but I wasn't used to how to handle a long distance ...
Views: 710 - Learning to Climax During Intercourse - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dr Neder I have a sexual problem. I enjoy having sex, but it seems I never reach orgasm. It's really bothering me because I can reach orgasm only by stimulating the clitoris, but when I am having sex with my boyfriend it just doesn't happen. Could you tell me what can I ...
Views: 835 - Falling For A (Somewhat) Older Man - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Dennis, A month ago I met an amazing man; handsome, in-shape, caring, respectful, educated, and with a thriving career. I love spending time with him, and get butterflies in my stomach whenever I think about him. My main problem is that he is 9 years older than me. I know this may not seem ...
Views: 1011 - My Boyfriend Doesn't Like My Father - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHello! Thank you so much for your time and attention. I have been living with my boyfriend for about 8 months now. He doesn’t like my father as according to him "my view of men is distorted by the secretive way he (my father) acts towards my mother". According to him my insecurities and ...
Views: 703 - His Libido - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederI have a problem with my boyfriend of 7 months - I want sex more than he does. We have sex about 2 or 3 times a week, but I want it more. I’m told a lot that I’m very attractive and I've never had this problem with other men. At first he was very eager, but then it faded. I often ...
Views: 923 - She's No Longer Interested? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Doc! There’s a girl that I’ve been interested in and we do the whole flirting thing all the time and some of it gets a little physical. I finally worked up the courage to ask her out and when I did she said that she liked me when she first met me but she doesn’t ...
Views: 2023 - Dating Hell - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederI've been dating the same guy on and off for 3 years and I think it’s about time for a change considering that he never does anything to make me feel special. The problem is that I can’t seem to meet a 'nice guy' in the city I live. I have considered moving however my career keeps ...
Views: 680 - Oral Sex - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHello Doc, I’m sure you've been asked this question before. My girlfriend does not want to perform oral sex on me. Is there a way I can get her to change her mind? I mean, ever since the day she told me, I've been fine with it. I told her I had no problem with it. And she doesn’t ...
Views: 747 - A Dearth Of Dates - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Doc: I am 30 years old and have never been on a date. I had very bad anxiety because of my obsessive compulsive disorder. It's not as bad now, but I don't have much experience talking to people. I talk to people at work and they want to help me, but I fear I am not experienced enough. I ...
Views: 706 - Are Nice Guys A Dying Breed? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederDo women even want a nice guy anymore? I've been a nice guy all my life. Upbringing taught me to be nice to everyone. I open doors for women, compliment them, laugh with them, do nice things for them such as favors and such. What do I get in return? “You’re so sweet and ...
Views: 675 - My Parents Don't Like My Partner! - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHello! I have a fairly serious issue regarding my parents and my relationship with my boyfriend. I am 22 years old and I live completely on my own, however, my parents still give me problems about my boyfriend. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 3 years. I love him very much and he ...
Views: 548 - Confusing Girl-Games - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Doc – I’m confused?! I met a nice girl, she is funny, smart and all that I'm looking for in a relationship. When I started talking to her, she told me that she was looking for new friends because the other friends she had would smother her and just try to get in her pants. I ...
Views: 831 - The Cheating Girlfriend - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Doc, I've been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half now and we're both 18. She told me last night that she had cheated on me while on holiday recently. She said a guy kissed her, while she was drunk, and she only realized after a few seconds what was happening and stopped it. I ...
Views: 4761 - Should I Give Up Relationships To Have A Career? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHello Dennis: I recently started a graduate (doctorate) program where I have to keep a 3.5 GPA or else I will get kicked out. It's kind of a conditional thing...err sort of. So no guarantees I'm going to get my doctorate. You know what I mean. Also you can’t get any C, D, or F grades. So ...
Views: 540 - Who Can Have A Support Network? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederMy boyfriend and I are in our late 30’s and have been dating for over 3 years. Today, in a casual conversation we were talking about our future and he made the comment, "I was talking to someone about our situation and..." The gist was that he was talking to this person about saving money to buy ...
Views: 561 - Learning To Communicate - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Dennis, I need some help on communication. I have trouble with communication. For some reason I am just not effective at communicating; especially with women. I really just don't know how to communicate effectively. I've heard that the key to communication is to listen, ask questions about ...
Views: 619 - The “Loaded Weapon” - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederDoc: Ever since I started living with my boyfriend I've caught him masturbating. At the beginning he would watch porno and masturbate, I told him this really upset me and he said that he wouldn't do it again. He also eventually got rid of all the porno. Well everything was good - or at least ...
Views: 711 - Handling The “Hard-to-Get” Game - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Dennis! I’ve read your website and I think you might be able to help me. I’ve had numerous relationships and have no trouble getting girls. I’m approaching 30 now and trying to find the girl of my dreams. There is this girl I have known for about a year or so that has always not only ...
Views: 803 - How To Not Stiffen Up On The Approach - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederHello Doc: I like this girl in my class and everyday before I go to school I am confident about approaching her. Every time I get the chance to however, I get all stiff. Today for example, when I was sitting only a few inches from her I couldn't even bring myself to talk to her. Can you tell me ...
Views: 642 - How Can I Get Him to Never Leave Me? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederDr. Neder, I've been dating a man for almost 3 months now. I've very much been the short-lived relationship kind of gal in the past. Typically at 3 months, I'll find some reason to end the relationship. Whether it's not feeling a physical connection, or not feeling an emotional connection, or, ...
Views: 1087 - How To Buy A Date From A Co-Worker - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Doc: I like this girl at work. Our work is not related but we work in the same office. She is 12 years younger than me and I hold a senior position. Knowing all the stuff about sexual harassment all I did for the last 7-8 months was just look at her. She would look back and we would just ...
Views: 2141 - Hot Women Get Dumped For Someone Else - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Dennis, From your experience, what causes a man to leave his wife for another woman? Such as Tom Cruise leaving Nicole Kidman for Penelope, and Brad Pitt leaving Jennifer Aniston for Angelina. What do you think was the primary reason? The "other" woman being more beautiful, sexier and more ...
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