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- 5 Powerful Ways To Express Your Ideas And Opinions Clearly - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2008 from Peter MurphyAre you fed up with struggling to express your thoughts and opinions? These days, people want to talk and not listen! No one wants to be a shadow in the crowd. Having your thoughts and opinions heard is a priority. The very achievement of being able to express yourself, and more importantly, ...
Views: 33485(1 vote) - Interesting Topics of Conversation People Love To Talk About - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2008 from Peter MurphyHuman conversation is the most important part of any society. Without it a society can't prosper, or for that matter even functionally exist. All of us, as human beings, need to have conversation with another human being, no matter who you are. Conversation is a fundamental part of our human ...
Views: 9250(2 votes) - 10 Good Conversation Starters That Work Everytime - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2008 from Peter MurphyGood conversation starters put people at ease immediately. That is how all good conversations start - when people feel comfortable and relaxed. To start a conversation like that is a skill - and you can learn it. Starting a conversation is often the most difficult part of all. Once you are over ...
Views: 3665(1 vote) - 3 Keys to Making Small Talk Easy to Do - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2004 from Peter MurphySmall talk used to be really hard work for me. I never knew what to say and I always worried about saying the wrong thing. Then something awful happened to me.... I had to take a job dealing with the public. My worst fears came true and I had to make small talk with a whole range of people ...
Views: 920(1 vote) - Feeling Self-Conscious? 6 Tips to Turn it Around Fast! - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2004 from Peter MurphyWhen you feel self-conscious it means you are putting too much attention on your self, too much focus on what you are doing and how you are doing it. And this is a formula for poor performance. The secret then to dealing with this problem is to become other conscious. If all you do is shift ...
Views: 839(1 vote) - How to Quickly and Easily Deal With Rude People - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2004 from Peter MurphyWhere I live there seems to be a a growing population of rude and vulgar people. And no matter how hard I wish for things to change it is not going to happen. It is up to me to change how I think and feel about these people. The same applies for you. 1 What does it mean when someone is ...
Views: 702(1 vote) - How to take control of your self confidence - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2004 from Peter MurphyHaving confidence is all about believing in yourself and the onlyway you can build your belief in what you are capable of is bytaking action in the world and learning through trial and error. If you think success, happiness and love are going to happenwithout learning through mistakes along the ...
Views: 857(1 vote) - How to Take Control of your Self Confidence - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2004 from Peter MurphyHaving confidence is all about believing in yourself and the only way you can build your belief in what you are capable of is by taking action in the world and learning through trial and error. If you think success, happiness and love are going to happen without learning through mistakes along ...
Views: 563(1 vote) - Interpersonal Communication Skill Success Tips - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2007 from Peter MurphyHaving good interpersonal communication skill is a combination of being able to say what you mean clearly and concisely, and being able to take on board other people’s opinions and adapt what you say accordingly, as well as making them feel they can speak freely. To do that, you’ve ...
Views: 2015(2 votes) - Listening Is As Important As Speaking - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2008 from Peter MurphyWhile engaging in conversations with friends and co-workers, how often do you feel that the other person has truly heard what you've said? If you want to succeed in social settings, relationships, and business, one way to ensure your success is to be a great listener. There are a few simple ...
Views: 2917(1 vote) - 12 Reasons to Develop Exceptional People Skills - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2004 from Peter MurphyWhy should you bother to spend your valuable time learning how to develop exceptional people skills? Here´s why. Look at the people who seem to have it all - a great job, an active social life and a happy family life. What do these people have in common? They all have excellent communication ...
Views: 1107(1 vote) - 7 Simple Tips for Cultivating Unstoppable Confidence - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2003 from Peter Murphy1 Spend time each day with confident people. Their energy and inner strength is so inspiring that you will find yourself feeling more empowered just by listening to them talk. And you can get tips from them. All you need to do is ask! Even one good idea could point you in a whole new ...
Views: 1298(1 vote) - Dealing With Negative People Made Easy - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2004 from Peter MurphyI was playing tennis today with one of my tennis buddies. We play once a week and we usually chat about work, professional tennis players and local news. Today he was very negative about the people of the area we live in. According to him they are all thieves and crooks. Now this makes me ...
Views: 773(1 vote) - Do You Make These Common Mistakes When Talking to People? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2004 from Peter MurphyMany Moons ago. Talking to people was something I avoidedwhere possible. At the time, I did not know I was unconsciously settingmyself up for failure. I kept making the same mistakeswithout even noticing what I was doing wrong. You may be doing the same thing. Here are three common mistakes ...
Views: 1567(1 vote) - Do You Make These Common Mistakes When Talking to People? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2004 from Peter MurphyMany moons ago. Talking to people was something I avoided where possible. At the time, I did not know I was unconsciously setting myself up for failure. I kept making the same mistakes without even noticing what I was doing wrong. You may be doing the same thing. Here are three common ...
Views: 1109(1 vote) - How To Win Friends And Influence People In 3 Easy Steps - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2008 from Peter MurphyCan you count on the fingers of one hand the number of true friends that you have? Would you like to increase your circle of friends and prove to yourself that you have 'people skills' and you can get more people to like you? This may be easier said than done, especially if you are the loner ...
Views: 1268(1 vote) - Say Adios to the Fear of Rejection! - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2004 from Peter MurphyDo you ever get an uncomfortable feeling in your stomach when you have to approach someone? In situations like this does your mind go blank? This is not unusual. That feeling is often the fear of rejection. When you feel afraid your emotions take over, you feel tense and your ability to think ...
Views: 769(1 vote) - Twelve Reasons Why You Should Never Neglect People Skills - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2004 from Peter Murphy1. Exceptional people skills and the ability to start a wonderful conversation with anyone you meet are essential life skills. Your success and happiness are directly related to the development of these social skills. These skills are not optional unless you want to be excluded from what is ...
Views: 1228(1 vote) - 5 Simple Ways To Overcome Shyness - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2008 from Peter MurphyShyness is nothing to be ashamed of and you can overcome it when you learn the right way to go about it. The problem is that you have not been exposed to accurate, proven ways to deal with shyness. Shyness can be defined as having difficulty creating a rapport with other people. For many ...
Views: 919 - Overcoming Shyness - Practical Solutions That Work - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2008 from Peter MurphyShyness can be an unbearable problem, threatening to ruin your social life. It causes a lot of pain and makes you hold back from mingling with people. Before fighting or overcoming shyness, you must always think about two important things. First, face your problems. Second, build up your self ...
Views: 744 - What Procrastination Is And How To Beat Distractions - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2008 from Peter MurphyStaying motivated enough to be able to see things through to completion is something that is needed more and more today. In an age of instant food, instant movies, instant cash from ATM's, and instant messaging, it is almost no wonder that we get distracted so easily. Satisfaction comes, so ...
Views: 655 - 10 Essential Elements Of Good Communication Skill - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2007 from Peter MurphyGood communication skill means the ability to be understood, but it also means more than that. Have you ever noticed how good conversationalists have the ability to light up a conversation and inspire others to join in? You can learn to be like that too. Remember - any good conversation is a ...
Views: 29603 - 10 Funny Conversation Starters For Every Situation - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2008 from Peter MurphyFunny conversation starters can be a risky business, but they can also add interest and sparkle to your conversations. People like, listen to and trust people who make them laugh. Get your conversation off to a great start by making people laugh straight away. Humor is personal, though, so if ...
Views: 3281 - 10 Great Questions For Conversation Fun - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2008 from Peter MurphyEven with the right questions conversation may not flow quite as freely as you may hope. That’s because you need to really listen actively to the answers that you get. A conversation is like a tennis match, with words flowing back and forth like the tennis ball. Carefully listening to the ...
Views: 2724 - 10 Great Ways To Follow Through On A Project Once You Start - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2008 from Peter MurphyEveryone starts big projects and gets overwhelmed by them sometimes. They can take a long time to complete and problems crop up so you wonder whether it is worth carrying on. But you know you won’t achieve anything of you give up, so what you have to so is find ways to stick at a ...
Views: 1057 - 10 Super Ways To Take Action Right Away With No Hesitation - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2008 from Peter MurphyIt’s easy to give in to doubt and hesitation, but you will no doubt realize that doing so doesn’t get you anywhere. If you have things you need to do, learn how to get started right away and get rid of all your hesitation. 1. Take responsibility for your life Noone up above in the ...
Views: 1201 - 10 Ways To Deal With Negative Thinking, Panic, And Paralyzing Fears - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2008 from Peter MurphyI recently heard from a friend who had been laid off at the newspaper she worked at because of the faltering economy. She didn't have many job leads and her motivation was at an all-time low. She felt that there was nothing more frightening than being a writer in an uncertain job market. ...
Views: 1685 - 12 Reasons To Develop Exceptional People Skills - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2008 from Peter MurphyWhy should you bother to spend your valuable time learning how to develop exceptional people skills? Here's why... Look at the people who seem to have it all - a great job, an active social life and a happy family life. What do these people have in common? They all have excellent ...
Views: 816 - 12 Secrets To Developing Self Esteem - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2008 from Peter MurphyDeveloping self esteem is a need that we all feel in varying degrees. Some people always seem to feel that they are on top of the world while others always feel kinda blue. How does one develop good self esteem? 1. The first thing you have to learn is that you should seek approval from within, ...
Views: 1469 - 14 Reasons To Get Motivated And Stay Motivated - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2008 from Peter MurphyWhy should you bother to spend your valuable time to learn how to get motivated and stay motivated? Here´s why. Your quality of life will change dramatically when you take charge of how motivated you feel in any given moment. Family and friends will respect you more and see you in a ...
Views: 780 - 3 Clever Ways To Stop Procrastinating - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2008 from Peter MurphyStopping procrastination can be challenging, especially since you can't put it off until tomorrow! Most people who procrastinate did not do so overnight. Like any other bad habit, procrastination starts small and builds itself up. Returning to a more dependable lifestyle however is possible. ...
Views: 622 - 3 Easy Steps To Low Stress Communication - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2008 from Peter MurphyLife is all about choices. And so is the way you communicate. You can fill your days with frustrating high stress communication or you can have days of low stress effective communication with your peers. Now take a moment to learn three ways to have low stress communication. 1. Recognize ...
Views: 629 - 3 Great Ways To Beat Procrastination At Work - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2008 from Peter MurphyAs more tasks become automated due to advances in technology there is a general expectation, whether it is realistic or not, that productivity should increase as well. Everyone seems to have more work than can possibly be done in a day and this pressure can result in feelings of being ...
Views: 612 - 3 Great Ways To Stay Motivated At Work - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2008 from Peter MurphyStaying motivated at work is easier than you think when you know what to do. 1. Decide What You Must Achieve Today. It is easy to get caught up with non-urgent matters that you can either ignore completely or do at a later date. All that clutter leaves you confused about what to do so you end ...
Views: 641 - 3 Keys To Better Small Talk Conversation - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2008 from Peter MurphyDo you want to know how to overcome the challenge of not having anything interesting to say? Some people are afraid of striking up a casual conversation with a total stranger, or with people that they would not normally talk with because of the fear of not having anything interesting to ...
Views: 899 - 3 Keys To Making Small Talk Easy To Do - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2008 from Peter MurphySmall talk used to be really hard work for me. I never knew what to say and I always worried about saying the wrong thing. Then something awful happened to me.... I had to take a job dealing with the public. My worst fears came true and I had to make small talk with a whole range of people ...
Views: 685 - 3 Secrets To Developing Superior People Skills - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2008 from Peter Murphy1. If What You Are Doing Is Not Working Change Your Approach When I was in school I always had a small group of close friends but I never found it easy meeting new people. By the time I reluctantly entered the work force it was clear that my communication skills were limiting my progress. The ...
Views: 780 - 3 Ways To Stay Motivated Despite Movable Deadlines - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2008 from Peter MurphyIt is important to know how to find self motivation when you are dealing with unstructured timetables and deadlines that can change from one moment to the next. Unstructured time and changing deadlines can be very frustrating and can cause motivation to dwindle away. Motivation can also ...
Views: 1163 - 4 Conversation Topics People Love To Talk About - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2008 from Peter MurphyPossibly the most common question people have when they seek help for their communication skills is what makes good conversation topics. So many times people worry about what to talk about, even when they are in the middle of a conversation on the abyss of an embarrassing silence. The important ...
Views: 2289 - 4 Good Topics Of Conversation People Love To Talk About - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2008 from Peter MurphyWhat makes for good topics of conversation? Well, this depends on why you want to have the conversation. But the basic rule is that conversations need to be a two-way process. Pick topics that everyone involved in the conversation is interested in. That way, everyone can feel comfortable and ...
Views: 1268 - 4 Great Small Talk Tips That Work Like Magic - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2008 from Peter MurphyIf you have never mastered the art of conversing, then you can probably settle for mastering the art of making small talk. This is a necessity in any social or professional setting - and making small talk is the lesser evil - when you compare it to suffering a long, drawn out and awkward ...
Views: 820 - 4 Helpful Ways To Beat Shyness - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2008 from Peter MurphyOver half of all adults identify themselves as shy. Shyness can get in the way of developing personal relationships and professional aspirations. Some people are afraid to simply walk into a room and surround themselves with strangers. Some shy people hate eating in front of others and some ...
Views: 674 - 4 Important Conversation Tips For Your Personal And Professional Lives - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2008 from Peter MurphyIf you are searching for a way to improve your communication skills at work and in your personal life, here are some conversation tips that will give you a good starting point. Your personal and business environments may be very different, but the skills needed to communicate effectively are ...
Views: 787 - 4 Proven Small Talk Topics That Work With Everyone - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2008 from Peter MurphyNo matter which type of setting you are in, be it a professional or personal relationship, it would have started with small talk. If you would not take the initiative to talk with somebody, your social circle would not widen and your business opportunities will be limited to those who you ...
Views: 1409 - 4 Simple Cures For Shyness - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2008 from Peter MurphyIf you think that shyness is a 'normal' condition that you just need to endure, think again. People who are painfully shy miss out on a lot of things in life - from personal relationships, to job opportunities, to self-development. In extreme cases, shyness can manifest on the outside, making a ...
Views: 3819 - 5 Easy Ways To Drop Self-Doubt And The Fear Of Making Mistakes - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2008 from Peter MurphyEach of us is bombarded with many decision-making opportunities each and every day. Some of those decisions we can make quickly without much thought. However complex decisions are sometimes difficult to make. Many factors can become involved in the decision-making process. Sometimes one of ...
Views: 1700 - 5 Forgotten Secrets To Beating Procrastination At Home - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2008 from Peter MurphyIt's not easy to stay motivated and beat procrastination while being at home. Too many distractions and feeling that tasks can always be delayed until tomorrow or the next day can cause procrastination at home to set in. The phone rings, you check your e-mail, watch a little TV and before you ...
Views: 746 - 5 Power Tips For Improving Communication Skill - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2007 from Peter MurphyIt might sound an over-simplification, but it’s true. The best way of improving communication skill is through practice. There are some easy and fun ways that you can improve your communication skill, though, so you needn’t worry about it being too hard to do. You will probably be ...
Views: 954 - 5 Powerful Effective Communication Skill Secrets - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2007 from Peter MurphyPossibly the most important skill you could ever learn is how to communicate effectively with other people; having the right type of effective communication skill will help you in all areas of your life; that could be in your work, with your partner or spouse, with your friends, or anyone that ...
Views: 4980 - 5 Powerful Interpersonal Communication Skill Secrets - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2008 from Peter MurphyHaving good interpersonal communication skill is a combination of being able to say what you mean clearly and concisely, and being able to take on board opinions of others and adapt what you say accordingly, as well as making them feel they can speak freely. To do that, you have got to be aware ...
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