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- How To Have Confidence By Adopting A Realistic Attitude - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2008 from Peter MurphyIf you are struggling with how to have confidence in your life, you are not alone. Most people think that self-confidence is something that lucky people have, people who can do anything and everything. Part of the problem with confidence is we think we have to have tons and tons of it and all ...
Views: 959 - How To Improve Communication In Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2008 from Peter MurphyUnless you are a hermit living on a desert island or high on a mountain, you will most likely have to learn how communication in relationships works. You will have relationships with your family members, your neighbors, people in school, colleagues at work - even vendors in the market place. To ...
Views: 998 - How To Improve Communication Skills And Your Personal Style - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2008 from Peter MurphyHere are six tips for improving your communication style: 1. Knowing how to improve communication skills will come easier once you become aware of your own communication style. Each person has a unique way of communicating. Listen to your own speech. What sorts of words do you use? Which sort ...
Views: 616 - How to Improve Communication Skills at Lightning Speed - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2007 from Peter MurphyTalking is the easy part; really communicating so that you say something worthwhile and people listen to understand your message as well can be more of a challenge. If you are to exchange useful information and react with people who are resistant to your communication through fear, anger or ...
Views: 1078 - How To Improve Communication With Interpersonal Insights - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2008 from Peter MurphyCommunication that is interpersonal is the process of sending and receiving messages between two or more people. Examples of interpersonal communication are: 1) a conversation between two people 2) small group communication 3) a speech made to a wide audience. All these can be considered forms ...
Views: 716 - How To Increase Confidence - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2008 from Peter MurphyConfidence is an important aspect of our lives which we don't very often pay attention to unless it needs a boost or pick me up but what about increasing your confidence? How to increase your confidence and keep on track with your goals by ensuring you are building up and developing the level of ...
Views: 1230 - How To Keep A Conversation Going - The 10 Simple Steps - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2008 from Peter MurphyThe art of conversation really is a wonderful skill; the simple skills to keep a conversation alive can be the deciding factor to how successful you are going to be. Starting a conversation and maintaining a conversation really are two separate factors. As with anything there is a start, ...
Views: 4961 - How To Kick A Lack Of Motivation Forever - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2007 from Peter MurphyWhen you are motivated, you approach your tasks with energy and enthusiasm. A lack of motivation can make everything seem like hard work. You will feel like your driving force has gone and you just can’t be bothered to do what you need to. Sometimes you can’t be bothered to do ...
Views: 861 - How To Make A Great First Impression - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2008 from Peter MurphyA lot of things have to do with the first impression and your communication skills certainly play a great role. If you want to make sure that you make a great first impression then you have to talk properly and communicate your ideas effectively. You are not going to impress many people if you ...
Views: 715 - How To Manage Increasing Confidence - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2008 from Peter MurphyThere is no right or wrong way to manage increasing confidence though there are some more useful ways than others to best evaluate and track your progress or that of someone else and with a few simple tools and ideas you will be able to effectively track, manage and be proud of your increasing ...
Views: 668 - How To Master Basic Communication Skills - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2008 from Peter MurphyI have a problem with the term ‘basic communication skills’; my problem is that this term implies that these skills are very simple and that you are somehow lacking and weak if you don’t have them. Certain communication skills are certainly ‘basic’ to the extent ...
Views: 2593 - How To Master Self Motivation To Guarantee Faster Success - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2007 from Peter MurphyYou may not find it easy to achieve your goals and you may not achieve them quickly, but if you really want that goal, it’s worth persevering over, so you’ll need to develop your self motivation and here is how you can do that. 1. Keep Focused on your Aim You need to keep in mind ...
Views: 838 - How To Master The Art Of Conversation - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2008 from Peter MurphyThe art of conversation is a skill shared by most successful people. Good conversation promotes an image of self-confidence, intelligence, and wittiness. People who always seem to rise to the top of their professions and are well respected by others who share the ability to converse with ...
Views: 933 - How To Overcome Shyness In 5 Simple Steps - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2008 from Peter MurphyBeing shy is really just having a feeling that you lack something. Some people are shy because they feel they are not good enough for others or that they are not as smart as others. Shyness can also just be something that carries over from childhood when you were worried about being accepted so ...
Views: 1915 - How To Read Body Language To Understand People Better - by Submitted on May 21, 2008 from Peter MurphyBody language is non-verbal communication, but is used along with verbal communication. Body language expresses our emotions, conveys our attitudes, demonstrates our personality traits and supports out verbal communications. Everyone uses body language whenever we communicate to each other. ...
Views: 1238 - How To Solve Disputes With The Helicopter Talk Technique - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2008 from Peter MurphyDo you ever find that when a friend asks for your opinion on a problem it is a lot easier for you to see a solution than it is for your friend? And do you also find that sometimes you feel completely stuck when it comes to your own problems? The same applies to disputes, relationship issues ...
Views: 569 - How To Start A Conversation In 10 Easy Ways - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2008 from Peter MurphySo many people worry about how to start a conversation. It makes them feel anxious and afraid. Are you one of those people who keep your fingers crossed that someone will come up to you and speak because you would never make the first move in a conversation in a million years? You can put all ...
Views: 647 - How To Start A Conversation In Unusual Circumstances - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2008 from Peter MurphyStarting a conversation can sometimes seem difficult. Certain circumstances can make this process even more difficult. Knowing how to start a conversation in a variety of tricky circumstances will help you become more confident in your abilities to communicate effectively. Circumstances can ...
Views: 865 - How To Start A Conversation With 3 Super Body Language Tips - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2008 from Peter MurphyUsing body language to enhance how you start a conversation can lead to great conversation. You do not have to say much just a look or a movement can speak volumes for you. This is especially useful in situations where you can not seem to get a word in or where you are unsure of how to start a ...
Views: 778 - How To Stay Enthusiastic While Going For Your Dreams - by Submitted on May 26, 2008 from Peter MurphyStaying enthusiastic while going for your dreams can be difficult at times. The events of life, at times, have a way of interfering with our goals and can discourage us. However, if you are to achieve your goals, remaining enthusiastic and motivated is vitally important, especially in moments ...
Views: 806 - How To Stay Focused Until You Succeed - by Submitted on May 27, 2008 from Peter MurphyStaying focused is difficult for many of us. Some of us get side-tracked by the events of life going on around us. We allow ourselves to be pulled this way and that, sometimes not knowing where to go next. However, staying focused is primarily an issue of time allocation and programming that ...
Views: 810 - How To Stay Motivated After Failure - by Submitted on May 28, 2008 from Peter MurphyAchieving our goals is not always easy. Sometimes we hit obstacles along the way that, at first glance seem like failure. Or maybe we feel we are not achieving our goals fast enough. The reality is that, no matter what our life journey is, life does go on around us, and at times, makes progress ...
Views: 1147 - How to Stay Motivated After Rejection - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2008 from Peter MurphyIt is a well-known fact that life is not fair. If it were, we would not need laws and courts, or government agencies and promises of rewards in the hereafter. There will be times when you are going to face rejection; whether it is from a company, a boyfriend or girlfriend, a spouse etc. So, you ...
Views: 1031 - How to Stay Motivated After Setbacks - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2008 from Peter MurphyLife is full of problems. There is a saying that says something about for every two steps you move forward, you inevitably take one step back. It is a simple fact of life that not everything in your life is going to go perfectly, according to plan, and turn out the way you expect it to. So, the ...
Views: 2533 - How To Stay Motivated Around Negative People - by Submitted on May 29, 2008 from Peter MurphyThe world is filled with a great deal of negativity at times. Negative people are those who see no hope for themselves and because they see none for themselves want to try to take hope from others by discouraging them. Negative people don’t want to see you succeed because they ...
Views: 1544 - How To Stay Motivated In The Face Of Frustration - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2008 from Peter MurphyPeople need motivation to carry them through a variety of activities. If you have ever dreamed of performing in a symphony orchestra, or playing the lead in a play; getting that book published, or landing that dream job, frustration is something you will have to deal with. So, the question ...
Views: 579 - How To Stay Motivated In The Face Of Office Politics - by Submitted on May 30, 2008 from Peter MurphyWhen you are out in the business world, whether it be as a house painter or a lawyer, you will almost always encounter some form of office politics. If you are lucky, you will find employment with a good, decent firm that has a fine management team, but you have to be prepared for the reverse to ...
Views: 630 - How To Stay Motivated In The Face Of Setbacks - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2007 from Peter MurphyIt is hard to stay motivated with your work when you are faced with several setbacks. How can you get back up from a hard fall? If you are aspiring to become a doctor, how do you continue studying after failing the medical bar twice? If you want to become a pilot, how can you make it happen if ...
Views: 663 - How To Stay Motivated Until You Get What You Want - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2008 from Peter MurphyAnd somehow you knew how to stay motivated... Goals are mysterious things - they spring into our minds motivating us to succeed, fuel fires of fantasy about success and new found happiness, initiate an almost manic effort to move our lives forward, and then - suddenly the fire goes out. What ...
Views: 619 - How To Stay Motivated When You Feel Like Giving Up - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2007 from Peter MurphyIf you stay motivated with your work then you will never think of giving up. Giving up or quitting is the plan of the loser. The people who keep quitting with their work are the losers in this world. The people who give up are at the bottom of the food chain. Do you want to be down there? Do you ...
Views: 615 - How To Take Control Of Your Self Confidence - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2008 from Peter MurphyIf you think success, happiness and love are going to happen without learning through mistakes along the way you are mistaken. Our brains are wired to learn from our own experiences as well as those of others. Without experience how are you going to learn anything? Let me give you an example. ...
Views: 575 - How To Transform Apathy Into Motivation - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2008 from Peter MurphyIn today’s modern world apathy is becoming increasingly prevalent. We are constantly and consistently bombarded with all sorts of bad news, leaving many of us with a feeling of indifference and the thinking, “I can’t make a difference” or “I can’t change ...
Views: 1887 - How To Use Better Communication To Ensure Success In Business - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2008 from Peter MurphyIn today’s world of competitive business it has become very important for companies, and their employees, to communicate effectively and quickly in order to stay in business. The faster and more thoroughly a business can communicate with the consumers that buy their goods and within ...
Views: 1070 - How To Use Body Language To Lead A Conversation - by Submitted on May 20, 2008 from Peter MurphyBody language is a form of human communication that everyone uses, whether they realize or not when they do use it. Body language is used in the business world; in relationships; in general conversations, and more. We actually use body language in every interaction that we have, regardless of ...
Views: 739 - How To Use Body Language To Read A Person Like A Book - by Submitted on May 19, 2008 from Peter MurphyWhen we first meet new people, we all feel a little awkward and self-conscious until we feel hat we understand the other person a little. Until we can do that, we can’t work out what people think to us and that leaves us in an uncomfortable position of uncertainty. The key to getting our ...
Views: 699 - How to Win Friends and Influence People in 4 Easy Steps - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2007 from Peter MurphyThe world is full of potential friends for you. You just have to meet them and make them feel that they like you. You’ve got to like them too, of course. Friendship is a two-way street and you have to believe that you are a likeable person that people will want to get to know. It ...
Views: 1670 - If What You Are Doing Is Not Working Change Your Approach - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2008 from Peter MurphyAnd ironically the more we worry about it, the more tense we get and the more likely we are to say something stupid. Let us a take a look at some remedies: 1 Learn to relax when you feel under pressure. I often talk about the importance of managing your emotions This is an essential ...
Views: 519 - Improve Communication Skill The Easy Way - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2007 from Peter MurphyThis article will show you how to improve communication skill in just a few easy steps. Communication skill doesn’t necessarily come naturally. The reason it’s called a skill is that it takes practice and it can’t be acquired overnight, so don’t beat yourself up over it ...
Views: 764 - Interpersonal Communication Secrets That Work Every Time - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2008 from Peter MurphyInterpersonal communication is something most of us do on a daily basis, although we may not be aware that is what it is called. Interpersonal communication differs from other forms of communication in various ways. It is also very important in development. The following list outlines what ...
Views: 764 - Letting Go Of Wanting Your Own Approval - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2008 from Peter MurphyEver had a time in your life when those closest to you disapproved of your behavior? It is very uncomfortable is it not? In a moment, peace of mind can vanish in a puff of smoke and you crave approval more than anything else. This time in the wilderness seems to last forever and when it is ...
Views: 668 - Leverage Avoidance Values For Irresistible Selling - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2008 from Peter MurphyWhat are values? Values are filters that everyone uses to help make sense of all the information we must process before we make a decision. When you appeal to a person's values you speak directly to their decision-making criteria. Values: In simple terms, values are what is most important to ...
Views: 556 - Like Others And They Will Like You - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2008 from Peter MurphyAll too often we look at our interactions with others the wrong way. We look at our interactions as if we should be liked, rather than for us to like first. How many of us have asked the question, “Why don’t they like me?” Maybe it’s because we really didn’t like ...
Views: 931 - Like Yourself More and Others will Like You Even More - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2008 from Peter MurphyA fact of interpersonal relationships is: before others will like you, or even begin to like you, you must like yourself. We can actually call this fact the “Golden Rule” of interpersonal relationships. If you don’t like yourself it becomes difficult for others to like you and, ...
Views: 1088 - Magnificent Meetings - 5 Tips For Success - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2008 from Peter MurphyYour impact at meetings will determine in a big way how well you do in your career. In other words you will rise as high as your communication skills will let you. Ability and competence in your position is expected - how well you get your point accross will make the difference between your ...
Views: 587 - Making Small Talk Fun In 4 Simple Steps - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2008 from Peter MurphySmall talk has a way of connecting people in some level, and it actually serves as the starting point of a personal or a professional relationship. Do not worry if you find the thought of making small talk daunting, because a lot of people share the same fear. Some cannot bear the thought of ...
Views: 655 - Mind Your Mind - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2008 from Peter MurphyThree Secrets to Effective Affirmations: 1 Drive your Physiology - by this I mean get yourself into a dynamic state of mine by moving your body energetically. I find walking quickly, cycling or jumping around the house while listening to loud music, all very effective for me. When you feel ...
Views: 657 - Motivation And Personality - Which Type Are You? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2008 from Peter MurphyThe level of motivation that a person has depends a lot on the personality of that person. If a person has the personality of a quiet, shy type of person, their motivation will come from living within that personality. They are more likely to get motivated in different ways to that of a person ...
Views: 788 - Overcoming Shyness - The 7 Simple Tricks - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2008 from Peter MurphyMany people struggle with overcoming shy. It can effect every aspect of your life, especially your interaction with other people. Being shy can cause you to miss out on friendships, fun experiences and learning new things. Shyness can cause you to have underdeveloped people skills and lacking ...
Views: 1389 - People Skill And The 4 Basic Types - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2008 from Peter MurphyDo you have the people skill needed to handle difficult people? Best selling author, Peter Urs Bender has come up with four basic personality types. Based on the fact that you really can’t understand someone who’s being difficult, until you can see the world through his or her eyes, ...
Views: 719 - People Skills Magic In 7 Steps - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2008 from Peter MurphyGood people skills come naturally to some and are a struggle for others. Learning people skills is usually a matter of just being a member of society, but to truly understand the proper ways to interact sometimes involves instruction. There are some basic guidelines to cultivate good people ...
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